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#1 sydney75

Posted 23 March 2012 - 12:45 PM

My friend just told me she had a stillborn girl. She was 38 weeks. She had weird dreams and had bad feelings something wasnt right. She dreamt of rotten foods, and dreaming of insects.
She also had a bad feeling because the baby wasnt moving at all thats why she went to hospital to get the heartbeat checked. They are not sure why the baby died.

Did you get any dreams of feeling before you found out?

#2 HSV1986

Posted 24 March 2012 - 09:30 PM

i think i can pin point the exact moment bree passed although the aultopsy stated it happend the day after i think it did.

me and dp were out at a family dinner the night before my due date, i felt nausiated and couldnt eat which was unusual for me then halfway through dinner i got this weird sensation of floating/ weightlessness i turned to dp and said i felt like i was floating or being carried thru the air, dp just shruged it off and said it was probably my blood pressure (it used to sit very low when i was pregnant) it wasnt untill 2 days later we found out but dp and i both think it was then and when i think about it i dont remember bree moving after that night

#3 3_for_me

Posted 24 March 2012 - 10:15 PM

Friends of ours lost their beautiful twins at 39 weeks.  She felt strange and went to the hospital and they told her to go home and take a panadol ( rant.gif )  The next day she went back and insisted on a scan and found out the girls were gone.

#4 akkiandmalli

Posted 24 March 2012 - 10:19 PM

last year i woke to find my waters had broken at 18 weeks. i knew from that point it wasnt good. in the hospital my dear son was still alive. mid morning i was restng and i dreamt of angels and experienced a similar weightlessness that others had described. in the afternoon i had a scan and he had died.

#5 QueenIanthe

Posted 25 March 2012 - 02:30 PM

Not a stillbirth but I lost a baby at 15 weeks and found out the baby had died at 16 weeks. I felt strange about the pregnancy all the way through, I thought it was just that I had not planned anymore children and that I was having trouble adjusting to the idea. I heard a heartbeat at 12 weeks and I remember thinking how surreal it felt. I kept saying to people that I just couldn't see me having another baby, I couldn't see this little person in our lives.

I grieved and it was an awful time but I do think at some level I knew.

#6 Figmoon

Posted 25 March 2012 - 02:49 PM

After a text book straight-forward no 1 pg ,the second pg was a totally differant.At 8 weeks despite bloods all good,i felt really anxious about this pg.I asked for an early scan but GP refused as all seemed so good.I think in my heart i knew this pg would not contiue normallyI wish i had insisted on that scan but i didn't trust my insticts enough.
At the nuchal scan there was no heart beat and after inital worries of a partial molar pg from histology,it turned out our son had had Trisomy 10 and could not survive the pg.Nothing about this pg felt right,and i mean nothing.I had excessive ms,excessive weight gain and anxiety surrounding the whole pg.I knew.
My next pg was a high tech twin pg,despite amnios on both, straight-forward from my point of view and i felt all ok despite bleeding on and off for weeks.I knew this pg would be ok..

#7 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 25 March 2012 - 02:52 PM

For two days before I was very unsettled and sat up all night googling stillbirth. It is rather strange as I didn't think about it once before that.

Edited by Starletta, 25 March 2012 - 02:53 PM.


#8 sparkle77

Posted 25 March 2012 - 08:40 PM

:(

Edited by sparkle77, 01 April 2014 - 06:58 AM.


#9 daruma

Posted 26 March 2012 - 08:43 PM

Although mine wasn't a stillbirth, at 8 weeks 6 days I went to the bathroom and when I wiped I had a tiny tiny fleck of brown blood and I just felt absolutely sure that the baby had died.  I tried to get in to have a scan that day but couldn't.  I went the next day but I 'knew' that the baby had died.  When I had the ultrasound the baby measured 8 weeks 6 days.  So it had died the day before and I am sure it was at the time.

#10 poppess

Posted 01 April 2012 - 04:08 PM

For a few days prior to my induction I kept accidentally going into the link for miscarriage and stillbirth on another forum. The link was directly under my dig group but for 9months I'd not done it... Afterwards I thought how strange that was.

#11 suzy-c

Posted 11 April 2012 - 11:29 PM

Yes, I had a bad feeling.
Around 16 weeks, when I had just heard the heartbeat at the antenatal clinic a few days prior, I was just overcome with dread. I was crying in bed and inconsolable. I tried to explain to my partner that I just didn't know if bubby was ok, but I didn't want to tell him that I felt he wasn't. Eventually I wrote it off as sheer paranoia and endeavoured to be more optimistic. Still, the feeling never left me.

4 weeks later, at the 20 week scan, he was measuring at 16 weeks, and had died. I had convinced myself that I had felt kicking in the last couple of weeks, which put my mind at ease, but I couldn't've. I was induced the next day.

