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#1 my4beautifulboys

Posted 22 October 2011 - 11:51 AM

DH and I were excited to find we were pg with baby number 4, But unfortunately it ended in a miscarriage at 10 weeks.

We have 3 boys, 6, 4 and 2. My youngest DS would have been 3 when #4 would have arrived, which would have been lovely to have them all near together.

We would love to try again for #4 hopefully in the near future, I think that 4 children is a lovely number.

I would love to hear from mums with 4 or more children and what age gaps you have.

#2 Elf Ianthe

Posted 22 October 2011 - 11:55 AM

Age gaps between my kids are

#1 & #2 3 years 7 months
#2 & #3 22 months
#3 & #4 2years 6 months
#4 & #5 4 years 2 months.

They are currently nearly 15, 11, 9, 7 and nearly 3.

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. My fourth pregnancy ended in miscarriage. We obviously had another child and our fourth child is our only daughter original.gif

#3 Always amazed!

Posted 22 October 2011 - 11:58 AM

We have 4

ds1 is 4y4m
ds2 is 3y5m
dd1&2 are 18 mths.

All nice and close together!

#4 BaldBalls

Posted 22 October 2011 - 11:59 AM

DS1 and DS2 - Almost 8 years

DS2 and DS3 - 2 years 6 months

DS3 and DD1 - 5 years

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage sad.gif

#5 Darkazhure

Posted 22 October 2011 - 11:59 AM

So sorry to hear you miscarried, hope you're doing ok.

My children are very similar to yours age wise, my eldest daughter is 6 (nearly 7), my eldest son is 4 (going on 5 very soon), my youngest daughter is 2 1/2 & my baby boy is nearly 9 months.

I always preferred even numbers, hence having 4 original.gif

Hope all goes well when you & hubby try again (enjoy the practice!)

#6 ~4's enough 4 me~

Posted 22 October 2011 - 12:00 PM

The age gaps between my 4 are;

1 & 2 25 months
2 & 3 5.5 years (would have been smaller but I had 3 mc's)
3 & 4 23 months.

I found that having a large gap between 2 and 3 was good as the 2 older boys were at school when he came along. It felt like having no 1 all over again. I have however struggled with No 4 as No 3 is very full on and to make matters worse he doesnt get on with No 2 as they are too alike.

I too had 3 boys and then a girl.

Good luck!

#7 RosieTea

Posted 22 October 2011 - 12:09 PM

Between DSS and DS1 - there are 3 years 3 months

Between ds1 and ds2 - 3 years and 21 days

Between ds2 and D? will be 2 years 5 months

IF we hadn't had lost our bub last December between ds2 and D? would have been 21 months

HOpe your doing ok and being kind to yourself after your loss

#8 be_a_butterfly

Posted 22 October 2011 - 12:10 PM

The gap between my 4 are

#1 and #2 - 2yr 3 months
#2 and #3 - 11 months
#3 and #4 - 5 years

I like my large gap between 3 and 4, I am more relaxed with my 4th, the other 3 are at school but I do feel sad that DS has noone at home his own age like the others did. The perfect gap for me was 1 and 2.

#9 Jamandcream

Posted 22 October 2011 - 12:11 PM

between #1 and #2 20 months
between #2 and #3 23 months
between #3 and #4 18 months

All close together and happy that way. They get on fairly well together and never lack someone to play with original.gif.

#10 Caramel Latte

Posted 22 October 2011 - 12:22 PM

So sorry for your loss  bbighug.gif

#1 & #2 ~ 4 years 4 mths
#2 & #3 ~ 5 years 7 mths
#3 & #4 ~ 8 years and 6 mths (approx as still pg)

(Gaps mainly due to infertility and losses)....

I would have liked smaller age gaps but am happy with the fact that I will have 4 children. They are all same gender.

Edited by Desiree Farfalla, 22 October 2011 - 12:23 PM.

#11 Gen71

Posted 22 October 2011 - 12:22 PM

1 to 2  21mths
2 to 3. 3yr 4mths
3 to 4. 3yr 2 mth

Similar situation to yours, so not as planned. We are just greatful they are all happy & healthy.

