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#26 Madnesscraves

Posted 29 January 2012 - 03:03 AM

Lullaby music. I'm using Una Mattina CD to get her sleepy at night. Works like a charm.

Other than that I just hold her. She goes to sleep an hour after feed. She will wriggle a bit but gets tired enough she starts to relax and go to sleep.

#27 Alina0210

Posted 29 January 2012 - 04:29 AM

Feed feed feed feed..... Then when they fall asleep I cosleep with them.... Cuddles etc.

Oh and my kids where (still are) night owls... When DD2 was a newborn she would be wide awake from 5pm until about 12am.... She would have boob but refuse to sleep, after I realized this, DH would go to bed earlier then I would set myself up in front of the computer with drink of water, a movie or tv show plus the Internet and just hang out by the computer and use it as 'me time' while I fed and talked to baby.... Then after a while she would relax and fall asleep and I'd pack up and head to bed.... Made the nights less stressful and I was so much more aware of what she wanted....

#28 Mummy_123

Posted 29 January 2012 - 05:43 AM

Hi OPOne recommendation I found excellent (always stops crying at least) is to sit in an exercise ball with them and bounce for all you're worth. Or if u get tired stick them in their capsule and bounce it on top of the ball.
We also discovered yesterday when bubs got upset while in the car and would NOT take a dummy, that my little finger upside down in his mouth worked an absolute treat and he was soon asleep. Bit hard if you're the one driving at the time though lol

#29 busymumof1&1/2

Posted 30 January 2012 - 09:26 AM

Hi OP,
  My DD2 is like this at the moment. She wakes at about 6 pm feeds for 15 minutes on one side and then plays for about 30 minutes (while I am getting DD1 ready for bed) then is back on the boob for another 15 minutes. She is then content and awake for about an hour (while I put DD1 to bed) then she wants back on the boob.
   She will usually fall asleep at about 10pm, but every time I put her down she wakes again in 15 minutes. I have started to give her a bath every second evening in order to get her awake enough to feed properly, in order to get her to sleep better. Most evenings though, she does not fall off until about 12pm, and this is while on the boob, in front of the TV (turned down really low), without any lights on, wrapped really tight.
It gets a little hard to get up at 6 with DD1, but as DD2 usually sleeps through until 8 am I am at least getting a full block of sleep. I am now just resigned to the fact that this is our night time routine.
I will have to start setting up the computer in front of me though, as the TV is getting very boring at that time of night.
   I am hoping that this routine is due for a change soon, as DD2 has just self settled for the first time this morning. I would usually fed to sleep, but this morning I moved her from the swing (which I use during the day) to her bassinette, and she woke, but did not cry for a resettle, and after about 20 minutes of looking around (I was checking on her) she fell off to sleep herself.
It sounds as if you are doing all of the correct things to resettle your little one, just dont worry, as long as it is not a distressed cry, just go with it.

#30 mum_mum

Posted 30 January 2012 - 02:36 PM

We found these videos by the Queen Elizabeth Centre that our MCH nurse let us know about to be helpful:
http://www.qec.org.au/vodcasts.php
http://vimeo.com/qec

#31 Champion83

Posted 30 January 2012 - 02:45 PM

today DS fell asleep in a sling while I walked up and down the driveway. My poor neighbours often see me doing this in my pyjamas! The light makes him close his eyes and the heart geat does the rest.

Luckily my driveway is flat.

Now I have to get him out of the sling without waking him...so far all attempts are unsuccessful

#32 lucky 2

Posted 30 January 2012 - 07:50 PM

Hello,

I know it's late in the thread but if you do read this and would like this thread pinned then please post a reply.

I think it's great for mums who are going through early parenting now (or have done so recently enough to remember) to give each other their settling tips.

I'm sure it will be very helpful to other mums.

Kind regards,

lucky 2
Moderator of Birth -6 Months forum

#33 M&Ms

Posted 30 January 2012 - 10:54 PM

Pinning sounds like a good idea. I wish I had known about these when DS was little!
I found that the kitchen exhaust fan really helped to calm DS down. We rocked to sleep for most naps and fed to sleep.
The fit ball was handy when I got tired, the rocking chair too. The swing did not work for us.


#34 Azadel

Posted 30 January 2012 - 11:07 PM

Agree this should be pinned.

