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#1 Macbubblz

Posted 20 March 2012 - 11:11 PM

Hi guys, this is my first ever forum post, I'm very much a newbie!
My hubby & I decided 2 years back to stop the pill, knowing my periods had a long history of being irregular.  We weren't desperate to conceive back then.  We went to see a specialist in feb11 who put me on metfirmin as  i hadn't had a period since going off the pill.  Blood tests and US confirmed PCOS.  Since being on metformin, my blood sugar levels have reduced and i am having irregukar periods with approx 55day average cycle.  Weight wise, I need lose 30kg, which. Lost 10 originally, but some has crept back on.  The specialist says see won't put me on cloud until I reach 100kg mark. Her reasoning is the risk of miscarriage is much higher and we dn't want a 'bad outcome'
So I have read all the basics, I know I should do Temp charting etC, but have trouble maintaining ongoing dedication to these.  
So although I need to be more committed to weight loss.... Do you think the specialist should be doing more for me?  Eg more tests, putting me on clomid earlier?  Should I be looking for a second opinion?  
I understand that I Am the one not doing everything I can( Lack of commitment and motivation) therefore won't be insulted if told so original.gif

#2 LaineyD

Posted 21 March 2012 - 01:12 AM

I had the same problem when I starting seeing my first fertility specialist in 2008.  I had to get to 105 or below for clomid and 100 or below if we wanted to start IVF.  I tried the metformin but had a bad reaction so it was no help.  I managed to get to 105 to do the clomid and had 5 cycles before success, but I miscarried after 9 weeks and the wheels just fell off for me.  My weight ballooned again and I couldn't handle the thought of TTC.  That was in 2009.  I am now hovering around the 100kg mark. My current fertility specialist hasn't made mention of it and I am healthier now than ever before.  Things changed for me when I started seeing a naturopath.  She was fantastic and I felt able to make lots of dietary changes that I had previously refused to make.  I did a stomach cleanse and liver cleanse and wasn't feeling as sluggish anymore. Once I started to see the benefits from what she was doing, I felt like making changes myself.  I still overeat (I can't deny it - I love food!) and although I do a bit I should be exercising more, but I am happy with where I'm at and it's not holding me back.  I doubt you'll be able to avoid the weight loss issue with the specialists - the healthier your body, the better your chances when TTC.  If only the motivation were easier to come by!

#3 Macbubblz

Posted 21 March 2012 - 05:53 PM

Thanks laineyD, I def think it's time to get more proactive!  Weightloss journey starting!

#4 Jenflea

Posted 21 March 2012 - 07:04 PM

I was at 100kg and my FS wanted me to lose 10 to 15kg, which I managed to do with Metformin, healthy eating and a bit of exercise. Any FS will tell you the same thing, weight loss will help you GET pregnant and STAY pregnant, plus OMG you need energy to look after a toddler!
If you have PCOS you'll benefit greatly from a low GI diet/eating plan. That helped me a lot.


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