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#1 Cat Burglar

Posted 04 November 2011 - 09:30 AM

So Im 8 months exclusive breastfeeding DD, is anyone else starting to get the comments like 'are you STILL breastfeeding?' from people who breastfed themselves for a few months, or people who work in childcare.

Im a bit over breastfeeding by now but you have to give them milk from somewhere until they are 12 months, right? So I dont see any point in introducing forumula for 3 months when we will be winding back the feeds soon anyway.

I think maybe its because DD is very mobile maybe she comes across as a little older than she actually is.

anyway, rant over. Who else is getting near 12 months and what are your plans with breastfeeding?

#2 ez21

Posted 04 November 2011 - 10:08 AM

I'm past the 12 month mark (DS is still breast fed at almost 15 months of age).  I do remember, when DS was 10 months old, I would get those comments, with the disapproving looks.  Some would even say 'but he's on solids isn't he?, hinting that BF was completely unnecessary once on solids!!!

I found that most of these comments came from the older generation...not sure why.  Younger people were much more supportive.  DS was in daycare from 11 months and the staff were very supportive of BF.  

It annoyed me so much because I felt like I had to explain why I was still BF.  I suppose we can't have every member of the population know everything about BF and its benefits.  Plus, BF recommendations have probably changed over the years.



#3 RedsGirl

Posted 04 November 2011 - 10:11 AM

You will get that.

Just reply with "Yes, isn't it wonderful?  We really enjoy, its our lovely peaceful time and its still the best milk for her right now" or something.

I guess there are quite a few women who wean at 6mo for whatever reason (not taking away from that, its still great!). Perhaps the perception is once babies are on solids they don't need any milk anymore? Not sure.

I always detect a hint of surprise when I told people I breastfed DD1 until she was 14mo.  When I was in hospital having DD2 they all asked was I going to breastfeed and for how long - I just said as long as I can and as long as she wants to!  

DD2 is only 6mo, but I hope we can at least get to 12mo like I did with DD1. I agree, there is no sense switching to the hassle and expense of formula when breastmilk and water are the two best fluids for her at this stage.

#4 Flutter Bug

Posted 04 November 2011 - 10:14 AM

I breastfed my DD for as long as she wanted it - by 13 months she was just sort of 'mucking around' with my boobs and it was becoming a game to her. Around the same time I got food poisoning and felt so unwell  that i just couldn't bear to feed her, so i didn't for a day - she didn't miss it or ask for it so that's when I decided to wean.
Do what suits you and your child - I don't get in the this day and age why anyone would be questioning your choice!!

#5 kirtyw

Posted 04 November 2011 - 10:14 AM

I bf DS1 until 2 1/2 and am still bfing DS2 (whose just turned 1).... my goal for each of the boys was 6 months, then 1 year then.....as long as we're all happy....

After about 18months I just stopped mentioning it to others as the 'you're STLL bfing' comments started to grate.....



#6 Cat Burglar

Posted 04 November 2011 - 10:38 AM

QUOTE (RedsGirl @ 04/11/2011, 10:11 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I guess there are quite a few women who wean at 6mo for whatever reason (not taking away from that, its still great!). Perhaps the perception is once babies are on solids they don't need any milk anymore? Not sure.


I think 6mo is touted as the minimum for health benefits, so people make sure they do that, but then want to stop for whatever reason. For me Im feeling run down and a bit trapped. But I want to do the best by DDs health of course

#7 dejoey

Posted 04 November 2011 - 10:46 AM

I completely understand the vent. I BF to 12 months with the youngest (only just stopped). I was constantly told by family that the reason Emily was so unsettled and clingy was the fact that I was still BF. It would annoy them if I chose to not go somewhere because she was BF (they don't like to see it in front on them). Its strange that they are supportive for a couple of months and then they say she's had enough now - wean her. Emily refused a bottle anyway, so it was breast or nothing. She does like her cup now though.

#8 Bluenomi

Posted 04 November 2011 - 10:58 AM

DD is 19 months and still breastfeeding. She's been in childcare full time since 6 months and we've still managed to do it. I briefly tried to change one bottle at DC to formula and she wouldn't have a bar of it!

I haven't had many negative comments but most of my friends have breastfed past 12 months so it's common in my area. DC didn't bat an eyelid at her still having a daytime feed until 15 months.

Sometimes DH says something about weaning her but since it is the best way to get her back to sleep at night I just ignore him  biggrin.gif I don't really want to be feeding a 2 year old but don't want to force her to wean so I'm not really sure what to do. I'm hoping she'll self wean soon so I don't need to make a decision!

#9 lucky 2

Posted 04 November 2011 - 01:36 PM

I know lots of women who have fed 3+ years, its normal for me, but my dd only bfed for 8 months sad.gif , I was definitely the odd one out. I continued to express until she was 23 months.
I was tied down too at that age as I was expressing, at least if I was bfing I could just do it anywhere.
This time will pass quick enough, bfing will reduce over time as a full diet can be taken and bub is proficient with a cup, but continuing to have a bfing relationship is optimal if both of you are willing.
All the best.

