Jump to content

*fluff* Cleaning the Man Cave.
Did I overstep the mark? UPDATE pg 2

  • Please log in to reply
21 replies to this topic

#1 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:40 AM

DH is an avid Warhammer and computer enthusiast. He has an entire bedroom (our only other bedroom) dedicated to his Man Cave. I only use the computer and the filing cabinet in that room, so the deal is that he has to clean the room and keep it organised.

While he is asleep this morning, I have been looking madly for a cable for my camera to upload some photos. Down on my hands and knees among the dust and broken bits of army men on the floor, I got jack of the mess and have spent under an hour reorginising, packing models into containers and vacuuming ogre heads off the floor.

It looks a million bucks, but he will have no idea where his things are for a while.  tongue.gif

So... did I overstep? Is the Man Cave a sacred space that escape cleaning?

P.s I still haven't found the cable  rant.gif

Edited by eyesabove, 07 April 2012 - 12:02 PM.

#2 Oriental lily

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:50 AM

We have a similar set up.

DH is a Retro video game collector and the back room is his domain.

He mainly sleeps in there as well due to both our snoring problem.

No way in hell would I start to re organize it lol.

He does keep it pretty tidy though. Actually is probably one of the most organized rooms in the house due to it all being securely packed away and the shelves up high so no kiddy hands can reach. Some of his collection is worth some money.
His bed linen and clothes are often scattered everywhere though.

It's his job to do that.

Op if it is HIS domain then he has the right for it to be messy or clean.

Your not his mum to re organize things.

#3 Great Dame

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:56 AM

Phew.  A man cave is not what I thought it was.

#4 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:57 AM

I did have a sudden flashback to stories he tells of his mum cleaning his room while he was at school.... oops!!

QUOTE (MadameCatty @ 07/04/2012, 09:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Phew.  A man cave is not what I thought it was.

roll2.gif  Nice one MC original.gif

#5 Heffalump

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:58 AM

If this really is his mancave, then you might want to consider a visit to a place far far away for the day...or week...or month.

I know how I'd react if anybody nosed about in my study (equivalent to a guy's mancave) or  ffear.gif ohmy.gif  if they decided to 'tidy' it up.


Make him breakfast in bed. tongue.gif

Edited by Heffalump, 07 April 2012 - 09:58 AM.

#6 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:02 AM

Good idea Heffalump - I'll get cracking on some toast.

I just realised how annoyed with him I'd be if he touched my sewing stuff....

I think I'll give my nan a call and head up for a visit...!

Edited by eyesabove, 07 April 2012 - 10:09 AM.

#7 countrymel

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:06 AM

Well I get disconcerted if DP goes into my workshop, I get huffy if he touches stuff, I get stabby if he uses things - but if he went in there - shifted stuff around... vacuumed stuff up and THREW IT AWAY!!!?????

I would be incandescent with furious rage. And I am a mild, sweet natured little thing!

Good luck OP - I think you might need it!

#8 morgansacre

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:07 AM

My DH's man cave is his garage, 20 x 30ft. I so want to go in there and start cleaning it out. He has old empty boxes, bits and pieces of wire, in other words just crap, dust, mouse droppings and more crap. Its been like that since he had the garage built about 2 years ago.....

I would kill him if he entered my study and tidied up, so I wont touch his garbage.....but oh I would love to Tounge1.gif


#9 LambChop

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:23 AM

I wouldn't do it, and would feel invaded if you had done that to me.

Asking for it to be cleaned up however, would be reasonable.

#10 Baggy

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:33 AM

I think you should have just asked him when he woke up where your camera cable is, and if he could clean up his man cave.

#11 EssentialBludger

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:38 AM

I got sick of DP's man caves (yes, TWO!) about 3 months after I moved in. One was a very open space, so I would always clean it. He was get sh*tty that he couldn't then find anything, but IMO, I had to walk past multiple times a day, and so did visitors, so it wasn't fair to me that it was an absolute tip. His other man cave was the biggest room in the house (besides the master) while DS was living in the tiny study for a bedroom.

