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#26 PB2

Posted 02 April 2012 - 05:43 PM

Hi

quickly popping in - w

I thought we might want to see if we can pin a thread with resources to share for kids with anxiety etc. Not sure how it is done.

I might also start a thread in wdyt to let them know we have a thread for anxious kids in this section - any thoughts?


I have a couple of great books and one or two CD's that are good, but always happy to see what else could work.

For us

http://www.amazon.com/What-When-You-Worry-Much/dp/1591473144 has been a brilliant workbook I do with my son ( read to him and he does the excercies).  She also has books for OCD thoughts, anger and dreading sleep time.

a great relaxing meditation CD is one by Totti Goldsmith ( her daughter has anxiety apparently and that is how she got into this) called
http://www.tottiegoldsmith.com.au/sleep_story_cd.html

it is simply beautiful and aimed at the 5-9 year old age group.

Always open for new books for kids to read or as a parent  - am reading the
happiness trap by Russ Harris and it is really resonating with me and I will see if I can modify some of the principals for my son or find a childs version.

Anyway, it would be great to have a resource page pinned where we can share good finds, websites or tips and techniques.

got to run
pb

#27 i-candi

Posted 02 April 2012 - 09:41 PM

QUOTE (HillmanMinx @ 01/04/2012, 11:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ps its not usually being hysterical that stops ellie getting to sleep.  its usually just she is anxious and cant relax.  this weekend has just seen her behaviour plummet though.  not sure why.


First thing that popped into my mind was end of term and tired! I'm an aide in a special ed class (kids with Autism) and believe me this last 2 weeks have been full on, just like the beginning of term (first year of school kids).

DS was very down today, I asked him what was wrong and he said "I don't know, I'm not happy but I'm not sad, I just can't tell you. I'm very very tired" when I asked him if it was his mind or his body that was the problem he said he thinks body. I'm just going from strength to strength with him, he was able to communicate that he wasn't quite right and be able to suggest what was wrong (heck sometimes I don't even know what is wrong when I don't feel right!!!).

I really think it was the increase in his medication that really has helped. The school have been amazing helping him as well original.gif We had a really rough patch but wow the school has stepped up to the plate and have helped biggrin.gif

I sent DS to bed today before he finished his homework because he was so tired (at 7.30pm) but found him reading his kindle grrrrr. I am thinking of letting him off school tomorrow, he isn't learning when he is so tired.

Oh I found a note he wrote in his school diary, it was a name of a boy that was bothering him (he has had bulling issues) and to speak to his year advisor etc... I asked what happened and DS the boy was shooting some sort of chewed up paper through a pen tube at DS. DS said not to worry because it was sorted out by the teacher and he got two red stamps (three and you are on after school detention, he got a red stamp in the class before for being naughty). I'm so proud how he dealt with it in his mind original.gif

After such a horrid start to the school term I'm so happy how it is ending original.gif Any attempt at self harm is behind us (hopefully) and he can really shine and realise that he is a bright boy who has a lot he can achieve if he sets his mind to it biggrin.gif


positive, positive original.gif Hope some of my positive post rubs off on to you all original.gif



#28 *-*

Posted 02 April 2012 - 10:02 PM

*waves madly*

Hi all. How wonderful there is a group.  I haven't much time right now, as I have to be up at 5am for work sad.gif .

I have been reading through all the posts, and nodding so much.

My eldest (Ella) is 10, and has severe anxiety.  She has also been diagnosed with depression, however working closely with her psychologist, we have decided to go with my gut, and have her assessed for Aspergers.

I have always known there was more to this child, and looking back on her life/childhood, so many things fit into place.  

Anyway, I had better head to bed, I will pop in over the next day or so, and chat more indepth about Ella, and all your wonderful children.  To build a support network based on experience would be wonderful xxx

#29 papilio

Posted 02 April 2012 - 10:05 PM

Just a quick post to let you all know that I have moved this thread to the Babies and Kids with Disabilities section.  After consultation with Therese, the mod of that section, we decided that it is more likely that parents who fit this group would look there.

