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#1 minime!

Posted 03 April 2012 - 03:10 PM

My DD is 8 1/2 mo and has just started pulling herself up against things. Getting her to sleep during the day was always trickier than night but not impossible - now its a disaster. She just pulls herself up and yells! I generally feed her before bed and she is super sleepy, but the minute i leave the room she's up and all over the cot.  Today I put her down at around 1.45pm and she is still carrying on (its now after 3pm, and she is well past the point of overtiredness). I've been in to see her a number of times, and she has gone through several rounds of babbling/playing, screaming and grizzling- but no sleeping. My only solution is to get her up and put her in the pram for a walk- I am about to do this now, and hoping she will finally sleep. Its a fix, but I'd really like her to sleep in her cot during the day so I can get some work done. Just wondering if people have any ideas, or if this is just a phase that will pass? For the record, she is not a super cuddly baby and has always settled best when left alone - rocking/patting/me being in the room etc seem to always makes things worse (I don't think she has ever gone to sleep with me in the room before, except feeding to sleep which is uncommon these days).

Thanks for hearing me out, and any suggestions/ personal experience welcome original.gif

#2 Fanny McPhail

Posted 03 April 2012 - 03:16 PM

My DD went through this, and if your DD is anything like her, it will just be a short phase.

I used go back into DD's room after about 5 mins and say "lie down" while I gently lay her down. Now if she is standing I say "lie down" and she falls down like a cowboy being shot in a spaghetti western.

QUOTE (minime! @ 03/04/2012, 04:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
For the record, she is not a super cuddly baby and has always settled best when left alone - rocking/patting/me being in the room etc seem to always makes things worse (I don't think she has ever gone to sleep with me in the room before, except feeding to sleep which is uncommon these days).


This is completely my DD too if anything if I tried to pat her or rock her it was as if I was irritating her and keeping her awake. The only time she has fallen asleep on me was on a long haul flight.

ETA: I forgot to say that I would return to her room a couple of times to lie her down. With my DD it was like she had hauled herself up but was too tired to work out how to get down. I also didn't play with her or engage in anyway when I went in to lie her down. I promise it didn't last for long.

Have you tried playing lullabies softly in the background or other sleep times cues.

Is she is a sleepbag?

Can you transfer her if she falls asleep in the car?

Edited by Pomme, 03 April 2012 - 03:37 PM.


#3 ogglyn

Posted 03 April 2012 - 03:32 PM

Does she know how to lie back down? Both of mine went through a brief stage when they first started to pull themselves up, they couldnt lie back down.

With my first I used safe t sleep and it worked really well with her. That didn't work with my son so a few times in those few weeks I would lie him on his side facing away from me and hold him down whilst patting his back or head, until he calmed down and went to sleep. I read about that technique for settling newborns, but it worked for my 8-9 month old, too.

Both mine are also best when left to settle by themselves otherwise.

#4 minime!

Posted 03 April 2012 - 04:30 PM

Thanks Pomme & ogglyn for your ideas and thankyou for assuring me this is just a phase!! biggrin.gif We've just been for a walk and she had a 30min nap so thats the best I'll get out of her this afternoon. Will put some of your ideas into action tomorrow.

Pomme, just wondering with your 'lie down' technique how long did it take for her to actually go to sleep when you started doing this? And would she calm down when you lay her down or would it just make her angry? Did you have a time limit when you decided to give up and get her up/ try something different? Also yes, my DD is in a sleeping bag. Transfering from either car or pram to cot has always failed.

ogglyn I will give your suggestion a go too. Not sure how it will go since patting hasn't been a technique that has worked in the past but willing to give anything a shot original.gif I'm pretty sure she knows how to lie back down because I sometimes find her sitting in there after previously seeing her standing (although could just be falling down)

#5 *mylittleprince*

Posted 03 April 2012 - 04:35 PM

DS went through a similar stage. I would go in, lie him down, quick pat and ssh and go out. I did it over and over and he eventually fell asleep. After a few days and a lot of persistance and being consistent he was able to lie himself down and eventually stop standing up. Good luck!

#6 No girls here

Posted 03 April 2012 - 04:35 PM

My 9 month old has every sleep in a sleeping bag for this reason.  He can still sit up in it or rock on his hands and knees, so I still have to go in and lie him back down, but he can't pull up easily in it.  I can't get him to sleep without it.  We have a light muslin one for warmer weather and a thicker one as well.

#7 Marina_

Posted 03 April 2012 - 09:05 PM

DS went through a smiliar phase, every sleep he would stand up in his cot and cry. i would continuously go in, lay him down and also say lie down at the same time, rub his back then walk out. Sometimes i may have done that ten times, eventually, after about two weeks he got over it and stopped standing up

#8 Fanny McPhail

Posted 04 April 2012 - 09:22 AM

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Pomme, just wondering with your 'lie down' technique how long did it take for her to actually go to sleep when you started doing this? And would she calm down when you lay her down or would it just make her angry? Did you have a time limit when you decided to give up and get her up/ try something different? Also yes, my DD is in a sleeping bag. Transfering from either car or pram to cot has always failed.


Ok so i would put her to bed and then if I thought she was standing (Lots of banging and noise sounded different) I would go in, lie her down and say "lie down, go to sleep" etc. She generally calmed down when I lay her down. I would then walk out of the room, if she started crying I would look at the clock and give her 5 minutes to work it out for herself. Then I would go back in and repeat what I had done before. My magic number, for how long I would keep doing this until I tried something different, was 40 minutes. But I only had to do that a couple of times. Very quickly we would have standing/crying routine for 20 minutes and then she stopped altogether.

If at anytime I picked her up and tried to give her a cuddle she would arch her back and wriggle as if trying to get back into bed. She still does this at 19months, if I try to comfort her at night if she has been coughing or crying. During the day though she is the most affectionate child always sitting on me or holding on to me.

DD was (and still is) non-transferable so it is better (for me and her) if she falls asleep in her cot because she will sleep for longer.


#9 **Amber**

Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:19 AM

I also went through this 2 months ago. I put her in a sleeping bag now and it solved the problem original.gif

#10 Mummyplusmemakes3

Posted 08 April 2012 - 08:57 PM

One of my twins has been doing this lately as well!!!! I think he's just so proud of himself for learning to pull himself up in the cot. He's always fine when I first lay him down but the moment I leave the room it's apparently party time! Just like PP, I have simply been going back in every so often and laying him back down, saying "Shussssshhh it's sleepy time now" and leaving again, until eventually he tires!

#11 Starrydawn

Posted 08 April 2012 - 09:17 PM

My DD does this as well. She manages it in a sleeping bag as well. She is not  one for patting or rocking either. She thinks it is play time if I pat her.

I just have to keep putting her down till she stays. Sometimes it works and other  times no sucess.




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