A year ago, I told him to either build a shed, or I was moving out. blush.gif So he did. He built a massive 6x6 shed and that is now his beloved man cave and I don't dare even go in there, let alone tidy it. Tounge1.gif

I converted his old man caves into a library/comfy lounge and the other into DS new room.

We all live in harmony now. biggrin.gif

#12 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:49 AM

DH's mancave is a cesspit of crap. It's odd really as he cleans the rest of the house but avoids cleaning his own space. Every now and then I venture in and do a thorough clean and he really loves it. Wouldn't dare throw stuff out though and my version of putting stuff away is always a bit too organised for him.

#13 **Tiger*Filly**

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:58 AM

DH and I are both horribly untidy. He has his model making area, which is a cluttered mess, and I have my sewing area which is a cluttered mess. Both of us would be furious if anyone else touched it.

#14 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 12:00 PM


The beast wakes and I soften him up with a hug and "You might be upset with me when you see what I did this morning..."  He shuffled out of bed quick smart muttering about me ruining his life  rolleyes.gif

Shocked and amazed and very happy with my progress so far (although objected to the smell of the cleaning products - "Too fresh"  ddoh.gif )

Has now rushed out to the storage place to buy himself more containers to make the room even more usable...

Who knew?

But really, I wouldn't do it again... the fact I let him sleep in saved me - it could have gone either way!

#15 Caitlin Happymeal

Posted 07 April 2012 - 12:09 PM

Gosh DH doesnt have a mancave (although he wishes he did) and as such, he has his computer stuff out in the open, in our dining area (sigh - am seriously considering sacrificing my largely unused massage room for his "mancave") If I so much as go through the drawers to try to find a cable, he gets shirty about me "moving his stuff and now he cant find anything", so I darent try to clean up the area... He would be aghast if I cleaned up.

Glad to hear your DH was appreciative... apart from the freshness LOL.

#16 lovealpacas

Posted 07 April 2012 - 12:32 PM

I think if you have/need access to stuff in there, and he agrees to it, not a true mancave, it's a shared space and he has to put up or clean up. DH has a mancave- his study- and the shed. I never use the study, but with the shed I sometimes need access to tools and such. If I could do the lifting myself I'd clean it up and tough luck to him!

#17 Indigocrocodile

Posted 07 April 2012 - 02:18 PM

Has he realised you vacuumed his ogre heads? My husband is also a warhammer enthusiast and would be furious if I vacuumed models. I think you should own up to the ogre heads while they can still be retrieved from the vacuum bag otherwise you'll probably have an expensive trip to Games Workshop in the near future and a very cranky husband.

#18 KristyMum-

Posted 07 April 2012 - 03:10 PM

seconding Indigocrocodile - best retrieve the ogre heads methinks!

I don't think the 'shed with stuff chucked in it' qualifies as a man cave because really, no one can actually do anything in there other than find a spot on the floor to stand, shake their head and go 'man this needs sorting out' and then leave again... as in, even DH barely does anything in there.

#19 ~*Twilight~Zone*~

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:17 PM

QUOTE (MadameCatty @ 07/04/2012, 07:56 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Phew.  A man cave is not what I thought it was.

Yes I did wonder if it was the male version of a Lady Garden.

#20 jenchristo

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:26 PM

I just asked DH what he'd do if I cleaned out his shed. "Great! When are you starting?"

#21 LittleListen

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:50 PM

Oh I'm almost positive that they were old ogre heads... with a collection insured for well over $10000 I'm banking on the fact he won't notice they were gone....hehehehe

jenchristo - perhaps there is a business opportunity for man-cave cleaning here... original.gif

#22 trishalishous

Posted 07 April 2012 - 10:55 PM

QUOTE (jenchristo @ 07/04/2012, 08:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I just asked DH what he'd do if I cleaned out his shed. "Great! When are you starting?"

