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*update post #10* tweaking naps seems to have worked!


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#1 TopsyTurvy

Posted 04 March 2012 - 05:34 AM

For the past week DS 22mo has been waking several times a night.

Last night he cried out at 1.00am ish and went back to sleep (but I woke right up as you do)

Then 2.30 and stayed awake till 3.30.  Then woke up at 4.20 and cried until I went and resettled him.

It's not teething as he has all his 2yo molars through.

The weather has cooled at night but I don't think it's the cold as I am dressing him warmly and leaving the oil heater on in his room.

I am so tired I am grumpy all the time and barely functioning through the day as it's taking me a good 20 mins or more to fall back asleep after each episode.

Can anyone offer any insight or advise please?

He is still having a day time nap between 12.30 pm and 2.00pm

He wakes between 7-7.30am and goes to sleep between 7.30-8.00pm

Edited by TopsyTurvy, 09 March 2012 - 07:10 AM.


#2 Maybe this month

Posted 04 March 2012 - 11:31 AM

I will be watching for responses to this too as my 15 month old has been waking a minimum of 5 times a night for the last 2 months.  I suspect hers is related to gastrointestinal problems she has but would be interested to see other ideas.  So while I can't offer suggestions OP, I can sympathise.  My partner took her last night so I had the first uninterrupted nights sleep in two months!

#3 lady lady

Posted 05 March 2012 - 09:37 AM

OP - my answer will sadly not help you, but I think they just like to wake up for a number of reasons, i.e - dreams, cold, too warm, want a cuddle, thirsty, developmental etc ...

My DD has just come out of a really rough cycle - 10'sh weeks of waking anywhere from 2-6 times after sleeping through 11 hours straight for 5 months .....the other day she started to walk and has now gone back to sleeping long(er) stints ... some mornings will go all the way through until 5am before a quick cuddle resettles other nights might wake at 12am'sh and again at 3am'sh, but she is now alot easier to settle with a quick "shhh, lie down it's nighs nighs" and wait 2-5 min until she has settled into comfy position ... she will also occasionally have a drink from her sippy cup in the middle of the night ....

I feel your pain .. broken sleep SUCKS ..... I can see why they use it as a form of torture ... sadly though I have accepted it and told myself to get used to it for a few more years yet ........

#4 franno

Posted 05 March 2012 - 09:48 AM

I would say it could be dreams. DD 2yrs 11 months is this minute sleeping and just slept through her 2nd night since August. In fact she has always been a terrible sleeper but I notice that imagination and dreaming is starting to come into play. She can articulate how she feels now and she always says scared. I sympathy those with the lack of sleep. Working full time and up twice a night for anything from a few months to an hour however, we consider this gods compared to where we were at. You cant make them sleep so get through it by knowing it won't last long (all phases never seem to) and going to bed earlier and doing whatever it takes to comfort them? Are you ok with sharing the bed??

#5 Leha

Posted 05 March 2012 - 10:16 AM

My dd went through this at about that age. I think it was night terrors. We put one of those plug in wall lights which helped alot. She eventually out grew it after a few months and lots of reassurance and cuddles at night from us. It also helped to be really active in the afternoons so she was very tired at bedtime.

Hopefully your dd will outgrow it soon.



#6 LovenFire

Posted 06 March 2012 - 01:30 PM

i'm going to be watching this too, as I was about to post  your post OP.  I have a 20 month old who used to sleep beautifully - down at 7, up at 6:30 - yay!

Now we fight all the way through to 9:30, usually ends up being driven to sleep, but yesterday it was 50km!  Then he wakes up about 3 or 4 times during the night and needs to be cuddled to calm down and go to sleep.

He's tired through the afternoon, we've tried to keep the same night routine that worked before, (dinner at 5:30, bath at 6:30, bed between 7 and 7:15pm) lots of activity before bed, not so much activity, tv, no tv, books, no books, toys, no toys... most people have said to let him cry, but the problem is that he gets hysterical and either dry-retches, or throws up...and that's after about 2 minutes of crying, so I'm not really too keen to do it.  It's heartbreaking to listen to, and must be awful for him to go through - esp if he is THAT upset!

