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#1 Mel1609

Posted 02 April 2012 - 08:28 AM

Hi everyone - I am just gone 30 weeks with twins and just in the last couple of days it's all become very difficult. The hardest part is simply breathing - just something simple like loading the dishwasher has me out of breath and it takes ages to get it under control. My hips and legs are so sore - nothing helps, not even resting as they start to ache with the pressure of sitting/lying down. Sleeping is a nightmare !

How did everyone else manage ? I still have god knows how long to go, if they don't come early then it could be another 7 or 8 weeks, and I'm honestly unsure of how I will physically manage. Does anyone have any tips for sleep/pain management ?

Mel

#2 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 02 April 2012 - 10:47 AM

I had a lot of trouble breathing also, there was nothing I could do about it really except rest, DH took over all chores around the house and MIL took care of DS1 when possible.

#3 heatherbell89

Posted 02 April 2012 - 11:23 AM

At 30 weeks I went on maternity leave original.gif I found water mums - aqua aerobics for pregnant women in a hydrotherapy pool - helped alot and also going to bed when I first felt tired, otherwise I was like a baby, overtired and unable to get myself to sleep!

For the bed on teh advice of the other ladies in here, I bought a mattress cushion topper and also a foam underlay which made it much more bearable to sleep on.

I wasnt really breathless unless I over did it ie carried my almost three year old into my obgyn appt from car as he'd fallen asleep in car. I did find though that I would get teary if I walked around too much, I could only walk for about 30 minutes around the shops or whatever or else I was done for.

How did I cope..... ummm just kept thinking, 'have to cook these babies so I dont have to have them in special care' - for me it made it easier to cope with it all....

As for housework - your making two brand new people screw the housework!!

#4 mumto3princesses

Posted 02 April 2012 - 04:15 PM

Yes, it was hard.

I also had a huge DVT down one leg from belly button to ankle and I was admitted to hospital at one stage because it was so hard to breathe. Because of my DVT they had to make sure part of it hadn't broken off and gone into my lungs.

I did the easy things and left a lot of the housework to DH or my mum. And my mum looked after DD1 for a while most days so I could try and have a rest.

The only way I could get some sleep or rest was with one of those U shaped pillows with part of it between my legs and the other part kind of up against my tummy.

#5 Mel1609

Posted 02 April 2012 - 08:18 PM

Good lord, mumto3 - I promise not to complain any more !!!

Thanks for the morale boost, I know it's short term, and DH and DD are being amazing. Might head to Spotlight tomorrow and check out some extra padding for the bed.

#6 fibilly

Posted 02 April 2012 - 08:30 PM

The best thing I did was to visit my osteopath every 2 weeks during my twin pregnancy. She worked on my ribs to loosen them to assist in breathing. I was pregnant during summer, so I also swam almost every day which I found kept my upper body mobile, but also was a total relief due to the weightlessness in water. Even with all that, I still found those last few weeks tough, and I didn't have a toddler, so I think you're doing really well. As PPs said, the aim to avoid SCN was a big motivation to do anything to keep those babies on the inside.

#7 LeggyBlonde

Posted 02 April 2012 - 09:25 PM

I will second the osteopath recommendation.  I had never seen an osteopath before my twin pregnancy, but did so at my OB's suggestion.

I saw them every week or two for the latter half of my pregnancy, and all through my breastfeeding year! Nothing like too much sitting down to ruin a back, other than pregnancy perhaps...

#8 mumto3princesses

Posted 02 April 2012 - 10:44 PM

Oh, I forgot about swimming as fibilly said.

Even just getting in the water for a while helped a bit. Only my girls used to go a bit nuts with the kicking around whenever I got in the water. Actually, looking at them now maybe it was just DD3 that loved the water. DD2 doesn't really like swimming much and used to scream the pool down a couple of years ago while DD3 gets excited to see swimming on TV and has told us she wants to get better at swimming herself.

I didn't swim much but did like to go to the pool and just sit there for a while or walk around. Just make sure it has stairs or a ramp thingy to get in and out and not just a ladder.  roll2.gif

#9 muggins_00

Posted 02 April 2012 - 11:07 PM

I stopped trying to sleep in bed and made a nest in the recliner instead. The angle helped the heartburn, I had pillows to support my belly and back, and one between my knees to help my hips. Physio for the hips, standing in the swimming pool and housework and cooking mostly became DH's problem.  If you can get in and out of the bath that might help, ours is a big corner spa so I struggled hoiking my leg high enough to get in without hip pain.

