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#1 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 26 March 2012 - 08:53 PM

Just come across some photo's of a friend who is pointing out 'orbs' on her photos...

She is just starting to get into photography - and she is spiritual - so I need to work out how to tell her that her lens is actually dirty without offending her.

If you look at the other photo's the dirt is there, it's just that the light hasn't hit it the same way.

So how do I tell her that I've experienced 'spiritual visitors' until I cleaned my lens/sensor?

ETA - it will be through a pm as there are alot of her friends commenting on the photo's saying how scared they would be if that happened to them.

Edited by Bwok~Bwok, 26 March 2012 - 08:55 PM.

#2 skylark

Posted 26 March 2012 - 08:58 PM

Do you still have any of the "orb" photos you took yourself, to do a before and after to demonstrate that it was caused by the dirty lens? Otherwise she might be a bit resistant as she would be opening herself up for embarrassment, having already posted the orb photos publically - and also because she clearly wants to believe.

#3 Guest_NinjahKitteh_*

Posted 26 March 2012 - 08:59 PM

Dear Friend,

I am delighted to see how your photography skills are progressing and particularly enjoyed your most recent selection.

I feel duty-bound to point out, however, that while it is within the realms of possibility that ghosties are lurking in your photos, I suspect that it is, in fact, nothing more sinister than a speck of cosmic dust on the lens.

My reasons for this are >insert reasons for this here<.

I do not mean in any way to infer that  there is a lack of spirituality to your photographs, I am merely suggesting a more earthly cause to these "orbs".

Perhaps you could try giving that lens a really good clean and taking more shots and comparing them.  Who knows, maybe it is voices from Theotherside expressing themselves.

But I think it's just dirt.

Love you dearly,

#4 frizzle

Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:00 PM

Gently point out her visitor is always in the same spot?

#5 Gegemite

Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:00 PM

My Aunts and cousins regularly refer to "orbs" in photos and say it's my late grandmother. I just roll my eyes and ignore it.

Do you really need to tell her, are you sure she's being serious? Surely there aren't that many stupid people out there?

#6 3_for_me

Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:00 PM

I wouldn't say anything about the orbs at all, tell her you can see the dirt on the other photos and don't comment on the ones where the light has caught it.  She'll clean her lens and the 'orbs' will quietly disappear and no one will be offended

#7 YellowKittyGlenn

Posted 26 March 2012 - 09:06 PM

I agree with going the dirt coming through the lense in other pics. If you see her maybe offer to clean her lenses and chat about how dirt can come through into pictures and not produce as good a quality as they could be.


Dear Friend,

I noticed in some pics there is dirt/dust showing in the picutres from the lense (maybe point to a pic that isn't an orb pic). If you give it a quick clean with (what ever you clean lenses with) it will give you clearer photos.

Love Bwok-Bwok

Edited by YellowKittyGlenn, 26 March 2012 - 09:10 PM.

#8 serenitylisten

Posted 27 March 2012 - 05:28 AM

Why do you even have to point it out to her?

She will discover one day they may have all been dirt, or she may discover some were dirt. If you really feel as though you have to do something, offer to clean her camera or lense whilst you are doing yours, and just leave it at that.

#9 Franni

Posted 27 March 2012 - 09:08 AM

There is no need to point it out, you may really end up offending her. If she is happy thinking 'spirits' seem to follow her good for her.

#10 Phascogale

Posted 27 March 2012 - 09:56 AM

Admire her camera and while you are looking at it mention that you can see some dirt in the lens and tell her how to clean it.  Or offer to do it for her.

Then the orbs may magically disappear and you don't have to mention them at all.

#11 Superman+4sisters

Posted 27 March 2012 - 10:08 AM

"I wouldn't know an orb if it walked up and introduced itself. But you do seem to have some dust on your sensor or lens"

But I'm in a bit of a blunt mood atm Tounge1.gif

#12 ~*Twilight~Zone*~

Posted 27 March 2012 - 11:26 AM

Nah be honest, tell her she's dreaming and to clean her bloody lens.

#13 countrymel

Posted 27 March 2012 - 11:37 AM

Can you say that you needed to quietly point it out to her because you didn't want her to embarrass herself?

As in, the truth?

Honestly sometimes the truth is the simplest, easiest way to resolve things.

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