crazy to travel to Bali alone with 3 young kids?
1yr old, 4 yr old and 6 year old
, Apr 01 2012 11:31 PM
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Posted 01 April 2012 - 11:31 PM
A friend and I are considering going to Club Med Bali without our husbands. but with our 3 kids for a week or so. Her children will be 13, 6 and 4, so a bit easier to travel with (her 13 year old is awesome with his brother and sister so is a genuine extra pair of hands), but I'm wondering whether I can really do it with a 13 month old, 4 and 6 year old? The actual Club Med part should be OK, as the older two will have time in kids club each day and the younger one can be babysat for 3 or 4 hours a day I assume. Pool-time might be a bit more difficult perhaps, although the 6 year old can swim now and by then, the 4 year old is pretty compentent with a floatie vest on. The 4 year old will have only just turned 4 and is currently a bit of a handful, so I guess I'm wondering how I would handle the flight, airport transfers etc....
Would you do it? Have you done it?
Posted 01 April 2012 - 11:34 PM
Could you travel as a group and ask the 13 yr old to help keep the four year olds entertained on the flight? The actual stay itself I think would be OK and it is cheap to get hired help where needed there but the flight would be fairly tiring on your own I reckon. Book early and try to get the shortest direct flght you can, I think Garuda is the only one that flies direct
Posted 01 April 2012 - 11:36 PM
My first thought is, can you leave the baby at home? The two pairs of 4 and 6 YOs can hang out doing the same activities together and the 13 yo if they're a good kid should be fine, but the little one would be hard work. Maybe it won't work for you if your Dh is not so hands on / working too much / you're still BFing, but otherwise if you can handle 2 on your own surely he can handle 1?
Posted 01 April 2012 - 11:44 PM
Yes, you are definitely crazy.
This is coming from me - who is too scared to take 3 young children to the supermarket by myself, lol.
Posted 02 April 2012 - 12:13 AM
Personally I'd be going with my friend and leaving the kids with my husband, then taking husband and kids to some rural motel with a pool at another time. It just sounds too exhausting to be the only adult watching three kids in the pool.
Posted 02 April 2012 - 12:24 AM
Personally Club Meds not my thing but in this case it would be perfect and I think you would be fine. Club Med runs just like a day care, our friends take their kids and they are in the kids club from 7am-9pm and im pretty sure they take the older ones swimming so you could look after the youngest one. Tranfers to/from hotel easy.
I travel alone on planes all the time with my 3, they are now 4;6 & 8 but started when they were all babies. Most people on planes are pretty helpful too. Better to be alone on holidays with kids than alone at home
Posted 02 April 2012 - 06:18 AM
I vote crazy
Posted 02 April 2012 - 07:46 AM
Better to be alone on holidays with kids than alone at home
It's totally doable if you are organized.
Posted 02 April 2012 - 03:21 PM
Quite doable especially with the 13yo to help but I think I would try and fly during the day, rather than try and getting them to sleep on the plane or arriving at midnight with a gaggle of tired grumpy kids.
Posted 03 April 2012 - 12:36 PM
Yes Jo yes you are
I vote leave Master 4 with your parents
You know what if your game then do it. Worst that could happen is you don't do it again.
Posted 03 April 2012 - 02:33 PM
I think it's unfair to expect the poor 13 yr old to have to babysit and be put upon...when does that kid get a holiday? Just becuase they are good with their younger siblings, doesn't mean they have to be seen as free babysitting
That was my thought as well. I hated how my parents did that to me when I was growing up.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 01:14 AM
Wow what the point of taking the kids at all if they are stuck in care for 14hrs a day?
I agree, that's why we don't go there. But hey, they like it like that so who am I to argue.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 04:38 AM
Doable with club med. Its excellent for taking the kids and looking after them.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 05:59 AM
I vote crazy.
I'm also very sympathetic to the 13yo who may be awesome with his siblings but probably isn't all the time and also shouldn't have to look after your kids as a reward for being nice!
But club med isn't for me, I could see why you'd take the kids if they would like it but the baby will be harder unless they're used to being looked after by strangers.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 06:35 AM
Club Med is EASY it isnt the real Bali - but it is a REAL break away from the world!! - you could do it for sure... The Nanies over there are so inexpensive - that you could have them there at dinners at night to help you...
If you were going to a regualar resort then NO but Club Med is another story - please note you will NOT see anything of Bali - but that is your choice..
Posted 04 April 2012 - 11:22 AM
If the kids are just going to be stuck in Club Med every day and not experience the true Bali then I would seriously leave them home.
The amount you save on airfares and accommodation for them you could hire a nanny back here to look after them for the week.
I can't understand taking children away for a holiday with you and barely spending time with them.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 11:27 AM
Go for it, it would be easier than being at home with three kids. Get a nanny or use the kids club and everyone will have a fun relaxing time.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 11:31 AM
I personally wouldn't do it, however that is just me.
But whatever you choose, just don't fly with garuda - they have one of the worst safety records of all airlines.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 11:44 AM
I've never been to ClubMed but we do like Fijian resorts with nannies and kids clubs.
It's not that we don't want to spend time with our children, we all want a holiday. It allowed DH and I to dawdle with DS2, while the nanny took the older two to the pool because they were raring to go. It allowed me to sit by the pool feeding DS2 while an adult was in the pool with the other two (and DH was off golfing). Or I could be in the pool with the children but an adult could help DD go to the toilet so I didn't have to drag all of them out. Another pair of hands at meal times was invaluable. At night, we would get the children to sleep and be able to have a drink in the bar and dinner at grown up times comfortable in the knowledge that an adult was in the room with the children and would call if they woke and asked for us.
There were times the children wanted to go to the kids club rather than hang with us which was fine. And when I wanted to go on tours/excursions, whoever was interested got to come but we didnt have to drag everyone. I got to go fishing with DS without his younger siblings monopolizing my attention. I got to spend quality one on one time with each child.
As for not seeing the real Bali, it's a matter of how much you want to see. You are not locked into the resort. You can go out if you wish for day trips. It's about how you choose to spend your time. The assumption that if you go to Club Med means you don't want to spend time with your kids is a mass generalization. Also re the 13yr old, I believe that his help was mainly just for the transit to and from Bali. At the resort there will be plenty of other help that he would get a holiday too.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:33 PM
The holiday would be fine but the flights could be the issue.
We flew to Bali with a 2 and 3 year old and on the way over neither of them slept (late night flight) so 6 hours, plus the hour sitting on the tarmac was a long time to try and keep kids entertained and quiet.
Also if you have to do a nappy change (DS had 7 poo nappies on our flight) then your two other children are left on their own which may not be good if your 4 year old if a handful. And it you have to help your older two with the toilet (those doors are hard to open at times) then what do you do with your 13 month old?
If you really want to do it then I would suggest get the husbands (or your husband) to fly over with you to help on the flight and then they can go off and holiday elsewhere.
Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:42 PM
Everything that *LucyE* said
Go to Bali. Have an awesome time.
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