Good luck

#12 bethos

Posted 22 October 2011 - 01:22 PM

Hi sorry to hear about your loss  hhugs.gif We have 4 kids DD1 aged 5years 7 months, DS aged 4 years 5 months, DD2 aged 3years 1 month and DD3 aged 8 months. So our gaps are 14 months between #1 and #2, 16 months between #2 and #3 and 2 1/2 years between #3 and #4. I think there are positives and negatives to all age gaps, good luck  biggrin.gif

#13 ~Fuzjuz~

Posted 22 October 2011 - 01:23 PM

1 to 2 = 2yrs 8months
2 to 3 = 10minutes
3 to 4 = 6yrs 8months

#14 tiga

Posted 22 October 2011 - 02:19 PM

DD1 - DD2 2 yrs 9 months
dd2 - DS1  4.5 years
DS1 - DS2 (still pregnant but will be 5.5yrs)

So we will soon have 4 as well, 2 of each. I like the large age gaps and I am looking forward to having DS2 all to myself when the others are at school when he arrives.

#15 soulsearching

Posted 22 October 2011 - 02:28 PM

DD1 to DD2- 2 years 4 months
DD2 to DS- 2 years 6 months
DS to DD3- 12 months (to the day)

I'm pregnant again so this gap will be just shy of 2 years.

Happy with all my gaps. The older two play together reasonably well and are able to help out with the younger ones. They are 7, nearly 5, 29 months and 17 months.

#16 Elemenopee

Posted 22 October 2011 - 02:32 PM

My age gaps are pretty easy, they are all born in the same month 2 yr apart, except for my twins who are 2 mins apart.
So mine now are 2,2,4 and 6.

#17 harrison~at~last

Posted 22 October 2011 - 02:33 PM

The age differences with mine are:

DD1 and DS1- 2yrs 9mths
DS1 and DS2 - 2 minutes
DS2 and DD2 - 2 minutes

It works well for us LOL

#18 HighlandPinky

Posted 22 October 2011 - 02:33 PM

We have all close age gaps in this family

DS1 to DS2 - 12 months, 10 days
DS2 to DD1 - 15 months
DD1 to DS3 - 18 months
DS3 to DS4 - 17 months
DS4 to DD2 - 18 months

#19 All-New

Posted 22 October 2011 - 05:02 PM

1&2 17 mo
2&3 1 min
3&4 1 min

Edited by SMOKER, 22 October 2011 - 05:20 PM.

#20 gizboo

Posted 22 October 2011 - 05:08 PM

Sorry to hear about your m/c.  sad.gif

We had 12m, 17m & 2.5y gaps between our 4, so just under 5y.
There would have been another 17mth gap between DS2 & #4, but my 4th pregnancy also ended in a m/c.

#21 Sparkle4

Posted 22 October 2011 - 05:33 PM

1st gap  22 months (exactly)

2nd gap 2 years and 5 months

3rd gap 3 years and 8 months

#22 mummaorange

Posted 22 October 2011 - 05:41 PM

Soo sorry to hear of your loss

my childrens age gaps are

dss and ds- 30 months

ds and dd1- 25 months

dd1 and dd2- 18 months

dd2 and current preg -29 months

my favourite gap was the 25 month one :0)

#23 michelle120773

Posted 22 October 2011 - 06:02 PM

I am one of 7 and the age gaps arre;

Me to sister 1 - 2.5 years
Sister 2 - sister 3 - 16 months
Sister 3 - sister 4 - 2 years
Sister 4 - sister 5/brother 1 - 20 months
Sister 5/brother 1 - brother 2 - 20 months

So 7 of us in 10 years.  We are all incredibly close (not just in age!!!)

#24 freddo75

Posted 22 October 2011 - 06:13 PM

my sister have an 8yo, 6yo, 4yo and a 7 month old, she is busy but loves it, and would like more sleep.

She finds that she is more tired now after the 4th one.

#25 *~*ME*~*

Posted 22 October 2011 - 06:20 PM

between 1&2 - 4.5 yrs
2&3 25 months
3&4 19 months

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