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#51 Kemismum

Posted 04 April 2012 - 03:29 PM

Wow, massive over reaction.

If it were my child I just would have explained that not everyone likes people watching them and moved on with the day.....

Its also a good lesson in not being able to control other peoples reactions...

#52 JapNFeral

Posted 04 April 2012 - 03:34 PM

So you 'vaguely' heard "go away"? Then again you might not have.

#53 protart roflcoptor

Posted 04 April 2012 - 03:41 PM

QUOTE (tempura @ 04/04/2012, 03:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thank you for sharing.
A "please" in a friendlier tone would have been appreciated. Besides, I was just about 2 metres away when I was trying to pull my son away from candy machine.    It was the abruptness and the rude tone that has taken me aback especially DS only stood there quietly for a few seconds.



Don't you love it when the OP keeps tweaking the story to justify their POV.




#54 kiso

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:23 AM

QUOTE (Cathode @ 04/04/2012, 12:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It isn't telling them off.
Telling them off would be "you are being a complete pain in the ass, go the hell away"

If your son wasn't upset, then there is no need to confront anyone.

If he had been more vocal and had upset the child? yes. He should have been torn a new one imo.

I imagine that he just wanted some privacy while farting around with his wallet/money/candy machine?


I agree, you child responded in a healthy manor. In life you can't control how others are going to treat you, but you can control how to react. You should be proud your son walked away without being over sensitive or bugging the old man further. Such is life!

#55 Z-girls rock

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:14 AM

QUOTE (darksideofthemoon @ 04/04/2012, 03:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This article is in the bullying section? It's not bullying. Maybe the guy was a little rude. He didn't abuse the kid. He was just blunt. I think BobTheKelpie's right with the HTFU thing. Not every interaction your precious petal has is going to be a 100% positive one. Other people don't owe your kid that. In fact, the kid wasn't upset, so maybe he's not the precious petal here...

Posting this in the bullying section is kind of diminishing to people coming in here posting about actual bullying...you know, repeated, deliberate, concentrated harassment?


I agree.

I see this a lot. people posting in here because of one instance where another child says something on the playground like "i dont like you' and people want to term it bullying and get in a frenzy about it.

As a person who has been in a small workplace nearly torn apart by a rampant bully who tormented myself and other people for nearly 2 years. I do actually find it offencive to have every little instance of hurt feelings now labeled bullying. seriously.

#56 Megs25

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:38 AM

QUOTE (Rawr @ 04/04/2012, 02:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Also, I'm not sure why you're getting so worked up because you 'vaguely' heard it and weren't even sure what you'd heard? Now you vaguely heard it with a condescending tone?

Honestly, your son was annoying him! Teach him to give others space. Also, maybe the man was annoyed because you'd let your son wander off. I don't know.

I don't tell other ppl's kids off if their parents are with them and dealing with them, but when they are nowhere near any supervising adult and not disciplining their child, I WILL discipline them. If any parent doesn't like the way I do that, they can start doing the job themselves instead of leaving it up to innocent bystanders


I completely agree!


#57 Funwith3

Posted 05 April 2012 - 12:21 PM

A full grown adult man using a lolly machine intended for children already screams out PROBLEM!

I would assume there's a very good chance the man had a disability of some sort, because men don't usually use lolly vending machines (do they?) And especially on their own?

I would take it as an opportunity to explain to your son not to approach strangers, and to use manners.

#58 laridae

Posted 05 April 2012 - 12:40 PM

QUOTE (Aliciaandhannah @ 05/04/2012, 12:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
A full grown adult man using a lolly machine intended for children already screams out PROBLEM!

I would assume there's a very good chance the man had a disability of some sort, because men don't usually use lolly vending machines (do they?) And especially on their own?

I would take it as an opportunity to explain to your son not to approach strangers, and to use manners.




He wasn't on his own - he had a child (grandkid perhaps?) in a pram with him.  The OP posted it later.

#59 Jenferal

Posted 05 April 2012 - 12:45 PM

I worked in a store in a shopping centre with one of those pick a prize vending things, the MAJORITY of users were adults, without children. Who says adults don't like a morsel of chocolate every now and then? Plus I think they like the challenge of fishing for it.

