Need Help Getting My Wife Home After Caesar
, Mar 26 2012 09:37 PM
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Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:37 PM
My Wife is due to give birth by Caesarean this week.
I had not given enough thought to this problem, my Wife gently reminded me the implication of the situation, and how serious and hard it will be for her.
I need your help !
After my Wife leaves hospital and comes home we live on 3rd level walk up Unit.
She plans to stay in the unit for a good amount of time, but there is 2 times in 1st week she will have to navigate the stairs !
Once coming home, and a 2nd time for important appointment.
I am asking for advice for people in or have experienced a situation like this.
We only plan to go up Stair these 2 times.
The options i have thought of
1: I will carry her, i am quite strong but not very big, 5"7 68kilo (her current weight it around 64 kilo) If i carry her, will this put to much pressure on her stomach area? The Danger of this is falling backwards.
2: Wheel Chair with big wheels and drag her up
i would still have 2nd person lift bottom of chair. (this might be best option to carry up with 2 people)
3: Try to let her walk up very slowly, backwards or forward what ever way our docter would suggest with support from me.
I am inclined to carry her, i have confidence in my ability to do this. But worried if carrying would put to much pressure in stomach area.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:42 PM
I haven't had a ceasar but I do have 2 friends who have who's walked up their stairs when home from hospital. Slowly, and a bit uncomfortably but still done. The first one actually complained a lot more about the stairs following her natural (lots of stitches) birth so obviously it wasnt too hard in comparison. I think she'll be ok if you take it slowly & support her. I definately wouldn't be carrying her, far far too risky!
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:46 PM
She'll be fine, don't worry. I have stairs in our house and post-caesar, stairs were no more difficult than walking on the flat, you just take everything slowly and let your body guide your speed. I was up and down the stairs 20 times a day looking after 2 other children after my third c-section and it wasn't an issue. You'll be surprised how much movement she will have a few days after the birth . Being carried or pulled up stairs in a wheelchair would have been infinitely more painful !
Edited by jo074, 26 March 2012 - 09:47 PM.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:47 PM
I would have been able to do it fine, everyone's recovery is different though. Make sure she stays in hospital until they kick her out so she has as long as possible to recover. Also someone might be able to direct you better but there are tight stretchy things you can wear to help with support and recovery, one of those might help.
Eta being carried would have definitely hurt.
Edited by Chelara, 26 March 2012 - 09:48 PM.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:48 PM
I've had 2 C/S's and stairs weren't an overly big problem for me, it wasn't the most comfortable feeling to walk up or down them, but it wasn't that bad either.
Good for you for being so concerned about her, but in this case I think you're worrying about nothing
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:49 PM
Walking will be good.
I was encouraged to walk as much as i could while in hospital, and had stairs to my flat. I don't remember it being a problem.
Getting in and out of a car was harder from memory.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:51 PM
Yep she should be fine, just make sure you do all the carrying, including the baby. I found when I climbed stairs in the immediate weeks after having the baby that I had to hold my lower abdomen with my hand to 'brace' myself. After about 3 weeks though I was totally back to normal
Best wishes to you and your wife about your impending arrival!
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:54 PM
I agree with a PP that there is no way I would have let someone carry me, not to mention the risks associated with it.
I think she will be fine, if she takes her time and does the one step at a time type climb (ie both feet land on each step).
Personally I would think coming down will be harder than going up.
Either way I am sure she will manage. BTW I was still in a lot of pain after being discharged from hospital, and still think I could have done it.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:54 PM
Let the hospital know. hey shouldn't release her until she is capable of doing them.
DH had an operation on his leg and we lived in a 2 story. They organised physio. for him to learn how to use the steps safely before he could come home.
I think you'll find the biggest thing is helping pick things up and doing the carrying. Don't carry your DW though, way too much chance of things going wrong.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:55 PM
PS - good on you for caring so much ! Maybe you should pop into the '8 weeks until baby and DH freaking out' thread and give the OP's DH a heads-up on how a father-to-be should behave !
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:57 PM
She should be fine. Even after my worst c-section I could have done it slowly, with much flouncing and a handful of affection!
After my best c-section - I could have run up the stairs by the after noon on day one... I was a little nutty at the time, though.
. So don't expect your wife to be that enthusiastic.
But she will cope.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:59 PM
I've had 2 c-sections - 1 emergency, 1 scheduled and have had no problems walking up and down stairs either time. Fingers crossed your wife will be the same...
