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#1 katieface84

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:39 PM

He was a beautiful loving 23 year old man that wanted nothing more than to find someone to love him and have a future together.

He had a history of mental illness, with four alarming suicide attempts in the last 18 mths. The last one was New Years Eve. Apparently he was assessed and it was decided that he was not at any immediate danger to himself and didn't need to be admitted. Less than two weeks later, last night, he ended his life.

He needed help so desperately and didn't get it. He had just finished his physiotherapy degree and was due to graduate next week. He had so much to live for but just couldn't cope anymore.

I'm angry at the public mental health system because I need someone to blame. My heart is breaking that my beautiful little brother won't see his nephew (my 2 yr old DS who adored him) grow up and that he will never meet my little girl who is due in 3 1/2 months.

I miss him so much already. Life is never going to be the same.

I hope you found the peace you were looking for little brother, I love you xxx

#2 Starrydawn

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:42 PM

I am so sorry. What a tragedy. My heart goes out to you and your family.

#3 Theophobic

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:43 PM

Oh Katie I am so sorry for your loss. As someone who also has a sibling bouncing in and out of the mental health system in WA I can sympathise with your anger. Something needs to be done to help people in need in this state.

I am so sorry.

#4 anikal

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:44 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss  nno.gif
I couldn't read and not reply. My brothers mean the world to me. I don't always understand how they think, but I would be devastated if any of them chose that option.


Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:44 PM

So sorry to read about your brother OP.  Thinking of you and your family.

#6 Lees75

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:44 PM

Oh, katieface84, I am so sorry about the loss of your brother. My heart breaks for you. This was my family last year when my aunty took her own life on New Years Day, 2 hours after being assessed sad.gif  

RIP, katieface84's little brother. xx

Love and thoughts to you and your family. xxx

Edited by Lees75, 23 January 2012 - 09:30 PM.

#7 sks_2009

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:44 PM

I don't belong in this section, but couldn't not post after reading this.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, such a loss.

I think it's natural to feel angry, it sounds like he was crying out for help but couldn't find it.

Please take care, of you,your little boy and your pregnancy.

take care xoxo

#8 CocobeanLillylove

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:45 PM

So sorry Katieface. What heartbreaking news.

I too hope that more can be done for those with mental illness as I have several people in my life that struggle with this very real illness and I worry and stress that one day they too will fall victim to this devastating illness.

So sorry about your beloved brother and uncle to your son and daughter. I pray that he is in peace.


#9 butterfly-vjb

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:46 PM

I am so sorry for your loss.  I am thinking of you and your family at this time.

#10 coopersmumma

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:48 PM

Iam so sorry for your loss. Iam thinking of you at this hard time.  sad.gif  xxxx

Edited by Therese, 23 January 2012 - 09:10 AM.

#11 Aqua Kitty Kat

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:49 PM

How devastating. I feel so sad for you. I also hope he has found some peace.

#12 niggles

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:50 PM

I am so sorry Katie.

I also really relate to your anger and frustration. It's heartbreaking and I hope you get all the love and support you need right now.

Can't express how much my heart goes out to you and yours tonight.

Edited by niggles, 22 January 2012 - 11:51 PM.

#13 BadgerBasher

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:53 PM

I'm sorry for your loss.

#14 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:53 PM

I am so sorry for your loss.

Edited by Therese, 23 January 2012 - 09:10 AM.

#15 ChickenortheEgg?

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:55 PM

I'm sorry for the loss of your brother. sad.gif

#16 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 22 January 2012 - 11:59 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your brother is at peace.

#17 Lazycow

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:01 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss.

#18 Gone-Country

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:04 AM

I am so very sorry for your tragic loss.  The Mental Health system is seriously strained and needs lots of changes. I am sorry that your brother slipped through the cracks.  

Sincerest thoughts at this terrible time.

Edited by Therese, 23 January 2012 - 09:11 AM.

#19 Tunip

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:05 AM

I'm so terribly sorry; I cannot envisage your pain.

I hope the days, weeks, months and years to come are gentle on you.

Words seem so insignificant... I'm sorry.

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Edited by mummasaurus, 23 January 2012 - 12:14 AM.

#20 Dowager fancie

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:06 AM

I'm so very sorry for your loss, katieface84.  I know that words cannot even hope to bring comfort to you at the moment.  Thinking of you.  

#21 lucky 2

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:06 AM

I am so sorry to hear of your brother's suffering and of his death sad.gif. Best wishes for you and your family.

#22 *Caro*

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:07 AM

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

#23 Sweet like a lemon

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:07 AM

I'm so sorry OP. How devastating.

#24 CallMeFeral

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:09 AM

I'm so sorry... words don't do it justice.

#25 FeralSingleMum

Posted 23 January 2012 - 12:19 AM

So sorry for your loss.

The same thing happened to my Aunty (in QLD). She saw a psychologist at Mental Health and she told them that she wanted to lieC on the road in black. They gave her another appointment and sent her on her way. A month later she had taken an overdose.

I know nothing I can say will make it better but know you are in my thoughts

Edited by Therese, 23 January 2012 - 09:24 AM.

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