If you have any queries, please send me a PM.

Candi

#30 Mrs.Brown

Posted 02 April 2012 - 11:34 PM

Hi everyone

Thanks Candi original.gif

Hello there Katrina, how you going? I remember now that Ella has anxiety and depression, I remember posting in a thread you had going a little while back. Definatley go with your gut, a mother knows her child best. The problem Im finding is actually finding someone to listen to me and my concerns. hopefully our new psyc can shed some light soon. And how are you going? You doing OK?

abcangel123, welcome to our group. Please, you do belong here and post anytime. 7 is so little to be having those sad thought, your poor daughter sad.gif good luck with the counsellor and please pop in and let us know how it went. Im not sure if you have seen my posts here in this forum and the MI/depression forum but I have found an awesome CD that Im now playing for DD at night. It is really relaxing her, altho with the school hols just upon us all routine will go out the window but its an amazing CD this.

icandi, Im so happy to hear you son is communicating with you, great news original.gif What meds is he on? I agree, kids are so tired now and they need this break coming up. And with anxious kids who are tired kids, its damm hard to deal with.

Angela, how did the blood tests go?

PB2 I
QUOTE
thought we might want to see if we can pin a thread with resources to share for kids with anxiety etc. Not sure how it is done.

I might also start a thread in wdyt to let them know we have a thread for anxious kids in this section - any thoughts?
Great ideas there. Im not sure how to pin things but Candi the mod would know I think. And feel free to find out the resources and even pop in the post in WDYT. Im going to look at the Tottie Goldsmith CD too, its ounds good.

Well girls I have great news!! My daughter, the one who only 8 weeks ago would not even put her face in the water at the pool, let alone submerge, has passed Stage 1!!!! Not only that, but she has also acheived 3 tick already of Stage 2!

I tell you, you cant wipe the smile off my face. She was so frightened and anxious about even trying to submerge, but these 1 on 1 lessons I booked her into was the best $220 I have ever spent. She is now so confident, I cant keep her above the water lol. I just cant beleive it!

So today has been a good day for us.

Oh, has anyone elses child with anxiety and/or depression have a speech delay or stammer? Abbey has the delay but we are slowly making progress however her stammer is the same, still quite severe. And when she is anxious and/or tired, its really bad. Anyone else?

Better go and do some dishes. At 9.30 lol. Oh, wont be on for a couple of days. I make sure I ban myself for at least 2 or 3 days a week lol to spend time with DH and actually tidy up my house

Goodnight all and chat in 2 or so days,

Laura

Edited by Icehouse, 02 April 2012 - 11:37 PM.


#31 FeralMinx

Posted 03 April 2012 - 12:22 AM

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First thing that popped into my mind was end of term and tired!
  Too true.  
QUOTE
I'm just going from strength to strength with him, he was able to communicate that he wasn't quite right and be able to suggest what was wrong (heck sometimes I don't even know what is wrong when I don't feel right!!!).
  i am beyond happy to read this and everything to be honest.  Your DS has a fabulous team mate in you.  And this helping him to explore his feelings thoughts and reactions to them.. some people struggle through their whole lives without such insight being taught to them, especially men.  I think it will help him so much in life.  you rock!

Hi Katrina and welcome biggrin.gif

QUOTE
Oh, has anyone elses child with anxiety and/or depression have a speech delay or stammer?
DD was a VERY late speaker, was very late in being able to understand her too, and is not equal to her peers in specific elements of language, but she gets by and is clear enough now.  No stammer tho.
QUOTE
Well girls I have great news!! My daughter, the one who only 8 weeks ago would not even put her face in the water at the pool, let alone submerge, has passed Stage 1!!!! Not only that, but she has also acheived 3 tick already of Stage 2!
  tthumbs.gif Awesome news!

