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#1 Forum Moderator

Posted 20 July 2011 - 04:01 PM

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#2 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 11 August 2011 - 08:15 AM

Quick pit stop to say hi to you all .... And a bump back to the first page.

#3 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 16 August 2011 - 01:26 PM

Where is everyone?

#4 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 17 August 2011 - 06:03 AM

Still here!

Love your new sig!  biggrin.gif

#5 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 18 August 2011 - 05:19 PM

Thanks Puffs!!  Took a while to build the confidence to change the sig and jump back on EB.

FYI - currently in the 2ww and can't decide what day to test on. DH and I are heading to Europe on Wednesday for three weeks so need to test before then.

#6 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 19 August 2011 - 08:06 PM

If it was me I would test after day 9, I am pretty sure that is when a test can detect pregnancy hormones!
I have everything crossed for you, I am sure you will get a BFP!

Have an amazing time in Europe!

#7 bebehvala

Posted 04 September 2011 - 09:10 PM

Hi all waves.gif

I am new to EB - is this buddy group still alive and kicking??

Hope so...

#8 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 05 September 2011 - 06:03 AM

QUOTE (bebehvala @ 04/09/2011, 09:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi all waves.gif

I am new to EB - is this buddy group still alive and kicking??

Hope so...

There are not many of us left from this group who are not pregnant or have had babies.

Tell us your story! Hopefully your stay here isn't too long and you have a successful cycle!

#9 bebehvala

Posted 05 September 2011 - 11:24 PM

Thanks for responding puffsgirl  :wave:

It's nice so many people had success - perhaps this is a lucky group? biggrin.gif

My hubby had almost of 2 years of chemo 5 years ago, and as a result he is without any little sperm. Fortunaty we did a deposit before the chemo - but after out first IVF/ICSI last month it looks like it may not be that great a quality. AND we only have a bit in storage so we can't do any testing on it....

SOOOOOOOOOOO we are about to do another cycle and see what it brings.  hands.gif  that it works.

What about yourself? I can see by your sig you had an FET in August.. are you in your TWW?

Edited by bebehvala, 05 September 2011 - 11:25 PM.

#10 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 06 September 2011 - 09:15 AM


I am so sorry you have to do ICSI! I really hope you get a BFP and a healthy baby/babies from this cycle!

I couldn’t do a FET in August to an injury I received at work so will do one in October.

We don’t know why my DH doesn’t produce any sperm, he has had every test under the sun but nothing showed up. We once got 4 sperm in a SA but they were all immotile. Even when they did a biopsy they found no sperm so we had to look for a donor.

Luckily for us a year ago an amazing person offered to be our donor.
We did a cycle with a fresh transfer in July but that sadly ended in a chemical pregnancy. I was told to wait and do a FET instead of a fresh transfer (due to very high oestrogen numbers and OHSS) but begged to be able to do a fresh transfer, now I wished I had listened to the FS.

I hope this is a lucky group! I think from memory there are only 2 of us that are using donor’s and we have had a good number of pregnancies out of this group.

Hopefully this group is lucky for you!

#11 bebehvala

Posted 07 September 2011 - 12:34 AM

Thanks Puffs, we hope we're lucky enough to get BFP too! tthumbs.gif

Sorry to hear about the chem pregnancy, it's hard not to listen to ourselves... when you want something so bad especially....

What a shock that must of been to find out about DH sperm situation. If you don't mind me asking, how did he react? I know when they told my DH earlier this year it was still zero after 5 years of being in remission he was VERY quiet for a few days and did not want to speak about it.  

It's great someone offered to be your donor, that takes a huge heart to do that for someone. I love knowing how great people can be in such sh*tty circumstances for others.

We'd talked about donating whatever sperm we have left -but sadly due to his cancer it's not accepted by anywhere.

Here is hoping that we both get the  BFP.gif  soon

#12 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 08 September 2011 - 09:14 AM


DH took his no sperm news pretty hard, but we were kind of prepared for the worse. He had numerous SA’s done and only 4 immotile sperm showed. Our FS said we had a 65% chance of finding sperm at biopsy so I think he may have been more shocked than us.

We had an appointment a couple of weeks later with the counsellor to talk about using a donor and 5 days later had found our donor. We were very, very lucky and still cannot believe our luck.
It is a huge thing to use a donor but we both want children and I would of used donor eggs if I needed to.

I would love to donate my eggs once we have children, that’s the plan anyway.

I am so sorry what you and your DH have had to go through! I really hope you get a BFP very soon!

Good luck and keep us updated!

#13 jordiesmum

Posted 03 October 2011 - 02:10 PM



I'm taking a huge leap here but am needing some friendly advice original.gif Is anyone still around?

#14 bebehvala

Posted 03 October 2011 - 09:06 PM

QUOTE (jordiesmum @ 03/10/2011, 02:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>


I'm taking a huge leap here but am needing some friendly advice original.gif Is anyone still around?

Not sure if I can offer much advise - but will def try..... original.gif

#15 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 04 October 2011 - 08:54 AM

I can try and help!

