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#1 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:34 AM


Edited by Buy Me A Pony !, 12 April 2012 - 01:48 PM.

#2 QueenIanthe

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:38 AM

This would be a dealbreaker for me. It would drive me nuts to have my child's name pronounced differently to what I wanted it to be. But that is just my personal thing.

#3 EssentialBludger

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:44 AM

Deal breaker here too. I deliberately avoided names that had more than one pronunciation, as much as I loved them.

#4 vanessa71

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:50 AM

I would hate it if my child's name was pronounced incorrectly. It annoys me enough when people call DD Isabella when it's not her name.

#5 Oriental lily

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:54 AM

It drove my mum and dad crazy so much that they changed my sisters name.

She was named Nicola pron nick-olaShe was named this Ireland and people had no problem saying it the correct way.

When the immigrated to Australia though people called her nick uh la. Seeming to totally forget abou the 'o'

However Australians had no problem with Nicole .

So she became Nicole. Lol.

The only evidence of it is her birth certificate.

I think it would also drive me barmy and I don't think I would cope well with confusing pronunciations.

#6 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:55 AM

Wow I'm surprised this is a deal breaker for some. Does this mean we may need to insist on one pronunciation? Will we confuse others by not insisting it's spoken in the common way. Will others think us odd if we say it honestly doesn't matter? It's one of those lose-lose situations either way isn't it as people will judge the name to start with, then judge whatever pronunciation we insist on as being "wrong".

#7 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:58 AM

Oriental Lily what you're referring to is a difference in dialect and I would think that now that we're living in a global world these things would matter less and less.

#8 kerilyntaryn

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:01 AM

I prefer names with only 1 pronounciation too.  Saying that we didnt even think there was another way to say Grant until someone from SA visited and then you hear it on TV too,  and it rubs the wrong way.  We just correct and they say it right,  but it really bothered me at first.  We went through all the checks and never heard the other pronounciation before.  uggh

#9 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:05 AM

Do you also correct South Australians for the way they pronounce pant or plant?

#10 kerilyntaryn

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:10 AM


what name are you thinking about?

#11 Moo point

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:13 AM

My niece is Ava - pronounced "Ah-va". Anyone that knows her and in Sweden where she lives it's pronounced correctly, but many people here will say "Ay-va".

I just correct them - sometimes they remember, sometimes they don't. It doesn't seem to faze my brother too much, he just corrects if needed as well.

Didn't stop my self-involved stepmother sending her a birthday card spelling her name as "Arva".  wacko.gif

I guess my point is, people may pronounce it differently, but if you consistently use the same pronunciation it should eventually sink in!

#12 Polly Esther

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:18 AM

If you absolute have to choose a name that's going to be a pain in the butt with pronounciation, I'd just keep correcting people (your son will learn to just let it go when he can't be stuffed correcting people eventually)... everyone calls DD Chantel, despite not having a "t" in her name.

#13 Etcetera

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:20 AM

I would use whichever pronunciation I liked best, regardless what was more common.

My eldest is Isaac. Some call him Izic (more of an American pronunciation) and it doesn't bother me.

My neighbours daughter is Maya pronounced May-a and not My-a like I would have assumed by the spelling.

Not a deal breaker for me at all.
I think pronunciation is more important than spelling.

#14 bubmakes3

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:28 AM

DH best mate is an Anthony - pronounced Ant-ony. His dad is english and apparently thats the way they pronounce it there. Our other mate is Anthony - pronounced Anth-ony - his parents are both NZers and thats the way its pronounced there!
Our best mate now spells his Antony and no-one has an issue with pronouncing his name correctly. It only on official things that he has to remember to put ths 'h' back in! Mostly though he is just Ant!

Edited for SHOCKING typing errors!

Edited by bubmakes3, 05 April 2012 - 11:29 AM.

#15 Oriental lily

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:28 AM

If a dialect completely changes how a name sounds then I think it's something to consider if your going to be living amongst people with that accent.

Like your example Anthony in in some European countries like Italy keep the h silent. Some European dialects rarely make the th sound. Anglo versions of  names will say them in a English phonetic way.

Which doubles up the pronunciation.

So it all comes down to if it bothers you or not.

#16 Elemenopee

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:29 AM

Hang on what? I'm saying not only Grant wrong, but also plant and pant? Whaaaat?

I say Grant to rhyme with aunt, which sounds like aren't, not ant. Crystal clear?

Grant rhymes with plant. Pant rhymes with ant.

I like Antony OP, and I think it is dissimiliar enough from Anthony that people will soon learn to say it how you want it.

#17 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:33 AM

QUOTE (Buy Me A Pony ! @ 05/04/2012, 10:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do you also correct South Australians for the way they pronounce pant or plant?

I do  ;)

But then I'm an expat Victorian living in SA and they rib me worse for the way I talk than I rib them.

Always done jokingly on both sides, and only people I know well.

