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Posted 16 March 2012 - 04:29 PM
This is something so personal for me, my heart is longing for number three, desperately yearning for it but DH is happy to stop at two now we have a boy and girl. I should feel like the luckiest woman on earth, right? I am truely blessed that my children are in wonderful health. I am thankful. But I had always wanted a larger family, and by large I mean 3, 4 or 5+. DH sadly only ever thinks of finances, and is so selfish materialistically he can't sacrifice (and trust me it is a sacrifice for him not to spend on himself all the fricking time) any more money to give me what my heart really longs for. So jealous of all those with larger families, I always envisioned I would have one.
Posted 16 March 2012 - 04:36 PM
How do you deal with "it" when your DH just says no, no more. I am really struggling with it and I am loathe to bring it up with him.
Posted 16 March 2012 - 04:40 PM
I don't feel done I am so confused at the moment . If someone told me #5 would def be a boy I would be in bed right now though
Posted 17 March 2012 - 02:53 PM
We did contemplate no 3 at one stage. However, Im working full time now and DH is also working part time afternoon so we can always have one of us at home with the kids. I dont think our finances would stretch to be honest; Im not talking about the holidays and private school, Im talking about paying a mortgage and putting food on the table.
Plus, I left babies until I was in my thirties. I had one crappy pregnancy, two shocker deliveries and I HATE the sleep deprivation. No milk to breastfeed, even though i desperately wanted to. My kids STILL wake up and want me in the middle of the night. Plus we are busy enough ferrying two around with school and sport.
I work as a theatre nurse and I think I knew I was over the clucky stage when I did a middle of the night caesarian section and all I could think about was how tired the mother was going to be the next day and not oohing and aahing over the newborn!!
Im one of three and so is my husband. We got the pigeon pair, but I didnt care what I sexes i got, so i def wasnt going back to get a particular sex!!
In an ideal world though, with more money and more time on my side, i would have had at least four....
Posted 19 March 2012 - 08:10 AM
I woke up this morning and was thinking this exact same thing. We have two wonderful but very energetic boys, maybe thats enough?
DH and I have always said 3 but at the moment with a 3yo and a 10mth old most days are a struggle. DH has started commenting that if we are going to have a 3rd we need to start ttc again. The thought of having another bub within 9mths scares me but then I think that DS1 will be in kindy next year and maybe things will get settle down a bit or I'll feel more able to cope once DS2 starts sleeping through the night.
In a way I know we'll at least try for a 3rd but I need a bit more time to get used to having 2.
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