Posted 26 March 2012 - 10:03 PM
My place has stairs (internal) and I needed to go up and down them multiple times a day as the bathrooms are all upstairs (as are bedrooms) and living/dining/kitchen areas downstairs.
I was completely fine.
I drove a car after 2 weeks. Could've done it by the end of week 1.
Best of luck.
Posted 26 March 2012 - 10:05 PM
I have 3 flights of stairs in my house. I had to go upstairs to go to the bathroom, and up 2 flights to get to my bedroom. It was painful, but doable, if I went slowly. I only had issues if I went up and down too often.
She should be able to do it slowly, one step at a time, and may need to rest for a bit on the landing between each flight. Agree with PP that using a hand across her tummy to brace will help as well.
It is lovely that you are so concerned for her
Posted 26 March 2012 - 10:12 PM
If she is still on pain meds when she leaves hospital, if possible take them an hr or so before she has to climb the stairs this will help with a bit of the pain but she will just have to take it slow and steady even with pain meds on board
Posted 27 March 2012 - 05:36 AM
Thanks everyone for your replies, i feel more confident she will be ok.
Just have to take them nice and slowly.
I will be taking 1 month off to help her with the baby.
I am quite looking foward to it, maybe not the sleepless nights...
I will keep you updated on how it all goes
Posted 27 March 2012 - 06:15 AM
Had a casear here, walked up and down stairs everyday and night. Just took it easy. To be honest didn't really feel much going up and down. By the time they let her go home the casear should just feel like a bad bruise.
Of course, everyone's recovery is different.
Posted 27 March 2012 - 06:24 AM
Edited by Pupalumps, 29 March 2012 - 02:55 PM.
Posted 27 March 2012 - 06:27 AM
How caring and thoughtful!
I had a c-section and we have some stairs up to our place. I found that by about day 4 (the day most women would be discharged) I was able to slowly but surely navigate steps. On the first and second day post-op your wife might feel like she'll never stand up straight or walk properly again but by day 4 things suddenly get much better. You just move at snail pace.
Maybe have a strategy for getting bub, bags, gifts, flowers up to your apartment. Eg if you are on your own make sure you can put bub in a baby bjorn carrier or similar so you can make the trips up and down carrying things without worrying about whether bubs is freaking out in the apartment by itself. This way your wife can just take all the time she needs, confident that bubs is with you and that everything will get into the apartment and be all sorted without her having to worry.
Also, depending how many days she stays in hospital, throw a thin pillow/soft blanket in the car so she can place that between her scar and the seatbelt on the way home if it is still tender. That was a tip from my MIL.
Posted 27 March 2012 - 06:44 AM
on the day i got home from hospital i walked up 3 flights of stairs to get to the unit, sat for 10 minutes, walked back down 3 flights of stairs and went shopping!
i went out most days. i would carry ds down to the garage, put him in the pram and walk to the shops.
your wife will be fine, although you get brownie points for thinking about it!
Posted 27 March 2012 - 07:15 AM
Stairs were a nightmare for me. I think it took me several minutes to climb three steps.
Everyone is different. Given you have time off, make sure you carry everything for her
Posted 27 March 2012 - 10:24 AM
Agree with pps....she'll be fine going up and down stairs. I also lived on the second floor and managed the stairs post section with a paralysed leg and twins in carry cots!
Just take it slowly!
Posted 27 March 2012 - 10:33 AM
It is normal to spend 4 days in hospital after a caesar, so she should be capable of doing it slowly after that amount of time. She will still have some pain but the most painful things are sitting up from lying down, twisting and turning and picking things up. Walking is not too bad, and stairs should be fine as long as you allow plenty of time. Maybe stand behind her in case she feels faint so on the very slim chance she may fall, then you are behind her.
Posted 27 March 2012 - 12:06 PM
Edited by jo074, 27 March 2012 - 12:09 PM.
Posted 03 April 2012 - 06:21 PM
Thanks everyone for your support !
My Wife, myself and our new baby son are home
The stairs ere not to hard for her, much easier than what we thought.
We had a baby boy, on the 30 03 2012 weighing 3.33 kilo
We spent 4 night in Hospital
On the 2nd day, she didnt have much mobility, 3rd day was up and moving, and the 4th day we were going up the stair at 10am !
Thanks So much
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