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#1 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:29 PM

Most people I know seem to have theirs at 38 weeks... My doctor does them no earlier then 39 weeks because of baby's lungs ect.

This is fine, I have no problem with waiting. But would they let me go closer to 40 weeks? The reason being that at 39 weeks I would be in hospital on my sons 1st birthday... And I can't stand the thought of being in there on the same day everything went down last year... Plus I want to make a special cake and acknowledge his birthday like all parents do. So if I waited till after then, I would be 39+4 when I have my c-section. Has anyone had theirs that late?

I've asked my doctor a couple of times if he will let me go that far, but he keeps brushing me off so I'm guessing the answer is no and he will break it to me later on. He has promised he wont do it on 27 July so i might just have to be happy with that. Given that he died during labour with no clear reason they want to avoid me going into labour at all costs. If that does happen, I will have an emergency c-section.

I know it seems trivial but the date is stressing me out. I'd loved hear others stories about their planned section date.

Edited by Starletta, 29 January 2012 - 03:30 PM.


#2 BVB09

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:33 PM

I had my first c-section at 36 weeks and my second at 35 weeks ! Both my babies are perfect and healthy.





#3 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:34 PM

Thanks sim. Were they early for medical reasons or is that just when your doctor chose to do them?

#4 Unatheowl

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:35 PM

I had mine booked as late ad my ob would do it, I think 39 weeks as I was hoping to go into labour before.  And I did.

#5 BVB09

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:39 PM

QUOTE (Starletta @ 29/01/2012, 03:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks sim. Were they early for medical reasons or is that just when your doctor chose to do them?


My first one was due to high blood pressure and baby not dropping.

Second bubs was becoming a little too big, I was going to have a c-section anyway due to the first c-section.

#6 Gerbra Girl

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:42 PM

I had mine at 38+5. My OB would have preferred 39 but due to his operating days was happy with only the 2 day difference. He is the same as your OB which prefers to do it no earlier than 39 due to the potential lung issues unless there is a need.

I would insist that your OB talk about it with you, especially if it is stressing you out. I had a massive meltdown at 35 weeks and insisted my OB take my DS out then and there and that I could not cope any longer. I love my OB as he did not dismiss me but talked about what was wrong and gave me his time to make sure that I was OK.

#7 ~~~~!eternity!~~~~

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:43 PM

Mine was done at 39w1d. So yes, they can go beyond 39w.

#8 tinkster23

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:45 PM

I'd ask for it earlier, rather than later. 38+4 would be a perfectly respectable request given everything else, and your OB would probably prefer that than risking you going into labour


#9 FeRaL n ScReWeD

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:47 PM

Mine is booked for 39+3. I had to neg on that time as I'm waiting on my mum to get here from the states.Forgot to add that my due date from ultrasound and pos opk are out by 6 days. The date by ultrasound is 6 days later. So if you go by my pos opk and period I will be 40+2.
My other two were at 38 and at 38+5.My first was a failed induction at 36 weeks due to pe.

#10 vanessa71

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:49 PM

The first was done at 39w5d and the second was 39w2d. My OB didn't really like to do them before 39 weeks.

Edited by vanessa71, 29 January 2012 - 03:52 PM.


#11 Emily Thorne

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:55 PM

I know this sounds a bit tenuous, but my boss's wife just had her first child by elective Caesar at 39+5 on Friday.  She was initially booked for 38 weeks but had consulted Dr Google about better outcomes at 39 weeks.  Her Ob was away for a bit and then it was Australia Day, so she got 39+5.  She was actually pushing for it to be 39 +6 but they drew the line in the end.

Goodness, I feel for you.  It's incredible how the dates have worked.  All the best.

#12 tibs

Posted 29 January 2012 - 04:06 PM

I had my second c sec at 39w5d.  I'm not sure I'd leave it that late again, she was over 9 pounds and there was meconium in my waters which meant extra monitoring etc for the baby afterwards. But at the time I thought it was a good idea and asked for that day rather than the week before and the OB was fine with that.

#13 IsolaBella

Posted 29 January 2012 - 04:14 PM

DS1 was booked for 38w5d. He arrived 37w5d (broke my waters and was emerg c/s).

DS2 was booked for 38w OB dates (37w5d my dates). I was happy with this as my other choice was on EDD. As DS1 didn't make it to the c/s date I didn't want to have the later date.

DD was booked for 38w5d. She arrived 36w3d. She put me into labour.



#14 mummyofour

Posted 29 January 2012 - 04:16 PM

I was 38 weeks with DD2 as I was given the choice of 2 dates - the second date was my FIL birthday and I wanted her to have her own date.

DD3 was 39 weeks.

I completely get where you're coming from and I think you should talk to your OB about your concerns..... he may surprise you.....