QUOTE
Oh, wont be on for a couple of days. I make sure I ban myself for at least 2 or 3 days a week lol to spend time with DH and actually tidy up my house
wise, wise lady.

the appt is tomorrow oops sorry ddoh.gif  will report back the results.

I posted in another thread about my discussion with DDs dept principle (the one titled 1700 for assessments in the SN section).  It was typically frustrating.



#32 i-candi

Posted 03 April 2012 - 07:06 AM

Thanks original.gif I'm feeling happy as well.

Icehouse DS would submerge in lessons when he was little so I pulled him out of lessons because he would just cling to the teacher or the side of the wall or platform lol. I took him to my SIL house over a holiday period and he swam to his hearts content and submerged himself, sometimes these kids just need to do things in their own time when they feel comfortable.

I wish I knew about anxiety etc when he was younger, I probably would have stepped in earlier with intervention and maybe he wouldn't needed medication now sad.gif  Looking back he was one strung out kid, he was my first so I didn't know any different. DD was the total opposite and I remember when the lightbulbs started turning on, DD was 12 months and DS was 4 and both went to kindergym - DD could out climb DS on anything, DS wouldn't go on the beam or on the net thingo. One day I made him and he screamed the place down sad.gif  Same in parks and at home, DD was willing to try things and did things that made DS panic (like climb on the dining table lol). I even went too close to the surf once when DS was 3 and DS screamed out "I got you I got you" while holding out his hand, he was riveted to the spot near out towels and couldn't move. He was scared for me being near the water at the beach!! Mum and I just thought it was cute he was worried sad.gif he didn't settle until I came away from the edge of the water. It was a very unsuccessful trip to the beach and one I didn't repeat until DS was a lot older.

Icehouse DS is on an antidepressant called Lexapro, it's great for those that suffer anxiety and depression. He is on 20mg, he was on 10mg but because he wasn't coping at high school and was going downhill and starting to self harm we put it up to 20mg. I think it's the best thing we did original.gif

DS sees an adolescent psychologist as well who is awesome and is helping him with coping techniques.

I have put his name down to see the school psychologist but it hasn't happened yet, at first DS refused to see her but after a meltdown he agreed. I think even though he is travelling well now it will be good to see her just to get to know her just in case he needs a safe place and someone to talk to specifically about his school life.

I hate to see DS suffer and communication is something I'm pushing hard with DS. Even when he was little I made out that communication was sooooo important, that important that if he told me something he did wrong I didn't punish him but praise him for letting me know then he got lecture about what he did wrong. Lucky he is a pretty good kid lol

#33 mokeydoke

Posted 03 April 2012 - 07:22 AM

Hello
I have a DS1 diagnosed with anxiety last year, co-inciding with starting school and otherwise known as the year from hell wink.gif He has been so much better this year, but tiredness at the end of term isn't doing him any favours and I'm finding we need to be more supportive of his issues.

I remember before we went to the paed and the psych that I would google looking for symptoms that matched his so I could help him, and I became very familiar with all signs of ASD, ODD and ADD/ADHD. Even after both paed and psych ruled these out, when he's particulary anxious I wonder. Does anyone else have an anxious child who is NOT on the spectrum or dealing with ODD or ADD?

I guess because it was World Autism Day yesterday, and he's so tired this week, I'm again looking at the signs. I wouldn't say I trust our paed or psych entirely, we live in the middle of nowhere (but close to Katrina laughing2.gif) and we just don't have the specialists that are in the cities.

Anyway I'd better go and wake him up and get the kids to school. I can't wait for holidays!



#34 PB2

Posted 03 April 2012 - 07:54 AM

hi manlou4
my DS has anxiety and is not on the spectrum. It worsens when he is tired and near end of term or at the start of term it seems to flair up most.

got to run but will be back
pb

#35 mokeydoke

Posted 03 April 2012 - 10:22 AM

Hello again
Things have quietened down now with everyone at school so I thought I'd come back in and comment on some of the things you've been talking about.

