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#1 Pocket79

Posted 27 March 2012 - 12:12 PM

Hi all,

My DS is 14mo and I still breastfeed him at least twice a day (morning and night, plus once before his nap if I'm at home with him). About 6 weeks ago I went back to work 3 days a week and DS is in childcare. Since then it seems as if either he or I has been for the whole 6 weeks and I am just constantly feeling so run down as of course Im still doing lots of housework on the days when I'm not working and at night.

My question is, do you think I should wean DS completely so as to give my immune system a better chance of coping with this lifestyle? I am just worried that if I stop feeding him breastmilk I will take away some of his ability to fight off all of these illnesses.

I really love breastfeeding though, especially when he comes into bed with us in the morning for his feed and a snuggle, and when I give him his milk before he goes to bed at night as it is obviously so calming and relaxing for him...

Torn!  unsure.gif

#2 Cat People

Posted 27 March 2012 - 12:16 PM

I wouldn't as your milk will give him some protection while at daycare, and especially as you both still love it.  I don't think a couple of feeds a day will have much effect on your immune system and would probably try some extra healthy foods/vitamins, plenty of rest (hard one), relaxation.  If you feel really run down, talk to your doctor about a blood test to see if you are low in anything - iron, etc.

#3 Pocket79

Posted 27 March 2012 - 12:20 PM

Thanks MadameCatty, that is very good advice. Ive been taking the BF vitamins but I think I will go to the doctor and see if I need anything else.   biggrin.gif

Edited by Pocket79, 27 March 2012 - 12:47 PM.


#4 deejie

Posted 27 March 2012 - 12:31 PM

Judging on my experience when I went back to work, it won't make any difference to your health! Your son is going to child care and is exposed to new viruses constantly. He will bring them home, you will get sick. The first winter DS1 was in child care was dreadful, we were all sick. Breastfeeding him gave him a lot of comfort when he was sick and was a lovely way for us to wind down at the end of the day, to sooth him overnight, to wake up.

Going back to work is hard. You are probably feeling run down and stressed. I second going to your doctor to check everything is in order, but perhaps also talk to your DP/DH about increasing his share of the workload at home. You can't be superwoman!

#5 BentoBaby

Posted 27 March 2012 - 12:42 PM

I also have a 14 month old little man who's still bfing (isn't it just the nicest age!)

My little one still feeds overnight but I don't think the feed in itself would have much impact on your immune system plus I think the lovely cuddles and bonding would have a positive effect (particularly after a day apart).

I'd probably have a blood test (I've been meaning to do this myself as I am still quite run down and tired) and perhaps look into a multivitamin etc.

I don't think weaning will make much difference and it could actually end up that he catches more bugs (and so kindly passes them on to you!)

#6 3_for_me

Posted 27 March 2012 - 12:51 PM

I don't think weaning made any difference to me, it's been over a year since DD was breastfed and I still feel run down and crap.  Have been tested for everything but nothing howed up so it seems it may simply be that I am working too hard sad.gif

#7 Pocket79

Posted 27 March 2012 - 01:41 PM

Thanks for the reassurance ladies, I want to keep feeding so I will.

My DH and I also had a talk on the wknd and drew up a list of who does what around the house to make sure it we share the chores so hopefully that will help!



#8 SaintJoe

Posted 27 March 2012 - 01:47 PM

You will only produce antibodies for pathogens you have been exposed to. If your DS is exposed at child care, he will not get immunity from you.


#9 Bel Rowley

Posted 27 March 2012 - 01:50 PM

Like MadameCatty I would also suggesting getting your iron levels checked and see if that's contributing to you feeling rundown. As for weaning, only you can make that decision, if you want to keep feeding I'm sure you can make it work. I suspect most of what you are feeling is the normal strain of working and being a parent, it sucks but it's the way many of us feel all the time sad.gif.

#10 Bluenomi

Posted 27 March 2012 - 01:55 PM

QUOTE (**myboys** @ 27/03/2012, 02:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You will only produce antibodies for pathogens you have been exposed to. If your DS is exposed at child care, he will not get immunity from you.


I've found I get more things from daycare than DD does so that isn't usually a problem! Last time gatro did the rounds she was fine and DH and I spend a few days with our heads in buckets sick.gif

I weaned DD 3 months ago and it didn't make any difference to how crap I feel so I suspect breastfeeding has nothing to do with it. I weaned her at 21 months, we managed to keep feeding for 15 months while she was in full time daycare

#11 HANI

Posted 29 March 2012 - 08:23 PM

At 15 months I found my DS was getting less interested in feeding. He was more interested in using a cup. Plus I wanted to wean him before we fell pregnant with No 2.
It was the right thing for us though I do miss it a lot. In less than 8 months time though I will be breastfeeding no 2  biggrin.gif

#12 HANI

Posted 29 March 2012 - 08:31 PM

Sorry should add that while I was breastfeeding, I was getting sick regularly and so was DS and when we stopped we both got sick a lot less (I think this might have something to do with him getting most of his teeth in by then). However when he did fall sick, the fever would be much higher than they used to be and they lasted a lot longer.

#13 Cat Burglar

Posted 31 March 2012 - 07:39 AM

Hi OP! My DD is 14 months, DH and I both work full time and have a lot of commitments helping family etc, and she is bfing the same amount as your son. I feel really really really run down, I know exactly how you feel! I used to go for a long jog every night. I am so tired I usually dont have the energy to walk. I have also put on a HEAP of weight since going back to work despite a healthy diet. Is this the case with you too if you dont mind me asking?

Unfortunately for me DD doesnt drink milk out of a cup or bottle (she will drink water though). I would happily wean her at this age if she would let me  sad.gif    Well I should say I was hoping she would naturally drop the feeds down and it looked like it was starting to happen, but now she seems to be in a growth spurt and hungry all the time.

I did get everything checked at the docs and it was fine but they said I had very low blood sugar so I should snack often on low GI foods. I have been giving this a go and it does seem to help a little. So you could try that. I take calcium and iron tablets too.

I am going to remove the boob completely in a couple more months. She does eat a lot of cheese and yoghurt so the doc said it should be ok. Its mainly that its going to be tough getting her to sleep at night, so I have to psyche myself up for that. Im too tired at the moment.

#14 Pocket79

Posted 01 April 2012 - 06:06 PM

Hi Soccer Mum, I am also having trouble finding the time/ energy to exercise and I have actually been wondering whether that might not be part of the problem? I wonder if I would actually have more energy if I was able to do some regular exercise. I am going to try and join the gym and go for a quick run twice a week during my lunch hour and a zumba class on Sat mornings and see if that helps. I have also taken some almonds to work to eat when I am feeling low instead of chocolate! original.gif My son happily drinks milk from a cup so I am thinking of at least replacing his daytime feed (when he's at home) with cow's milk after Easter and then I'll think about gradually replacing the other 2 as well.
Hani, we are also thinking of trying for #2 soon and I def dont want to be pregnant AND feeling run down and BFing so I would like to wean DS before then anyway- having another BFing experience to look forward to must be a nice comfort!

Edited by Pocket79, 01 April 2012 - 06:06 PM.





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