#12 Gixxie

Posted 14 April 2012 - 12:13 AM

my first baby i had a miscarriage at 8 weeks, and ended up in hospital with a burst ovarian cyst.

The day before I ended up in hosptial, i felt sick like i had food posioning, but also had the feeling of weightlessness or leaving my own body. That is when i think my baby died.   Doctors couldnt find baby in ultra sound and thought i was eptopic, but when i went into surgey they found i had a massive mass on my right ovary that had burst, even though i was postive with preg hormone they dont know what happened to bub.

My 2nd pregnancy Anita was born at 21 weeks, due to prom which occured at 20weeks.  The day before my waters broke again i had the sick feeling that i had food posioning and just didnt feel right.  


#13 Tanglebirdie

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:34 PM

I found out my daughter had passed away at the 40 + 4 appointment.  Since i moved ot where i live currently which was around 25 weeks My sister and I have been having 'strange' feelings. Eeerie things were happening around my house and twice i swear blind that I saw a man standing in my house wearing a trench and a top hat.  3 weeks prior to my daughters passing I had dreams about my late grandfather who was calling me on the phone asking if i was ok. I woke up hysterically crying and my sister who was in Fiji at the time called home to see if my baby was ok.  At 4am the morning of the 40 + 4 appointment i woke up and was thinking about my hubbys father who passed when he was just 10months old. I said to him in a little whisper 'i dont know whats happened, but please look after my daughter, keep her safe". then a few hours later at 1pm i found out she had passed.   Now shes been gone for about 9 weeks, the fan in her nursery keeps turning on and ive taken video footage of my puppy plaing in my  loungeroom at night and i see little white balls of light hovering around and flying across the screen. I think its her letting me know shes around.

#14 follies

Posted 03 May 2012 - 01:50 PM

My mother said she just knew, and had to convince the doctors to check.

#15 rattie

Posted 30 May 2012 - 10:09 AM

Ladies I'm so sorry for your losses.

Its not my intention to trivialise the loss of a baby in later pregnancy (stillbirth) by talking about my early losses.  But I do I think I was incredibly "lucky" to have had my losses early.  I think losing a baby at the end of a pregnancy or during labour would be too much to bear.

For both my miscarriages I felt a strange cold sensation across my abdomen, ice cold.  The first loss I knew something wasnt right, but I convinced myself I was just being paranoid. Then I saw a spot and knew it was all over but held some hope, until a scan confirmed my fears.  

My second loss I felt the same sensation again.  I just knew my baby had died.  I was quite upset and couldn't convince my husband that I'd lost another one.  

I discribed it to a friend as almost like someone passing their hand over my tummy, taking my babies away and saying "this isnt for you".

Edited by rattie, 30 May 2012 - 10:10 AM.


#16 item

Posted 30 May 2012 - 11:26 AM

Yes, I KNEW there was something wrong with DD.  We already knew about one cardiac condition from 13 - 22 weeks. I was really happy for a couple of weeks but then become convinced something was terribly wrong.  

I made my OB check for heartbeats every couple of days and finally booked a private morphology scan to have everything rechecked at 29 weeks.  All the markers appeared fine, I still wasn't convinced.

At 30 weeks the cardiologist discovered a second cardiac defect.  The combination of defects meant DD chance of survival was minuscule.

#17 wallofdodo

Posted 30 May 2012 - 11:40 AM

I have twice. One with an early loss, I was really optimistic about the pregnancy, I had decided to do things differently from the previous pregnancy (also a loss, but don't really want to go in to it, lets just say I never felt right about that pregnancy), so I had decided to buy something for the baby, before 12 weeks.

I knew exactly what I wanted to buy. So I marched into the shop picked up the item, hesitated and put it back, then walked out. Had the scan two weeks later, and fetus was two weeks behind, without a heart beat.

I am truly sorry for eveyone's loss. Heartbreaking stuff.

#18 corenmh-ma24

Posted 31 May 2012 - 09:03 PM

I woke up one morning suddenly, with a start, at about 6 weeks pregnant. The first thought that was in my head was "Something is wrong". Would love to know what was happening/what I was dreaming about just before I woke up. Carried this thought pretty much through the whole pregnancy.

Went to the toilet, expecting blood. There wasn't any.

Went to every antenatal appointment throughout the pregnancy holding my breath until I heard the heartbeat.

Decided 2 days before Jacob was born that I was wrong, he was fine and he was meant to be here.

The morning after Jacob was born, it became obvious he wasn't well. Immediately the feeling came back and I knew he was going to die.

At 5.30pm, despite the doctors doing everything they could to keep him alive, Jacob suffered a heart attack, went into cardiac arrest and was unable to be resuscitated.

He died from an undiagnosed but should have been diagnosed, severe heart defect.  



#19 Feral-Lausii

Posted 02 June 2012 - 04:40 PM

I am so sorry for all your losses.