Swimming - The one with issues about submerging themselves isn't DS1 with anxiety but DD1! She absolutely refuses to do it. Last year they had swimming lessons at school and she was at the point of refusing to go to school because she didn't want to do the lessons. Because of DS1's issues, I could tell it was an anxiety issue and not just a stubborn naughty kid issue - but seriously, why on earth would a kid choose *that* issue to be stubborn about if they weren't genuinely frightened of the water? I got so angry at people/other parents who would tell me about the song and dance DD1 had put on during swimming because she didn't want to go under, telling me how their kid wouldn't dare act that way etc etc I went and saw DD1's teacher and said (pretty much verbatim) - 'Olivia is really frightened of going under and I had to promise her I would talk to you about not being made to go under the water during swimming lessons'. The teacher's response? 'Well I'm not the teacher at swimming lessons, and anyway, I've seen her go under during free play' which is a straight out lie! She has never gone under, not since she was doing swimming lessons at 6months old (which is the irony - she's the only one out of the 4 kids who has been going to swimming lessons since babyhood, and the only one who freaks about water).

DD1 and DS1 are pretty similar in a lot of ways.

We first decided to see someone about DS1 because of his refusal to go to school. I would physically put him in the car and he would just get back out again. For news days, where he had to take an item from home, he really struggled to decide on which item to take and would usually result in a meltdown when I had to force him to make a decision. Watching him being unable to make such an unimportant decision was hard, and it wasn't just in choosing a news item - breakfasts, news items, toys at the toy shop when he had money to spend, what to do in the afternoon after school, what to drink, what book to read at bedtime were all huge issues for him. I was recommended a book Helping your anxious child, by John Rapee but I think it was targeting to an older audience. The most helpful book for me has been The Explosive Child, because his anxiety over issues that he had to be forced to deal with usually ended in a meltdown.

While I talk in past tense when describing his issues, it's something that is always there. The change around Christmas time was remarkable really. All at once he stopping nighttime wetting, gave up his security blanket and asked me to buy his toy from the shop with his Christmas money, rather than he go in 'because you know I'm a bad picker'. This year he started Year 1 without missing a beat, and instead of hiding during school performances he's a bit of a clown on stage (which could be his way of coping, and it is a bit embarrassing but as long as he's happy!).

Tbh the past year has taught me a lot about the differences amongst children and I think I've become a better parent and will be a better teacher (once I start teaching laughing2.gif I was going to start last year, but DS1's issues put that all on hold) because of it.

#36 Therese

Posted 03 April 2012 - 10:57 AM

Hello original.gif

With pinning things, there are a couple of choices. I could pin a thread with resources but to be honest, not many people read pinned threads.

So the other thing to do is that when I open new support threads for you, I could have in the first post some links.  It's what I do for the coeliac disease support group in the allergy forum.

Let me know what you think original.gif

Therese

#37 AMPSyd

Posted 03 April 2012 - 12:20 PM

I am back again - after days of reading this thread and not having time to reply.

DS is 11 and has been dx with GAD. He is doing really well. We have seen 2 psychologists for 2 different reasons. The first was to help him cope with his massive fear of dogs. I needed help as DS would run across a road without looking for cars to get away from a dog. We now have a little Cavvie and he is fine with small dogs, the fear is still with bigger dogs and we are working on that. He can be walking our little dog and if he sees a bigger dog he still somewhat freaks out - but is getting better.

Exam anxiety has been another one. But he is getting there after seeing the second psuch - to the extent that he had a piano exam last year and the examiner was running 1/2 late. DS went to the loo countless times, paced and paced and paced the waiting area - however, he came out of that exam with an "A" and is now much more confident - he has handled an exam situation, did really well, so is facing exam pressures a little better.