He usually naps somewhere between 11:30 and 3:30 for three hours.  It's getting to be an earlier morning nap because he is just so shattered from his night (and so am i!)

So yes, will definitly be watching this thread!!


#7 Tikiboo16

Posted 06 March 2012 - 02:35 PM

No help here, but was about to write the same thread.. My DD, who has slept from 8pm through to 9am every night for months, turned into the demon child last night.. Woke up at 2am and screamed her head off until about 5:30am. I'm absolutely knackered. I hope this is just a phase... anyone have any ideas??

#8 glitters

Posted 07 March 2012 - 11:04 AM

Yep was about to type up the same thread here! seems something is in the water  mellow.gif

My 13 month old DD was the perfect sleeper from 6 wks of age. two 3.5 hour sleeps a day, bed at 7.30pm and awake at 8am. but for the last week she has dropped her 2nd sleep (which is fine) been waking anywhere between 4am and 6am, extremely unsettled and unfortunately i have been giving her a bottle and a shot of panadol (only for extreme screaming)

at first she was staying awake for 30 mins, but now she's going straight back to sleep with the bottle. This morning i didn't give her any panadol but she has started getting some bottom teeth through and what looks like a head cold (her snot is greeeeeeeeeeeeen)

my first born DS was a good sleeper, but would always wake at 4am for a bottle - this is not what we wanted with DD, but she seems to have started it, because if i dont give her the bottle (which i didnt do the first 3 nights) we had her screaming the house down.

i think i have solved my problem, just by typing it out.... rolleyes.gif  it's getting colder at night, and even though she's warm in her pj's and blankies, it's the weather. even if us as adults are warm, if it's the colder months we have an increased appetite right? Time to put the heater back in her room, perhaps. ?!?  sad.gif

Edited by glitters, 07 March 2012 - 11:15 AM.


#9 steffijade81

Posted 09 March 2012 - 12:02 AM

No advice here either just sympathy. My DD is 19mths and has never slept for more than 4 hrs at night. She goes to bed between 7pm and 8pm and wakes at 11pm/12am and again at 2am/3am and then at 5.30am and is up at 7.30am... Ive been a walking zombie since I gave birth to her.... I am hanging out for her to sleep better but won't do controlled crying under any circumstances.

#10 TopsyTurvy

Posted 09 March 2012 - 07:08 AM

Ok well (fingers crossed) I think I have found the solution.

I think he was under tired, so was waking between sleep cycles and was unable to get back to sleep.

He has always been fairly low sleep needs, and moved to one nap fairly early.  So now I have tweaked his awake hours and he is sleeping through again biggrin.gif

Previously up at 7.30 most of the time.
Now up at 7.00am at the latest.

Nap time was 12.30pm to 2.00 (so 1.5 hour nap)
Nap time has been bought forward to 12.00pm and capped at 1 hour, so I am waking him at 1.00pm

Bedtime is 7.30pm on the dot (where possible!)

So in total he is now getting 1 hour sleep less during day time hours and it seems to be doing the trick, we have now had 4 nights sleeping through tthumbs.gif

Might be worth looking into if your little ones are waking for a couple of hours!  A little tweaking with awake times might help you to!

#11 msblueshoes

Posted 12 March 2012 - 10:12 AM

I read this post with great interest as my DS 22mth old was recently waking up screaming on and off all night (he even screamed when DP or I would hold him in his room), however I think we found the solution so I thought I'd share with you all. Someone mentioned to me that he could be or have become scared of the dark, so we put a little night light in his room and we have a different baby. Even though he's never been a great sleeper, he's since slept through a couple of times, and when he has woken there's been no screaming. Peace at last. Hope this helps someone else out there!




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