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#1 missjoads1234

Posted 22 February 2012 - 04:48 PM

Ive had the experience of having a few different age gaps and am wondering what everyone else's experiences are.

Ive had a 4 year gap and a 2 and half gap. Id honestly say the 4 year gap is better.

What have you had and whats better?

BTW - no im not nuts and we arnt trying for more right now, before anyone asks!  laugh.gif Just discussing is all!

#2 CurlySpikes

Posted 22 February 2012 - 04:54 PM

we have a two year age gap between the girls and it suits us - I think you make it work to suit! I've heard good and bad about both small and large age gaps but we decided on our way and its good!

#3 Blingy

Posted 22 February 2012 - 04:56 PM

7 years between 1 and 2 and 17 between 2 and 3  ohmy.gif

#4 Blingy

Posted 22 February 2012 - 04:59 PM

Forgot to add that Number three was a surprise ... he is almost 6 weeks old now and it's really easy because of all the helpers

#5 Kay1

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:00 PM

I think they all have pros and cons. My boys are 3 years apart and its been great. They adore each other, play together a lot and DS1 is old enough to 'look after' DS2 (get him his brekkie etc).

I wanted a smaller age gap for #3 but as it worked out it will be nearly 4 years. I think it will be great in many ways (much easier for me) but of course there are cons as well. I see people with kids very close together (when they are a bit older) and they are over the nappies/strollers etc and it looks great. On the other hand I've seen how hard those first few years can be and I don't think I could do it!

#6 Still-here!

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:01 PM

19 months difference here, had probably prefered a larger gap but am counting my blessings as it is and am now finding (at 5 and 6 years of age) the hard times are really paying off, it's lovely having them quite close.



#7 Hunch

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:01 PM

We have a 2.5year age gap and it's ok....  I honestly don't think you can make a call til the kids have gone through a few stages and as PP said, you just make it work...  When I had a baby and a 2.5yo it was actually not bad, my toddler was really good.  But by the time baby was 1yo, the older one was annoyed by him a lot.  Now baby DS is 2 and DD is 4.5yo and I find them playing together and trying to communciate a lot.  
Let's see in another few years.

#8 my serenity

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:05 PM

i had a two year gap between 1 and 2 then 6 yr between 2nd and 3rd
I loved the bigger age gap and am planning on more of one for 4th

#9 miss*k

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:08 PM

OP Just had to say how gorgeous little Jacob is....bless his soul.

#10 Ianthe

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:20 PM

I much prefer a bigger gap. I have gaps of 3.5 years, 22 months, 2.5 years and 4 years. I love the 3.5 year gap-the older child is a lot more independent. I found it hard having two young ones with my second and third sons and neither of them were difficult. It's just so intensive with the settling, dressing, car seats, nappies.

#11 tres-chic

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:21 PM

DS1 and DS2 are 22 months apart and it's been terrific. Three years between 2 and 3 and while I'd say it's a bit too long a gap, at least there was some breathing space in between.

#12 JaneLane

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:21 PM

I have a 20 months gap between my two.  Having had 2 close together, I would choose to have a bigger age gap if we do try for a 3rd.

#13 InsertAwesomeHere

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:28 PM

I have a 2 year gap and a 3 year gap. I found the 3 year gap much easier but that could be because I went from having 1 to 2 and the 2 year gap 2 to 3.

#14 GoneWithTheWhinge

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:29 PM

7 yrs between 1 and 2
2 yr 4m between 2 and 3

7yrs was too long, as the oldest was starting to be easier and gain independence I had a baby.
2yr 4m fantastic, not so close that the nappies and bottles overlapped but close enough that they can still interact at a similar level and enjoy similar things without the lower attention span of the younger spoiling it for the older. It might be that they enjoy each others company and get on well (which 1&2 didn't) as well as them both being girls and liking pink, frilly, girly stuff. #1 was a boy and didn't want his little sister touching his small bits Lego and Pokemon etc and all she wanted to do was stuff his things in a bag/pushchair and cart it around which irritated him as he hadn't had to share like that before.

#15 ladyantebellum

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:34 PM

I had 2 years between 1 and 2 and it was good. Only thing that would have made it better was if number 1 was toilet trained.
We are ttcing number 3 and depending on how long it takes there will be a 2.5-3 year gap. Wanted a slightly bigger gap than with the first two.

#16 tasy

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:35 PM



there is 4.5 yrs between 1 and 2

16 months between no.2 and 3

i prefered the 16 mth age gap... now they are 9 and 10.. it was abit hard at times but i liked it better

#17 **Xena**

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:41 PM

1 year 9 months between 1 and 2
2 years 5 months between 2 and 3

Both were fairly easy though having my third was probably slightly easier because the other two could occupy each other.

#18 reng

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:46 PM

14 months between 1&2 which is awesome now they are 5&6, hard at first but worth it now.
Then a big gap of nearly 4 years to #3 and a quick one again to #4 (since I enjoyed the first pair so much!), we wanted closer than we got, but ended up with 19 months between 3&4 after two miscarriages.  I'd like to go again, but hubby says no.  So am enjoying this last baby as much as I can (#4 now 6 weeks old).

#19 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 22 February 2012 - 05:51 PM

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Edited by humphreymum, 06 March 2012 - 11:00 AM.


#20 doubledelight

Posted 23 February 2012 - 01:58 PM

I have 2 years 5 months between 1 & 2, 11 years 6 months between 2 & 3 and 3 minutes between 3 & 4.  DP has 23 years between 1 & 2.

I've just rolled with each parenting incarnation this ride has thrown up but I did like 2 years 5 months but I think it depends on the personalities of the children involved

#21 71Cath

Posted 23 February 2012 - 02:03 PM

4 years between mine which was good when DD was first born as DS was a bit more independent, but now it isn't great.  They have nothing in common, and fight all the time.

Of course it could just be them!

#22 KristyMum-

Posted 23 February 2012 - 02:07 PM

We have the following gaps between our living children
2 year gap, 3 year gap, 4 year gap
there is 10 years between #1 and #5

The gap thing isn't really an issue for me.  More is the children themselves, how they get along (or don't), what they're like as NB, babies, toddlers, children, pre-teens etc
and stages and then it changes along the way as they reach different points in their lives




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