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Posted 19 December 2011 - 09:48 PM
YAY! Will pop the list up soon.
Edited by Likeemunusual, 19 December 2011 - 09:49 PM.
Posted 19 December 2011 - 10:22 PM
When: Jan 2012
Name: Tamzin1984 (Tamara)
Location: Tamworth, NSW
When: April 2012
When: April 2012
Location: Perth, WA
When: Around Sept 2012
Name: princessmiasmummy (Stacie)
When: As soon as DH says yes!!!
Name: Sassy Dingo
When: January 2012
When: Feb 2012
When: Dec 2011-Feb 2012
When: March 2012
When: Dec 2011/Jan 2012
When: July 2012
When: Jan 2012
When: September 2012
When: Early 2012
Location: Nth Ctrl Victoria
When: Maybe 2012
Location: Perth, WA
When: June 2012
Location: Gold Coast
When: May 2012
Name: V’s mum
When: September 2012
When: late 2012
When: May/June 2012
Please advise if any details/circumstances have changed or can be added, or if I have missed anyone.
Posted 20 December 2011 - 10:32 AM
Not much happening here right now. Procrastinating something fierce about doing housework today & the place desperately needs it. Christmas presents need finalising & wrapping, putting that off too. I'm very unsure of which presents to actually give to DD as she's been very naughty & rude of late. TBH, I'm at the point of only wanting to give her 1 gift or nothing at all. Its extremely frustrating.
Still no news on TTC#2 here, am getting rather impatient & annoyed now. DH bought a Brock Commodore yesterday, he's a rev head & been wanting to get his hands on one for ages. So, I want to know, what his answer is, NOW!!!
BBL, off to finish this tip of a house!
Edited for spelling errors.
Edited by PrincessMiasMummy, 20 December 2011 - 10:33 AM.
Posted 20 December 2011 - 03:32 PM
Just wanted to catch the thread, have a very sick bubba so will come back later for personals (again).
Posted 20 December 2011 - 03:42 PM
Hi all can I join? We are thinking about TTC #3 next year.
Posted 20 December 2011 - 07:53 PM
PrincessMiasMummy - My house needs a full on spring clean as it hasn't been done properly in ages. I am hoping to get some done after Christmas on the public holidays. If DH gets a commodore doesn't that mean you get something too? Fx for you.
gisses - hope bub gets well soon.
Welcome mum2two2010. I will add you to the list.
PrincessPeach - glad you had a great time at the Christmas do and that your friend's bub was so good. I saw my nieces on the weekend - one is 2 and one is 4.5 months. It made me have those "I want one now please" feelings too. My 2 yr old niece comes out with the funniest things - she's hilarious.
The banana bread was delicious but I had no sultanas this time so it feels like it is missing something to me. Still love it though. Nothing else exciting happening other than we went in to a Telstra shop to change our phones over to pre-paid from Vodafone/3 now that we are out of contract. The service was awful at the store but hey at least we'll have good coverage and we are not contracted to stay with them.
I went and tried a dress on today too as I need something to wear on Boxing Day when we have our second family Christmas do at the IL's (BIL and SIL will be here then). I have lost quite a few centimetres off everywhere and I am amazed. I was only at the bigger end of a size 12 and I am now a borderline size 10/12 depending on the brand/label/clothing item. But those awful change room mirrors didn't make me feel depressed which is great and I tried on a medium sized dress and it was too BIG! It was a great feeling and thanks to the exercise and eating better/slower/less than I was I feel energised and less stressed. Life is good right now for the most part. Except that i can't find a dress to wear at Christmas that fits but that is the least of my worries really.
Posted 20 December 2011 - 11:50 PM
I was hoping I would be able to join your group. I'm 27, I have a 18 month old DS and my DH would love to have a second (like yesterday) but I have been the one putting the brakes on.
I really was not a fan of pregnancy (bleeding throughout) and add on an awful induction / 12 hour labour / foetal distress and giving birth via emergency c-section, I'm really not that keen to do it all again.... Also I found the first 6 -10 weeks of my DS life incredibly hard to cope with and when I think about it now I am saddened by how I just floated through all those special times... completely uncaring about what was going on around me, and wondering what the hell I had done.....
I wouldn't change anything for the world obviously but I worry about not coping with a toddler and a newborn and I worry about missing out on the special moments with my DS.
I guess I was wondering if there was anyone else out there who had misgivings about trying for #2, I definitely want a second child (eventually) but I just don't know when to start trying (or how to get over the issues from the previous pregnancy).
Or maybe I'm just over thinking it all What's holding everyone else back? Am I the only Mum who is halting the baby making plans?
Posted 21 December 2011 - 04:28 PM
Rach, Welcome in!
