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#1 lunargirl

Posted 21 February 2012 - 08:59 PM

For parents (or future parents) of tweens and teenage girls. What are your views on magazines such as Dolly, Girlfriend, Cleo, Cosmo etc.? Would you buy them? Let your daughters buy them? Ban them? Any age limits? Do you see them as educational, entertainment, harmful? Tell me your thoughts!



#2 Guest_Cathode_*

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:03 PM

Dolly taught me a lot when I was a teen  ph34r.gif

I'd probably let my daughter read them. When she is a teen.

Edited by Cathode, 21 February 2012 - 09:04 PM.


#3 ~Jodama_Feral~

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:06 PM

Lol Cathode it was Girlfriend for me.

I have no issues with them when my girls are around 13ish. Glad that we are only into Little Angel at the moment though.

#4 SCARFACE CLAW

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:06 PM

I'd let my daughter read Dolly and / or Girlfriend when she is a teen. They are pretty great with answering questions girls might be too embarrassed to ask their parents, and they promote things like safe sex etc.

#5 ~Supernova~

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:07 PM

I read Dolly and Girlfriend from around 11, Cleo and Cosmo from around 14. As per pp they certainly taught me a lot Tounge1.gif I don't think I'd have a problem with DD reading them at similar ages if she expressed interest in them. She already enjoys Total Girl magazine.

#6 andieinvic

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:11 PM

My dd's love the tween mags such as Total Girl etc and I buy them occasionally.  I think Dolly is probably ok for the entering teen age group 13 and older - don't have too much of a problem with it.  Cleo etc I wouldn't buy for my daughters, but if they had a job and were happy to spend their dosh on them I wouldn't ban it from the house.  I'd hope Cleo, Cosmo etc were more for the 18 + age group, but I guess that's unlikely.  


I remember loving the American magazines when I was a teenager, spent hours with my best friend going through seventeen magazines from the library which were quite age appropriate.

#7 QueenIanthe

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:15 PM

I think these magazines can be incredibly destructive to self esteem. I know for me they were. I would prefer my daughter doesn't read them. I think it is hard enough for women to filter out those messages, I don't want my vulnerable teen being exposed to it more than is necessary.

#8 Mitis angelam

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:16 PM

With the disclaimer that this is FAR in my future... original.gif

I think they're probably mostly harmless, but also mostly worthless.  I don't buy such things for myself (never have) and can't see myself buying them for DD.  If she earns her own money and chooses to spend it on magazines I can't see myself banning them, though.

I might keep an eye on the content to see whether there are topics on which I feel I ought to offer some balance or perspective.

ETA: Ianthe, could you say more about your point on self esteem?  Is it just about body image?

Edited by Ange Vert, 21 February 2012 - 09:17 PM.


#9 Genabee

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:16 PM

QUOTE (Mareek @ 21/02/2012, 09:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I read Dolly and Girlfriend from around 11, Cleo and Cosmo from around 14. As per pp they certainly taught me a lot Tounge1.gif I don't think I'd have a problem with DD reading them at similar ages if she expressed interest in them. She already enjoys Total Girl magazine.



Exactly the same here...

The way I see it, if girls are menstruating at 10, 11, 12 etc. then I only think it is fair that they can have access to information about it all - even the stuff like sex, that parents secretly fear. The reality is that they are going to come across it, whether we like it or not. I would much rather have the lines of communication open about it all, than pretend its not going to happen. How harmful can the magazines be? They are full of tampon and perfume ads anyway!

That being said, I wouldn't buy them for her. She can buy them herself!!

#10 ampersand

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:17 PM

Most teens I know are much more likely to be online than read a mag. I would be fine with dd reading them when she's a bit older but I'd be surprised if she asked for them, it's not the thing it was for earlier generations.

#11 MumtoPNut

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:24 PM

I LOVED Dolly and Girlfriend as a teen. Those and Judy Blume books taught me a lot! laughing2.gif

I can't remember what age I started reading them at, but I think dad was probably grateful for them as they would've made his task of being a single dad dealing with teenage girls a little easier - could just turn to the mag for answers!

They're a long way off for my DD, but I'll probably have a flick through them myself before I decide.

Cosmo and Cleo I didn't start reading til I was a bit older .. They had a bit more sex content than I was interested in reading about. Dolly Doctor sufficed wink.gif

#12 Chchgirl

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:28 PM

I loved Dolly magazine as a teen, but also read Smash Hits as I was really into music and still am..my self esteem was fine as I knew models were just that, models...was never interested in Cleo or Cosmo and still think they're crap.

My teen likes Dolly here and there, but doesn't buy many mags..she'd rather buy an i-tunes card and upload music.. original.gif

#13 ~A Poetic Winter~

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:30 PM

Ban all you like, my mum did if they want to they will find a way to read them...just like I did original.gif

They are total fluffy crap and I think they were a shocking thing to read as a teen but good luck trying to stop a teen that wants to.

#14 .MrsM.

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:31 PM

i remember reading dolly and girlfriend and my mum has told me said she let me read them as they had good messages about safe sex, etc.

i think they are pretty harmless.

