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#26 statua angelam

Posted 29 March 2012 - 12:40 PM

QUOTE (Nina's Mummy @ 29/03/2012, 01:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lack confidence in general or when it comes to being around kids?


Sorry, should have been clearer.  I meant with kids.  It takes a certain amount of familiarity to be comfortable interacting with kids, both when they're being "good," and also knowing how to distract, redirect, or indeed tell them off if bratty behaviour is to the fore, in ways which are effective, appropriate and not going to raise the hackles of the parents.  This even more so if the situation is one where the childless person may feel some level of responsibility for the child.

#27 princessanarchy

Posted 29 March 2012 - 12:42 PM

When DH and I get to go out without our babies (3,2 and due again 15 April 2012) and come across tantrums or just general unruliness, it tends to lead to a smug feeling of 'bwahahah'- at least that's not me'....reminds me of the days before children when we knew EVERYTHING and were going to be 'The Best Parents In The Whole World'. Heh.

#28 Doodalicious

Posted 29 March 2012 - 12:49 PM

QUOTE (princessanarchy @ 29/03/2012, 12:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When DH and I get to go out without our babies (3,2 and due again 15 April 2012) and come across tantrums or just general unruliness, it tends to lead to a smug feeling of 'bwahahah'- at least that's not me'....reminds me of the days before children when we knew EVERYTHING and were going to be 'The Best Parents In The Whole World'. Heh.



Yep same here - and if the parent seems to be doing their best I'll give them a sympathetic smile but generally I just feel relieved that it's not me having to deal with it.

I remember being in my early 20s and childless and thinking "why on earth doesn't she get that kid to shut up" as though it was just that easy. Nowadays I only feel irritated at the parents if they don't seem to be doing anything about it. Not just because they aren't winning, if that makes sense.

#29 Ireckon

Posted 29 March 2012 - 01:06 PM

I have 3 kids, and I find some peoples kids annoying. I think it's more of a personality thing though. Some kids have a pretty established personality at a young age. Dang, there are times I find my own kids annoying - I really struggle to eat a meal with them, because I cannot stand eating sounds, and mealtime means I am surrounded by 4 others. They have great table manners, I jjust cant handle normal eating sounds - drinks being swallowed, food being chewed....

Anyway, I have a friend who is childless, and she has a sleep over every month or 2, so we can catch up etc etc. Would you believe, every single time she stays, my kids turn on their most angelic behaviour, they don't fight, they listen, they do as they are told, and they go to bed like it's their favourite time of day. My kids are lulling her into a completely false sense of what kids are like. ...Bwahahahaha...

Edited by Ireckon, 29 March 2012 - 01:07 PM.


#30 Trish55

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:31 AM

It is not only childless people, we are all intolerant of the younger generation.  We have gone back to the era of they can been seen, but they should not be making any noise, or fuss in public.  Let's get real these little people are the ones who will grow up and become adults and taking care of us, be it looking after us or their taxes paying for hospitals and what we need as we get older.  Be careful, Be respectful of our young. Encourage them to grow into respectful people.

#31 eleishas

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:34 AM

TBH, I find childless people to be equally annoying.

#32 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:41 AM

Don't worry, we don't care wink.gif

#33 hamiriver

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:43 AM

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The other is that some parents seem to feel that having children, they are entitled to go everywhere and do everything as they would without children, and expect the course of their day to be structured to their convenience. To my mind, there are places and situations in which children should either not be present, or really should be seen and not heard. This extends to some social settings as well


I completely agree.SOME parents think that just because they have kids, that everyone should find their kids adorable and want to spend time with their children.
Some of my family dont have children and I am acutely aware that kids just arent a part of their scene. Whilst they treat our kids with repsect, have fun with them, I can see when they have had enough of my kids. I dont expect that they feel obliged to enjoy the kids company.

I do agree that some people have no confidence around children. If you are not used to them, its just harder. Some people are kid friendly and others are not. Doesnt make that person less of a person.

#34 Mel.Bell

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:49 AM

I have two kids & used to teach children before I had them & if I'm out without my kids you would think I was one of those parents. Waiting in the Drs room & a young boy starts to smile at me & sing & dance, trying to get my attention while the mother is staring at me like "GIVE ME KID A CLAP" or something. I just ignored him. I was NOT in any mood for kids (mine were at my parents) & that mother would have thought I didn't have any ... I also don't wear a wedding ring at the moment as I just had a baby & it doesn't quite fit yet.