I think a key to anxiety is to ensure lines of communication are very open. DS has come to me lately with a few issues and we have spoken about them - I am grateful that at 11 he still wants his Mum.

#38 FeralMinx

Posted 04 April 2012 - 12:53 AM

Hey all quick post

Blood tests for DD7.5 came back with her thyroid levels being borderline for hyperthyroidism.  I don't know much about it except a cursory glance at the symptoms (notably anxiety and hyperactivity and sleep issues) does match dd in some ways.  Dr wants to wait 6 weeks, retest, and if its still elevated, refer her to an endocrinologist.  Thats really all I know so far.

Im thinking maybe hold off on the assessments/evaluations for other conditions until the thyroid is ruled out as the culprit, or is treated.

#39 abcangel123

Posted 04 April 2012 - 09:43 PM

We had our first counselling session. And i'm feeling much more positive about all this. The counsellor was lovely and explained why we were fobbed off in the past year-probably because DD wasn't actually harming herself, she wasn't a priority. She explained the difference between pyschologists and physciatrists (who we saw). The counsellor said, "We need to work out whether all the behaviours are age appropriate meltdowns due to her personality and are purely coincidental or something more." I was like "Yes, yes, yes! That's exactly what i want to know!" I feel as if finally, someone is on the same side as us. And we have a plan! She's going to do some obs on DD and get a couple of sessions just getting to know DD through play therapy so she is comfy before she starts digging through to the deep stuff. We are moving forward. Thrilled about that.

Icehouse-We've tried similar music, not the same one, but DD would imagine crazy stories... Even some pieces of classical she can imagine scary things. Sugar plum fairies? Stories seem to work better for DD. But I used to listen to nature music when i was in my early teens every night for ages to help me sleep.

#40 Mrs.Brown

Posted 04 April 2012 - 10:24 PM


hi everyone original.gif

Just a flyng visit to say hi original.gif Will be back tomorrow for a proper post, going to have a nght in front of the TV.

Talk to you tomorrow night original.gif Hope all our lovely parents and gorgeous kiddies are doing well.

xoxo

#41 i-candi

Posted 05 April 2012 - 08:30 PM

DS has his psychologist appointment and OMG she was soooo happy with DS and the change in him is amazing.

His whole attitude has changed and he is so much more positive and making better choices at school etc.

One proud and happy mum here original.gif


Got his first high school report today and it was very very very good !!!!!

We are all in need of holidays here.

#42 FeralMinx

Posted 06 April 2012 - 02:04 AM

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One proud and happy mum here
and rightly so biggrin.gif

Today I didn't see much of Ellie as I was busy, but I know she had a bad day with her anxiety and mood, from my few interactions with her.  Poor chook.

gotta fly but reading along biggrin.gif

#43 Mrs.Brown

Posted 06 April 2012 - 10:25 PM


Hi girls

Forgive me if I am terrible at acknowledging everyones posts, Im terrible at trying to read everything then post.

Angela, thats very interesting about your DD's blood test results. I wonder if indeed the thyroid problem is contributing to her anxiety? I havnt heard of this before. Im now wondering if Abbey should have hers looked at.

abcangel123, Im so peased that you have a good counsellor, thats great news. I really feel that our kids can move forward if we find good therapists that are prepared to actually listen, and not look at us like we are neorotic (sp) or something. I hope this lady can make a huge difference in your childs life.

icandi, you sound so happy with your sons progress original.gif Whoo Hoo!! and fantastic that his 1st highschool report was great, it really seems like he is on the up and I bet there is no better feeling for both of you original.gif

Hello and waves to everyone else. My computer is playing up and wont load the previous page for me to reply to the other posts. I need a new computer but alas thanks to a new car that wont be happening for a while yet.

