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#1 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 08:58 AM

A Cold, Throat infection and Upper Respitory Tract Infection.

DS has all of the above, and was put on AB's yesterday by the GP. The GP said he would be fine for school tomorrow, but I doubt it.

I have an hour long appt tomorrow with my counsellor, this is the first appt I have had, as it has taken from DH death until now (nearly 2 months) just to get an appt, so I can't really change it and if I did I would a waiting until probably June for the first appt (which would be nearly 6 months after the death) and no I dont have anyone that can look after him either.

So what would you be doing make him more comfortable and also to keep the appt.

Edited to add- He has bursts of running around and then goes flat and just wants cuddles etc

Edited by purpleblackqueen, 01 April 2012 - 09:03 AM.


#2 Meagan

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:29 AM

As in taking you son with you to the appointment?  Does he have a games system he can take with him (Ds, PSP or a phone/ipod with games)  Ask him what he wants, if my kids have to come with me to something thats boring for them, they get to choose what they take.

If you mean so he can feel better, then dose him up with the meds & panadol and perhaps some soother type "lollies" to help.

#3 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:34 AM

QUOTE (Meagan @ 01/04/2012, 09:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As in taking you son with you to the appointment?  Does he have a games system he can take with him (Ds, PSP or a phone/ipod with games)  Ask him what he wants, if my kids have to come with me to something thats boring for them, they get to choose what they take.

If you mean so he can feel better, then dose him up with the meds & panadol and perhaps some soother type "lollies" to help.



Mainly so he can feel better. Only soother type lollies he will take are the eucaltypus ones from the supermarket, but they are loaded with sugar too.


#4 MrsWidget

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:36 AM

Do you have an iPhone, iPad or similar you could take with you? Put a movie on it, pack a blanket and snack and tuck him up at your app somewhere.

Good luck.

#5 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:37 AM

Also so I can try and get him to sleep in his own bed, he has spent 2 nights in mine, and as he covers the entire bed, I get next to no sleep.

#6 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:38 AM

QUOTE (Poet in New York @ 01/04/2012, 09:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just take him with you and give him a few books to read if he's home from school. Can he wait in the waiting room? I don't know how old your DS is but it might not be good for either of you if he is in the room listening to the conversation.



He is 5, so there is no way he will wait in the waiting room on his own for an hour.


QUOTE (MrsWidget @ 01/04/2012, 09:36 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do you have an iPhone, iPad or similar you could take with you? Put a movie on it, pack a blanket and snack and tuck him up at your app somewhere.

Good luck.


Know we dont.

#7 MrsWidget

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:39 AM

Agree with a PP that a waiting room or similar would be better but under the circumstances you need to do what you can. Hopefully you can make a follow up appointment for not long after.

#8 ~~~~!eternity!~~~~

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:42 AM

Honestly if it was me I would cancel the appt and stay home with him. I would also wait until tomorrow to decide though as they do tend to bounce back fast.

#9 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:44 AM

QUOTE (~Eternity~ @ 01/04/2012, 09:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Honestly if it was me I would cancel the appt and stay home with him. I would also wait until tomorrow to decide though as they do tend to bounce back fast.


What and wait another 2 months for counselling which will bring upto almost 6 months since he went? There would be absolutely no point in going at all then.

Edited by purpleblackqueen, 01 April 2012 - 09:44 AM.


#10 ms flib

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:45 AM

If it's in the morning, then perhaps he can go to school and you can pick him up after the appt or at least go and make sure he's ok.

Or just take him and wing it. The first appt will probably mainly be telling the story so you can at least talk about the basics.

All the best!

#11 MrsWidget

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:46 AM

In PBQ's situation I wouldn't cancel.

PBQ I'd just take him. Take some books/toys and snacks and make the best of it.

At worst you can give your counsellor an overview of your situation. She will also see first hand some of what you're dealing with having your DS with you. Then push to get a quick follow up where you can go on your own.

#12 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:47 AM

QUOTE (ms flib @ 01/04/2012, 09:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If it's in the morning, then perhaps he can go to school and you can pick him up after the appt or at least go and make sure he's ok.

Or just take him and wing it. The first appt will probably mainly be telling the story so you can at least talk about the basics.

All the best!


It is 11am, so he would be going to school at 9am and staying until 12.15pm

#13 ~~~~!eternity!~~~~

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:47 AM

QUOTE
What and wait another 2 months for counselling which will bring upto almost 6 months since he went? There would be absolutely no point in going at all then.


Yep because if there isn't any other alternative then there isn't any other alternative!

However, if you call and explain you will probably be able to then access their cancellation list and will get an appt quicker than another 2 months.

#14 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:48 AM

Ideas on making him comfortable in general would be good please.

