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TTC after Vasectomy or Reversal or IVF Buddy Group #23

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#1 ~A2~

Posted 29 October 2011 - 11:15 AM

Hi all

New thread time

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#2 brashanik3

Posted 30 October 2011 - 12:47 AM


#3 mel43

Posted 30 October 2011 - 07:34 AM


#4 cariwari

Posted 02 November 2011 - 08:56 PM

Hi everyone again,

still waiting for a BFP this month, but thinking that i probably am going to need to lose weight first - ive heard that being overweight can decrease your chances of getting pregnant. I weigh almost the same as i did when i got pregnant last time, but that was more than 6 years ago!
Anyone else had this problem?!

#5 mrshoney

Posted 04 November 2011 - 08:05 PM

Thanks for the welcome guys original.gif .

We're booked in to go and see Mr Ravi Asopa on Thursday to start the process but we also have a referral to Andrew Troy if we don't click with Mr Asopa.

February seems so close now, can't wait!!

#6 ~*~flowergirl~*~

Posted 07 November 2011 - 02:03 PM

Hello all

cariwiri when can you test? fingers crossed for a bfp for you

yes I can relate with needing/wanting to lose weight - I would like to lose 5 - 10 kgs but can't seem to get motivated or stay consistent with my diet and exercise
I can be good for a week and then fall off the wagon again
my FS said there is benefit in losing even just a little ... something about if you're body is in losing weight mode then that's good I think?

mrshoney I hope your appt goes well on Thurs

anyone else with any news??

charbig I'd love to hear how you and your DH are getting on after your re-do?? as we are seriously considering this option for next year

#7 amz1987

Posted 07 November 2011 - 10:00 PM

Hey Ladies,

Havent posted in here for a while, so just thought I would give my experience to the new ladies / ladies I havent come across yet. We got out VR done by Dr Woolcott on the 3rd of September 2011... BFP on the 29th ish of September 2011 (we were naughty and started DTD 10 days post VR). So extremely sucessful!!! I definently recommend him, he was fantastic!


#8 cat 79

Posted 08 November 2011 - 09:49 AM

hi amy!how is everything going?

#9 amz1987

Posted 09 November 2011 - 08:30 AM


Im good. Glad this morning sickness is easing off! Im 10 weeks tomorrow original.gif How have you been?

#10 Mumma Steffie

Posted 09 November 2011 - 02:46 PM

Hi, I have been following your thread for a while and thought I'd introduce myself. I have 2 children DD was 2 in August and DS will be 1 in a few weeks. Only 15 months between them, but they are great kids! My DH had the snip back in February '11 as I had quite a difficult pregnancy and birth with DS, and he didn't want to put me through that again. At the time we thought it was the best decision for our family but as the year has progressed I have been getting that clunky feeling back. I don't want another baby just yet but I would like to in the next few years. I am only 26 and feel I have time on my side. I have started speaking to my DH about how I'm feeling and he is being non-receptive.
I suppose I am after thoughts on how others have broached the subject with their DH's. I don't want to force him into anything, but he is totally shutting down whenever I bring up the subject.

#11 cat 79

Posted 10 November 2011 - 01:29 PM

hi madz mum ,i am cathy and we had a reversal 14mths ago through
the metro center brisbane ,no luck so far but hopefully in the future !
isnt it funny how we think we are alone sometimes in the choices we make ,then alot of
people seem to have very similar stories !we have three boys and dh had a vasectomy
10.5 years ago which i hated him for but hopefully there will be a happy ending !it took me
9.5 years to convince him to reverse it !good luck in whatever you decide !
glad you are well amy ,time will fly past for you and your bub will be here!

#12 Demeter21

Posted 14 November 2011 - 10:46 AM


Im really new to forums so please forgive my bad abreviations.

amz1987 you have made my day! Congratulations.

My DH is booked in for a VR with Dr. Woolcott on the 17th of Jan 2012. Only 64 days, but whos counting !!

amz1987 I wonder if you could share please how long had it been since your hubbies vas and his VR?

Thank you so much.

Any other info would be great re your experience with Dr. Woolcott.


Ionna biggrin.gif

#13 amz1987

Posted 14 November 2011 - 03:03 PM


Thank you! It was quite a suprise, especially since it hadnt even been a month since the Op!

There was roughly 2 years between Vas and VR. Dr Woolcott is really good, we were very happy with him biggrin.gif

As most of the ladies will say, buy a jock strap, or get more of those medicated undies that you can put the pad in (my DH prefered these), they kept the jewels nice and snug, he also liked having the body pillow so he could slept comfortable.

If you want any specific info, just ask!


#14 narnz

Posted 17 November 2011 - 07:51 PM

Just introducing myself ladies.

After stalking the boards for a little while now, I thought it was time I 'came out'. lol

my husband to be and I have decided that would be like a baby of our own, which mean a tubal reversal for me.!!! I am booked into to see Dr Lolatgis in Clayton, Vic on the 6th of december to discuss surgery. I'm feeling that time is important for us, as I've just turned 37.  Very exciting times for us indeed.

#15 ~*~flowergirl~*~

Posted 22 November 2011 - 01:18 PM

Hi narnz
this is the Vasectomy Reversal buddy group.
There is a Tubal reversal group too - their thread is here http://www.essentialkids.com.au/forums/ind...howtopic=804537
hope that helps and best of luck

Hi Demeter21
best of luck with your partners reversal in Jan - that will come around quick!

