Hi, my DS is 5 and in prep at school. I have been struggling with his behaviour for the last year or so, i put it down to him struggling with the split of his father and I and ex leaving the state. Ex comes down every second weekend and spends the weekend with here. I focussed on counting down until dad came and making skype calls every other day.
I am now not so sure that is the problem as he plays up constantly, even when he is happy. He is destructive around the house (nailpolish on stairs, bathroom), breaks pretty much anything of interest if he is in that mood, mostly electrical, breaks toys(his and his siblings'), destroys things important to siblings(usually artwork), will get up early to eat any treats in the house, hurts our animals for fun and lately, very aggressive with siblings unless he gets his way and uses mostly inappropriate, aggressive methods of interacting with them.
This is a basic run down but he is very hard work and spends the majority of his time doing things he shouldn't.
I've used positive reinforcement, time out, 123 magic, reward charts and he only responds to these things in the moment but nothing stops him from repeating the behaviours.
He also wanders off when it suits him, like he has no concept of boundaries, he seems in his own world and only set on what he wants to do at the time.
Today his teacher said he was in trouble as she had to have someone watch the class while she went to look for him as when the lunch bell went, 15minutes later he was still not back.
He also refuses to complete simple tasks asked of him, for example to put his shoes away, cup on sink, pack toys up, or anything like that.
I've not ever encountered these problems with my 6 other children and my 2.5 year old DD already has no problems with most of these areas.
I'm not sure what I am asking but I guess I would like some input/advice/opinions/ideas as to what I should do.
ETA, my older sons 18 and 13 are gobsmacked at his behaviour and even having had so many siblings, have not encountered this and are quite stunned at how bad his behaviour can get.
Edited by idle, 22 February 2012 - 03:05 PM.