Dont have a child as yet, so i can't answer from a mum's perspective, however the reason for my wait is because i've got two weddings to go to early next year, both involving over 3 hours of travel each way and i want to enjoy both without worrying about food/drink/etc..
Though my SIL had such a rotten time when she deliverd her first she really doesnt want to go back for a second. She hasn't expressed a reason why, though at any family gatherings when people ask us both about any more grandkids for out PIL she does say to ask me...her DS is 16 months.
Posted 22 December 2011 - 02:11 PM
This is this is my first post and I am completely new to this and not familiar with alot of the jargon /acronyms etc.
I am newly single as of mid 2011. I am 34yrs old (I turned 34 in October). I started to worry about my single status and wanting children so I had my AMH levels tested this month. I was told it was 4.6 pmol/L. The letter says that the range means “Low AMH Level: Possibility of abnormal ovarian reserve”
Needless to say I was really shocked, upset, have been trying not to cry and went into full on panic mode. My first thoughts were that I might miss out altogether, that I might have to be a single mum with a donor and find ‘the one’ later on…..and that I would have to let go of my 1 -2 yr dating a guy period, then marriage – then kids dreams.
I also have a "subseptate uterus" and I have been told that this may very well cause me to miscarry the first time and I will have to try again – but then again there’s no sure thing with that. So I could potentially lose another year of time and AMH levels there!
I know we all change at different rates but, my questions are – generally speaking how many years does this AMH figure mean I have left?
What is the average AMH range for someone of my age? How much does this ‘generally’ decrease each year?
What steps should I be taking at this stage in life to give myself every chance I can of not missing out on children? (Besides trying to find a guy).
I have made an appointment for the end of January to speak to a fertility specialist – I guess we will cover freezing eggs etc. But that appointment is so long away – I am really worried at the moment and need to hear some info asap.
Any advice on what my my game plan should be?
I was also thinking maybe I should wait until I am 35 or 36 (or whenever my AMH levels are down to 3.5) and get a sperm donor.
Posted 22 December 2011 - 02:48 PM
Sorry thought I was posting on the low ovarian board - all the signing up and redirecting lost where I was reading.
Posted 22 December 2011 - 07:40 PM
Hi everyone, I will pop back tomorrow when I have more time but Rach i just wanted to say, I have DD who is 7 months old and I am ready for #2 (like yesterday! haha!) But you are not alone in having misgivings! I had a trouble free pregnancy and birth and I always question myself about 'the love'. I love Violet so much, sometimes I wonder how I am going to love #2 the same! I've spoken to friends about that and it is not uncommon. I have a friend who had a similar experience to you during pregnancy and birth and she is exactly the same as you, feeling very concerned about doing it all again. I think even if you haven't had a tough time, lots of people wonder about #2 and going through it all again, so I can only imagine how stressful it must be if you had a difficult pregnancy and birth. You are not alone! Good to join a group like this so you can talk about it.
Posted 24 December 2011 - 08:35 PM
Just another quicky from me to wish you all a Merry Christmas, I keep missing out on the change of thread!!
We finished painting the bedrooms this week, and got 5 coming for lunch tomorrow. Should be nice. Hope you all have a good day too.
Also anyone already on Elevit, where have you found best to get it? 4 years ago the girls in my ttc thread were all ordering it from epharmacy, just wondering if that was still the best option?
Best be off to bed, before Santa comes!
Posted 26 December 2011 - 10:39 AM
Merry Christmas everyone. Hope you all had a lovely day yesterday.
Rach: I have not had any children yet so I don't speak from experience but perhaps you can talk to your doctor or OB and discuss what the likelihood is of you having a similar pg this time round and if there is anything at all you could do to try and minimise the issues you had last time. Nature intended us to forget about the bad stuff that happens during pg and birth so that we will go on to procreate more so if you haven't forgotten yet (how could you forget something that sounds so traumatic) then perhaps waiting a while won't hurt. I am the one in my relationship holding off having children until we are in a slightly better financial situation. We need some breathing space before I'll feel comfortable but I am hoping to start TTC sometime in 2012. Fx
maybereadyagain: I'm on BWCG not Elevit but I get mine from Woolies as they are as cheap if not a bit cheaper than buying it online or in pharmacy. I've heard Elevit has higher Iron and Folate levels but they don't have some other things that are supposed to be good? I should probably be on Elevit but then I had heard that it actually wouldn't matter for the higher Iron as it would be competing with all the other vitamins for absorption and therefore I probably wouldn't see a benefit anyway.
