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#1 anon today

Posted 04 April 2012 - 11:53 AM

As the topic says, I am keen to hear from people who actually have a birthday on or close to Christmas. I would like to know if it bothered you growing up or whether it was just one of those things that you never know any different so you didn't care?

I'm in two minds whether to TTC this month as based on AF bub would be due Dec 29.

I know that it can take ages to get pg, but last time around we were lucky enough to fall straight away, so I feel there is a high chance I could end up with a Christmas/New Years baby and I'm not sure how I feel about the disadvantages of being a Christmas bub.

WDYT?

Edited by anon today, 04 April 2012 - 11:54 AM.


#2 Rumply

Posted 04 April 2012 - 11:58 AM

DH is born on the 29th... he hated it growing up.

- combined presents
- no parties, as everyone is partied out or on holidays
- everyone is just too busy or recouperating
- it is generally family time at that time of year, so it feels awkward trying to organise anything.

When I was planning on TTC we made the decision to sit March to end of May out... trying to avoid that Dec-Jan time of year.

#3 Apageintime

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:00 PM

I have a VERY early January birthday.

There are pro's and cons. It's nice always having time off on my birthday, but it is an expensive time of year for everyone and often when I was at school people were away so I couldn't have big parties. The double gifting was also annoying as my siblings got 2 gifts, but I didn't.

My mother also said being heavily PG in summer was hell, and that having a new born in the crazy heat wasn't much fun either.


#4 angelinaballerina

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:01 PM

My birthday is December 31st.

It never really bothered me at all. My parents always separated both Christmas and my birthday like they did with my siblings who have birthdays at other times of the year

Sometimes relatives liked to by joint presents, which I didn't like. But not really bothered by it now. Although I do make sure my husband doesn't do joint presents for me now Tounge1.gif

In regards to birthday parties, I used to either have one before the end of school or mid January.

#5 katieface84

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:02 PM

I was due 25th Dec, born 27th Dec. Mum said it was the worst Christmas ever, lots of pre-labour pains, etc.

Bothered me a bit growing up, didnt have many birthday parties as friends were often to busy with family holiday stuff or actually away for the holidays.

Got lots of "joint" presents for Chrissie and birthday, which was a bit of a crock haha.

Mum and Dad always tried to make it special though, which was nice. Doesnt bother me at all now!

#6 Guest_Cathode_*

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:02 PM

I never minded it growing up. But I had a party every year, and would usually have it a week or 2 out from the actual day (for more separation from xmas).
I didn't get too many 'combined' presents.

#7 danielle1985

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:03 PM

My little sister (13) is the 20/12. She just has a party in either November or February. She doesn't mind the combined presents as she is a quality over quantity girl.

My son is christmas eve. As he is only 1, I will let you know if he hates it wwwwwwaaaayyyyy down the track  wink.gif

#8 usand3

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:03 PM

Hi

My DD was born on the 21/12 (due on 10/01), i sometimes feel a bit sorry for her getting all her gifts for the year with in a few days and it means we have to think ahead to what she might want/need later in the yr and give it to her in December.  I wouldn't ever even take it in to consideration when TTC though.  It just (IMO only, obviously) seems so small on the scale of importance that it really isn't something i would even think about if i were going to TTC again (which i'm not original.gif).

#9 Roselet

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:04 PM

There are a lot of late Dec birthdays in my family, and everyone agrees it sucks. We threw a big 50th for the person with one of the worst dates, and he said it was the first successful birthday party he had EVER had. In 50 years, that's just sad.
Noone has time or inclination to make an effort for another party, noone has the time or money to make a proper effort with gifts, lots of people are away, lots of people forget because they are using so much headspace dealing with Christmas.
I'd wait the extra month.

#10 HatLover

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:05 PM

I do, and as a kid I don't recall having a problem with it, although didn't have too many parties due to people being away.  My Mum put her foot down when I was born about the combined Xmas/B'day present, but when I got older I used it to my advantage to get one better present.  Also, I have never worked on my b'day...so that is an awesome bonus.

#11 Nosmas

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:06 PM

Mine is boxing day.  I always loved it but I always got separate presents (until older), I would have friend party earlier but that meant an extra day to celebrate.  My parents would also give me a present (something I would of been really wanting) in July.  I wouldn't want to have my birthday leading up to Christmas though as everyone is busier.
My cousin's birthday is Christmas day, they would celebrate Christmas until lunch time, than hang up birthday decorations and celebrate her birthday.
As with everything, it is how the parents handle it, mine did a great job, and my dh and kids still do as well original.gif


#12 Ange

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:09 PM

DD's birthday is Dec 29th and whilst it isn't the BEST, we make sure we still do a special day for her. We have come to realise that if we want a party we need to do it either 2weeks before or early Jan and people tend to go away etc.