I would go topless, have my DS in just his nappy, and just allow him to sleep on my chest and suckle whenever he pleased, (this is also the only thing that helped us through our problems getting bfeeding established). I didn't do it all the time, just when he was very distressed and it worked beautifully for us.

#35 Feral_Pooks

Posted 31 January 2012 - 07:08 AM

Yes PLEASE! I have already saved a link to this thread because this is GOLDEN original.gif

Edited by pookems85, 31 January 2012 - 07:09 AM.


#36 ABabyPlease

Posted 31 January 2012 - 09:07 AM

Taking baby for a walk around the garden. Calming for Mum too.

Walking up & down on the front patio - baby settles and the added benefit is that people going past give such sympathetic looks.

Give baby to Dad!

Sing songs - all the time.

Tummy time - it helped him get out any burps and settled him.

Make "Shhhhhhhhhhhhhh" sound, it reminds baby of being inside the womb.

Just think how much harder it will be when baby is a teenager and you are wondering when he will get home...  And if he will have drunk too much, have bad friends, been in a fight, got a girl pregnant, been in a car with a drunk driver etc etc!!!!!  Gee it makes a crying baby seem so easy!

#37 Champion83

Posted 16 February 2012 - 08:56 AM

put them in a grobag each time as a signal that it is sleep time

#38 Maniacal_laugh

Posted 16 February 2012 - 09:08 AM

Re putting them down when they fall asleep in your arms - my girlfriend puts her hand on the baby's chest while she is still holding him, then puts him down in the bassinet but leaves her hand on his chest for a few minutes. She said it works a treat.

I used a home-made hugabub for arsenic hour, lots of walking up and down and singing twinkle twinkle little star (tip: learn the extra verses to make it last longer).

#39 Toy Ambition

Posted 17 April 2012 - 05:07 PM

Do a search on Harvey Karp, hes a specialist in settling babies. I got onto him when my baby was only 3 weeks old and i've never had a bad night unless when shes teething. He swaddles the baby really firmly and has a light giggling motion, it may sound weird but it truly works. You can buy his DVD but he has video footage you can follow online just do the search. Its worth it!

Edited by lucky 2, 17 April 2012 - 09:19 PM.


#40 Toy Ambition

Posted 17 April 2012 - 05:08 PM

One other thing once baby is swaddled, put the vacuum cleaner on or the hair dryer and watch how instantly baby settles. The noise is supposedly like that in the womb and thats why they settle so well.

#41 kim0111

Posted 11 May 2012 - 09:49 AM

Hi Everyone,

I have a 14 week old son and we have been trying to self settle him day and night since he was 9 weeks old. He has learnt to settle to sleep with minimal assistance from parents during the day and he will generally have 2 sleeps and one nap in the afternoon.
Some days his first sleep will only be one sleep cycle but can be confident his next will be at least one hour.

When it comes to getting him off to sleep at night time however is a completely different story.  I try not to let him stay up for more than 2 hours before putting him down, always looking for tired cues after an hour of being awake after his nap to put to bed.

We do have a flexible routine of once he wakes to have a bath, play (quiet play) feed then check nappy, put in sleeping suit cuddles and put to bed. He must know  exactly what is going on because some nights even just entering his room he starts to protest and will scream when his dad or I put him down in his cot. We do try to make sure he is relaxed before putting him down, however come that time of night (and yes have tried to delay time +/- hour to see if any difference) he will have his head up wide eyed and alert waiting to be put down..

We pat him, stroke him in his cot trying to console him for a few minutes to settle him however it doesnt work. Even after a few minutes we leave for a couple of minutes to see if he will actually calm down, but he persists. Its not just crying or grizzling to start, its screaming and red in face and yes tears do eventually come. We don't let him cry like this for long even with us in there. We pick him up after say 5-10 minutes and try to calm him down, check his nappy, clothing, burp, cuddles and kisses and ALL soothing techniques. He usually has a good feed at night however do not offer a feed until say half hr to an hr later if nothing else works. When I do offer he usually takes it and falls asleep feeding and probably out of exhaustion from crying and being overtired (at this point hes usually been awake for 3 hours). I am concerned he may have silent reflux as he has regular hiccups, what seems to be a dry cough, fussy, retches after a burp sometimes, seems to have many wet burps after all his feeds, bad sleeping, arches his back during feeding at night and cries on occasions.

The nights he has gone down without too much of a fuss, I try to repeat the next day but doesnt work!

