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#1 feral funnygirl

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:04 AM

Has anyone not given their child a middle name?

I'm only TTC at the moment but have already started to think of possible names. I don't have a middle name and my Mum doesn't have a middle name and I wondered how common it was these days.

So, does your child just have a first name and why didn't you give them a middle name?

#2 Monroe

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:13 AM

My mum, sister & I don't have middle names. To be honest, I've always hated it. I plan on adding 2 middle names myself at some stage.

#3 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:23 AM

I don't have a middle name and nor does my sister, my Mum only gave my brother one as "he might be a doctor one day", "girls don't really need middle names" rolleyes.gif

I hated it.

The amount of times I got asked when filling in forms "and your middle name?"
my reply "I don't have one"
them "Really?" shocked face.

It was very important for me to give all of my children middle names.

#4 debut dad

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:33 AM

My brother and I don't have middle names. We have confirmation names, but that doesn't really count. So our passports and drivers licences just have a first and last name.

My wife and I decided not to give a middle name to our son as well. Didn't feel the need and we're pretty sure the combination of first and last name is unique enough original.gif

#5 Mumsyto2

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:51 AM

I don't have one and it's never worried me at all.  Less writing for sorms which is a bonus !

#6 *RockTot*

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:54 AM

I didn't give my DS a middle name, I don't see the point of them really?  I don't like my middle name, maybe thats what influenced me wink.gif


#7 Bel Rowley

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:54 AM

I have three close friends who have chosen not to give their kids middle names, so it's not uncommon.

#8 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:54 AM

Neither me nor my sister have middle names. My brother got two! (He was born 13 years later to a different Mum though)

It was terrible at school, no one believed me, everyone called me a liar every time it came up, it was horrible. As an adult I couldn't care less, but the kids have middle names.

#9 winterlove

Posted 21 February 2012 - 11:58 AM

Gosh, some of the replies to this post have shocked me. I never imagined that people would feel upset about not having a middle name. I have a middle name. I gave my son a middle name after his father but for my daughter we could not decide on one, therefore, we did not give her one. Perhaps, I could rectify my mistake by adding one now? I will be watching this post carefully.

#10 CountryFeral

Posted 21 February 2012 - 12:00 PM

I've got one - I love it and use it professionally.

DP also has a great middle name (we both have pretty boring 70's first names) and uses his first initial + full middle and surname as his 'literary name'.

My children will possibly have two... my Dad has two I love how it reads and sounds!

My young nephews all have wonderful middle names - if you are just bunging one in there 'because' then *meh* but if it is something exotic that your child can draw upon in later life or a family name to cement them in a historical lineage then I'm all for it!

#11 tickly_rain

Posted 21 February 2012 - 12:02 PM

I don't have one.  It was annoying when younger, but I couldn't care less now!  My Mum's explanation - "The tradition was to use names from your family history, but there were no girls' names I liked enough to inflict on you!"

My children have MN, because there were lots of great male names in our histories.

#12 BadCat

Posted 21 February 2012 - 12:10 PM

Neither of my kids have middle names.  They are nearly teenagers now and it's never bothered either of them.  Their first names are not common and our surname, while not really out there, is not particularly common either.  So they are not hard to identify.

I had a hard enough time finding one name for each of them without having to throw in extras that serve no purpose.

#13 2xpink

Posted 21 February 2012 - 12:11 PM

I don't have a middle name, my parents thought the combination of my first name (8 letters) and my maiden name (11 letters) was enough.

We gave our girls middle names though.  Mainly because they were nice together, and also to use the family type references that we didn't want to use for first names.

Either way I don't think it matters.  Not something I missed, but I have often been asked why I haven't a middle name - so a matter of annoying curiousity.

#14 4kidlets

Posted 21 February 2012 - 01:24 PM

I like middle names as our children's names are not unusual - however,am yet to meet or hear of anyone with same fn, mn combo - and none of their middle names are unusual names either although not the names most often used as mn's like Grace, Rose, Louise,James.

Also,  I like picking names so  I enjoyed picking 2 each.

However, is not a big deal - have known quite a few people without middle names and never really thought anything of it.

#15 Elemenopee

Posted 21 February 2012 - 02:23 PM

My parents gave each of my 2 brothers and sister a mn, but decided my first name, with 9 letters, was long enough. I am glad, my married surname is 9 letters too, so quite long enough with adding in a mn as well.
All my 4 children have mns, but they are all family names (of living relatives), I don't see the point of another name for no real reason.
Oh and my nephew does not have a mn either, and his name is only 3 letters, so very short and sweet.