DH said the same until he realised that I meant 'him do the work and ill direct where it goes'

0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users


Life with anxiety

At times, I feel pretty worthless. In those moments, all I want to do is curl up into a ball and hide in the dark. I can try to quiet my mind, but it won?t shut up.

IVF leaves woman pregnant with another couple's twins

An Italian woman has been told the twins she is three months pregnant with are not hers.

'My mother-in-law found out our baby's gender behind our backs'

My husband and I mutually decided that we didn?t want to know our baby's sex before the birth, but his mother couldn't handle that.

What you need for the 'fourth trimester'

In my opinion, the first three months after the birth are the most intense. Here's what got me through that time after welcoming my baby.

Weaning a toddler off a dummy: a 15-day plan

Weaning your child off the dummy can be a traumatic experience for both of you. Here are some tips to help you through.

Choosing to be a solo parent

Two women share their stories of longing for a baby so much that they each decided not to wait for a partner before becoming a mum.

Asphyxia link another piece of the SIDS puzzle

An Australian study has uncovered information which could lead to a better understanding of why babies die from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.

Rescue dog Zoey and BFF Jasper star in adorable pics

Photographer, self-professed "crazy dog lady" and mum Grace Chon takes photos of rescue dog Zoey and her 10-month-old son Jasper together. The results are just too cute. See more on Instagram @thegracechon.

The ultimate travel stroller: the Mountain Buggy nano

We tried the Mountain Buggy nano and give it an enthusiastic thumbs up. As the ultimate travel stroller, it's practical, has great features, and looks fab, too.

Mum's heartbreak as son dies in road accident

Daly Thomas and her two young sons were walking home from church on Tuesday afternoon. Her youngest son never made it.

New Kate Spade baby bag designs

Don?t adjust your screen: this bright beauty is coming to you in full colour.

Easter gifts for babies, no chocolate in sight!

If this is your little one?s first Easter you might want to mark the occasion with something a little extra special. Here are 10 Easter gift ideas, which won't harm little teeth.

Download now: Essential Kids Activity Finder app

Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.


What's hot on EB

Win the brand new phil&teds vibe

Check out the good looking new release of the Vibe 3 and the Verve 4-wheeler inline strollers. To celebrate their release, we have a Vibe with double kit to give away.

Baby sleep

From birth to one year and beyond, read about baby sleep, soothing techniques, routines, and sleep school experiences.

Easter gifts for babies, no chocolate in sight!

If this is your little one?s first Easter you might want to mark the occasion with something a little extra special. Here are 10 Easter gift ideas, which won't harm little teeth.

7 tips for a kid-free trip, not a guilt trip

Although I?m jumping out of my skin to take my child-free holiday, I?m dreading the goodbye. But I?m determined to make the most of it without tarnishing it with guilt or sadness about leaving the kids.

Itchibubs: clothes for babies and toddlers with eczema

Parents of children who suffer from eczema will know only too well the scratching that occurs around the clock. A new clothing range aims to help make everyone more comfortable.

Ear piercing: what age is best?

What is it that shapes our opinions on what?s an 'appropriate' age for our children to get their ears pierced? Parents share their views on how young is too young when it comes to piercing.

Caring for kids helps grandmothers stay mentally alert

Looking after grandchildren can help grandmothers ward off brain disease - but it's also possible to get too much of a good thing, researchers say.

Why I loved my third home water birth

After two water births at home, I was determined to give birth to my son the same way. I just hoped this birth would be quicker than my last two.

Revealed: 7 ways food marketers try to trick consumers

If you?re confused by food labels, you?re not alone. Next time you?re shopping for food, look out for these seven common labelling tricks.

'My mother-in-law found out our baby's gender behind our backs'

My husband and I mutually decided that we didn?t want to know our baby's sex before the birth, but his mother couldn't handle that.


Free Printable Activities

Keeping little hands busy

Free printable acitivity pages like colouring in, cutting, word finders, mazes, maths activities and puzzles.

Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.