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Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:45 PM
Have you received a gift/s from your DP/DF/DH's after the birth of your child/ren?
I personally didn't receive a gift from DF after the birth of DD1, although a few people asked if I did
I have been reading about it lately and how a lot of women expect a present!
WDYT? and also, please tell me what your thoughts are on this article! - offensive?
Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:47 PM
Oh I love these threads
Yes I got one. My beautiful children were not enough of a present!
My husband bought me a hair straightener after my first child was born because I'd been complaining about how gross I felt
ETA: It wasn't expected and it was very much appreciated!
Edited by **Xena**, 23 February 2012 - 06:49 PM.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:51 PM
I though selling our place and renovating and moving into a house was enough for one year, but I got a beautiful diamond tennis bracelet which I found in DS's bassinet the day after he was born.
I certainly wasn't expecting anything and it hasn't been off my wrist since.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:51 PM
While I agree with the author of that article that money could be better spent than on bling, in every other way he sounds like a prat. Or a git. Actually, both, and more.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:52 PM
Nope not a thing personally i hate the name push present .
And definitely wasn't expecting anything why on should I??
But of course ds got a ton of things though i kept his balloon on my bed in the ward when ds was in NICU so it looked like i got a present .
Edited by cheekymonkeysmum, 23 February 2012 - 06:53 PM.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:58 PM
Yep, love a good present and what better reason than pushing out his big headed babies??
Pearls for the first, diamonds for the second. I hate Valentines Day though and don't want a thing so I figure DH is doing well in the gift buying department.
ETA - not sure what the article says, don't have time sorry.
Edited by lamarque, 23 February 2012 - 06:59 PM.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:59 PM
I do like the idea of a 'new mum gift' but the name push present is just vile
I didn't get anything from DH after DD was born, except his full support & lots of love & patience.
TBH, I wish he had told me I was awesome & a goddess and that he loved me to bits
As for the article, I just rolled my eyes - some men are stupid
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:03 PM
The writer of that piece sounds like an idiot.
I didn't get a push present. I didn't ask for one. I didn't expect one. I didn't want one.
What others spend their money on though, is pretty much irrelevant to me.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:04 PM
I had never heard the term push present until I saw it on EB, it's pretty vile really. I received flowers and a healthy baby - I was happy with that
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:04 PM
The author of that article is a nit-wit. I'm paying it no attention.
I wouldn't turn anything down but no, it's not on our list of things to be concerned with leading up to this baby.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:05 PM
I expected flowers.
I'd never been a patient in hospital before that point, and a man had never given me flowers before, let alone my daughter's father. So I wanted that, and expected it. Given I made it well known that this was an expectation of mine, I had no reason NOT to expect it IMO. His job was to show up and give me flowers. That's it. My body did the rest. I think I deserved it.
(FWIW, no, I didn't get any flowers from him).
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:07 PM
Bloody absurd if you ask me.....my present was finally getting my beautiful daughters after many losses. Both my DD's heads were 38cm and both were 4 kilos and I am petite.....but regardless getting live, healthy children was all the gift I wanted, hoped for and needed. I would rather the money go toward their education.
We are becoming a society obsessed with stuff.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:09 PM
My DH busted his ass finishing off the renovation at the back of the house and rearranging all the rooms in time for bub's arrival. That was more than enough present for me!
Besides, we needed the cash so I could stay off work as long as I needed. Wouldn't have wanted to sacrifice another week or two at home for the sake of a fancy piece of jewelry.
And in any case, it was something we did together....all 59 hours of it, he didn't leave my side. We both equally deserved a gift, and that gift was DS.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:11 PM
My aunt gave me a beautiful necklace the day after my ds was born. It was unexpected, but appreciated and it is very special to me.
I hate the term push present though.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:12 PM
No. But my mother got a push present when my son was born, a 1ct diamond ring for becoming a grandmother.
My mother and I have deep issues and this is typical ego centric behavior from her.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:19 PM
I think there was a tradition of receiving an eternity ring upon the birth of a first child, don't know anyone who has done that in recent years - more my mothers generation if they had the money.
What do you call it if you have a c-section?
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:19 PM
I received beautiful flowers both times but no push present.
As the birth of a baby is often the time the family drops from two incomes to one, at least temporarily, then, to me, there would be greater priorities than a piece of jewellery.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:41 PM
I think its enough that the government are giving me a present
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:44 PM
Didn't expect anything. Didn't receive anything (x3)
I also hate the term.
ETA: I also hate Baby Showers and don't do those either.
Edited by lsolaBella, 23 February 2012 - 07:45 PM.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:46 PM
No. But I should of, it took 2 hours to get DD2 out
I don't know how I'd feel about one though honestly, DH is fantastic, he's very hands on and supportive.
And to see his face once DD2 finally arrived was enough of a present for me
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:47 PM
Not a push present, but I got given an eternity ring which was for the birth of DS1 and our first wedding anniversary. Nothing for the other two, our beautiful healthy babies were enough!
Edited by bubblebear, 23 February 2012 - 07:47 PM.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:48 PM
I want all the diamonds this time. All of them.
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:50 PM
The author is a nitwit.
I would have *loved* flowers, but considering the dramatickz that occured, I can forgive him.
Completely ignoring my first mothers day, even though I was quite ill in hospital? Well, this year, mothers day is also my 21st, so he's got a lot to do- make up for last year, celebrate this year, and my birthday. After that I'll let it go
Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:54 PM
With DD1 we received lots of presents from family and friends, chocolates, flowers, etc. But they were more 'congratulations on being parents' presents.
I'd be quite confused if DP bought me flowers afterwards, having our two girls included both of us. It was just as draining for him mentally as it was for me physically. He made it so much easier for me by being an amazing support person. If he got me a 'push present' then I'd feel obliged to get him some sort of 'support person present'.
Edited by Baggy, 23 February 2012 - 07:55 PM.
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