Things going OK here atm. Today was the 1st day of the school hols and apart from being quite hyper DD has been great. She even coped well at the playground at the park today that was super crowded, I was in shock that she did so well! She had a few moments when kids were behind her on the slide, you could see the fear on her face but she moved on from it, instead of freaking out. Amazing!

I got a call from CAMHS yesterday doing a phone triage on Abbey to see exactly what the problems are, and to let me know how long the wait will be to be seen. She will get seen in July, but they still recommend her seeing the private psyc, which we are in just over 2 weeks in the interim.
The appt in July is for her to be seen by the top dude, who will actually give an official MI dx, that will enable us to know where to go from there. I didnt know this was the procedure and Im happy that we will be seeing someone high up.

The triage guy also told me NOT to listen to the paeds advice to take away the pull ups from Abbey with her poo problems. He said that is the worse thing we can do as it can cause all sorts of medical issues, which we have been thru before. He was also stunned that not one person has recommended Abbey seeing a continence nurse. So another appt to make. but this guy seemed to know what he was talking about, its about time.

Well thats it for now. Abbey wants to stay up until 10pm  oomg2.gif . I have told her only if she is quiet and watches a movie, and only if she sleeps in. Mmmmm.

Chat soon

Laura xo

#44 FeralMinx

Posted 07 April 2012 - 11:01 AM

Laura my eyes are bleary as I've been changing meds so I've only half taken in your post and will re read later and reply properly.  I did want to say that if you get Abbeys bloods checked, specifically ask them to do the extra thyroid tests at the same time.  When doing full bloods, they do check thyroid, but only one part, you have to get the doc to get all thyroid aspects tested on that test.  Its worth it as the blood will be there to test, so they may as well rule it out original.gif

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She will get seen in July, but they still recommend her seeing the private psyc, which we are in just over 2 weeks in the interim.
The appt in July is for her to be seen by the top dude, who will actually give an official MI dx, that will enable us to know where to go from there. I didnt know this was the procedure and Im happy that we will be seeing someone high up.
  this is freaking AWESOME!



#45 PB2

Posted 07 April 2012 - 12:32 PM

Back again.

Think we have found a good psychologist for DS - will wait and see how it pans out, but the start has been good.  ON the downside, meeting her has seemed to excebate the anxiety at night and we are having a few rough nights.

Got to got to go, but so happy this thread has been started.

pb

#46 i-candi

Posted 11 April 2012 - 05:36 PM

Well things were going well....

He had a breakdown because he wasn't winning a game being played outside  huh.gif

Grrrrr spoilt brat comes to mind but honestly someone with a MI it's different, he feels the pain and thinks he is totally inadequate. I hate it, hate it so much. He told me his is useless at everything sad.gif

I just don't get it, I never expect my kids to win. I never push them. I'm a person that expects the best they can do it's just unfortunate that DS expects better than he can achieve sad.gif

grrrrr another thing to focus on.....

#47 Mintjelly

Posted 11 April 2012 - 09:21 PM

Hi all *waves*

Can I join in?  My eldest child DD1 has severe GAD.  She is nearly 8.  I am having her tested in May for ASD as there are certainly signs there, so I just want to know one way or the other.

She has been a shocking sleeper from 18 months, had extremely delayed gross motor skills, but talked 9 to the dozen from around 10mnths.  She toilet trained normally but regressed around 8 months later and still often wets the bed at night time.

She is on medication to help with sleeping and on Lovan for her anxiety.

School holidays have not been great for us.  She has been absolutely manic for the past week, with her getting really violent with her siblings.  As usual the Paed and Psych are on holidays at the same time (are they having an affair   unsure.gif  OJ biggrin.gif) so I went to our GP who has bumped the Lovan up by a 1/4 of a tablet.

I actually think she really needs to go back to school at the moment.  For all it stresses her, it is also a great source of routine for her, and I think these holidays she is really missing that.  If I could do these holidays over again, I would have written up a routine for the holidays, so she could have felt more settled.