I agree with PP -Some kids are just being kids & some kids aren't being disciplined!



ETA: That kid didn't need discipline just needed a "Hey sweety, come over here & show ME your singing & dance & leave the lady alone" but some screaming/spolit kids do.

Edited by Mel.Bell, 12 April 2012 - 08:51 AM.


#35 Avidlearner1

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:59 AM

I am childless. I love children, infact I welcome babysitting duty, school concerts and the like. I also came from a large family with many siblings. I get what children can be like.

I am all for the tired child who has had to go to the bank, medicare, the post office and now the supermarket where they are a little restless or the child that insists on wearing his superman costume everyday for two weeks. I am all for the inquisitive child who just wanted to wander over to the fish tank at yum cha, or the four year old child who thought it would be entertaining to press all the buttons on the loudest toy at the medical centre. None of these things annoy me.

In fact in general the children don't annoy me. The parents however...... happy.gif

No, it's not okay when your child finds a substantial amount of money (large note) in a small enclosed caravan park to say to him "finders keepers". There was maybe three other caravans with a maximum of 8 people there. Walk around ask anyone if they lost some money and then assess the situation. And please, please don't follow it up with "well I won't tell anyone as long as we can go to the pub and buy Daddy and few beers, a couple of punts and you can grab an icecream".

Generally speaking, I would far sooner roll my eyes at a parent making a stupid decision (child about to walk on to busy road and then saying "please dont make me come and get you I am trying to read the paper" - your child is 18 months, she doesn't care about you reading the paper!!!)

#36 Charlotte84

Posted 12 April 2012 - 09:03 AM

I love my kids to pieces but other people's kids I cannot really stand them TBH.  I don't think most of them cute are wonderful (my own kids of course)

#37 musiclover7

Posted 30 July 2012 - 05:17 PM

Yesterday I went to see 'Hairspray' the musical in Frankston. I heard mutterings from a few people that they wouldn't have taken their kids to a musical. ohmy.gif  This show was appropriate for children in my opinion. There was a lady behind me who had a couple of young children and they were very well behaved. There was also a lady with a baby aroung 4 months and he was very quiet the whole time. We need to be accepting of children in suitable places I believe and a tolerant of a little noise and restlessness as this is part and parcel of young children. rolleyes.gif

#38 Sassy Dingo

Posted 30 July 2012 - 08:35 PM

QUOTE (musiclover7 @ 30/07/2012, 05:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yesterday I went to see 'Hairspray' the musical in Frankston. I heard mutterings from a few people that they wouldn't have taken their kids to a musical. ohmy.gif  This show was appropriate for children in my opinion. There was a lady behind me who had a couple of young children and they were very well behaved. There was also a lady with a baby aroung 4 months and he was very quiet the whole time. We need to be accepting of children in suitable places I believe and a tolerant of a little noise and restlessness as this is part and parcel of young children. rolleyes.gif



I personally don't think that musicals are a place for babies and small children. I don't know where you live, but the last musical I went to cost me over $100. I would be VERY annoyed if a baby started babbling, crying or pooped it's nappy (due to the smell). Unless you dope your baby on sleeping tablets how can you know it's going to be quiet for 2-3 hours?

#39 Guest_holy_j_*

Posted 30 July 2012 - 08:45 PM

I got as far as BMAP's "if your toddler is lying across the floor" ummm really who gives a toss? If my toddler is lying across the floor then they are quiet and not bothering anyone so this is awesome. Step over him. I do. If they are swinging from the rafters and landing in your champagne, yes whinge worthy. If they are running around peoples tables, and screeching at the top of their voices, yes this is whinge worthy. Lying on the floor, no.

The whole post meh, heard it before, a little bit from column A and a little bit from column B. Children are annoying, but so are self absorbed irritating adults.

#40 mudskippa

Posted 30 July 2012 - 08:52 PM

I generally only find self absorbed adults irritating when they are yelling at the top of their voices and running around the table as well.

