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#51 cat 79

Posted 21 January 2012 - 08:19 PM

i have sent you a pm just one more.

#52 mel43

Posted 23 January 2012 - 08:20 AM

Hi and Welcome, Sharrison and DH+Me+2 original.gif

We booked our VR a month or 2 in advance, and had to have it all paid 4 weeks in advance.
I haven't had any testing done, but I've been charting my BBT and CM, and very occasionally use OPK's, and it all says that I'm ovulating, so I'm pretty sure that I'm fertile.

My DH had 9 years between V and VR, and technically, it was a success original.gif We have pretty good numbers, but currently working on shoddy motility.

We went through Dr Woolcott (he has a webpage, just google "Vasectomy Reversal") and I believe he also does VRs in Perth. He has had excellent results in this group, out of 4 who went with him, I'm the only one left without a BFP so far.

Hi flowergirl waves.gif  and welcome back just-one-more original.gif

If anyone from this thread wants to join our FB group, you need to become facebook friends with someone from the group. I'm happy to befriend people and add them to the group, so whoever wants to join, just send me a PM with your full facebook name, and a description of your profile pic (in case there's 200 "Mary Smiths") and I'll add you original.gif

Edited by mel43, 23 January 2012 - 08:22 AM.

#53 sharrison

Posted 23 January 2012 - 04:29 PM

Is the facebook group private?

My partner is a pretty private person, most people dont even know he had a vasectomy done and he'd be horrified if I was talking about it publically on facebook.

#54 mel43

Posted 25 January 2012 - 07:49 AM

Oh yes, we've gone one better than private, it's a secret group, no one even knows the group exists, except it's members of course. So non members can't see anything original.gif

#55 sharrison

Posted 02 February 2012 - 09:19 AM

I wasn't sure if I'm ready for that facebook group since my partner hasnt had a reversal yet..

But he and I had a great conversation yesterday and I cant stop smiling. I was quite confident that he was happy enough to go down that path but had a niggling concern that he was a bit ambivalent about it.

Yesterday he clearly said that he'll do the reversal and if that doesnt work, we'll do IVF. He even seemed enthused at the prospect.

It was just so nice to hear.

#56 cat 79

Posted 03 February 2012 - 07:33 AM

that sounds really good sharrison !you are still most welcome over at the facebook group !

#57 Katiebird

Posted 24 February 2012 - 03:28 PM

Hi Ladies

Mind if I join you? My hubby has his VR last week after almost 10 years since his orginal Vas. We did one round of IVF (three transfers which were all BFNs) so we decided to try the reversal this time around instead.

Hubby went to Dr Robert Woolcott and he reattached both sides. We are only a week post op so still waiting before we can start trying and to see if it has worked. Fingers crossed!!

How long did you guys wait before you started trying? We were told 4 weeks but I am not sure we can wait that long and was thinking three?

Anyway I will start reading back through the thread to get to know everyone original.gif

Edited by Katiebird, 24 February 2012 - 03:30 PM.

#58 cat 79

Posted 25 February 2012 - 01:00 PM

most of the girls who were here have moved over to the facebook page but i still hang around here ,your circumstances are similar to ours we had 9.5 years inbetween reversal and original whichi think was to long but dh wouldnt budge ,we went through the metro center brisbane 18mths ago and so far no luck ,we have three boys aged 15,13 and 11 .i have heard good things about your doctor ,really hope it works out for you.we waited two weeks before trying and thats sounds average i dont think most hold out for a month!

Edited by cat 79, 25 February 2012 - 01:03 PM.

#59 Katiebird

Posted 25 February 2012 - 03:42 PM

Hi Cat

What is the facebook page?

Yeah it does look like we are around the same time since original Vas. I'm worried it's going to effect the outcome but I am hoping it gives up a better chance than we have no which is ZERO!

My hubby has four kids. I don't have any but we both want together so badly. I tried IVF first but had no luck and really hated it. I am hoping we have more luck this way. I have always wanted to be a mum and don't know what I will do if we can't make it happen sad.gif

Have you had a SA done? I think we get ours in about 10 weeks time.

I hope you get your BFP soon!


#60 cat 79

Posted 25 February 2012 - 05:10 PM

i have sent you a pm katiebird

#61 Just-one-more

Posted 03 March 2012 - 06:54 PM

Hubby had his VR today!!

