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#1 Guest_holy_j_*

Posted 03 April 2012 - 09:27 PM

So help please!

This is my 3rd.

The first child, he was doing #2's and #1's up until my 2nd child was born when he was 20 months old. He then went backwards for a few months, then at 2, started to do #1's on the toilet no worries. Not night trained though just day trained. He however developed a fear of doing #2's on the toilet and refused unless there was a pull up on him (complaining of stomach pains and very ill, cold and clammy etc. ). to the point where it had to become a stand off, and tossing the nappies. Took us the whole day of him protesting he eventually did it on the toilet and was fine after that- at 3 years 8 months though.

#2 was fairly easy in comparison, just kept telling her that she had to go to the toilet repeatedly, she had it figured out at shortly past 2. Had a brief stage of going backwards, when we moved here at nearly 3 years old,  as we have a toilet not in the main house as she was physically unable to reach the door handle to get out. By the tme she let one of us know, it was too late. most of the time. Sorted out within 6 weeks, so fully day toilet trained at 3 years or thereabouts. Still has a problem with bed wetting at night for a while, but grown out of it now- not worried about that.

#3 has just turned 3. He is not interested at all. We still have the issue where the toilet is not accessible to him due to its location. However, i have made a place with the potty on a mat, for him to go to the toilet in his room. We have purchased pullupis and underpants for him to wear. We repeatedly encourage him to go to the potty, very occasionally he will sit down and declare nothing after about 20 seconds, and refuse to continue to try. He will also wet his underpants or worse, and sit in them seemingly not owrried at all. When he has a nappy on, he will come to me, bring me the wipes and nappies and declare i have done a stinky poo, change my bum please mum but this doesn't translate into undies as well. Today, i thought id try to buy some thomas underwear for him, he declared no i don't want these mum, put them back please. He has plenty of outside time with nothing on, he pees outside no worries.

So give me your tips please, it's only been 4 years since the last child was trained, but I feel like i have forgotten exactly what to do! It's bordering on silly to have still in nappies all the time at 3. I haven't tried very hard to be honest, onl because I'm nto sure exactly what to do! I just told the others time to go to the toilet and it sorted itself out eventually without all that much hassle...and i've really had enough of poo!

#2 Guest_holy_j_*

Posted 04 April 2012 - 09:08 AM

bump.

#3 HoneyMurcott

Posted 09 April 2012 - 11:08 AM

Some people might suggest waiting and trying again in a month or 2 ..... but I'm pretty determined (maybe stubborn is a better word) when it comes to TTing. I would:

- straight out of nappy as soon as he wakes up
- onto the toilet / potty as soon as you can after waking to catch that morning wee (it's predictable and great way to start the day with lots of praise). Encourage to sit until he weed by watching TV / reading him a book / give him your phone to play with.
- undies only so no confusion with nappies during the day
- lots and lots of fluids (juice, milkshakes etc anything to encourage drinking as it gives you lots more opportunity to practice and for him to get a full sensation
- regular sitting on the potty / toilet for a few minutes (I set the oven timer)
- practice runs from where he's playing to the toilet. It's just fun & I found our boys particularly loved to race to the toilet & get undies off as quickly as possible
- no fuss over accidents. Just clean up and reiterate that next time it goes in the potty / toilet.
- praise / rewards for dry undies not just success on potty. It means he gets to feel good about holding on even if he keeps missing the final piece of the puzzle

My own experience has been once they can keep their undies dry for a few hours it won't be long till they get it all together. With DS2 it took 11 days before he got anything in the toilet ...., but I certainly appreciate that to many people they would stop and try again in a few more months. So it does depend on what works for your family.

Goodluck.




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