Children ARE annoying - that's why they aren't included in a whole heap of things because everyone knows that not every parent can control every child. I like children but I still hate it when people bring them to work and such.

#41 duckasorus

Posted 30 July 2012 - 08:59 PM

dp cant stand others peoples children, he is good about it but is normally dieing to get away lol

#42 baking101

Posted 30 July 2012 - 09:05 PM

QUOTE (eleishas @ 12/04/2012, 08:34 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
TBH, I find childless people to be equally annoying.


I'm so sorry my infertility annoys you.

Think before you type.

#43 darksideofthemoon

Posted 30 July 2012 - 09:10 PM

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I got as far as BMAP's "if your toddler is lying across the floor" ummm really who gives a toss? If my toddler is lying across the floor then they are quiet and not bothering anyone so this is awesome. Step over him.


Right. You've obviously never been a waitress.

I've been a waitress. Temptation to kick would have been strong. That is so far from being acceptable in any restaurant with any aged child. Unsafe as well. So many times I've nearly dropped hot drinks on little darlings racing around between tables while mummy and daddy hide behind newspapers...

#44 beabea

Posted 08 August 2012 - 01:17 AM

I think if parents weren't so possessive of their children then childless people would be a lot less irritated by other people's children. Days gone by, you could help a parent out without fear of misinterpretation or reprisal. Now most people are too afraid to do anything but look away and "mind their own business". At best (except in rare circumstances) they're brave enough to give a sympathetic smile. Of course people are going to get p*ssed when they're completely disempowered. Society has pretty much brought the situation on itself and now every parent suffers, even the ones who welcome the efforts of strangers.

You can't have it both ways. You either accept it when strangers try to help (even when they totally mess it up and irritate the sh*t out of you) and the reward is that your children are welcome in society. Or you tell people to mind their own business and they tell you to **** off with your spawn.

Pick your poison.

ETA: A couple of people have mentioned parents who "don't do anything" or "seem oblivious". Of course you're not talking about those times when you're so dang tired you are sleeping with your eyes open whilst staring at your phone, slowly getting around to remembering that you unpacked it so you could attend to some urgent call your children have been distracting you from since you woke up from your heavily-broken four hours of sleep on top of the already-chronic and severe sleep deprivation. Or the times you just know there is no point (and in fact it will do more harm than good) doing anything but ignoring the child to focus on completing the task at hand so everyone can move on with their lives. Not those times. It's pretty much always obvious when parents don't notice or respond to their kids' behaviour out of sheer laziness or thoughtlessness. wink.gif

But to answer the question: no, they don't. I can't remember a single instance in which a childless person has made me feel like my kids are irritating.

Edited by beabea, 08 August 2012 - 01:37 AM.


#45 sheena0105

Posted 15 August 2012 - 04:33 PM

QUOTE
some parents seem to feel that having children, they are entitled to go everywhere and do everything as they would without children, and expect the course of their day to be structured to their convenience.  To my mind, there are places and situations in which children should either not be present, or really should be seen and not heard.  This extends to some social settings as well.

Believe it or not, not every person wants to be encompassed by kids all the time. Consequently, there are a growing number of companies with a “no kids allowed” policy. In fat,  many businesses didn’t cater to kids or to families for years before the media started noticing it.

Edited by sheena0105, 15 August 2012 - 04:34 PM.


#46 Niamh23

Posted 15 August 2012 - 04:48 PM

QUOTE (beabea @ 08/08/2012, 01:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think if parents weren't so possessive of their children then childless people would be a lot less irritated by other people's children. Days gone by, you could help a parent out without fear of misinterpretation or reprisal. Now most people are too afraid to do anything but look away and "mind their own business". At best (except in rare circumstances) they're brave enough to give a sympathetic smile. Of course people are going to get p*ssed when they're completely disempowered. Society has pretty much brought the situation on itself and now every parent suffers, even the ones who welcome the efforts of strangers.

You can't have it both ways. You either accept it when strangers try to help (even when they totally mess it up and irritate the sh*t out of you) and the reward is that your children are welcome in society. Or you tell people to mind their own business and they tell you to **** off with your spawn.

Pick your poison.


So true. Many parents love to trot out the 'it takes a village...' line - when it suits them.




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