Hi MadzMum
You've come to right spot. I think we've all had different responses from our partners in regards to getting them to agree to a reversal. Have a read through our previous threads if you have the time.
For me and my DH it was a mutual decsion to TTC again so I didn't need to convince him as such.

amz - good to hear that you are travelling well with your pg

Hi to everyone else  waves.gif

no news from me - we've decided to postpone our next frozen IVF transfer attempt till next year and just try and relax and enjoy xmas for now

#16 mel43

Posted 23 November 2011 - 09:47 AM

Hi flowergirl original.gif
Hope you enjoy your break over the silly season. We're taking a break at the moment as well. Going on a holiday in sept 2012, so taking from now until mid jan off.

narnz - Welcome! but yes, as flowergirl said, you'd get better support in the tubal reversal group. I certainly know nothing about tubal reversals.

Welcome Demeter. My DH had his VR through Dr Woolcott too (exactly 11 months before your DH), so any questions you have, ask away original.gif

Madzmum, my DH wasn't keen on the idea at first either.. well he was never keen, but he eventually saw how much it meant to me and caved wub.gif  The promise of sex and lots of it was pretty helpful too grin.gif

#17 Guest_HopeFaithLove_*

Posted 23 November 2011 - 03:43 PM


Edited by HopeFaithLove, 20 April 2012 - 01:24 PM.

#18 ~*~flowergirl~*~

Posted 23 November 2011 - 05:37 PM

Hi again

where are you going on holiday mel?
We haven't been on holiday for over 2 years now due to the cost of IVF and it's getting me down.
Friends of ours are heading to Canada on a year long adventure soon and I'm so jealous.
I suppose that's a sign that I'm getting close to the end of my TTC'ing adventures - when alternatives to continuing TTC seem more attractive...

HopeFaithLove - yes your post makes sense to me
TTCing is not a sensible or rational thing I think - it's emotional and hormonal and.. and..and.. unexplainable lol
and reading your history I can see that TTC'ing and any possible pg would be a huge rollercoaster for you and your DH

I guess the "sensible" thing to do though if you're not sure is to wait a bit and try out those things you may have been putting off?
I know that lately I've been thinking about what things I/we can do now that my kids are getting older and if we don't have another baby
I guess I'm trying to get my head around not having another baby as it's looking more and more likely that that's what will happen to us

also, it's worth remembering that a reversal is not the only way of TTC'ing after a V - there is also IVF
but if your DH is not producing any sperm then he will need to have a TESA or similar done - it's quick and fairly painless, done under a local
my DH has had 2 done and the only problem he had was some minor swelling afterwards
The affects on you however, depending on what drugs & type of cycle you do could be quite intense.
And of course, just like a reversal, it might not work.  sad.gif

gosh that was a negative post wasn't it! sorry girls

#19 Guest_HopeFaithLove_*

Posted 23 November 2011 - 08:01 PM


Edited by HopeFaithLove, 20 April 2012 - 01:24 PM.

#20 ~*~flowergirl~*~

Posted 25 November 2011 - 06:27 PM

QUOTE (HopeFaithLove @ 23/11/2011, 08:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Would you mind explaining what TESA is?  I am presuming it is a procedure to try and collect some of DHs sperm that he may have hiding somewhere and then I am presuming it involves IVF?  Is it possible to collect from DH and do a IUI?  Would love to know what options we have available besides a reversal.

After a Vas sperm is still produced, just not released due to the blockage of the Vas ie. Obstructive Azospermia
(at least that's my understanding!!)

a reversal attempts to remove the blockage to allow the sperm to be released again

The alternative to a reversal (or if the reversal doesn't work) is trying TESA + ICSI

TESA (Testicular Sperm Aspiration) is a procedure to try and collect sperm - "try" is an important word there - essentially they insert a needle into the tubes and try and retrieve sperm

If the TESA doesn't work then you progress to trying Testicular Biopsy which is more invasive.

My FS said that normal IVF (where the sperm and egg are just placed together in a dish) is not possible due to the low amount of sperm collected via surgical collection and for this reason IUI is also not possible. So ICSI is the only option.

Hope that helps

#21 mel43

Posted 28 November 2011 - 11:42 AM

Hi HopeFaithLove.
Your post makes sense to me. In my head, the decision to TTC is a terrible idea! But my heart just won't accept that. I still wonder if we should just keep to our family of 4, and thats after spending thousands on the VR wacko.gif
I hope you can make peace with whatever happens for you.

Flowergirl, my parents are paying for my whole family (3 brothers, 1 sister and the inlaws +kids) to spend a week at Magnetic Island ddance.gif I'm so excited, I haven't been on a holiday (apart from camping, which is no holiday IMO lol) since my honeymoon back in 2002!

#22 bree82

Posted 12 December 2011 - 06:12 AM

C'mon ladies! Where's the updates?!? Tounge1.gif

#23 cat 79

Posted 12 December 2011 - 11:38 AM

i am still here !how are you going bree?
still no luck for us after 15mths and i am not sure i even expect
it to happen now .

Edited by cat 79, 12 December 2011 - 11:40 AM.

#24 Guest_HopeFaithLove_*

Posted 30 December 2011 - 12:20 PM


Edited by HopeFaithLove, 20 April 2012 - 01:12 PM.

#25 ~*~flowergirl~*~

Posted 30 December 2011 - 02:16 PM

Hi HopeFaithLove
I can't help convince your DH but I can sympathise
so here's a  hhugs.gif
and I hope that you can work through this together soon

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