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#1 Nut

Posted 06 September 2011 - 08:39 AM

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But the real reason we haven't spoken to our daughter about marriage is because we didn't want to have to tell her the truth.  We wanted to protect her.  We didn't want to tell her that there are some people in parliament who don't think Mummy and Mumma should be allowed toget married, because then she would ask why. And, really... what is an appropriate answer to this for a 4-year-old?


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#2 IBM

Posted 19 September 2011 - 05:48 PM

So Sorry you have to answer questions like this.

Since my three children were little I have always explained families as some having a mum and dad, some having two dads and some having two mums. If my three kids can understand and accept that as normal and part of everyday life, why cant our polititions.

Sounds like you have offered your daughter a good explaination that will be built on over the years to come.

Here's hoping it wont be too long before your daughter gets to dance ather mums wedding!!



#3 Keraru

Posted 28 September 2011 - 07:44 PM

Kelly - sending you and your partner big hugs. You are right there are many many people out there that do wish you had the right to marry and hate the ignorance and fear that prevents you from making the choice that is right for you.

I think your explanation to your daughter was great and you should be proud that she will not be growing up ignorant or fearful. I too hope that she gets to dance at your wedding one day too.

Arohanui. Helena

#4 AvaLoves

Posted 02 February 2012 - 01:19 PM

I can imagine this would be a heartbreaking, not to mention complex, subject to broach with your child. But hang in there! I'm sure marriage equality is on its way - it's only a matter of time. In the meantime, I'm sure you're aware of the many many people - myself included - who are doing little things all the time (writing letters to MPs, attending rallies, signing petitions, discussing the issue with everyone!) to further along the this long overdue legislative change!

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#5 Roselet

Posted 03 February 2012 - 02:58 PM

I must admit I'm not really one for rallies and letters to politicians, but I do have those conversations with people, and try to put forward a different POV than the one they hear from pretty much everyone else in their lives. I do think the change will come - it's just a matter of how many generations have to die off before the numbers are with the youth. ANd I don't want my children to still be having to fight the same battle.

#6 reng

Posted 04 February 2012 - 04:15 PM

I hope that change will come.  Personally I think that the law should be about protecting people from harm.  No-one is harmed if people want to show their love for each other, so I just don't see what the fuss is about.  Just change the law, make people happy, and concentrate on having laws that keep society safe.

#7 myarun

Posted 12 July 2012 - 02:06 PM

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#8 SophieBear

Posted 12 July 2012 - 02:21 PM

Thanks so much for sharing your story, Kelly.

Your daughter sounds to be an intelligent little being! Hopefully her mums will get their deserved right to marry.

Hopefully very soon the govt will finally listen to their community. Australia needs to get with the times!

#9 Ducky*Fuzz

Posted 12 July 2012 - 02:29 PM

I posted my support for Marriage Equality on FB once and an idiot I am related to (although have nothing to do with) wrote back "Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve". We had a long winded argument where he got his equally judgemental family to join in.  

When I asked them to give me a reason for their opinion - leaving God out of it - he requoted "Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve".

I am sick and tired of church coming into the argument as most of my christian friends care about the love and respect in other people's relationships, not their sex life!

And Julia Gillard has sh*t me to tears with her garbage about marriage not being important as she's in a defacto relationship. That is THEIR choice.  Everyone consenting adult should get a choice about the status of the relationship - "piece of paper" or not.

#10 KirstenMc

Posted 09 June 2013 - 02:39 PM

Thanks for sharing your story Kelly.

I think it's a no brainer that marriage between same sex couples should be legal, without or without kids, but once you bring kids into the discussion, I just don't understand how anyone can keep arguing.

#11 GillyBean15

Posted 10 August 2013 - 01:54 AM

I defiantly think its hard to accept any new change. However, church should have nothing to do with what we allow in government. There is a thing called "the separation between church and state". Some people just like things to stay the same and have nothing change during their lifetime and I think that's where the new generation will make the change. People are becoming more open minded and accepting of differences which I think we have been working towards as a country since we were founded over 200 years ago. We just need to stay strong and know what equality on all parts should be accepted and not to discriminate.

I feel sorry for people who can't accept change because it just shows how closed minded they really are and that they have closed their heart towards other people. To better understand ones self, they must understand others POV.




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