#15 MrsWidget

Posted 01 April 2012 - 09:54 AM

To make him comfortable I'd give him panadol or similar half an hour before app. Also vicks on chest, and for tomorrow the soothers if they help a bit.

Apart from that there's probably not a lot you can do.

#16 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:01 AM

QUOTE (Poet in New York @ 01/04/2012, 09:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In that case I would try and reschedule the appt. I don't think your level of disclosure at a first-time counselling appointment will necessarily be appropriate for your DS to listen in on. Plus, if you can't open up and say what you want to say then you won't get as much out of it. Sometimes professionals will offer to rearrange their appointments within the same week or shuffle their clients around, and maybe your time-slot will be better for someone else anyway.  original.gif


True, but they would have to shuffle within school hours, but we also have school hols from Thursday Arvo. otherwise I will have both kids.

#17 ange78

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:08 AM

I can see 3 options, none of which are ideal.

1. Cancel/postbone the appointment
2. Take him with you, make him comfortable, maybe some music with earphones, book, game.
3. Take him to school if well enough and possibly pick him up early.

You can only really see how he is in the morning. If the AB's have started to work he may be ok to go to school for a 1/2 day. This would be the best option, IF he's well enough. If he's not well enough, option 2 would probably be my next choice, IF it were me.

In terms of things that might help him feel better? Warm drinks, with honey and lemon, vicks, maybe some decongestant to dry up the excess mucous.

Hope he is feeling better soon.

#18 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:10 AM

QUOTE (ange78 @ 01/04/2012, 10:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can see 3 options, none of which are ideal.

1. Cancel/postbone the appointment
2. Take him with you, make him comfortable, maybe some music with earphones, book, game.
3. Take him to school if well enough and possibly pick him up early.

You can only really see how he is in the morning. If the AB's have started to work he may be ok to go to school for a 1/2 day. This would be the best option, IF he's well enough. If he's not well enough, option 2 would probably be my next choice, IF it were me.

In terms of things that might help him feel better? Warm drinks, with honey and lemon, vicks, maybe some decongestant to dry up the excess mucous.

Hope he is feeling better soon.


I was told expectorant cough medicine to bring the muck in his airways up.

#19 HRH Countrymel

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:19 AM

QUOTE (purpleblackqueen @ 01/04/2012, 10:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is 11am, so he would be going to school at 9am and staying until 12.15pm


Take him to school PQB - tell them he isn't feeling well and may need to lie down in the sick room but that you have a really important appointment  that you cannot miss.


Is there no-one you can leave him with/ get to sit at home with him?

#20 rainycat

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:24 AM

I think it is really important that you keep your appointment.
Can you maybe buy a new colouring in book or sticker book to pull out when you get there?  As well as take a comfy rug and some favorite books.
If it doesnt work at least you have tried.
Good luck.

#21 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:27 AM

QUOTE (countrymel @ 01/04/2012, 10:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Take him to school PQB - tell them he isn't feeling well and may need to lie down in the sick room but that you have a really important appointment  that you cannot miss.


Is there no-one you can leave him with/ get to sit at home with him?


No there isn't.


#22 HRH Countrymel

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:30 AM

As someone who has done grief counselling can I strongly, strongly suggest you do not take him with you?

It is a space where you should be feeling totally selfish - I would also need a bit of time to dry my face and pull myself together.

Your mental health is for the good of the whole family in the long term. Your son will have to be a little bit put out in the short term to achieve that result.

#23 ~THE~MAGICIAN~

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:30 AM

Hopefully in another 24hrs, he will be so much better and the decision will be easier. I can't get over that one of your kids is on AB's again. How is your daughter now? Did you manage to keep your appt when she was unwell?




#24 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:33 AM

QUOTE (*LittleBoyBlue* @ 01/04/2012, 10:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hopefully in another 24hrs, he will be so much better and the decision will be easier. I can't get over that one of your kids is on AB's again. How is your daughter now? Did you manage to keep your appt when she was unwell?


No I didn't I rang and explained the situation and was told that I had to postpone. I now can't get back in until after the school hols, so end of the month. As we are also going away. They were also full this week.

#25 Falling Awake

Posted 01 April 2012 - 10:35 AM

QUOTE (countrymel @ 01/04/2012, 10:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Take him to school PQB - tell them he isn't feeling well and may need to lie down in the sick room but that you have a really important appointment  that you cannot miss.


I agree with this.  By tomorrow morning, he will have been on ABs for at least 24 hours and he may be fine for a half day anyway.  You can always pick him up afterwards.

You can always ring the school and ask how he is before your appointment and if he is not well, then pick him up and take him with you.  But I would try this first.




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