#60 Guest_Cathode_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:00 PM

QUOTE (Aliciaandhannah @ 05/04/2012, 10:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
A full grown adult man using a lolly machine intended for children already screams out PROBLEM!

So, I have problems because I occasionally like to buy a gumball? laughing2.gif

#61 BadCat

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:24 PM

Well I didn't like to say anything Cathode, but you do seem to exhibit all the signs of classic Adult Having Fun Syndrome.  AHFS is a troubling affliction, unusual in that it generally causes more distress to onlookers than the sufferer.  There is no know cure although it has been known to disappear spontaneously in some adults.

#62 Guest_Cathode_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:26 PM

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#63 Liv_FERAL_sh

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:33 PM

Hmmm, I would have probably used it as an opportunity to loudly and within earshot explain to my son that sometimes people are just rude obnoxious arses...

it's not really a telling off though

#64 ubermum

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:39 PM

I don't blame the guy. Many men are scared of being accused of something. If I was an old man and a four year was hanging around me who I didn't know
I would tell them to go away too.

#65 --binda--

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:42 PM

That's not being told off.


Being told off is what I witnessed yesterday whilst shopping.

There was a little boy, probably about 6 or 7 hanging around with his Mum. He was talking to my baby, but tried to pull her dummy out, so I said please don't pull her dummy out of his mouth, his Mum came up to see what was going on,  and I said he was fine, he was just talking to her and trying to play (Grace was liking it!), and we had a little chat, and she told me he was a bit slow - I told her that its OK, he is a kid, doesn't matter what his behavioural issues and all that are! And went on our merry way ... A minute or so later, this young chick with about a 15 month old fully screams out to his Mum " Get your Kid to leave my ****ing kid alone!", For gods sake, he is only talking to it! She then fully goes into abuse the kid and his Mum.. His Mum even said that he is a little slow, etc - poor lady was sooo embarrassed!  I had another chat to her in another aisle, and said if I was closer I would have said something to the other woman.

#66 steppy

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:44 PM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 05/04/2012, 03:24 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well I didn't like to say anything Cathode, but you do seem to exhibit all the signs of classic Adult Having Fun Syndrome.  AHFS is a troubling affliction, unusual in that it generally causes more distress to onlookers than the sufferer.  There is no know cure although it has been known to disappear spontaneously in some adults.


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#67 Honeymummy

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:46 PM

I dont think he was wrongly told off. Not all people love kids as much as their parents do - and that is fine! He was probably being annoying.

#68 2bundles

Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:53 PM

I learnt that lesson years ago when I told off a boy aged around 9 for hitting another child with a stick in a toddler playground. The mother came over and told me I was not to say that to her child.

I was concerned that he would swing back the stick and hit my kids.  All I said was "hey, don't do that".

Apparently some kids can do no wrong.

Sorry op, I think you are totally overreacting.

Omg - just saw this is in the "bullying" topics. Honestly, the mind boggles.

Edited by 2bundles, 05 April 2012 - 03:55 PM.


#69 Guest_Maybelle_*

Posted 05 April 2012 - 04:01 PM

QUOTE (Aliciaandhannah @ 05/04/2012, 10:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
A full grown adult man using a lolly machine intended for children already screams out PROBLEM!

I would assume there's a very good chance the man had a disability of some sort, because men don't usually use lolly vending machines (do they?) And especially on their own?


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WTF?

#70 2bundles

Posted 05 April 2012 - 04:15 PM

You are trivialising bullying by posting this here.

When your 6yr old is being chased by a group of 6 boys and pushed to the ground and kicked every lunch hour, maybe you will know what bullying is.

Btw I really hope you never have to go through that. My 9yr old is still scarred from a term of this.  Your son wasn't even upset!

#71 LambChop

Posted 05 April 2012 - 04:30 PM

As a parent, you need to see how your children experience things, not project your own sensitivity.  Your son didn't have an issue, therefore... there is NO ISSUE HERE.




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