#10 Ella'n'alex

Posted 05 November 2011 - 09:27 AM

QUOTE (Soccer Mum @ 04/11/2011, 10:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So Im 8 months exclusive breastfeeding DD, is anyone else starting to get the comments like 'are you STILL breastfeeding?' from people who breastfed themselves for a few months, or people who work in childcare.


Yeah. It really ticks me off. All over it supportive while they're a month or so old, then as soon as they're a bit bigger its disgusting. And creche people telling me how many feeds and how big they should be for a 7 month old off the back of the formula tin. "But you'd know exactly how much he was getting!". Pfft. Bugger off.

#11 mrs maple

Posted 05 November 2011 - 09:31 AM

i would have loved to be able to do it more than that even...
couldnt do it so i really admire you. keep it as long as is good for you 2...people will find something to comment about regardless.


#12 crocodilessnap

Posted 05 November 2011 - 10:09 AM

My experiences so far have been positive but I know that if I'm still feeding past that magic first birthday comments are going to start being made. Thankfully my DD won't feed out of the house or in front of anyone anymore (gets way too distracted) so it isn't in anyone's faces and I figure I'll deal with the comments when the time comes. Did have a couple friends act really surprised though when they asked if I was down to 1 feed per day at 6 months and I said no still doing 5-6 original.gif Though to be fair they don't have kids and we are one of the first of our friends to have children

#13 Marchioness Flea

Posted 05 November 2011 - 10:25 AM

I'm still BF after 18 months and I'll keep going till 2 years (maybe longer if she wants it,especially at night or nap time if it gets her to sleep!)
I've not had any comments except my Mil who was surprised I was still breast feeding my daughter.
I said till 2 years and that was it.
It's NO ONE'S business how long you feed for, WHO guidelines say 2 years, no one looks twice at formula fed babies after 6 months, do they, so why is BF any different?


#14 KBM

Posted 05 November 2011 - 11:19 AM

QUOTE
I agree, there is no sense switching to the hassle and expense of formula when breastmilk and water are the two best fluids for her at this stage.


Ditto.  Sure they are on solids from 6mo but how much nutrition can you get from a tablespoon of sweet potatoe or pear etc?  Breastmilk is an complete food so has everything that baby needs.  I know my bubs even by the age of 12 months were still not that interested in 3 square meals.

Even now, my 18mo DS2 hates fruit with a passion and doesnt eat as much lean meat and veggies as I would like, but I know that with his 4 feeds a day he still has, any lack of nutrition in his diet will be made up with the breastmilk.

Also, the mother is still passing on antibodies etc in the breastmilk to help with babies immune system.

As DS2 is my last, I have no pressing need to get him off the boob, Im just letting him set the pace, he stil loves his boobie and Im even teaching him now to say 'byebye boobie' when hes done - so cute!

Feed your baby until either you or bub decides they dont want to anymore - bugger everyone else.

#15 Copper and May

Posted 05 November 2011 - 03:16 PM

Why don't you get a small tee shirt for your bubs, which says "Mum's Milk for Me" and maybe that will stop everyone asking.

#16 Marchioness Flea

Posted 05 November 2011 - 04:04 PM

I bought a t shirt for a friend over seas that says "I love Boobies" in a size 2 original.gif
She's stoked and can't wait for it to put on her son who's still BF at 18 months.


#17 Ella'n'alex

Posted 05 November 2011 - 07:46 PM

QUOTE (Jenflea @ 05/11/2011, 05:04 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I bought a t shirt for a friend over seas that says "I love Boobies" in a size 2 original.gif
She's stoked and can't wait for it to put on her son who's still BF at 18 months.


roll2.gif

I'm going to go look for a website that sells those. DS has started going 'mmmmmmmmmum!!' and grabbing the boobs of whoever happens to be holding him. Hilarious laughing2.gif

#18 Guest_Monkey News_*

Posted 05 November 2011 - 08:00 PM

I used to get that with DD1, who I stopped feeding at 29 months.

No one asks me that question any more though. I think they assume I've weaned my nearly 3 yr old ( I haven't). And that I will continue to feed my 16 month old for a while yet laughing2.gif


I'm certain people think I'm crazy, or a complete ding bat, but it doesn't worry me in the least wink.gif I will continue to do what works for my family!

#19 Riotproof

Posted 05 November 2011 - 08:11 PM

QUOTE (Ella'n'alex @ 05/11/2011, 08:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
roll2.gif

I'm going to go look for a website that sells those. DS has started going 'mmmmmmmmmum!!' and grabbing the boobs of whoever happens to be holding him. Hilarious laughing2.gif

Rock your baby makes them. You could try eBay though.
I have finally put away my Ds's 00 size one and realised I didn't have any good photos of him in it, so we had a photo shoot in the backyard.

Edited by Riotproof, 05 November 2011 - 08:12 PM.


#20 Marchioness Flea

Posted 06 November 2011 - 07:45 AM

I got mine from Rock Your Baby( Australian company as well, so you support local businesses lol). I bought some lovely clothes from there not boobie related as well.
I just wasn't sure it was appropriate to make my daughter wear one, or if we'd get frowns out in public. Though that wouldn't really bother me.




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