I never thougt we would get here!! Hubby is sleepng poor thing!

I cant get onto the facebook group cat, can you pls send tge link again ?

#62 cat 79

Posted 04 March 2012 - 05:53 AM

i sent you a pm just one more

#63 mel43

Posted 04 March 2012 - 06:16 AM

Hi just one more. Hope your husbands not in too much pain original.gif

You can't get to the FB group via a link. You need to become friends with someone from the group first.

I'm quite happy to befriend new group members, just send me a PM with your name as it is on FB, and a description of your profile pic (so I know which one's you if there's more than one) and I'll add you to the group original.gif

#64 catty81

Posted 12 March 2012 - 11:24 AM

Hi girls, I have been kinda naughty and forgot to post on here.  Our facebook group is great but not so good for others who are seeking support etc.

Thought I would let you know that nine months after DH had his reversal we have gotten our BFP!  We may have gotten it sooner but I had to take clomid as I wasn't O'ing.

DH had the vasectomy done in 2007 only 3 weeks after our DD was born.  I was not happy about it but didn't say much.  It took about a year of begging, pleading, crying, reasoning, bribing - basically whatever I could do.  In the end DH realised that the VR would make me happy and he agreed.  I was so surprised, I didn't think he would ever change his mind!

#65 cat 79

Posted 13 March 2012 - 05:58 AM

i have sent you a pm catty81

#66 catty81

Posted 13 March 2012 - 09:24 AM

just replied Cat!  I maybe didn't explain myself properly.  I meant that most of us being in a secret facebook group means that this thread is kinda slow.  Which sucks for anyone who doesn't know about the fb group.  Does that makes sense?  blahhhh hormones are making my brain stupid.  i am so forgetful and spacey lately!

#67 cat 79

Posted 13 March 2012 - 09:31 AM

thats ok !i think most left here awhile ago because there is more privacy at the
facebook group and some now just call in here sometimes like me !i dont recall seeing you on facebook what was your name there pm me if you like !

#68 MichelleTT

Posted 09 April 2012 - 08:48 PM

Hi there!
Where is everyone? I've just discovered these boards, and had an amazing read through of everyone's stories.
I'm 38, with a 5 and 7yo. DH had the snip nearly 5 years ago, and for a couple of years now I've had that feeling that someone really is missing.
I'm not game to bring it up to DH yet, I want to pick my moment before I tell him what is in my heart of hearts. I see his original doctor does reversals too, which is great as hubby liked him a lot.
I'm torn between being grateful for where I am right now, and putting my heart on the line for something that mightn't even eventuate.

#69 cat 79

Posted 12 April 2012 - 08:21 PM

hi Michelle TT !,i still check in here but we do have a facebook page and thats basically where everyone is !i will send you a PM.

#70 juls13

Posted 23 May 2012 - 11:53 PM

Hi all
Looks like I am in the same boat as all of you. I noticed you are members of a facebook group, would anyone be able to send me the link? Would be great to talk to people who know exactly what we are going through!

#71 amz1987

Posted 25 May 2012 - 06:25 PM


Send me a PM with your facebook details, and Ill add you as a friend, then to the group original.gif

#72 mrshoney

Posted 31 May 2012 - 06:30 PM

Hi all,

It's been ages since I've been on the forum and we are now 3 months post VR.  Just got our SA results back today from the surgeon and the count is only 110,000.  The surgeon told my husband that it took the lab 3 hours to process the sample so this may contribute to the low number but wants him to redo in 2 months.  I'm feeling a bit shattered.  No idea if 110,000 is enough to even conceive, no idea what the motility was, no idea of anything...

Sorry for venting, hoping someone out there will have some information that can help me sad.gif

Also, would appreciate joining the FB page if someone can PM me the link?

Thanks in advance ladies.

#73 sharrison

Posted 04 June 2012 - 10:17 AM

Its been ages since I was here too but OH and I had a chat about getting his VR done in the next 12 months so I am now researching doctors, hospitals, costs etc and would like to join the fb group. Who is the best person to PM?

#74 mel43

Posted 04 June 2012 - 10:28 AM

Hi sharrison,  I remember your user name. You can pm me if you like. Just include your real/Facebook name and a description of your profile pic.

#75 sharrison

Posted 04 June 2012 - 10:56 AM

For some reason its not letting me send a private message. Am I missing something?

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