#10 rainycat

Posted 02 April 2012 - 11:25 PM

I used to swim 3 times a week (just gentle breaststroke) and lots of floating, I also had a bath most nights. The only time I felt comfortable was in the pool!
In bed I had 5 pillows propped all around my belly and legs too.
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, try and do as little as possible.

#11 tuesdaygirl

Posted 02 April 2012 - 11:33 PM

Probably sounds really naff, but I found that using a beanbag was the way I got most comfortable, since it moulded to my body. I ended up putting it on top of the bed and sleeping in it.

#12 regandrog

Posted 03 April 2012 - 08:52 AM

30 wks was my limit, I stopped work then and rested as much as possible.

You will survive and it will get better soon. Keep those bubs growing in there. While it seems so terrible it is fortunately only for a short time, my twins are 7 now and it is just a vague memory to me now.  What I can remember distinctly was how good I felt after the twins were born, despite the sleepless nights and everything about looking after newborns being tiring, I had much more energy and comfort in those weeks after they were born than the last few weeks of pregnancy, so look forward to that!

Swimming and water were comfortable, but be careful with water aerobics , if you tread water to much you can put pressure on your pelvis and get SPD.

DD was learning to be more independent which I thought was good as with 2 babies on the way she would have to be anyway.

Sleeping was a combination of various pillows stacked about, we had got a new mattress too which was great. I also found it wasn't just the uncomfortableness that made sleeping difficult, I was just unsettled, apparently the babies metabolism impacts on the mum.

Which is why I stopped work so I could rest during the day as well.





#13 Mel1609

Posted 03 April 2012 - 08:14 PM

It's funny you all mention swimming - I go every week when DD has her lesson, and the only way it's comfortable is if I rest my chest on a board, as if it's under the water just that small amount of increased pressure on my chest makes breathing even worse.

I swear the minute those babies are out the first thing I will do is take one massive breath just because I can !

#14 Mel1609

Posted 04 April 2012 - 05:25 PM

Wow, fertile woman - it just gets better and better, doesn't it ???  wink.gif

#15 regandrog

Posted 05 April 2012 - 09:14 AM

I had a caesarean and I as soon as the first twin was out, I had instant relief off my lungs.  So breathing did feel better immediately for me.


#16 newyearbaby

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:19 AM

Oh gees, I can relate to all of this. I can pin point it to the 28 week mark when everything, and I mean everything, just got too hard!

I am 29 weeks today. I have resigned myself to the fact that I just can't do much at all, and anything I do is a bonus. Everything else can wait, I'm looking after me, my babies inside, and my little kids. Everyone else can look after themselves. And the housework will be done by whoever does it, whenever it happens. I simply don't care anymore... not too much anyway.



#17 Mel1609

Posted 05 April 2012 - 11:23 AM

newyearbaby - I'm also having twin boys, due June 8. All the best with yours !

#18 T2Mum

Posted 07 April 2012 - 07:48 AM

Reading this thread with interest as I am 22 weeks. Made my DH read it as well as he struggles to understand that growing two babies is harder than one!!!

Just wondering - did you feel OK at 22 weeks? I'm doing OK (esp now my pelvis is taped) and just wondering if that is a good sign or if everyone else felt fine at 22 weeks but then found it hard going by 28?

#19 Sal78

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:39 AM

yup,we've all been through that. At 30 weeks I was the size of full term with a singleton and I went to term 38 weeks 1 day.

I didn't do anything special though, no body pillows, osteopath etc The pool is a good idea though. I went for a soak each time I took ds1 to swimming lessons. I don't know how I made it..it's a blur now.

But time goes so slow and I am the type of person that cannot sit still so I just kept myself busy. I'd still go out but had to take bench stops regularly! By 36 weeks, I couldn't even get from the car park to the front of shopping centre without a 10 min bench stop!



#20 Mariamsmum

Posted 07 April 2012 - 09:46 AM

I stopped work just before 31 weeks as I could barely walk. And every time I walked, I started having braxton hicks contractions which were so painful.

I had my twins at 36 weeks (but I was in hospital for 3 days at 33 weeks due to contractions). It was very hard going as I had a 3yo DS as well who wanted mummy. I kept him childcare for 3 days a week (he was already going as I was working) until after the babies were born as I literally could not run after him.