#15 Bitter - Sweet

Posted 29 January 2012 - 04:29 PM

I'm having mine in March when I will be 38+4 weeks.  I'm a public patient and it was booked in when I was around 23 weeks.  My Dr was aiming to get me in at 39 weeks for the same reasons as yours, so the babies lungs are fully developed, however the planned C-sections are done on Thursdays, so if it was not at 38+4 it would have been 39+4 so it was decided to go for the first option.


Talk to your OB again about your concerns, hopefully he will be a little more empathetic towards you.

Edited by White Diamonds, 29 January 2012 - 06:36 PM.


#16 mummaorange

Posted 29 January 2012 - 04:44 PM

you have every right to have it at 40 weeks. mine is "booked" for 42 weeks.
If i do not go into labour before then i will go in at 42 weeks and have the damned csection.

They cannot force you to have it earlier. esp given you need to be able to be with your family etc

#17 Lazycow

Posted 29 January 2012 - 05:03 PM

DD1 38+6

DS2 40 weeks

Both of these were done in the UK so not really relevant. rolleyes.gif

DD2 was 38+6 in a public hospital, the doctor originally wanted to do it at 39+1, but I didn't want her birthday to be on 1st April so the doctor agreed to do the C-section  earlier.

#18 ~DrSeussRules~

Posted 29 January 2012 - 05:03 PM

Isn't term considered 38-42 weeks? So anything within this timeframe is considered a baby born full term.

I've had one at 39.4 and one at 38.5

both healthy, good weight bubs.

#19 StudyMum

Posted 29 January 2012 - 05:23 PM

It depends - are you going public or private? (sorry I may of missed it)

With my second (first was an emergency c-section) I went public and initially they refused to do it any earlier than 39 weeks preferring to do it as close as possible to 39 weeks. After the midwives rallying on my behalf and meeting with the head obs I got a date of 38 + 5 (earlier was requested because DH's work were being @sses and not allowing him time off). I also didn't find out until about a week and a half before my surgery date.

This time we are going private and again, my obs prefers as close to 39 weeks as possible but due to my dates it looks like I am going to be booked in at about 38 + 4. Compared to the public system though he is more open to "discussing" it and I'm sure I could possible get him to 39 + 2 or 3.


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#20 Guest_Starletta_*

Posted 29 January 2012 - 05:40 PM

Thanks for your input everyone.

I suppose I could broach the possibility of 38+3... That should have me home in time for the 27th and at least it's later than 38 weeks. I want to do the right thing by the baby though so my first choice would be as close to 40 weeks as possible. I'll be having monitoring at the end (I think NST) so maybe if I am closely watched they will let baby cook a little longer original.gif

My ob is very understanding, he was there during my last labour and delivered my son so he knows how stressful it is. I'm guessing he doesn't want to get into a discussion about it now as no decision can be made yet?

I'm going private

#21 sahmmum

Posted 29 January 2012 - 07:39 PM

First one was 39 weeks the other two were 38 weeks. With my first one I actually went into labour so I had it a day earlier then planned.



#22 Ruby'sMum

Posted 29 January 2012 - 09:34 PM

My first was an emergency cs at 43 weeks, this time isn't booked yet but my OB says we'll do it 'in the 39th week'.  Good luck!

#23 NotBitzerMaloney

Posted 29 January 2012 - 09:51 PM

Mine is booked at 39+1.
Dr Google and various studies show 39th week is best in terms of outcomes. However, your personal history trumps all that - only you and your doctor can assess the relative risks of having the c/s earlier rather than later and trade that off against your desire not to be in hospital on that date.



#24 wenbart

Posted 29 January 2012 - 10:18 PM

my o.b's surgery day is a Monday. So c/s 1 was at exactly 39 weeks, c/s2 was at 38+5 and c/s3 was done at 37+4 probably should have been a week later, but i prefered it earlier so it wouldn't be close to xmas! All big healthy babies with no breathing problems. Good luck with your descion and delivery! Try not to stress too much!

#25 ~ky~

Posted 30 January 2012 - 02:22 AM

Hey beautiful ...

When we booked the date for Anna's caesar, I told them that in no uncertain terms was I to be in hospital or having her around the 22nd which is Ruby's birthday.

Because I am diabetic, they chose to go earlier rather that later so she was born on the 17th and I was home two days later which meant I had been out of hospital for a few days when Ruby's birthday came around. There was no way that I would have coped with being in hospital then.

So, Anna was born at 38 weeks on the dot.

I hope that they are understanding when you speak to them. I found that the OB I dealt with was very understanding and cared how I felt.

eta ... my older children were born at 37 and 36 weeks and neither had issues with their lungs, so there is no guarantee that you little one will be ill if born closer to 38 weeks if necessary xxx

Edited by ~ky~, 30 January 2012 - 02:26 AM.





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