Updated...I have finally found out why i cant get pregnant
So angry that its taken this long
, Sep 02 2011 02:13 PM
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Posted 02 September 2011 - 02:13 PM
Had post op appointment today to get results from the hysteroscopy, laporoscopy, treat endo and die test.
So after trying to fall pregnant for 7.5 years and many doctors telling me there was no reason i couldnt fall pregnant i finally found a gynecologist that has worked it out.
I have a double tubal blockage. He said its one of the worst blocked tubes he has seen. With the die test he said that none of the die was able to be pushed through. He believes because i fell pregnant easily with dd, he thinks the c/s i had might have been the problem for my infertility. I have had a previous infection of the pelvic area. He said it has been reported. Not sure what he meant about that, i wished i had asked him what he meant by that.
Im kinda devastated at the moment but feeling relieved that hopefully it can be fixed.
I have to have tubal surgery which means that he will open my original c/s scar up (well thats what i think he said) and fix the problem. I will have a higher chance of having an ectopic pregnancy after this but anything to help us get pregnant is better then nothing. If im not pregnant after 12 months then we have to go down the IVF road, something that i never wanted to do. SO i guess dh and I have some thinking to do.
THanks for listening
Edited by T R D L, 05 March 2012 - 06:22 PM.
Posted 02 September 2011 - 02:20 PM
Woah, that's great news (considering) and a pretty poor reflection on your previous health care providers.
Posted 02 September 2011 - 04:57 PM
Your poor thing, that must have been such a shock for you. Give yourself some time and space to absorb it all...
I have just found out this week, result from lap/dye studies etc, that I have one blocked tube. Even just having one blocked is a horrible feeling and my doctor won't unblock it for risk of ectopic. So I have to console myself that at least I still have two ovaries! Is that the same for you? Are your ovaries ok?
So, we have decided to go with IVF but I am still coming to terms with it. I am too impatient to muck around for much longer. With my age and IVF I have good chances apparently.
Try not to beat yourself up about it.... it will just be a matter of changing tactics in how you approach getting pregnant. (That's what the doctor said to me and I found it quite positive). It doesn't mean you can't get pregnant, just will change how you get pregnant.
Look after yourself and let us know how you go. hugs...
Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:01 PM
Fluster its is digusting that everyone else just fobbed me off and thought that there was no reason why i couldnt get pregnant. I have found a doctor who is fantastic.
Kate it was a huge shock but i figure that i can now move on and try something else. Im trying to be positive about it and if all fails in the end we still have one beautiful daughter.
I am a little scared about the risk of ectopic pregnancy but the doctor thought this was the best thing to try first.
Ovaries and everything else was fine. I had a fibroid that was removed as well as a small amount of endometriosis. Good thing is age is still on my side, being 35 i still have a little time left.
Hopefully the op happens soon id rather get it over and done with as quickly as possible, and move on
Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:12 PM
7.5 years? I'm glad you finally have some answers, but for it to have taken so long is just terrible.
Wishing you a fantastic result from surgery and the BFP you've been dreaming of for so long.
Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:17 PM
How scary is it that 7.5 years and countless docs this was not picked up!
I am glad you finally have answers OP. Good luck with the OP.
Posted 07 September 2011 - 03:05 PM
I'm sorry to hear it took so long for someone to find out what was wrong, best of luck with the OP and ttc! I'm new to this group, just ticked over ttc for 12 months and will be heading down the dye test road soon
. My gp says it's quite invasive - how did you find the procedure? worried.
Posted 05 March 2012 - 06:33 PM
I was supposed to have microsurgery last year to repair two blocked tubes.
Well I didnt end up having the operation in Victoria as they kept cancelling the operation. I should never have told them i was moving. But i had to to ensure i was able to drive to nsw to have my daughter start school.
Anyway now I'm in NSW and i have to start all over again and find a decent GP who will listen and refer me to someone who will do as i ask.
I keep thinking I'm not supposed to have any more children. Its so frustrating.
Now i have to go through it all again with someone else and start the process again.
I have all my copies of tests and the surgery i had so im hoping that the next GP who gives me a referral makes sure they send me to someone who will just take over where the other surgeon finished off.
I just hope the new specialist doesn't want to go through a whole lot of more tests because they can.
I am so over the bullsh*t i have had to go through in the last few years. I have searched for a GP who specialises in ob/gyn so they at least have some idea what ive been through to get here. Then hopefully they can recommend someone good who wont take as long to do something about it.
The ob/gyn surgeon i had in Victoria was fantastic i just wished i had more time down there for him to finish what he started.
Oh well i can only stay positive and hope that i finally get through all this and get the ball rolling again. I don't know how i have survived all this. I have thought about giving up many times.
Thanks for listening
Edited by T R D L, 05 March 2012 - 07:00 PM.
Posted 05 March 2012 - 06:47 PM
It must be a relief to finally have an answer but I can understand you must feel very frustrated and annoyed that it took this long for the medical profession to provide it.
Having seen IVF as a total last resort and trying everything else that might possibly work over the last 2.5 years, I have finally just undergone my first IVF cycle.
I have to say that it was no walk in the park. In the first two weeks I had to inject myself in the tummy 15 times. In the next two weeks I will have 5 blood tests (although most people won't need all these). The egg pick up required a general anesthetic so made me woozy for a day, and sore for the next two.
However, all of this was nothing compared to my c-section, endured during the birth of my son five years ago. I was totally incapacitated for a week and sore for much longer. I hated the recovery, and not being able to drive for a month. IVF is made out to be such a 'big' thing, and it really is a miracle. Everyone is different, but if you gave me the choice at this point of having a big surgical procedure like a c-section, or going another round of IVF, I would chose the IVF without a doubt. In fact I would do IVF 5 times over before voluntarily undergoing major abdominal surgery again.
Edited by libbylu, 05 March 2012 - 06:49 PM.
Posted 09 March 2012 - 07:34 AM
TRDL that is so frustrating, that you finally get to the point of taking action and then everything gets stalled again and you get sent right back to the beginning.
Fingers crossed you find a GP & specialist that will look at your history and tests and pick up from there.
Posted 09 March 2012 - 07:40 AM
I pretty much went through the exact same thing as you did with damage from my first c/section. Since then I've never fallen pregnant naturally (11 years). IVF was the only option for us.
Good luck x
Posted 09 March 2012 - 07:56 AM
Can you write a letter to your Victorian surgeon asking him/her to recommend someone in NSW? Then, ask your new GP to refer you to that NSW surgeon? Then, write again to your Victorian surgeon, asking them to write a letter about you to your new NSW surgeon?
Posted 09 March 2012 - 07:58 AM
I hope you ladies post when people are considering elective c/sections for non medical reasons. I have been told I am scaremongering when I have brought up fertility issues as a reason to avoid a c/s if possible.
I hope you get your dream soon op.
Posted 21 March 2012 - 12:46 AM
You can ask for your Vic medical records to be forwarded on to your new GP, who in turn can send them to the new specialist you are referred to. I also moved recently and my new GP had a consent form that I signed and they arranged to have my records sent over. It took 3 weeks but was well worth it. The new specialist still did the usual tests, plus some more, but they had the full history which can only be a good thing. Good luck with your new doctors and TTC!
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