T2Mum, I also was going well at 22 weeks. I think it was about 26-28weeks when the going got really tough.  

But it is so worth it. The bond between twins is so special. I am so blessed  llove.gif

Good luck!

#21 twinboys

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:45 PM

QUOTE
newyearbaby - I'm also having twin boys, due June 8. All the best with yours !


I had my twin boys on June 10th...Gemini Twins!! ( Yes they rock!!)

I got to 34 weeks and thats when everything started getting difficult with moving around - my waters broke at 34.5 weeks without any warning!

I did have horrible rib pain from twin 2 who was floating around that area - he was such a wriggler and he still is at nearly 7 ( Stop running/jumping/kicking and fighting are all we say to him these days!)
Twin 1 remained down low and head down - I barely felt him move througout my pregnancy...He was the one whose membranes broke....I always tell him that his 'fat head' broke his baby balloon!! Yes he does have a big head that we joke abou!!

#22 robyn85

Posted 10 April 2012 - 11:02 AM

QUOTE (twinboys @ 07/04/2012, 11:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I had my twin boys on June 10th...Gemini Twins!! ( Yes they rock!!)

I got to 34 weeks and thats when everything started getting difficult with moving around - my waters broke at 34.5 weeks without any warning!

I did have horrible rib pain from twin 2 who was floating around that area - he was such a wriggler and he still is at nearly 7 ( Stop running/jumping/kicking and fighting are all we say to him these days!)
Twin 1 remained down low and head down - I barely felt him move througout my pregnancy...He was the one whose membranes broke....I always tell him that his 'fat head' broke his baby balloon!! Yes he does have a big head that we joke abou!!



I am 34 weeks and 3 days with twins. Each day seems to be dragging on because I'm usually very active and have trouble sitting still. Has anyone had their twins before 37 weeks? I want to try and keep my babies in for as long as possible but my patience is definately wearing very thin.

#23 Mel1609

Posted 10 April 2012 - 10:13 PM

i hear you robyn! i will be 32 weeks on friday and want them in a bit longer but am sooo over it. hired a wheelchair for the first time saturday as i just cant walk much more than 100 metres without panting and  needing a long rest.i too felt ok at 22 weeks. it really has gotten hard after the 30 week mark. fortunateky dh is amazing. dont know what i would have done without him. the movement alone is so intense it often makes me cry out!  sometimes i feel like an arm or foot is just going to burst out. its not fun anymore.

#24 stella777

Posted 11 April 2012 - 12:28 PM

T2mum - I think it is possible to have an easy pregnancy with twins. Reading through here it doesn't seem to be the norm, but I had a relatively easy pregnancy with my twins who are now 18 months. I had no morning sickness, no heartburn, no pain and was induced at 38 weeks still feeling great. I had some swelling and struggled to eat a large meal or take a deep breath near the end, but that was all really. I never had the feeling of wanting them out original.gif
I am 29 weeks pg now with one and feel a little worse for wear this time around, so I think it would be much harder having twins 2nd, 3rd time around. Everything is just a bit stretched and I am having some pelvic pain and am exhausted (but both of those things may be related to the fact I am running after and carrying around two 18 month old boys!)

Mel, I hope you are feeling better sad.gif It must be hard. Personally I think keeping those bubs in as long as possible is the best thing for them and will hopefully make things easier for all of you after birth if they are stronger and better feeders. But that's just from my exerience though - my boys were born at 38 weeks and I assumed they would be fine. Both spent 2.5 weeks in the SCN with feeding and temperature regulating issues, one spent his first night on CPAP. It made for a difficult beginning for me when they couldn't feed well and it was stressful. Only a few more weeeks to go original.gif

#25 newyearbaby

Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:32 AM

Yeah I agree with this, in that it is running after a little one that tires you out more in subsequent pregnancies. Each pregnancy for me has certainly been more tiring each time. I can't lift my 3 year old at all anymore. Unfortunately my 17 month old has become ridiculously clingy and always wants to be picked up and carried. And it hurts!!!

So that is definitely more tiring. And we don't get any younger in between kids either.

But hang in there as long as you can. And keep thinking how much easier it will be, to have a smooth delivery and smooth recovery afterwards. You will feel better once they are out and the healthier they are, the easier the newborn period will be.




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