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Settling 2 week old for the night
Just wants to feed & feed & is very fussy


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#1 Mummy-2-1boy

Posted 14 February 2012 - 07:49 PM

My 2 week old baby girl has just been an absolute delight... I nearly feel bad writing this post cuz I really shouldn't complain! But I'm just wondering if anyone has any ideas to help her settle for the night.
So far I have been pretty strict with routine & let her self settle during the day that takes her no time at all. She is up no longer than 1 hr at a time, and she did originally just drop off to sleep at night just like she does for her naps. But now at night shd is really unsettled from just before her bedtime. I wake her from her last nap at 6pm in the hopes she will have a bedtime of 7pm. But just before then she becomes really irritable, & she just wants to feed & feed but then shd seems to also struggle with wind. She is very content in general but she actually cries at this time of day. Anyway, so I have been feeding her until I have nothing left & then rocking her to sleep which then takes a fair while.

None of this would bother me except I have a 2 yr old whose bedtime is 730 & I often have to do bedtimes for both of them by myself whilst my husband works. Tonight was a nightmare running back & forth from the screaming little one to my 2 yr old.

So I am just wondering... Do u think I should be waking my 2 wk old up earlier from her nap or even putting her to sleep for the night earlier? I obviously don't expect her to self settle at such a young age but I don't like seeing her upset & feel that I can't not feed her but also that feeding her increases her wind pain...
Thanks, any suggestions of experience would be greatly appreciated!

#2 Guest_BessMarvin_*

Posted 14 February 2012 - 07:56 PM

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Edited by BessMarvin, 12 April 2012 - 03:00 PM.


#3 AnotherFeral

Posted 14 February 2012 - 07:56 PM

Honestly, I think she's too young for a set bedtime. Let her sleep and do the bath etc. when she wakes at the time closest to your preferred bedtime.

#4 RachealJane

Posted 14 February 2012 - 07:57 PM

At first i thought you were a first time mum til i got down to the bit about your 2yo.
The 2 week old sounds normal that she cries at that time of night. My DD would cluster feed for around 3 or 4 hours in the evenings and would be very unsettled too. But i would eventually get her to sleep 'for the night' by around 10pm.
I say put your DD in a carrier or feed her while you are putting your son to bed and let whatever will be will be.
Also i never woke my DD ever, when they are asleep let them be. A routine can come in at 6 months or older.
Best of luck!

#5 Rach_V

Posted 14 February 2012 - 07:57 PM

Sounds like the arsenic hour(s!) to me. My DD was like this from about 5pm til nearly midnight some nights. She would be very unsettled, fussy, want to feed constantly and suffer from terrible wind. It's all actually very normal. Not much you can do except wait for them to grow out of it.

#6 bikingbubs

Posted 14 February 2012 - 08:01 PM

Sounds totally normal to me.  Just feed until she is happy then rock her to sleep.

#7 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 15 February 2012 - 07:04 AM

Another vote for normal cluster feeding.  It wears off after a while, and you can gradually bring the bedtime back to 7.

#8 Feral-chillibean

Posted 15 February 2012 - 07:15 AM

Exactly what my DD2 is doing and nothing we can do about it.

I use a sling, dummy and try and accept a bit of crying if I can't be there immediately...

#9 Bluenomi

Posted 15 February 2012 - 08:24 AM

2 weeks is a bit early for a set routine. I wouldn't wake her at 6pm, I'd let her sleep until she's happy to wake up. Babies quite often cluster feed in the evening so I'd just go with it and put her down for the night when she's tired

#10 nen-c

Posted 15 February 2012 - 08:30 AM

QUOTE (RachealJane @ 14/02/2012, 08:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I say put your DD in a carrier or feed her while you are putting your son to bed and let whatever will be will be.
Also i never woke my DD ever, when they are asleep let them be. A routine can come in at 6 months or older.
Best of luck!



Totally this, I'd say she has just woken up from her newborn sleepy stage and will need a bit more attention/feeding during the witching hour for another month or so.

#11 belindarama

Posted 15 February 2012 - 10:39 AM

DS2 did this. Cluster feeding every half hour or so for up to four hours. It lasted about a month. It is mostly about establishing supply.

It is hard but there is not much you can do about it. There is not much point being strict about routines at such a young age. They don't really remember anything from one sleep to the next until they are three months old. That is the point where I started trying to get into a sleep routine before that I just did whatever worked.

I set DS1 up with a little table and chairs in front of the couch for when I was feeding. He would eat his dinner there. I relied more than I would like on tv for a few weeks, he had a little DVD player that he used while sitting next to me. I would also set him up with blocks or cars to play with in front of me. Or I would read him stories while I fed the baby.

I would read his bedtime stories with the baby feeding on my lap and settle him for bed with the baby in with us as well. I was home alone most nights as well. It did get better and by three months or so I had them matched up well enough to manage better alone.

#12 Bel Rowley

Posted 15 February 2012 - 11:03 AM

She sounds like a two week old. I have been there, I also had a 2 year old when my #2 was born and a husband who worked long hours and usually wasn't around to help with bedtime routines. What I would do is go with the flow when it comes to your newborn, if she's cranky and unsettled wear her in a sling or whatever carrier you have so she's close to you and comfy while you get your older one ready for bed.

#13 winkywonkeydonkey

Posted 15 February 2012 - 11:19 AM

my advice is dont wake her up from the 6pm sleep. put your 2 year old to sleep during this time.

I remember i had to do everything one handed , my dd got very fussy from 3 weeks-3 months i had her in my arms from 6pm-12am every night.

can you put bub in a sling or carrier whilst your getting your 2 year old to sleep?



#14 Mummy-2-1boy

Posted 16 February 2012 - 07:34 AM

I certainly recall arsenic hr happening with my first, though his went from 5pm until 11pm but I had thought it didn't start until he was maybe 6 weeks...

And by routine, I don't mean at certain times we do certain things, but just that I make sure she is back in bed no later than an hr after she has woken. It has made life a hell of a lot easier with her than what we experienced with our first who used to scream all day from over tiredness.

Thanks for the suggestions, I think I shall be getting my front pack back out!

#15 emibt1975

Posted 16 February 2012 - 12:59 PM

Baby Love and another week by week baby book I have says that in the first 8 weeks or so you should not try and implement any kind of routine and just go with the baby's needs that early on. My daughter is due in May and this is the mantra I am going to try and remember!




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