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What have you told kids so they aren't scared of storms
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Posted 08 April 2012 - 10:28 PM
DS1 was at daycare when a huge storm hit once and when I picked him up he was beside himself. Since then he's been terrified of thunder. Tonight the storm hit while he and DS1 were in the bath. I got him out and cuddled him on the bed with my hands over his ears as that's what he wanted. I have told him many times that the thunder is far away and can't hurt us, its just loud noise. He agrees but then freaks at the next bang. I remembered something on Charlie and Lola and reminded him that he could be noisier than a storm. I got him an empty nappy box and he alternated between banging on it and hiding under it LOL, but he was not scared any more. He even took it to bed with him, banging away for ages - I was listening to the monitor and the banging got more erratic as he fell asleep.
The thunder was so loud that even Mr Tough Guy 6 year old went to bed with a 'drum'.
Posted 08 April 2012 - 10:33 PM
Watch it with them when it isn't so noisy. Storms are really beautiful.
Posted 08 April 2012 - 10:49 PM
My DD (2.5yrs) and DS (14mths) love storms. Once they were old enough we stood outside in the rain so they knew what it felt like. When ever it has stormed we tell them it's a storm and continue doing what we are doing without fuss.
One day I had the windows open and it was pouring so much water was splashing inside. DD was standing at the window with the wind blow her hair back and the rain going all over her, she was laughing so much.
Tonight during the storm we took them both outside to see the pretty lighting. They both loved it. When ever there is a storm the kids get really excited.
Posted 08 April 2012 - 10:50 PM
Just to warn you that knowing the science behind storms etc doesn't always help. I remember being quite young (ie primary school) and not scared, but later for some reason I became scared of thunder until my late teens - and I was studying science and knew exactly what was going on. I wasn't scared of lightning, except that it led to thunder. Oddly enough, moving interstate seemed to cure me so I suddenly found storms exciting rather than frightening.
Good luck. My DS says he's scared of storms and I haven't the heart to just say, "don't be scared" as I remember that did stuff-all for me. I knew there was no reason to be scared, I was just scared.
Posted 08 April 2012 - 11:17 PM
At that age we just used to say its the angels making music and banging on the pots and pans and rain was them peeing over the edge of the clouds. Lightening was them turning lights on and off.
As the got older we used to sit and watch them especially during the day so the could see that it wasnt going to hurt them
If they got scared, we sometimes used to let them bang on a pot or drum so they could make their own noise and join in.
Posted 09 April 2012 - 12:52 PM
We have explained to the kids that it's just the clouds crashing into each other and they now yell back at the thunder "you can't scare me thunder, you're just noise"
Posted 09 April 2012 - 01:00 PM
When my kids were very little I'd sit us on our front porch and blow bubbles with the kids each time the thunder clapped. That way we kind of had a to-and-fro with the storm: it made loud noises and we blew bubbles back at it. The kids adored doing this and still ask to blow bubbles when it's raining now
Posted 09 April 2012 - 01:03 PM
When DH was a child, he was being baby-sat by an older nephew. They had a huge storm, and DH was apparently very scared.
The nephew had he & his older brother try and 'match' the noise of the thunder by yelling & clapping. It seemed to work in teaching him that noises couldn't hurt you.
Now, we just tell DD that a storm is coming, and when there is thunder, we'll look very excited and say 'wasn't that a wonderful noise?' - she seems to be catching on, and likes thunder storms
Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:39 PM
Thanks for all the replies
We did make noise to try and show her it was ok and then said 'shhh' which she thought was funny until it happened again.
I'll have to keep some of the other techniques in mind. We did explain what a storm was but she is still too young to understand and counted between the flash and the boom.
I'm hoping the next one we get is at day time so it may not be as scary.
Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:50 PM
We have a book called "the Dance of the dinosaurs" and it is a cute story about dinosaurs stomping and making the thunder and lghtenng. The kids seem to enjoy it but neither are afraid of storms. They just get upset when it disrupts their aBC for kids!
Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:57 PM
That's funny, Camster. Whenever it's so windy at night that the trees whack against the bedroom windows, I tell my DD that the trees are dancing and accidentally tap the windows with their branches. It seems to appease her.
Posted 09 April 2012 - 09:14 PM
I thought I had it sorted. When the kids were younger (up to about age 5 or so), I told them that thunder was big clouds bumping into each other and lightning was a just a big flashlight, then would let them play with a torch for a bit to distract them. Once they were a bit older, we got a bit more technical and told them more about the science behind it. All good. Then, we had a huge storm last night that was obviously right overhead. I was home alone with 2.5 yo DS (DH and DS1 & DS2) had gone away for the weekend) and DS3 and I were standing at the window watching all the lightning... I haven't seen that much lightning in a long time and I was a bit amazed by it. Then there was a huge flash, and I barely had time to think 'that was close' before the streetlight behind out house was hit by lightning and created a ball of bright orange sparks and a bloody loud bang. DS was terrified (and I wasn't too far behind him)... eventually got him calmed down and we went to sit in the lounge room. I figure that was best as the blinds in there are really good and with the lights on, you can't see the lightning outside. Sat down on the lounge with DS and realised that one of the blinds was still open, so walked over to shut it and just as we got there, there was another huge flash and a tree about 30 metres away from the window (vacant block next door) was hit. DS was damn near inconsolable by this point and spent the next two hours sobbing.
Consequently, I am back at square one now, so will be taking any advice on this thread on board to make sure DS isn't scared for life!
Edited by ~Nic~, 09 April 2012 - 09:16 PM.
Posted 09 April 2012 - 09:26 PM
It is just the earth talking and saying hello and taking photos of the wondrous landscape.
We will get more technical when they get older of course, we're aspies and can't let fiction get in the way of good solid factual understanding .
Posted 19 April 2012 - 02:27 PM
My brother and sister used to be so scared of storms (QLD storms) and I told them nothing-I used to sing them an aboriginal lullaby. To this day they both sing that song in their heads when there is a storm and they say it comforts them. My brother also sings it to my kids.
Posted 19 April 2012 - 05:26 PM
My mumma told me and my brother that storms were all the angels in heaven going bowling, and that lightning was them getting a strike. The rain didn't really bother us more the loud noises. Now I love storms.
Posted 19 April 2012 - 05:45 PM
When I was little, i used to go to my mum, and we would curl up in her bed, open the blinds and watch it. that worked for me to not be scared, and now i would chase them if i could.
As i ADORE storms, my enthusiasm for watching them has helped, and telling her that thunder is just the sound lightening makes and doing the "ooo, that was a good one!' has worked for us, she asks for more, even when they are on top of us and making me jump lol.
If you can suppress any fear in yourself, it tends to help, cause they cant pick it up from you, i learnt that one with spiders, i have an irrational fear and dont want to pass that on lol.
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