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Did I overstep the mark? UPDATE pg 2

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#1 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:40 AM

DH is an avid Warhammer and computer enthusiast. He has an entire bedroom (our only other bedroom) dedicated to his Man Cave. I only use the computer and the filing cabinet in that room, so the deal is that he has to clean the room and keep it organised.

While he is asleep this morning, I have been looking madly for a cable for my camera to upload some photos. Down on my hands and knees among the dust and broken bits of army men on the floor, I got jack of the mess and have spent under an hour reorginising, packing models into containers and vacuuming ogre heads off the floor.

It looks a million bucks, but he will have no idea where his things are for a while.  tongue.gif

So... did I overstep? Is the Man Cave a sacred space that escape cleaning?

P.s I still haven't found the cable  rant.gif

Edited by eyesabove, 07 April 2012 - 12:02 PM.

#2 Oriental lily

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:50 AM

We have a similar set up.

DH is a Retro video game collector and the back room is his domain.

He mainly sleeps in there as well due to both our snoring problem.

No way in hell would I start to re organize it lol.

He does keep it pretty tidy though. Actually is probably one of the most organized rooms in the house due to it all being securely packed away and the shelves up high so no kiddy hands can reach. Some of his collection is worth some money.
His bed linen and clothes are often scattered everywhere though.

It's his job to do that.

Op if it is HIS domain then he has the right for it to be messy or clean.

Your not his mum to re organize things.

#3 Cat People

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:56 AM

Phew.  A man cave is not what I thought it was.

#4 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:57 AM

I did have a sudden flashback to stories he tells of his mum cleaning his room while he was at school.... oops!!

QUOTE (MadameCatty @ 07/04/2012, 09:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Phew.  A man cave is not what I thought it was.

roll2.gif  Nice one MC original.gif

#5 Heffalump

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:58 AM

If this really is his mancave, then you might want to consider a visit to a place far far away for the day...or week...or month.

I know how I'd react if anybody nosed about in my study (equivalent to a guy's mancave) or  ffear.gif ohmy.gif  if they decided to 'tidy' it up.


Make him breakfast in bed. tongue.gif

Edited by Heffalump, 07 April 2012 - 09:58 AM.

#6 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:02 AM

Good idea Heffalump - I'll get cracking on some toast.

I just realised how annoyed with him I'd be if he touched my sewing stuff....

I think I'll give my nan a call and head up for a visit...!

Edited by eyesabove, 07 April 2012 - 10:09 AM.

#7 CountryFeral

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:06 AM

Well I get disconcerted if DP goes into my workshop, I get huffy if he touches stuff, I get stabby if he uses things - but if he went in there - shifted stuff around... vacuumed stuff up and THREW IT AWAY!!!?????

I would be incandescent with furious rage. And I am a mild, sweet natured little thing!

Good luck OP - I think you might need it!

#8 morgansacre

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:07 AM

My DH's man cave is his garage, 20 x 30ft. I so want to go in there and start cleaning it out. He has old empty boxes, bits and pieces of wire, in other words just crap, dust, mouse droppings and more crap. Its been like that since he had the garage built about 2 years ago.....

I would kill him if he entered my study and tidied up, so I wont touch his garbage.....but oh I would love to Tounge1.gif


#9 LambChop

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:23 AM

I wouldn't do it, and would feel invaded if you had done that to me.

Asking for it to be cleaned up however, would be reasonable.

#10 Baggy

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:33 AM

I think you should have just asked him when he woke up where your camera cable is, and if he could clean up his man cave.

#11 EssentialBludger

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:38 AM

I got sick of DP's man caves (yes, TWO!) about 3 months after I moved in. One was a very open space, so I would always clean it. He was get sh*tty that he couldn't then find anything, but IMO, I had to walk past multiple times a day, and so did visitors, so it wasn't fair to me that it was an absolute tip. His other man cave was the biggest room in the house (besides the master) while DS was living in the tiny study for a bedroom.

A year ago, I told him to either build a shed, or I was moving out. blush.gif So he did. He built a massive 6x6 shed and that is now his beloved man cave and I don't dare even go in there, let alone tidy it. Tounge1.gif

I converted his old man caves into a library/comfy lounge and the other into DS new room.

We all live in harmony now. biggrin.gif

#12 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:49 AM

DH's mancave is a cesspit of crap. It's odd really as he cleans the rest of the house but avoids cleaning his own space. Every now and then I venture in and do a thorough clean and he really loves it. Wouldn't dare throw stuff out though and my version of putting stuff away is always a bit too organised for him.

#13 **Tiger*Feral**

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:58 AM

DH and I are both horribly untidy. He has his model making area, which is a cluttered mess, and I have my sewing area which is a cluttered mess. Both of us would be furious if anyone else touched it.

#14 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 12:00 PM


The beast wakes and I soften him up with a hug and "You might be upset with me when you see what I did this morning..."  He shuffled out of bed quick smart muttering about me ruining his life  rolleyes.gif

Shocked and amazed and very happy with my progress so far (although objected to the smell of the cleaning products - "Too fresh"  ddoh.gif )

Has now rushed out to the storage place to buy himself more containers to make the room even more usable...

Who knew?

But really, I wouldn't do it again... the fact I let him sleep in saved me - it could have gone either way!

#15 Caitlin Happymeal

Posted 07 April 2012 - 12:09 PM

Gosh DH doesnt have a mancave (although he wishes he did) and as such, he has his computer stuff out in the open, in our dining area (sigh - am seriously considering sacrificing my largely unused massage room for his "mancave") If I so much as go through the drawers to try to find a cable, he gets shirty about me "moving his stuff and now he cant find anything", so I darent try to clean up the area... He would be aghast if I cleaned up.

Glad to hear your DH was appreciative... apart from the freshness LOL.

#16 Feral Alpacas

Posted 07 April 2012 - 12:32 PM

I think if you have/need access to stuff in there, and he agrees to it, not a true mancave, it's a shared space and he has to put up or clean up. DH has a mancave- his study- and the shed. I never use the study, but with the shed I sometimes need access to tools and such. If I could do the lifting myself I'd clean it up and tough luck to him!

#17 Indigocrocodile

Posted 07 April 2012 - 02:18 PM

Has he realised you vacuumed his ogre heads? My husband is also a warhammer enthusiast and would be furious if I vacuumed models. I think you should own up to the ogre heads while they can still be retrieved from the vacuum bag otherwise you'll probably have an expensive trip to Games Workshop in the near future and a very cranky husband.

#18 KristyMum-

Posted 07 April 2012 - 03:10 PM

seconding Indigocrocodile - best retrieve the ogre heads methinks!

I don't think the 'shed with stuff chucked in it' qualifies as a man cave because really, no one can actually do anything in there other than find a spot on the floor to stand, shake their head and go 'man this needs sorting out' and then leave again... as in, even DH barely does anything in there.

#19 jenchristo

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:26 PM

I just asked DH what he'd do if I cleaned out his shed. "Great! When are you starting?"

#20 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:50 PM

Oh I'm almost positive that they were old ogre heads... with a collection insured for well over $10000 I'm banking on the fact he won't notice they were gone....hehehehe

jenchristo - perhaps there is a business opportunity for man-cave cleaning here... original.gif

#21 Feralishous

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:55 PM

QUOTE (jenchristo @ 07/04/2012, 08:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just asked DH what he'd do if I cleaned out his shed. "Great! When are you starting?"

DH said the same until he realised that I meant 'him do the work and ill direct where it goes'

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