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#1 Madlock

Posted 05 March 2012 - 06:59 AM

My DD (almost 8yr old) does cheerleading for an NRL club. Every year (bar last year) they send an audition tape through to Disneyland to enter a cheer comp, and if they make it they travel to the US in October for the competition. They will be there for 10 nights in total.

There are only about 15 kids in the cheer group and they made it to the comp the last time they tried out and the cheer teacher believes they will make it again this year. All the girls are quite aware (and excited) that they will probably be going to Disneyland this year.

DH and I have discussed it and due to work commitments, it's not going to be possible for us to go. We have explained this to the cheer teacher and she assured us that everytime they go there is always at least 7 kids whose parents don't go and they have ample supervision and that it would be perfectly fine for DD to go without us.

Thinking of my then 8yr old daughter being without either of her parents in another country scares me. DD loves the idea and says she'll be fine and is really eager to go. WWYD? Would you let your child go, or is it too far for too long?

Edited by Madlock, 21 March 2012 - 12:57 PM.


#2 butterflies

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:03 AM

I would let her go!!

as the teacher said there will be supervision, meaning the  teachers or other parents.

It would be a great experience for her.

My niece went to London by herself around the same age with the Australian Girls choir and absolutely loved it.



#3 Bobsygirls

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:04 AM

No but I would rearrange my work commitments so I could go too.

#4 Kay1

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:06 AM

Only if I knew one of the other parents going quite well and could speak to them about looking after my child.

#5 1miss2littlemen

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:07 AM

QUOTE (Bobsygirls @ 05/03/2012, 07:04 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No but I would rearrange my work commitments so I could go too.



this ^ or I would let her go herself LOL that dosent mean that I wouldbt be biting my fingers past the nail till she was home safely.
Think of what an oppertunity this is for her,

#6 Jenferal

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:14 AM

I'd move heaven and earth to go with her!

#7 sweetjane

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:14 AM

A big no from me!

#8 cinnabubble

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:17 AM

My older child is five, so I have no experience with eight year olds, but it's a no from me.

#9 LynnyP

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:21 AM

I am leading towards no and I will freely admit it is because of the association with NRL and because it is cheerleading.  I would probably say yes with no question if it was the Australian Girls Choir.

#10 mmk

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:21 AM

If he/she was ok with listening and wanted to go, for sure!  If they were likely to run off or cause someone trouble then no, but otherwise I think it would be a great experience!

#11 ~**SYMONE**~

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:22 AM

I'd let them go

#12 Madlock

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:22 AM

QUOTE
I would let her go!!

as the teacher said there will be supervision, meaning the teachers or other parents.

It would be a great experience for her.


QUOTE
I would let her go herself LOL that dosent mean that I wouldbt be biting my fingers past the nail till she was home safely.
Think of what an oppertunity this is for her,


I know, it will be such an amazing experience and I would hate for her to miss out.

I just to think that if myself or DH can't go, is it fair for us to let her miss out? Especially when other children are going without their parents. Gah!

#13 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:26 AM

QUOTE (Madlock @ 05/03/2012, 07:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My DD (almost 8yr old) does cheerleading for an NRL club. Every year (bar last year) they send an audition tape through to Disneyland to enter a cheer comp, and if they make it they travel to the US in October for the competition.

There are only about 15 kids in the cheer group and they made it to the comp the last time they tried out and the cheer teacher believes they will make it again this year. All the girls are quite aware (and excited) that they will probably be going to Disneyland this year.

DH and I have discussed it and due to work commitments, it's not going to be possible for us to go. We have explained this to the cheer teacher and she assured us that everytime they go there is always at least 7 kids whose parents don't go and they have ample supervision and that it would be perfectly fine for DD to go without us.

Thinking of my then 8yr old daughter being without either of her parents in another country scares me. DD loves the idea and says she'll be fine and is really eager to go. WWYD? Would you let your child go, or is it too far for too long?


Sounds like there is probably going to be at least 4 or 5 other parents going, along with teachers - assume there would be 2 teachers?  So, probably maybe 5-7 adults with 15 kids?  Yes, I would. Especially if there is a parent going with whom my child feels safe/comfortable with.

Is it only for a week?  Two weeks? Three weeks?  That would also influence my decision.

HOWEVER, I would be moving hell and high water to re-arrange my work commitments to go.  Given that you have a good 6 months to make arrangements, I'd being doing so, or at least letting work now that there is a very good possibility that you will need time off in October.  

Will you need to pay for yourself or will the club pay for supervising adults as well?

#14 paddyboo

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:30 AM

if she is mature enough and confident enough to be away from her parents and still do what she is told by someone other than yourself, not to wander off by herself or do anything silly then yes I would let her go, it would be a fantastic experience for her.

#15 Freddie'sMum

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:31 AM

No - unless either DH or I could go with her.



#16 Madlock

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:32 AM

QUOTE
Is it only for a week? Two weeks? Three weeks? That would also influence my decision.


It's for 10 nights (I've put this in my OP now)

QUOTE
Will you need to pay for yourself or will the club pay for supervising adults as well?


All adults need to pay for themselves, it is $3400 each which includes flights and accommodation.

Edited by Madlock, 05 March 2012 - 07:34 AM.


#17 Carmen02

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:35 AM

thats a tough one!! its an amazing experience, I have an almost 10yr old DD and a 7yr old DS and i couldnt imagine letting them go Ill be so anxious the whole time but i wouldnt want them to miss out too! But we wouldnt be able to afford to go lol

#18 LeeBee8

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:37 AM

No not on her own, but if I really wanted her to go then I'd just rearrange my work commitments. My brother wants to take my DS1 to Disneyland in a couple of years, & I said no. Wouldn't want him on the other side of the world without one of us being there. I'd be a wreck till he got home. rolleyes.gif

#19 Velociraptor

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:37 AM

I would go with her, but wouldn't let her go on her own.

Edited by Serendipaceratops, 05 March 2012 - 07:38 AM.


#20 Madlock

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:38 AM

QUOTE
I am leading towards no and I will freely admit it is because of the association with NRL and because it is cheerleading. I would probably say yes with no question if it was the Australian Girls Choir.


Can I ask why? Is it due to the level of care you think they would provide? Is it cheerleading in particular or any form of dancing?

#21 ~Delilah~

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:38 AM

No.

#22 Madeline's Mum

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:40 AM

I would rearrange work commitments to go with her.

Yes, its an amazing opportunity for her, but think about what a fantastic memory it would make if her mum was there to share it!

#23 Madnesscraves

Posted 05 March 2012 - 07:42 AM

oh definitely!

However, I'd do whatever I could to go with her as well.


#24 IVL

Posted 05 March 2012 - 08:00 AM

Is there a chance you could send another relative, a grandparent perhaps or an aunt/uncle?

I think at 8 I would only be comfortable knowing there was a trusted and dedicated person who would be watching over her the entire time. This is mostly due to America and in particular, Disneyland being a really crowded place. I would constantly be worried about her getting lost.

#25 kpingitquiet

Posted 05 March 2012 - 08:09 AM

To the US? Sure, no problem. Sounds like there will be a lot of parents around. 'Course I'd probably beg and plead to get work arranged so I could go too.




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