I know there were posts that I wanted to comment on, but tbh today has been such a shocker that I can't think straight so I will come back tomorrow.

You cannot know how happy I am to know this thread exists biggrin.gif

Lovely to meet you all!



#48 FeralMinx

Posted 13 April 2012 - 02:37 AM

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I just don't get it, I never expect my kids to win. I never push them. I'm a person that expects the best they can do it's just unfortunate that DS expects better than he can achieve
DW hun its not a parental fault.  He has a mood disorder (and on top of that he might have apsergers).  Either one of those is going to effect his response to such situations.  Luckily with the mood disorder aspect, so long as his medicine is kept in constant good order (tweaked as necessary) and he gets some cognitive behavioural therapy to support him to find new responses to negative feelings, he will learn to thrive and modulate his reactions to such events.



#49 FeralMinx

Posted 13 April 2012 - 02:40 AM

Oh HI mintjelly biggrin.gif

AFM: ellie is complaining of knee and hip pain, I think that might go along with hyperthyroidism too.  She has struggled emotionally this last week, with the illness of my mother, and the grief of knowing that she is dying.  She has gone into her shell and then bounced out of it uncontrollably, and had some astounding meltdowns over the tiniest things.  She went to her dads yesterday, because I need to be at the hospital full time during the day.  I hope shes ok poor thing.

#50 Mrs.Brown

Posted 13 April 2012 - 11:43 PM


Hi girls

Promise to pop in tomorrow night with a proper post. EB is been too distracting lately with its leaving EB threads and other off the planet stuff lol.

Catch you all tomorrow night, hope everyone is doing ok

Laura xo




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Lactation consultant Meg Nagle refused to stay silent when Facebook removed two photos of her breastfeeding. Instead, she coined a term to describe those who don't recognise breastfeeding for the natural and non-sexual act that it is.

Win back some precious time and get FREE coupons

Membership to eBay's Bubs? Corner is free and includes a $10 coupon to spend on nappies each month - a win for multitasking mums!

Download now: Essential Kids Activity Finder app

Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.

 
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Win back some precious time and get FREE coupons

Membership to eBay's Bubs? Corner is free and includes a $10 coupon to spend on nappies each month - a win for multitasking mums!

Do you suffer from Precious Firstborn Syndrome?

Testing ?no more tears? shampoo in your own eyes, warming cucumber sticks so they're not cold straight from the fridge, waking a sleeping baby to check they?re still breathing: these are all symptoms of Precious Firstborn Syndrome.

Ezra's tragic death not in vain, mum says

Little Ezra was a "Harry Houdini" who loved trying to escape the family home. Now, after his tragic death, his parents are doing what they can to help others.

7 mistakes old hands make with new babies

As I sat across the table from my friend ? me, a seasoned mother of three; her, a brand new mum ? I thought of all the mistakes an old-hand parent can make when visiting a newborn baby.

Video: When adults act like children

Ever wondered what would happen if adults were allowed to act like children? This dad's hilarious video clip will give you an idea of what life would be like.

Mums hit hardest as flu cases skyrocket

The number of confirmed cases of influenza in Australia has doubled the number for the same time last year - and women are 25 per cent more likely to get it.

The mum who had four babies in nine months

Feeling exhausted due to the demands of caring for a baby? Imagine the life of this mum, who gave birth to three boys and one girl in just nine months.

Everything baby at Big W

Lowest prices on everything baby, only at Big W. Sale starts August 4 and ends August 20 2014.

Smiggle is painting the town red!

We have 3 Red Smiggle prize packs to give away! Enter by posting a photo of something red to your Instagram.

Mum gives birth at school

Most kids have their own personal brand of oddity. Others, like these 10 weird habits, crop up again and again.

Personalised baby gifts

We've scoured the internet to find gorgeous personalised keepsakes and nursery decor to record baby name and dates. They make great gifts for christenings, name days and birthdays! (All prices in AU.)

 

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