AFM: my BIL and SIL are flying over today from Sydney and I get to meet my nephew (if I can pry him from MIL's hands) for the first time. Then tomorrow morning we are spending some time at my sister's place and I'll get to see my nieces. So lots of baby cuddling and second Christmases for me. Also, I think as of today I am making an early NY's resolution to give up alcohol. I had a few drinks on Friday night with work mates and I have been feeling awful ever since. It doesn't matter lately though whether I have one or several I still feel terrible afterwards - it's just the duration of terribleness. So I'm going to give up booze for a year. Has anyone done that? Not sure how I am going to go but I've told DH as well that he needs to keep me on the straight and narrow. So while the pavlova I am making for our second Christmas dinner dessert is in the oven resting I am looking at iced tea and non-alcoholic drink recipes! Have a great day.
Posted 27 December 2011 - 12:04 AM
Hi ladies!! I hope everyone had a safe and happy christmas!
Thank you to those who gave advice. I really do think my first port of call is the Dr to discuss my last pregnancy. And give myself some more time not to feel pressured.
Likeemunusual - Have a great time with your nephew. Also on the alcohol thing. My DH gives it up periodically. His biggest hurdle would be his friends. Hopefully your friends are more mature.
V's mummy - I wish I felt that urge to go back and do it all over again, as we had always discussed having two children close in age. I think 3 years apart will be my compromise with DH. I'm sure your next one will be just as loved as Violet
Princess Peach - Enjoy those weddings!!!
AFM = we had a very busy but wonderful Christmas. We did DH family on Christmas and then my side today. Feeling very tired and full now and ready for a lazy day tomorrow.
Posted 31 December 2011 - 04:51 PM
Not 100% sure I should be in this group anymore.... I think I am pregnant!!!
I am yet to officially test- that will come in the next couple of days but my symptoms tell me that I might just be up the duff.
My head is spinning a little!
~Rach~ Visiting the doc sounds like a great idea.
Happy New Years to all! I am jealous of those who are celebrating with my favourite bubbly!
Posted 01 January 2012 - 09:59 AM
I need to try and be a little more regular with my posting here! Well, how exciting that this year DH and I will be trying for #2. September is the month, and I really have my fingers crossed for a little October/November Bubba. Still a way off, but I want to figure out my cycles and start taking vitamins etc.
Gisses- how exciting that you might be UTD!! Keep us updated.
Vi's Mum: I know before I had Hudson, when people with children talked about the amazing unconditional love they felt, I didn't really know what to expect. Now after having 1 baby and feeling that ridiculous amazing amount of love, I have no doubt you (and I!) will feel that way about baby #2. It's just hard to imagine as you haven't done it before.
Rach: Definitely do not feel pressured, or rush into anything you're not comfortable with. I think talking to your Dr is a great plan.
Posted 01 January 2012 - 10:13 AM
Hi everyone, is there room for 1 more?
DH & I are planning on TTC #1 in April this year, we can hardly wait! I have my last year of uni, so waiting until April means I can get through my studies at the very least (albeit pregnant)
I don't know anyone here yet but wanted to give my best wishes to you Gisses - how exciting! I hope you get confirmation soon.
Oh an happy new years to you all
Posted 01 January 2012 - 03:11 PM
Happy New Year everyone. I hope you all made it safely in to 2012.
Rach: Good on you re going to see your doc and not letting the pressure get to you. Thanks too. We have had a reasonably good time though my SIL is a trouble-making, self absorbed, self centred, selfish (and I could go on) person and my BIL is no better. I am so glad that I don't have to see them for a long while after this, though my nephew is sweet. But I have my nieces here so I think I will cope. My friends are mature enough I think to handle me being alcohol free (one is currently on a strict diet for health reasons that disallows alcohol) so I think they will be fine. It's my IL's that are not so good about it. But the 12 month alcohol free journey started from Christmas Day and I am determined to get through it. My DH is also going to have 1 month from today without any alcohol so at least he will be supporting me.
gisses: OMG! Congratulations if you are. Have you tested yet? You can hang around here until it's confirmed if you like for sure and we would love to hear about your progress.
MrsS30: Great to see you have a confirmed start month for TTC. I can understand you would want a quick conception and I really hope that is what happens. In the meantime, good luck with working out your cycles.
Rexit: Welcome! I will add you to our list. April sounds like a great time to start TTC. I hope you can keep on task during your studies and not think too much about starting to try for baby. Have you had bloods done and started taking vitamins?
AFM: I am in a bit of a weird place at the moment. Seeing my nieces and nephew has made me think that maybe we need to hold off on kids a bit longer. Don't get me wrong I would love to be pg right this second, but I think we need to get some things in place first. I have told my DH that Tuesday night we are going to go have a chat with our bank and then sit down and work out a 5 year plan. This will be a bit of a financial plan as well as a life plan. For me I need to feel secure in what we are doing and I stress often about where we are at right now so it is time to put a plan in place so that not only can I stress a bit less but we can also know where we are going. We will just keep revisiting the plan to ensure we are still on track, can get back on track or amend as necessary. I am a little excited at this prospect because at least then we will have a clear way forward to where we both want to be. Have a great first day of 2012.