I had an ectopic pregnancy in 2004. I just knew from the moment I found out I  pregnant something
wasn't right. I even told DH not to get excited as this pregnancy wasn't going to continue. It was my first and only loss and still think of that baby daily. I was around ten weeks.

QUOTE
Its not my intention to trivialise the loss of a baby in later pregnancy (stillbirth) by talking about my early losses. But I do I think I was incredibly "lucky" to have had my losses early. I think losing a baby at the end of a pregnancy or during labour would be too much to bear.


Well said. And totally agree.  sad.gif



#20 fairymagic

Posted 13 June 2012 - 09:40 PM

Wow - you women are amazingly brave sharing your experiences on here. I have not experienced either a miscarriage nor a stillbirth (thankfully) but work as a midwife. Reading your stories on here has literally sent shivers down my spine as you describe the moments where you feel something is not right or the lightness or floating experience and believing that is when your precious babies passed.

Im sorry any of you had to go through the experience of losing your precious babies and thank you for sharing your experiences on here.

#21 ***Athena***

Posted 19 June 2012 - 03:49 PM

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I know she stalks me wink.gif

I knew with our angel baby from the BFP that we should be cautious but from around 16wks I was beside myself with worry after a number of dreams about our Gabe's birth being a heart ache and not a celebration.

I believe taht I was guided in those dreams to act as I did when it happened (I am the partner).
When my partner awoke with pains I instantly started timing them and called her mother to come and look after our 5 children.
Her mother was already awake (midnight) and was not suprised at my call as she too knew something was wrong.

When we got to the hospital I got really uppety with the staff to get us to maternity because I knew it was over and I did not want my partner to deliver in the ER in front of drunks and children with broken arms etc.

When Gabe was born he was 18wks 2days and beautiful! The nurse tried to cover him up but I was so upset with her for that, I drew back the sheet and he was alive. I gazed into his eyes and just loved him. I had prepared for that moment for over a month emotionally. And having that time to prepare meant that I could be the strength that was needed in that time for my partner and our family. I thank our angel baby every day for showing me what love is and what strength is. Not even my birth child being born can compare to that amazing feeling of love taht Gabe gave me.
I am lucky to have had that moment with Gabe.XOXOX RIP little Angel.

Edited by ***Athena***, 19 June 2012 - 03:50 PM.


#22 Chelli

Posted 20 June 2012 - 10:46 AM

Athena that was both sad and beautiful to read. I'm so sorry for your loss.

My last pregnancy was a bit of a surprise and I too felt uneasy to the point where I insisted on having a nuchal translucency scan even though I'd never had one with my other three children. Sure enough, that picked up on problems which later lead to my DD being stillborn at 18 weeks.

#23 blessina

Posted 22 June 2012 - 08:50 PM

After having many early losses I am never overly optimistic during pregnancy, however when I was pregnant with DS we had a "normal" nuchal translucency scan and so we started to gradually tell people, starting with our family and close friends.  

Every time we told someone I would feel utterly uncomfortable, I can't even find words to describe the feeling.  Probably the closest description would be "dread".  One day I decided to "put my mind at rest" - and so had a paranoia scan.  And even thoughI was devastated, there was a tiny part of me that was, simply, unsurprised.

I am sorry for everyones losses.


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#24 mermaid26

Posted 20 December 2012 - 12:38 PM

I just lost my little boy at 20 weeks gestation, 2 weeks ago today actually.

I had an uneasy feeling throughout the pregnancy.  Despite having two uneventful pregnancies and two healthy children previously I just felt I couldn't relax.  

I was hesitant in telling people we were expecting and in buying anything for baby.  
I sent a text message to a friend of mine, who is due 4 weeks after I was, saying that our babies were going to be perfect because we had both had a rough time already this year and must have used up all of our bad luck (my mother passed away and her oldest child was diagnosed with cancer).  Even as I was texting that to her I had a feeling of dread like I was tempting fate.

I slept really uncomfortably on the Friday night, felt awkward trying trying to shave my legs in the shower the next morning, and also noticed that my tummy had changed shape.  I had been getting nice and round but it all kind of dropped to the bottom and was hard on one side.

I also realised that I hadn't felt baby move so far that morning.  I lay on the couch for ages poking and prodding, drinking cold drinks etc etc trying to get baby to move.  I felt one feeble kick and then just knew that it was all over.  It felt like there was no life force there anymore - hard to explain.

No further movements all day Saturday, or on the Sunday.  Had my worst fears confirmed by midwife at the hospital on the Monday morning.  She just looked at me and said 'you had a feeling didn't you'.  

A lot to be said for mother's instinct!!

So sorry for everybody elses losses.  I never knew that pain this intense was possible.  My heart just feels absolutely smashed to pieces.  My love and sympathy goes out to you all xxx

Edited by mermaid26, 20 December 2012 - 12:41 PM.





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