We also make sure the Christmas Tree comes down before her Birthday and that her presents are wrapped in Birthday paper, not left over Christmas paper LOL original.gif

For me, the negatives aren't big enough to suggest stopping  TTC.

#13 Three Of Hearts

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:16 PM

My DH's birthday is Christmas Day!

I think growing up he didn't like it much, and even now his family don't really do anything for him, apart from buy a cheap mudcake from the supermarket!  All his siblings don't get him anything, just a Christmas present with a "Oh that covers your birthday as well" thrown in for good measure.  And that's if he's lucky to get anything!  His extended family give him Christmas cards with Happy Birthday written in them!

I make sure my family goes to a bit of extra effort though!  On Christmas morning it's all about my DH.  I give him his birthday pressies and we don't really mention Christmas.  Then when we go to have Christmas dinner with my family we all sit down and have 'Birthday time' before any Christmas stuff gets done.  Everyone gets him a separate Birthday present/s that MUST be wrapped in Birthday paper (hehe) and a birthday card.  He gets to open them all before we do anything else original.gif

#14 greenthumbs

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:18 PM

Born 21 Dec.

Same as others, I missed out on parties as a kid. Everyone was away, busy etc.

Combined pressies - hated it.

My family are great in that they've never done combined pressies, always used b'day wrap and not Chrissy stuff, separate cards etc.

My inlaws now don't get it and I had to have the extended inlaw family Christmas dinner on my birthday last year - hated it! (But I really should be over it at 34!)

I would try to avoid it, but if it happened anyway I'd just be really careful about it like my folks were/are.

One good thing - nobody forgets your birthday! happy.gif

#15 greenthumbs

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:20 PM

Allie_D - you're a legend!!!!  I'm sure you don't even realise how much your DH appreciates all that!

#16 Z-girls rock

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:29 PM

both my Dh and sister in law do (hers is really close). Neither of them like it.

They both always go on about how; People are busy, forget your birthday. when they were little they always got one present for both birthday and christmas (which shouldnt matter but does when your siblings get two because their birthdays are not close to christmas). When you are older it is hard to make plans with friends because of Christmas parties, holidays away, family things always come first etc etc etc.... you get the picture. It always makes your birthday take 2nd place.

#17 ~Bells~

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:30 PM

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QUOTE (Allie_D @ 04/04/2012, 12:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My DH's birthday is Christmas Day!

I think growing up he didn't like it much, and even now his family don't really do anything for him, apart from buy a cheap mudcake from the supermarket!  All his siblings don't get him anything, just a Christmas present with a "Oh that covers your birthday as well" thrown in for good measure.  And that's if he's lucky to get anything!  His extended family give him Christmas cards with Happy Birthday written in them!

I make sure my family goes to a bit of extra effort though!  On Christmas morning it's all about my DH.  I give him his birthday pressies and we don't really mention Christmas.  Then when we go to have Christmas dinner with my family we all sit down and have 'Birthday time' before any Christmas stuff gets done.  Everyone gets him a separate Birthday present/s that MUST be wrapped in Birthday paper (hehe) and a birthday card.  He gets to open them all before we do anything else original.gif


This is great! My sister's bday is Xmas Eve and my parents have always made a big deal out of her birthday, with no combined gifts etc. In fact, growing up, I sometimes felt jealous because of all the extra attention she got for her birthday to "make it special because her birthday was overshadowed by Xmas".

She still grumbles about her birthday, and we are always on a count down until her birthday, not Xmas! She's in her 20s now, with her own little boy, but our family, her DH and his family always make it special for her (and I've long been over my jealousy biggrin.gif )

An ex BF's mother was Xmas day, and his family (and me when we were togther) always made a big deal for her, though they opted to celebrate her birthday as Xmas Eve.

QUOTE (greenthumbs @ 04/04/2012, 12:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Allie_D - you're a legend!!!!  I'm sure you don't even realise how much your DH appreciates all that!


Yes absolutely! I'm sure he thinks you and your family are amazing for how special you make the day for him!

#18 sparassidae

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:46 PM

My two eldest children have birthdays 23rd and 21st. So far (12 and 10yrs) they haven't mentioned any problem with the timing of their birthdays. We have always insisted on separate presents, they have their party at least 2 weeks early, usually beginning of December, and they like the fact we have a whole week of celebrations one after the other. Family who we only see on Christmas are more than happy to give birthday wishes/cards/presents first well before anything Christmas related.

#19 Flutters

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:48 PM

I think it depends on how you manage it - I am two weeks before christmas, so not as close as others, but my parents were always set on keeping them seperate. I share a birthday with my mum (which I think is super special  wub.gif ) and she hated it growing up, so she never let anyone give me a joint present, and always made a fuss about my birthday.

The cons are that so many people were away for parties, and these days it's hard work coming up with a birthday and christmas present. Also if you want anything at any other point during the year you have to buy it yourself!