OP - I might be strange but it wouldn't bother me if DD's name was mispronounced. In fact, DP's grandmother uses the European Cloud-ia rather than the Claw-dia pronunciation, as she still has an accent. I've never corrected her. If DD wanted to when she's old enough to notice then that's her call.

#18 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:37 AM

QUOTE (Elemenopee @ 05/04/2012, 10:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hang on what? I'm saying not only Grant wrong, but also plant and pant? Whaaaat?

I say Grant to rhyme with aunt, which sounds like aren't, not ant. Crystal clear?

Grant rhymes with plant. Pant rhymes with ant.

I like Antony OP, and I think it is dissimiliar enough from Anthony that people will soon learn to say it how you want it.

All South Aussies have the same pronunciation as you that I know of - and I live here.

I personally don't get why plant and pant are pronounced differently when the only difference is the L which affects the pronunciation of the P and not the A, but anyway. That's just something I'm not destined to know.

#19 kerilyntaryn

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:45 AM

Grant rhymes with ant  and plant and pant

#20 PurpleChicken

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:51 AM

Considering I have a name that I constantly need to correct pronunciation & spelling on, I would try to steer clear of those sorts of names.

While I'm used to having to correct the way my name is said (and even then some people still can't get it right), it can be annoying.  I don't like the other version of my name that people use.

In saying that though, when we chose DD's name, we changed the original Italian spelling to the Irish spelling, and we STILL get asked about pronunciation!  Can't win either way in the end.

#21 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:55 AM

lol sorry I threw the plant/pant spanner in! I always get confused by that one. So is dance similar or is it darnce?

I used the Anthony example as it's very close. The contraction is Tony, it's english derived from Latin and the proper pronunciation is rarely used.

So why is it that people are so particular about names but not so much with other words?

#22 Seven of Nine

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:58 AM

I can think of three correct ways to pronounce my son's name. We always use the typically English pronunciation, but I do not 'correct' people pronouncing it the German way (for example). It's the same name! It's a correct pronunciation! The most common pronunciation we have run into when someone tries to read his name aloud is actually incorrect. I only correct the person if we're going to be seeing them regularly, for a one off appointment it isn't worth it IMO. I don't really understand why anyone would insist their child's name only be pronounced one way, but like you OP my name can be spelled many ways and I don't care if people get it 'wrong'.

FTR my son's name is Matthias.

Edited by BabyGabi, 05 April 2012 - 12:01 PM.

#23 Mamabug

Posted 05 April 2012 - 12:02 PM

Our son has a name that can be pronounced the way we do, or the European way - neither bothers us and he responds to both. He only gets annoyed when people spell his name "the girl way"!

Our youngest daughter has a name which could be pronounced three ways (that we have come across!), we have a prefered option, which we use, another doesn't bother us, the third annoys me, but we haven't come across it yet.....

People generally will listen to what you use and follow that example (unless, as already mentioned there is a dialect/accent/cultural thing happening. FIL is Czech and he has a twist on each of our kids names, but it is the 'correct' czech pronounciation for them).

#24 Guest_Buy Me A Pony !_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 12:08 PM

QUOTE (Isabelle Thomas @ 05/04/2012, 11:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This- my DD is Isabelle and she always gets Isabella -can people not here me say it OR read her name!

This one is a bit tricky but I would always ask if I hadn't heard you already say it. Bell is common here and so I would generally assume, but if you're in France, Italy or Australia you'll have 3 versions.

Oriental Lily Anthony in proper English has a silent H. English is consistently inconsistent and phonetics don't always apply.

Matthias is one of my favourite boys names! We have a Mathew who is known by us affectionately as Matthias. So we're the type of family who interchange names quite a bit anyway.

Edited by Buy Me A Pony !, 05 April 2012 - 12:42 PM.

#25 la di dah

Posted 05 April 2012 - 12:14 PM

As a Jordanna, I like when I DON'T hear my name said/spelled as Georgiana or Johanna or Joanna.

Beyond that I'm pretty chill. White Americans tend to, for some reason, turn it all jor-JAN-uh or jor-DAYNA or substitute another J name altogether, Australians hear Jordanna, see "jordanna" and say jor-DONNA.

Neither jor-DAYNA nor jor-DONNA really give me that much arghghghg, beyond knowing in some cases that they can say Anna fine for other people, lol.

I don't think pronunciation is a deal-breaker at all, unless you'll have a stroke if you hear it wrong sometimes.

QUOTE (Buy Me A Pony ! @ 05/04/2012, 12:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oriental Lily Anthony in proper English has a silent T. English is consistently inconsistent and phonetics don't always apply.

Wait, wait. I've heard it with a th and I've heard it with a hard t, but the t is silent? Or did you mean the h? My hometown is full of Anthonys and Antoines and wars range over particular pronunciations and spellings, but  a silent t?

Edited by la di dah, 05 April 2012 - 12:17 PM.

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