Any help...?

thanks in advance...

#42 Feral_Pooks

Posted 11 May 2012 - 09:56 AM

That sounds like my baby, and he has silent reflux. Check with your gp because the only thing to help us was getting him medicated. Good luck, it's really hard watching them in pain, but if it is reflux its very treatable.

#43 mommiestella

Posted 30 May 2012 - 05:17 PM

i cradle and rock my LO in my arms and sing him a song. even humming can soothe him and put him to sleep..

#44 avjg

Posted 14 July 2012 - 08:55 PM

The Dyson - vacuum.

I hold my 5 week old in one arm and vacuum with the other.

Sends her off to sleep or at the very least calms her down.

#45 Pop-to-the-shops

Posted 05 August 2012 - 06:47 AM

If you want to try noise... There is an app called sleep pillow.

It has noises like rain,waves, vacuum cleaner. I was skeptical but bub seems to like it!



#46 gusbus

Posted 29 March 2013 - 04:41 PM

During the night my 5 month old is sometimes a pain to get to sleep he looks around behind me and trys to look behind himself like theres something hovering around him... kinda weird and kreepy at times, and he just crys and crys till I cover his eyes with a blanket and have to slowly rock him while walking.. very frustrating at times especially when my arthritis nin my hips is playing up. But it works. Blanket over the eyes till there I in bed. Try putting something near the cot with your scent on it. That can work for comfort at night cos they cant see you.

The other thing that works for during the day is music. But it has to be what ever his mum (me) or his dad is listening to at the time as our music tastes vary. He also loves it when his dad plays drums it puts him to sleep which is amazing given the fact of how loud they are!

Edited by gusbus, 29 March 2013 - 04:47 PM.


#47 dueFeb13

Posted 03 April 2013 - 02:47 PM

My bub is 6 and a half weeks and settles herself well already. I will snuggle and rock her with a shh shh quietly in her ear until her eyes are nearly closed then put her down to do the last bit herself.

She tends to get a lot of wind in the last hour or so before bed that seems to be painful, I will bicycle her legs and lay her accross my arm face down to get things moving. Once the wind passes she settles pretty easily.

I found that differing day and night for her from the beggining has helped. Day time naps are in a swing in the lounge with the tv on and the blinds open - sun streaming in and night time is pitch black - shutters down, silent and she tends to sleep through as of the last week (around 7-9 hours straight). Prior to sleeping through she would wake at 5 hours for a dream feed - I would catch her at the lip smacking stage so she doesnt get stressed over it - and go back down within the hour for another 3-4 hours as long as the light was dim and we were silent with her - as soon as noise is made and a light is on she thinks it is up time!!!

I have been told I have been lucky with her though so I don't know if this will help anyone else... I just know a happy chubby baby sleeps well, so make sure bub is full and don't let him/her get stressed, learn to read the signs for what s/he wants or needs, much easier to get bubs to sleep if the stress doesn't kick in first original.gif

#48 belinda1976

Posted 03 April 2013 - 02:52 PM

White Noise CD worked a treat for me.

I also had an electronic swing with DD2 - fantastic invention!!!

#49 Nina Thomas

Posted 24 August 2013 - 09:54 PM

actually mine used to sleep while breastfeeding, except for the teething periods for sure. but we all had bad nights sometimes. i think we just can't prevent them :doh:

#50 Eadie-Mae

Posted 08 December 2014 - 06:54 PM

we make sure our baby girl is fully burped...and then burp some more! we have had wind issues from birth to about 3 months.  we tried reducing the amount of forumla before burping...30ml, burp, 30ml burp.  we find it builds up throughout the day so by night she just cries in pain.

the battery operated swing worked absolute wonders for us.  it was worth it's weight in gold. and sharing burping duties!

have you changed her sleep environment or sleep clothing? sometimes just a small change can make a big impact on baby. i.e. going from long sleeve to short sleeve clothes. i know it sounds trivial, but they do get very used to what they are used to!

we also find the musical mobile is great as it spins and plays music for 15-20mins and gives her something to focus on while she self-settles.  also, bubs can cry if she is overtired too.  other things i mentally go though each time: is nappy ok? is it full? is there acidic poo (benpanthen)? is she full? does she have wind? has she vomitted in the cot / on herself? is she in teething pain (are gums swollen/puffy with white at the top)?

we don't do a dummy or any toys/teddies in the cot.




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