#15 le_auteur

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:34 PM

I wasn't allowed Dolly or Girlfriend until I was about 15, with Cleo and Cosmo coming in to the picture after I'd left home for uni about 17/18. My parents certainly weren't the prudish kind, either. I imagine that I'd be similar with my future daughter/s.

#16 @m@nd@

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:35 PM

QUOTE (ampersand @ 21/02/2012, 09:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Most teens I know are much more likely to be online than read a mag. I would be fine with dd reading them when she's a bit older but I'd be surprised if she asked for them, it's not the thing it was for earlier generations.


I agree, read an actual magazine? Highly unlikely.

It's something that I will always remember though.
Couldn't wait to open the sealed section in secret LOL

#17 QueenIanthe

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:36 PM

QUOTE (Ange Vert @ 21/02/2012, 10:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ETA: Ianthe, could you say more about your point on self esteem?  Is it just about body image?


I found all those magazines were full of articles talking about how to have good self esteem but every ad and photo shoot seemed designed to do the complete opposite. Be content with yourself but you have to do x,y,z before you can be.

I am not a huge fan of kids hero worshipping celebrities in any form either. In Year 3 our school has always had the kids do a collage about what interests them-three of my kids have done them so far and the vast majority of kids just stick photos on of celebrities. It just doesn't sit well with me and I think those magazines buy into that shallow, vapid culture.

And regarding talking to your kids about sex, I am more than open with my kids, I do understand that it can be embarrassing to talk to your parents but so far my kids seem happy to come to me and discuss anything like that.

I wouldn't go so far as to ban them or anything and I suspect with my daughter it may be fighting an uphill battle but I will be sure to critique it enough that she can hear my voice in her head as she looks at them wink.gif

#18 coopersmamma

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:36 PM

Let's face it, by grade 4, so 10 years of age, children already know more about sex than us parents would like to possibly consider. If a magazine can educate my daughter about her changing body or what she hears from around the playground or her peers, then that can only be a positive thing. I would also use it as a prompt for conversation without the whole awkward "Let's sit on the couch for a D&M" thing. By no means would it be used as a substitute for getting out of 'those talks'.

#19 be_a_butterfly

Posted 21 February 2012 - 10:54 PM

I read Girlfriend when I was in year 7 onwards, prior to that it was Smash Hits and TV hits.  Dolly I didnt really read until year 9 onwards and when I was 16-17 it was Cleo and Cosmo. I learnt a lot from those mags, my parents didnt tell me anything unfortunantly.

I dont think I will let my DD buy Girlfriend or Dolly until she is in high school (which is next year!) or until she asks!



#20 MegsW

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:23 PM

I buy them for DD#1 occasionally but it is mainly when they have a gift that she wants on the cover.  I have no issue with her reading them.  Like others have said, they cover alot of things that I have no doubt would be hard for her to come and chat to me about and at least the information would be factual rather than what happened to a friend of a friend!


#21 FeralSingleMum

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:43 PM

I read them when I was a teenager and if I had a daughter then I would buy them for her.

I wasn't really supposed to buy them. My Dad and Stepmum were really strict. It didn't stop me from saving my pocket money and buying them anyway. I only got $5.00 a week and I would save $2.00 from each week and then buy them when they come out at the end of the month. I would just hide them (which was a hard task!).

#22 SpunkBucket

Posted 22 February 2012 - 12:17 AM

I read Dolly then Cleo and Cosmo when I was a teen. I found the articles interesting and they taught me a lot.
I asked my teenage DD if she wanted me to buy it for her and she looked at me like I had two heads  rolleyes.gif DD isn't a girly-girl at all and we have a great relationship where she can talk to me about anything, plus she has the internet.


#23 lozoodle

Posted 22 February 2012 - 06:37 AM

Oh I used to love those! It was Dolly and Girlfriend in the early high school years, and then year 11 / 12 onwards I was into Cleo and Cosmo.

Yep I'd let them read. They will read it regardless. I remember we all used to huddle around reading Dolly Doctor in year 7 roll2.gif

#24 MidnightDad

Posted 22 February 2012 - 07:52 AM

QUOTE (Ianthe @ 21/02/2012, 10:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I found all those magazines were full of articles talking about how to have good self esteem but every ad and photo shoot seemed designed to do the complete opposite. Be content with yourself but you have to do x,y,z before you can be.

I am not a huge fan of kids hero worshipping celebrities in any form either. In Year 3 our school has always had the kids do a collage about what interests them-three of my kids have done them so far and the vast majority of kids just stick photos on of celebrities. It just doesn't sit well with me and I think those magazines buy into that shallow, vapid culture.

Very interesting... that was pretty much exaclty what my  eldest   daughter said when she looked through the couple of teenage mags her  aunt   bought her, she would have been 15 at the time. She zeroed  in on   the conflicting self esteem - negative self esteem messages and  the   consumer/worship culture.

#25 JustBeige

Posted 22 February 2012 - 08:05 AM

DD loves Total Girl here, she reads them cover to cover several times, so I dont mind getting them for her as a monthly treat.

Thankfully she doesnt idolise any celebrity - they actually have to have some talent for her to like them.

Dolly - if she requests it, probably from about 14/15.  Cleo/Cosmo -  probably 16/17.




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