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Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex
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Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:31 PM
Has anyone else suffered from this?
I had my baby a week ago and breast feeding is going well, aside from the 30 second periods of despair I feel several times during each session. It's not enough to make me stop breastfeeding and I feel a lot better knowing that I am not totally abnormal for having these feelings but I am just wondering how others cope, how long yours lasted for etc.
Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:55 PM
I have experienced it and still experience it as well. It lasts about 30 seconds. It doesn't happen every feed. I never knew it was an actual documented problem, I just thought I was a bit strange. I have never talked about it with anyone because I tried to pretend it didn't exist. Since feelings are fleeting, I just try to ignore it.
Posted 06 April 2012 - 12:11 AM
Mine was never given a title, but that is an accurate description of what I felt. It could last from a minute or so to twenty or thirty minutes, or the entire feed if it was a long one (a couple of hours at worst).
How I coped was eventually feeling bad enough from that and all the rest of it (recovery from a terrible birth, other bad things, blah) that I ended up at the doctor's and put on anti-depressants, and stopping breast feeding entirely.
I have been told that one mother's method of coping was to start slowly counting until you reach the point where you no longer feel it. The pattern is apparently helpful.
Posted 06 April 2012 - 01:57 PM
Thanks Goldenblack, I tried the counting and seems to work to a certain extent. Sorry to hear about your struggle
Posted 06 April 2012 - 02:14 PM
This is what I love about forums - new knowledge and people finding they are not alone...
I had never heard of D-MER before this thread. I now know it exists, have googled it and should it happen to me I'll probably deal with it better/acknowledge it more readily than if I didn't know it existed.
I hope those of you dealing with this find the best way for each of you to cope.
Posted 06 April 2012 - 02:38 PM
I've experienced this with DD who is almost 7 months. I don't think it happened when I was BFing DS.
I'm still BFing and it has improved over time. Probably helps that I BF fewer times per day now and have fewer spontaneous let downs.
In the early days I would feel extremely anxious and like I was losing my mind for about a minute or so.
Posted 11 April 2012 - 08:24 AM
I definitely had DMER. I found it helped just knowing that it would be over in a couple of minutes and that I wasn't the only one who has the same issue. I am still breast feeding after 14 months and now rarely experience it. Only when I am stressed or tired.
Posted 01 June 2012 - 07:25 AM
I'm actually really surprised that this is all that turned up on my search for d-mer. I found out recently that this I what I suffered with for my two experiences breast feeding. DD is nearly 8, and DS is 4. I was put on anti depressents also, and just told that feeding should make me feel orgasmic and amazing. So I figured I was pretty faulty. I fed both for a year, but had to use supp. bottles because I also have hypoplasia, and can't have a full supply. also not diagnosed for years.
So I basically didn't fit anything I was being told for feeding, and felt very alone and like I must be going mad.
Now, years later, I've realized that it is entirely possible I didn't have post natal depression at all, and that it was d-mer all along. I fed nearly constantly with DD because she had reflex, and I didn't have enough milk (people said I had to feed more to increase supply...). So I lived in the crashing dump that the let down caused. I'm so pleased we even have a name for it now, but to be honest, the reaction from doctors has been underwhelming. I'm planning a third baby, and would so love to have a chance to feed without feeling like I have in the past.
If anyone hears of any research going on the Australia, please let me know.
Edited by redmum77, 01 June 2012 - 07:26 AM.
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