#16 minigirl

Posted 21 February 2012 - 02:26 PM

I don't have one, has never really bothered me - didn't have to be embarrassed about it! We did give our ds one though, I suppose for family reasons and it sounded nice.

#17 discomonkey

Posted 21 February 2012 - 09:46 PM

I don't have a MN but my older brother does. Growing up, I always thought my parents must have liked him that tiny bit more that they went to that extra trouble (even if it was Francis).
When I was in Grade 3 I started telling everyone my MN was Susan and kept it up for years. My brother still teases me about it now. rolleyes.gif
For me, it wasn't so much that I didn't have one, it was that my brother did. Having said all that, I'm a decent, functioning member of society now, so no lasting effects.





#18 canuckmel

Posted 22 February 2012 - 06:39 PM

We used my maiden name as out children's middle name as a way of 'carrying on' my name. If not for that, I don't know if we'd have given them one, if only because I HATE my middle name.

#19 WaffleGrrrl

Posted 23 February 2012 - 06:46 AM

I don't have a middle name, and I always loved that little fact about myself!  Then again I liked to be quirky happy.gif

Also, so many kids I know hated their middle name growing up, I felt relieved to not be burdened with one.

That being said, we've given our DD one, as we decided to make her middle name her (english version) Hebrew name (we're Jewish) - so she's a Zoe Rachel

#20 jediintraining

Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:01 AM

I had the same experience as Dinosaurus - I don't have a middle name and periodically at school you'd get the 'what's your middle name' survey and NOBODY would believe you saying you don't have one. Everyone would be 'Oh sure - it's just something like Gertrude and you don't want to admit it!'. I also had some twit from the Citizenship bureau return a registration form to me twice for failing to fill in a middle name and I had to ring twice and inform them that I don't actually have one (!) but that's an isolated incident and certainly not common. :-)  I am due in about 2 weeks and my hubby and I have decided to give our daughter to be a middle name.

#21 skylark

Posted 23 February 2012 - 07:07 AM

I don't really have one (ie the one that I have is a family surname, and doesn't appear on my birth certificate). It makes absolutely no difference to my life whatsoever. I am always amused by people in the naming threads going on about the flow of middle names and whether they go together - the reality is that in every day life a middle name is just never, ever used.

#22 leisamd

Posted 23 February 2012 - 09:15 AM

DS2 very nearly didn't have one.  Because our first two children were named for beloved family members, and there wasn't any others we felt comfortable using.

DH was adamant right up until about 36 weeks that there'd be no middle name.   He has one that he hates, and his younger brother doesn't have one at all.  No big deal.

I wanted one to  match the siblings and to soften the first name, we finally came down to 2 options 'he could live with' and I picked one.

It really seems like no big deal to me to have one or not, my niece and nephew (DH's sister) don't have them and it's fine.

Edited by leisamd, 23 February 2012 - 09:15 AM.


#23 la di dah

Posted 23 February 2012 - 09:23 AM

QUOTE (skylark @ 23/02/2012, 08:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't really have one (ie the one that I have is a family surname, and doesn't appear on my birth certificate). It makes absolutely no difference to my life whatsoever. I am always amused by people in the naming threads going on about the flow of middle names and whether they go together - the reality is that in every day life a middle name is just never, ever used.


It doesn't get used if you don't use it but I know people who use theirs constantly and I use my middle initial a lot. I know a lot of people who are J.T. or whatever their initials are to everyone they know, and more people who use both names together on all their forms and paperwork.

Honestly I go the other way, I see people saying on EB any middle name or none doesn't matter but I know all my friends', and cousins', and they use them as adults, so I don't get that. Is it a cultural thing of Australia maybe?

The only person I know who doesn't have a middle name is my maternal grandmother, who didn't get one because her mother wanted to name after two dead relatives who had the same first name, and a middle name would have specified which one and she didn't want to do that.

#24 missj

Posted 23 February 2012 - 09:24 AM

We all have one, but I know many who don't.  I don't think it's something you have to give your child.

#25 JaneLane

Posted 23 February 2012 - 11:23 AM

My middle name is my mothers maiden name.

My 2 sons middle names are my maiden name.


I did not see the point in coming up with another name for them, but still wanted their names to have something to do with me as both have DH's surname.




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