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#1 CafeCat

Posted 03 April 2012 - 07:04 AM

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For a laugh... but I actually found myself trying to memorise some of the come-backs  wink.gif

#2 ~Sorceress~

Posted 03 April 2012 - 07:09 AM

Very nice biggrin.gif .

Whenever I read these I feel grateful that I really haven't had that many nasty comments wink.gif.

#3 Jenmummy

Posted 08 April 2012 - 05:27 PM

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Why are people so nasty about large families? 0_0

I've told people we want 4 and the comments are outrageous. 4 isn't even that big lol.

Edited by Jenmummy, 08 April 2012 - 05:28 PM.


#4 Cat©

Posted 08 April 2012 - 05:37 PM

lol - but they forgot the - do they all have the same father one!

#5 baking101

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:12 PM

I'm lurking in the wrong area, but I'm genuinely horrified that mums of many are being asked such questions! It just proves that it doesn't matter how many children you have (or don't in my case) people are such twits. You guys are doing an admirable job!

But funny comebacks :-)

#6 Jenferal

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:21 PM

Those comebacks are hilarious.

#7 Velvetta

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:26 PM

QUOTE (Cat© @ 08/04/2012, 05:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
lol - but they forgot the - do they all have the same father one!


I get that! The break down of that question is just so insulting to so many involved.


Edited by Dorothea, 08 April 2012 - 06:30 PM.


#8 CrunchyNut

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:33 PM

As a mum of 5 I have never been asked any of those questions  wink.gif

#9 My4Sunshines

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:41 PM

When we announced #4 was on the way I got....
Don't you have a tv?

Why? (do you want more)

and my most unforgetable reaction from MIL...."Oh no!" ohmy.gif

Though I focus more on the happy comments we got and put the rest in the toilet wink.gif

#10 *maddierose*

Posted 08 April 2012 - 06:43 PM

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ol - but they forgot the - do they all have the same father one!


I get that! The break down of that question is just so insulting to so many involved.


I had that when pregnant with number 3, but i think it was the large age gap that made people ask.

The only other comment i've had was the same man several times asking didn't i have a tv.
The last time he did it was infront of a big group of friends at a wedding and i replied "if you prefer to watch tv your not  doing it right". Since then he has kept his mouth shut and he was the one who turned out to look stupid.

#11 Pearson

Posted 08 April 2012 - 07:13 PM

QUOTE (Cat© @ 08/04/2012, 05:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
lol - but they forgot the - do they all have the same father one!


I have had this and I have 2 children. (10 year age gap)

#12 muggins_00

Posted 08 April 2012 - 07:35 PM

QUOTE (Willow Angel @ 08/04/2012, 07:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have had this and I have 2 children. (10 year age gap)


I was asked it by a gp when I was pregnant with my 2nd child (16.5 months gap), with my husband sitting next to me. Soe people are just a bt thick.

#13 Jenmummy

Posted 08 April 2012 - 08:05 PM

50 years ago, the average amount of kids a couple had was roughly 4 - I don't know why people who want the 4th are subjected to such torment these days.

Edited by Jenmummy, 08 April 2012 - 08:05 PM.


#14 7girly-girls

Posted 09 April 2012 - 02:09 PM

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Edited by 7girly-girls, 16 June 2014 - 12:23 PM.


#15 Rachaelxxx

Posted 17 April 2012 - 02:58 PM

Hahahahahaha "Are They All Yours"  OMG if I had a dollar for every time I am asked this question I would be sooooo weathly.  I can understand the question and there is a right and wrong tone to use when asking this, but seriously my girls are all blonde with blue eyes, blind freddy can see they are all sisters lol

#16 Two-one-two

Posted 17 April 2012 - 03:12 PM

I have 5 kids and I have never received any of these comments but an absolute doozy I did get just recently was from a lady at the local rec centre that has commented on my twin 20mth old daughters (numbers 4 & 5), saying they are cute etc etc.

So one day I jokingly said to her that if she thinks they are cute she can keep them and she says to me "no thats OK, I got one I liked the first time".

So she was implying that we kept having children until we got one we liked??

It knocked me for six I have to say, the only comeback I could come up with was a mumbled "so did we".

#17 PrincessPeach

Posted 17 April 2012 - 03:35 PM

I too am lurking in the wrong area & an astounded that you guys get asked these things!

My Half-brother & his wife have 5 kids & their house is more peaceful than my BIL's & they only have 1 at the moment.

#18 TinyTeddys

Posted 17 April 2012 - 03:56 PM

Some of those were quite rude! With my second we got asked 'was it planned?'. Following me third we got the 'don't you have a tv?' comment.

Why is it their business!?! Currently I'm being asked 'are you finished?' I just change the subject!

#19 Mamabug

Posted 17 April 2012 - 04:03 PM

QUOTE (Two-one-two @ 17/04/2012, 03:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So one day I jokingly said to her that if she thinks they are cute she can keep them and she says to me "no thats OK, I got one I liked the first time".

So she was implying that we kept having children until we got one we liked??

It knocked me for six I have to say, the only comeback I could come up with was a mumbled "so did we".

As a parent of four I have had a couple of the comments from the list.

But, perhaps the above comment is from the list o "what not to say to parents of 'only' one child"? Perhaps over the years she has developed a set of comebacks to people who make comment about her having one child?

Edited by Mamabug, 17 April 2012 - 04:03 PM.


#20 ~Sorceress~

Posted 17 April 2012 - 04:28 PM

QUOTE (Two-one-two @ 17/04/2012, 04:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So she was implying that we kept having children until we got one we liked??


My husband does the "We decided to keep trying until we got one we liked" line with impeccable timing wub.gif ...

#21 Brrrroooce!

Posted 17 April 2012 - 04:38 PM

"Can I have one?"

#22 CafeCat

Posted 17 April 2012 - 05:38 PM

The most disturbing insinuation I have ever received was while waiting for the dentist with the kids. A woman asked if they were all mine and then wanted to know if any had disabilities... you know with all that watering down of the gene pool. Apparently you can't have quantity without a lessing of quality  rolleyes.gif

So after that comment all the others I have been subjected too are somewhat amateurish IMO




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