Can you elect to have a c-section
if you have no medical reason for it
, Jan 20 2012 08:55 PM
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Posted 13 April 2012 - 08:45 PM
My C/S was 'elective' but in hindsight was necessary. I'll probably go C/S again next time if we have more. I agree, find a care provider to suit your needs public or private & discuss your needs early on.
Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:47 PM
I have had two vaginal deliveries and both times there has been complications and I have been in the hospital recovering longer than the other mums who had c/s. The second one, the delivery went textbook but had to get put under to manually remove the placenta, which wasn't as easy as they thought. Waking up hours later to a screaming newborn and a white faced daddy was horrible. I sometimes think that if I have a third I should ask for a c-section as I think I would rather be awake than put to sleep again. I think that's why he's almost 4 now and I'm only now contemplating a third as it took me a long time to get over the birth. Although at the back of my mind is that it is still major surgery, and maybe it might be third time lucky! However, I can now understand why some opt for a c/s whereas before the thought of a c/s terrified me.
Posted 13 April 2012 - 09:59 PM
I know several Obstetricians who will do their best to alleviate fears and discourage an elective C/S, I know several others who, when approached by a patient who is informed and educated with regard to the risks of C/S will say yes without a fight.
In the public system there are C/S for what 'others' may deem to be non medical reasons but due to funding etc there will be more resistance and more proof of previous trauma or emotional/mental health issues.
It is all about searching for the right caregiver for your needs.
I had a horrible labour and birth, and was advised to not be induced again due to a reaction and also with the babies size I was unable to get him out as I was 'narrow'? (he was forceps, I haemoragged severly and had a 3rd degree tear) (typical, skinniest part of me is my vagina) and he had a big head and broad shoulders. I probably will go public next time and just use my insurance and hope for a private room, would I be able to seek a C/S as per my previous history and advice from the doctors?
Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:02 PM
I went through private and paid a lot of money to my OB and he would only do it if medically required. Turned out it was for me in the end.
If I was your friend, I would be checking for certain that her OB is willing to do this.
Oh, and btw, I had the most horrible recovery. I was still sore after 3 months from my c-section, I couldnt bend for two months without horrible pain. I couldnt bath my son, put the pram together to go for walks or change his nappy on the change table for the first 8 weeks. It was terrible. We ended up moving to my mums house so she could help me.
I have friends who recovered really well from c-sections. It just wasnt the case for me.
Posted 21 April 2012 - 08:58 PM
Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't recovery from a c-section take a lot longer and is quite painful for quite a while? Does your friend realise it's not just, cut open - get baby out - stitch up, and voila! no pain, no tenderness, no restrictions??
Sorry I think pain & recovery is a very individual thing, it CAN take longer, but not necessarily. I had an elective for medical reasons, both respiratory physician and ob thought it was very likely my larynx would spasm in delivery & I would end up intubated & emergency c-section under general and honestly it was a breeze. Went in, got the spinal, vomited, bub was born, was up and walking as soon as they took the catheter out, showered myself and had very minimal pain, only needed panadol a few times. On the other hand, some of the other Mums from my antenatal class were in at the same time, having trouble getting out of bed and needing the shower chair after having vaginal births.
To answer OPs question yep she certainly can. There was a Mum in the antenatal class before mine who "didn't want to ruin herself" (her words, not mine) down there so had an elective, no questons asked
Posted 21 April 2012 - 09:31 PM
I just advised my obstetrician on Friday (1st appointment) that I wanted a c-section, (I don't really and I am scared of the operation and recovery but.....) this was after I explained my first son who is now 11 years old had a neonatal stroke and now has cerebral palsy and epilepsy after a long posterior birth. There is no way I am taking any chance of anything going wrong again. I am also 37 years old (so seen as to be ancient in terms of being pregnant!) and my baby is 3rd round of ivf conceived also. My obstetrician had no hesitation in saying "I was going to ask if you want a c-section after that history". I think, each to their own in their own circumstances.
Your history is similar to mine. My bs is now 13yo and I had a difficult birth 51 hours resulting in an emergency c/section. My OB had no issue with an elective c/s for baby #2 (cycle 9 of IVF) and now again for baby #3 (miracle natural pregnancy).
Due to my age (40yo this year), history and wanting the safest birth for the baby I am happy to make the choice for a c/s. Im not looking forward to the recovery and it is harsh however I honestly do not think it would be safe to try for a vbac.
I am also going privately so that the choice was more straight forward than I have heard in the public system.
Posted 21 April 2012 - 09:42 PM
I think it should be up to the woman. I'm going to try natural if I can for my first bub and I have vaginismus, I really want to know how bad birth is before I go for drugs or c section lol
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