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Edited by Likeemunusual, 01 January 2012 - 03:13 PM.
Posted 01 January 2012 - 07:06 PM
Thanks guys for your well wishes!
I tested this morning and it is negative.
I am not worried though cause with DD, I had to test a couple of days later and there was only the faintest of positives.
The wait is killing me!!!!!
Posted 01 January 2012 - 08:41 PM
I've been testing every day too.
I've been off the pill since October and month 1 I had a 28 day cycle, month 2 a 30 day cycle and now I'm day 36 and no sign of my period. I'm planning on TTC this month anyway (the 27th!) as we're getting married that day, but I'd just like to know what's going on!
I'm worried now that it's just my cycle messing around due to being on the pill for 10+ years and that I should have come off it 6 months prior to TTC. I also feel like I've jinxed myself as I was hoping for a late period this time so that the next one is not over my wedding day.
I would never have guessed this journey would be so stressful.
Posted 02 January 2012 - 06:49 AM
Hi ladies, just wanting to introduce myself to you all. My name is nikki and i have a gorgeous 14mth old son Marlon. After being convinced i only wanted the one baby i surprised dh with an announcement of wanting another yesterday. Not sure he is sold on the idea just yet as we have had alot of trouble with ds 1 in his first year which put pressure on the relationship but new year new beginning i recon.
Anyway bit of history with my ttc#1 journey, we tried for ds for 15mths and after no luck we went to a specialist and it was discovered i had 1 blocked tube. My tubes and ovaries had alot of scarring on them from what they suspect was due to an infection caused by having my appendix out when i was 9. Anyway after my lap i went straight into an assisted iui cycle so never tried naturally after the procedure. My first iui worked. So basically i am unsure if i can even get pregnant without help. With the cost i will not get assitance again so having a baby depends on if i actually can get pg.
Also i had complications of pre eclampsia and an emergency c section for his birth and also had a week in hospital on bed rest at 36weeks so a bit apprehensive about another one due to those things. Also feel like i couldnt love another child like i do my son, when i told dh i wanted anither i said i cant promise that marlon wont be my favourite, and he said the same. But people have multiple bavies all the time so it must happen, right? Loving the new baby i mean
So thats me. hopefully i will be more than thinking about ttc soon.
Edited by nikkibaby1, 02 January 2012 - 07:05 AM.
Posted 02 January 2012 - 07:11 AM
Hi can i join the group too.
Im 23, i have a 7 month old and will be ttc number 2 in feb hopefully it all happens quickly fingers crossed
Posted 02 January 2012 - 07:44 AM
Thank you for the welcome,
Likeemunusual - hope you had a wonderful time meeting your nephew, it sounds like he is well-loved
Gisses - I have everything crossed for you, and hope things are happening as did with DD
Sassy Dingo - it took me a while for my cycles to sort out when I came off the pill (I've been off since about March 2011). I started off with 60d cycles, and ended up going on the pill again for a couple of cycles (I was worried about not getting AF), which weirdly sorted things out. I now have a cycle 30-32days long, it's pretty clockwork. Was on the pill non-stop 5 years prior to this. It sounds like your first few cycles were good, so here's to hoping you just had an off one this time - and fingers crossed AF stays away a bit longer
Hope it's a beautiful day for you!
Nikkibaby1 - Hoping things are much easier for you this time around
I didn't really gives a background so probably should! As above, I went off the pill early last year, as we were thinking of TTC #1 then, but when my cycles went awol we decided to hold off and get through my last year of uni (2012). We are both desperate to be parents!
We are now in a great position to have bubs, DH got a great promotion at work, we've got a mortgage repayments down, and we have lots of supportive family around to help.
I am just starting to take BCWG again, and will go to the chemist to pick up some vitex, as well as some menevit for dh. 3months on this should be enough prior to TTC. I saw the doctor early last year, had the shots, and bloods came back well. We though I may have had a mild case of PCOS due to my crappy cycles but since losing weight and going on a short stint on the pill again my cycles are good.
Have been temping and doing a few OPK to confirm O every cycle, as well as to avoid pregnancy - I know it's not foolproof, but I know my body pretty well now, and we wouldn't really mind if we had an early accident
Best of luck to everyone, such an exciting time
Posted 02 January 2012 - 04:58 PM
I just signed back into my fertility friend although im not sure i want to chart ect this time. Just maybe want to take it as it comes for awhile. Ive had af back since bub was 5 minths and i think its regular i dont really keep track of it. I know it arrives before the 18th of the month (as we went away for ds birthday in october and i got it before then. I also get the fertile cm. Will have to take note this cycle when af arrives. Dh hasnt said yes yet lol. But he did joke about getting pg today
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