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Posted 29 July 2011 - 09:16 PM
I am a new to the site and to be honest looked and looked for somewhere I could just talk to other's in a similar situation / anyone who just has some input!
Long story short (well not really!):
I have a 4 year old daughter and swore I would never have another BUT, my hubby and I desperately want another child to make our family complete. We live in a country town in WA and originally from South Africa so have no family support here.
We decided to go off the pill in September last year and suspected I was pregnant mid December 2010 and made an appointment with a doctor here to comfirm with a blood test. Bad news was I started bleeding the morning of my appointment. He confired either a miscarriage / tubual pregnancy, took some blood to check HCG levels and sent me on my way. I woke up the next day with terrible pain and cramps and called the doctor, to which he sent me to the hospital with my positive pregnancy results. Hosptial booked me in overnight for observation as I was "miacarrying". Sent me home the following morning - the next day was Christmas.
The following Monday I woke in agony again and my hubby rushed me off to the hospital again, this time round they called Perth to get advice and flew me to Perth to KEMH for scans. Terrible thing was my hubby and daughter stayed behind and I went on my own.
The next day I had all the scans done and bloods (which showed my HCG level increasing), but they confirmed I have an ectopic pregnancy and would need surgery. Went in straight into theatre and woke hearing they had to remove my right tube as the embyro had damaged it badly.
Ok so thats the long story short! So we were told that this would not diminish my chances of falling pregnant again (only by 5%!) and even though I only had one tude when I ovulated from the right side the left tube would "suck up the egg". So we could start trying again after my first menstral cycle.
So here we are 6 months later and now have the "Maybe Baby" ovulation kit. My worry comes in where my spit in the microscope is still only showing dots where it should show ferns as I AM OVULATING! Being a little concerned I called up my regular doctor in Perth who totally contradicts everything the hospital told me about having no fertility problems after my ectopic pregnancy surgery.
So what do I do ladies (and gents if there are any). Doctor has confirmed that I only have every second month fertilisation chance as the right egg will not always be sucked up. Plus she says a gyaenacologist wont see me until its been a YEAR of trying without conceiving, don't think I want to wait that long!
Just need some friendly advice / encouragement? Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Or anyone have any happy endings to something similar cos some sites have some unhappy endings.....
Posted 30 July 2011 - 12:38 PM
Hi Shan and welcome to EB! I think you've come to the right place. So sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy. I hope you're healing (physically and emotionally). I haven't had an ectopic pregnancy but plenty of ladies here have. There is a support group here especially for that topic:
I think you will find answers and advice there. Good luck!
Posted 01 August 2011 - 08:05 AM
Welcome to EB. As an EP (ectopic pregnancy) survivor I understand where you are coming from. Your fertility IS reduced, although not as much as you expect. Your fertility rate is now about 75% of what it was when you had 2 tubes. Your remaining tube IS capable of picking up eggs from either ovary and there are a few ladies in the EP Support Group that have babies to prove that. Definitely get into the group linked above and say hello. the ladies in there are fabulous and will help you out.
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