#20 alyssatahli

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:48 PM

Mine is 16 Dec, DD1 is 2 Dec.

It has never worried DD1, her birthday is far enough away from Christmas to bother her.

I always hated it as a child. Everywhere you went there was Christmas music! Everyone was always too busy with Christmas celebrations in the week leading up to Christmas to make time for my birthday. My family was good about it but friends etc were just too busy. Back when I was a child it was always school holidays on my birthday and I felt ripped that everyone was made a fuss of at school on their birthday and I always missed out.

Now it's not an issue for me.

Edited by alyssatahli, 04 April 2012 - 12:50 PM.


#21 **Xena**

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:49 PM

Not me but my 6yo is a Dec 30th baby.

Doesn't seem to bother him. We have his party a month early so his school friends can come as well as a small family celebration on his actualy birthday. He has also never received a double present.

All good tthumbs.gif

#22 thelms

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:54 PM

Mine is the 27th and it has never bothered me. My family have always celebrated my birthday separately. DD2 was due on the 29th last year but arrived on the 26th, glad she avoided Christmas and my birthday! I will always ensure she feels special on her day.

#23 caitiri

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:57 PM

QUOTE (Rumply @ 04/04/2012, 11:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DH is born on the 29th... he hated it growing up.

- combined presents
- no parties, as everyone is partied out or on holidays
- everyone is just too busy or recouperating
- it is generally family time at that time of year, so it feels awkward trying to organise anything.

When I was planning on TTC we made the decision to sit March to end of May out... trying to avoid that Dec-Jan time of year.


This but its my birthday
Also christmas time is always when family drama seems to pop up so i had a few birthdays ruined by that

#24 Strawberries

Posted 04 April 2012 - 01:06 PM

QUOTE (Rumply @ 04/04/2012, 11:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DH is born on the 29th... he hated it growing up.

- combined presents
- no parties, as everyone is partied out or on holidays
- everyone is just too busy or recouperating
- it is generally family time at that time of year, so it feels awkward trying to organise anything.

When I was planning on TTC we made the decision to sit March to end of May out... trying to avoid that Dec-Jan time of year.


THIS!

My DS#2 was born on 24/12... he was very much planned, but after taking 9months to concieve DS#1 we didn't think we would be PG so quickly... but alas, we did!

I worry about people combining gifts, we make a concious decision not to do this.  and gently suggest you family if they could do the same.
his 2 parties so far have been VERY low key, hopefully when he is older we will make his 'party' date 24th November so its not too hectic for all.

It was my worst christmas. not being there on christmas morning with DS1, getting permission to come home from hospital for 1 hour, ALL the family being there and shoving presents everywhere, my ASD son not coping with how quick and hectic it al was. hubby had a tummy bug and was useless... i went back to hospital and just cried. it was aweful. but, that will only happen once!

it has mostly negatives... so i would not TTC then if i were given the chance!

#25 Julie3Girls

Posted 04 April 2012 - 01:19 PM

Guess it depends on how you/your family manage it.  

QUOTE
and even now his family don't really do anything for him, apart from buy a cheap mudcake from the supermarket! All his siblings don't get him anything, just a Christmas present with a "Oh that covers your birthday as well" thrown in for good measure. And that's if he's lucky to get anything!

See, to me, this isn't a Christmas issue, it's a family issue original.gif My DH's family don't do birthday presents. He doesn't get anything from his siblings or his parents usually.
My brothers and I don't do gifts either. My parents do though.

The birthday in the holidays .. you just schedule parties before or after the holidays. It's the same with other holidays - my birthday is almost always in the Easter holidays, so I never really had the birthday thing at school. A lot of people go away in the Easter holidays too.
I've noticed with school that the kids with holidays tend to have them acknowledged at school either before or after the holidays. They don't actually miss out.

There are always "bad timings" in term so of birthday parties - DD1 often hits the long weekend in June. DD3 clashes with Father's day. Mine is at Easter.  DD2 is early December - you would think far enough way to miss the Christmas stuff, but I have to plan her parties so far in advance, because everyone is trying to have their Christmas party early, or the late Dec/Early Jan kids are having their party a month early, and there are end of school events, and dance concerts etc.

The only really big issue with a close to Christmas birthday is that it makes it a whole year between gift giving. Not so much of an issue for adults but for kids, a year is a very long time. And their interests change so much in the space of a year, either because of the latest trend, or the child simply growing.
I balance this out a little by keeping birthday presents not too huge. They really just get the one main gift from us on their birthday. But I will often buy them little stuff throughout the year, either something little each, or something to share, like a new boardgame.
We also have a couple of people who always give the girls money for their birthday or Christmas. DD2 has worked out on her own that it's much more fun to hold onto that, and buy herself something later in the year.




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