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#1 PurpleButterflys4

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:26 PM

I have a very distant friend that I have known for 17yrs that just had a baby and named her Chance Naveah and although I am not pregnant yet, let alone with a girl I am after peoples thoughts and opinions on naming my potential little girl Naveah Chance(?) please?

#2 la di dah

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:34 PM

I thought it was Nevaeh, heaven backwards and all that?

Anyway I would probably not use the same first AND middle but I would use one or the other if I liked the name. If it's a very distant friend I would not worry about a same name thing. Especially with Nevaeh being in the Top 100 AFAIK. (Or maybe that's the American Top 100, but at any rate it's more trendy than obscure).



#3 Katie_bella

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:34 PM

Hard one because you say it's a very distant friend....i'd probably pick a different MN, otherwise it sounds a bit stalker creepy IYKWIM wink.gif

#4 Pocahontas

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:41 PM

That's fine but I'd also go different middle name. I like to find one that is meaningful to the family as a MN - a grandparent or similar.

We actually named our DS2 the exact same first name as a good friends boy because it was the only name DH and I could agree on that we both liked.  Occasionally it's complicated we when see them but mostly we cope fine.  The boys have different MNs though.

#5 Goggie

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:14 PM

Seriously..both are NMS. Sorry.

#6 ~Nodnol~

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:18 PM

Nevaeh, not Naveah  wink.gif I wouldn't use either personally.

#7 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:21 PM

I think, it's weird... Almost as though you couldn't come up with a name? Especially if your kids will be together all the time.

Besides, you're not pregnant so just shelve the idea until its relevant.

Edited by Starletta, 07 April 2012 - 10:21 PM.


#8 PackedToTheRafters

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:23 PM

Unless she has exclusive rights to this name, you can use it too. However, there is a chance you will go off this name and have a new fav by the time your daughter is born!
I change my fav list frequently, lol. biggrin.gif

#9 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:11 PM

Pretending I didn't see the actual names, as this pretence is the only thing that will get me through this advice...

I am curious as to why you decided to choose the same name as your friend - especially since Nevaeh is such a modern construct, so it's unlikely you would have had your heart set on it for a long time before she used it.

I personally would choose another name, but...

If you would be really set on using the name, and you do happen to get pregnant with a girl, then I would recommend talking to your friend and see whether she would have a problem with you giving your child pretty much the exact same name as hers. It's all well and good for people on the internet to say whether or not they would have a problem - but we're not the ones risking a 17-year friendship for it as well as potentially having an argument around the birth of our babies. Most people wouldn't have a problem, I don't think - and hopefully she will be the same. If she does have a problem with it, it's then your call as to whether the name or the friendship means more to you - but at least you know what you're getting into.

#10 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:28 PM

QUOTE (PurpleButterflys4 @ 07/04/2012, 09:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have a very distant friend that I have known for 17yrs that just had a baby and named her Chance Naveah and although I am not pregnant yet, let alone with a girl I am after peoples thoughts and opinions on naming my potential little girl Naveah Chance(?) please?


That's a really bad idea. For so many reasons.

#11 niggles

Posted 08 April 2012 - 12:18 AM

Thoughts? I was teaching in a girls school when pregnant with my daughter and so I understand the dilemma with liking a name but it being the same as someone you know. But truly there are so many many names to choose from. I think it very unlikely that the two names you like most just happen to be the same as your friend. I'd go back to the drawing board. I'm sure you'll find the perfect name.

#12 samanthan

Posted 08 April 2012 - 03:26 AM

I really dislike both names very strongly and even if I did like them, I would never use the same name as a friend.

#13 kerilyntaryn

Posted 08 April 2012 - 07:49 AM

I wouldnt use the same name

and if you were going to use one  Neveah - I'd spell it like this,  but use a different mn

but there are some many other names out there to choose from and more than likely you'll change your mind when the time comes

#14 PackedToTheRafters

Posted 08 April 2012 - 07:56 AM

I named my son Eli Luke.
2 years later my Best Friend, who I see often was due to give birth to a boy. She called and said, of all the boys names she considered Eli was the only one she loved.
I told her to use it because she is way more important than a name and I want her to be happy. She has Eli Jacob.
Now we have Eli and baby Eli when we're together.

If she's a true friend, she won't care. But I would tell her before :-)
Goodluck!

#15 PurpleButterflys4

Posted 08 April 2012 - 12:34 PM

Interesting responses, thanks all who have given constructive advice as per OP.
Packedotherafters: Thank you for sharing your story regarding a simillar situation.
Buymeapony: Im unsure as to what your post means, let alone its relevance to the topic  wink.gif

Thanks again, I like all the vast opinions on the subject.

#16 sweetcheekz

Posted 08 April 2012 - 02:05 PM

A friend of mine ( who I am no longer friends with now) named her daughter the exact same first and middle name and our last names began with the same letter also. I put a lot of thought into naming my DD and was extreamly upset when I received the birth announcement in the mail only a few months after my DD was born. When I asked her about it she said she loved the name when I told her so just had to use it too, I found it really weird

Edited by sweetcheekz, 08 April 2012 - 02:08 PM.


#17 Unatheowl

Posted 08 April 2012 - 02:24 PM

QUOTE (Buy Me A Pony ! @ 07/04/2012, 11:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
That's a really bad idea. For so many reasons.


Perhaps in answer to your questions bmap thinks:

A) calling her neveah chance who your friends baby is called chance neveah = bad idea
B) calling her neveah chance = bad idea.



Just a guess...

#18 samshine

Posted 08 April 2012 - 04:34 PM

Maybe discuss it with her first if you're worried?

We've just had DD2.  We decided the day she was born to name her Clara but my only reservation was friends have a 3 year old Clara.  We only see them 1-2 times per year although are in touch more often.  We decided to contact them to say we'd just had a baby, the name was on our list, so were other names so not to feel pressured but how would they feel if we called her Clara?  They were really encouraging and fine about it.  My friend said it was nice to know others liked the name!

It did mean I had to change my idea of the middle name.  I had hoped to use my mums middle name as a middle name if we had a girl, however, my mums middle name is the same name as their other daughter and we thought that would be a bit too weird for us and them.  

I think having two names the same that are that unusual a bit much... I can understand being set on a certain name as a first name but would you consider a different middle name?

#19 password123

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:19 PM

I cannot understand why you are even thinking about this now.
If I were the friend and found out I would think "weird".
Can't you think up your own names for your yet-to-be-conceived child?


#20 Apageintime

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:32 PM

My 2 best friends both have babies named Mary with similar middle names, both had VERY strong family connections to the name/s and neither minded the other has a similar named little one.

I would think, in your situation using relatively common names that have strong family connections would be alright, but a 'new' name like Nevaeh, which has no connection or meaning to you would be creepy.

In my opinion - there are so many lovely names out there without needing to use the same crap name as your friend.

#21 4kidlets

Posted 08 April 2012 - 09:31 PM

Leaving aside whether I actually like the names or not -  I see no problem with using one of the names the same as your friend's child - ie either Chance or Neveah - but not both.

As with PP who had an Eli Luke and friend had an Eli Jacob - quite different mn's. Not a problem.


If it were a very common combination, say, Ella Grace - then maybe ok to go Grace Ella - but the combinatin Chance Neveah would not be at all common and so would look like a copycat thing, not a coincidence.


Given you are not even pregnant yet, plenty of time to find another name to replace either first name or middle name or both.




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