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My daughter is consently bullied.
I've had enough!!

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#51 loulou1976

Posted 16 March 2012 - 08:06 PM

Take the reigns yourself I say! You are the much bigger person in all of this.

I was bullied at school but not in a verbal or physically way it was more isolating me, not including me, whispering behind my back etc...

Sometimes the parents are worse than the child. My friends 5 year old daughter is very bossy to my 4 year old. The other day I confronted the 5 year after my 4 year old was in tears. In front of the mother, my child and the bossy child I said in a loud, stern voice, "I won't have that behaviour, if you cannot be nice, learn to play nice with my daughter we will leave and you will not be able to play with my daughter again." My friend was a bit shocked and didn't say anything. Her daughter changed.
I had to let all know that her behaviour was not acceptable and will not be tolerated.

Any parent that allows their child to bully or bossy is a child you do not want your child to play with. You need to tell your child that those sorts of people in this world are not at our standard of respect.

If your sister in law has any love for your daughter (or you) she would apologise, make her son apologise and if it was me, I would make my 12 year old son wash your car!

#52 coconass

Posted 08 May 2012 - 07:10 PM

I just thought to check this post...wow I can't believe the amount of people that bulling effects. I'm standing tall and proud of my action even though they may have been a little over the top, but at the end of the day my kids come 1st, 2nd and 3rd.

We don't have much to do with my DD cousins anymore, Dh and I have made the choices to minimise that contact. I can't believe what a difference it has made to my children, DD is confident and excelling, DD never ask to see them and if she's in their company doesn't give him the time of day ( this is not from me telling her either).

On the other hand, I have lost contact with my sisters in laws that I was very close with, I have  distanced myself from them as I find it hard to be around people that don't care. There are some days were I'm upset about this, as I was quiet close with two of them( know them for over 20 years), but at the end of the day if they can't pick up the phone and ask if i'm ok, then it's not worth me being upset about( thats what I keep telling myself), it was out of character for me to react like this, and God forbid I was having a nervous break down or something, you would think someone would call.

Overall I am quiet content and have made heaps of new friends and am loving it.

#53 Missy Shelby

Posted 08 May 2012 - 07:22 PM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 12/12/2011, 12:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I loathe the attitude that you should let it slide to keep the peace.  I can do it for a once off but not for ongoing poor treatment.  What would that be teaching your DD?

Suck it up.  Don't rock the boat.  Don't make a scene.  

Good on you for not buying into it and teaching your kids that they don't have to put up with harrassment just to keep everyone else happy.

It would have had a better effect if you could have done it without screaming but better that than being a mouse.

Totally agree with you BadCat, as for all those people who said she has over reacted, oh I would never act like that etc etc sorry cannot really say that because you were not in this particular situation, with all the other family issues that probably exist.
Walk a mile in someone elses shoes then you can make a comment with some substance.

#54 FeralBob!

Posted 08 May 2012 - 07:22 PM

Good on you, I'm really pleased that you stood up for your daughter and taught her that she is a valued person and that her problems were taken seriously.  original.gif


Posted 08 May 2012 - 07:29 PM

Sometimes all it takes for the person who is being bullied to see someone stand up for them and tell the bully that what they have done is wrong.

I am glad things have worked out for the better for your DD. And yes, if my 9yr old DD was being hurt often by a male 3yrs older than her. I would have reacted the way you did.

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