#16 jordiesmum

Posted 04 October 2011 - 02:00 PM

Thank you original.gif

It will be nice to chat to some ladies going through the same things original.gif

Basically last week we were told that DH had 0 sperm in his SA. He gave 2 samples on 2 different occasions and they both came back with none. Volume was fine PH fine everything great except the no swimmers  unsure.gif

So i guess this puts us down the path of MFI.

weird thing is we already have a child who is 8.5, who was conceived accidentally.

So i am wondering if anyone has ever heard of this sort of thing happening? Going from seemingly normal sperm to zero in a matter of years?

DH is only 29, no medical history, a little/lot overweight yes but he has always been big. He has been for a blood test today to look at genetics and hormones and pending the results he will be off to a urologist to look for some answers.

We have been TTC (on and off) since our son was 2. I had cancer and chemo back in 2007/8 so i always assumed our lack of falling was due to me, i never even dreamed it would be on his side sad.gif

So now we are faced with both his and my infertillity and a path down IVF if we wish to expand our family. I had really hoped it wouldnt come to this.
I have left it in his court for now, i'm not going to make him have biopsies and invasive procedures if hes not comfortable with them, he is already bummed about this round of bad news as i have been telling him for years that i'm sure the problem is with me not him, wasnt that a kick in the face sad.gif

Thanks for listening, i guess i just needed to be able to discuss it with someone who understands, and who better than girls who are going through the same thing original.gif

#17 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 05 October 2011 - 03:08 PM

I’m not sure if I can be of much help because we don’t have a child and from what we know my DH has only ever produced 4 sperm.

I am sorry that you have both gone through so much already!

Firstly I would give your partner time think things over and decide what direction he wants to go in.
I know what a huge shock it was for me to find out DH was infertile so I imagine it is even a bigger shock when you are the one being told you are infertile.

We saw a counsellor at our IVF clinic and she was amazing so I suggest maybe you see if your DH will go see one with you. They really helped my DH choose to use a donor, but again, we don’t have a child yet so if my DH wants to have any we did need to use a donor.

If you can get to any IVF info sessions I have heard that they are very informative.

Good luck and I hope you come to a decision soon.

#18 jordiesmum

Posted 06 October 2011 - 01:51 PM

Thanks for your reply original.gif

I just hate that it cant be explained. I really am the sort of person to find a problem find the answer then fix it. With this it seems the more i look into it the more dead ends i find.

When i google anything to do with 'azoospermia' it is always genetic or chromosonal problems. With our history i'm pretty sure they cant just present themselves, it is a problem from birth so that cant be the case.

So then i look at hormones. i got his blood results earlier today and the dr (GP not FS, will wait for her call in a few days) said all is ok. testosterone was a 'little low' but other wise fine. I specifically asked for the FSH level and it was 5. From what i can find 5 is ok, not great but ok. We are still waiting for his 'DAZ gene' result, maybe it will hold answers?

So it seems there is just no answer for now and it really is doing my head in. I have thrown the idea of IVF around in my head a bit over the past days and it's not as scary as when i first though but the whole thing is still very overwhelming.

Puffsgirl, i read earlier that you are trying again this month? Is that still on track?
How about you bebehvala?

Would love to hear any updates you have original.gif

#19 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 06 October 2011 - 02:56 PM

Yes I am still hoping to do a FET this month. I have my first BT tomorrow.

I know what you mean about not having any answers. We also don’t know why my DH doesn’t produce sperm, he has had every test under the sun including genetic and they still didn’t find anything.

Would you look at doing a biopsy to see if your DH has any sperm? You would still need some form of assisted conception to use the sperm but that could be an option.

IVF is overwhelming but not as scary as you would think it would be. It is very time consuming, expensive and drains you both physically and emotionally. It has brought out the best and worst of both myself and my DH but has made our marriage so much stronger.

If you have any questions just ask and I will try and help.

#20 kee

Posted 14 October 2011 - 10:07 AM

Hi girls!  waves.gif

I am still  ph34r.gif every now and then and sending love and best wishes to you all!

I'm excited and hopeful for each and every one of you original.gif

DH and I are doing really well and are very happy with life at the moment. I'm always around checking up on you all and I have you all in my thoughts every day.

Luv Kee.

Edited for shonky spelling!

Edited by kee, 14 October 2011 - 10:08 AM.

#21 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 16 October 2011 - 05:08 PM

WELCOME newbies. I hope you’re stay in this buddy group is short and sweet. This group has seen a lot of success so stay positive and hopefully you can graduate very soon.

Bebehavla – Sorry to hear of your miscarriage last month. I hope each day is getting easier for you and your DH. Does your FS have a new treatment plan for you?

Jordiesmum – I’m so sorry to hear of your cancer and I hope you’re in good health now. Discovering you have any kind of infertility is devastating so I hope your DH is taking each day as it comes … and maybe he’ll consider counselling, surgery etc in due course. You can’t rush these things and sometimes I believe you have to surrender the control and just let nature run its course.
My DH went from a low sperm count to zero within 18 months. His low sperm count is a genetic issue and it took us 2 years to discover what was causing it after countless bloods tests. Within a year DH had zero sperm which is unexplained.
He’d been providing samples to freeze and we made the decision to have the TESE surgery to see if more sperm could be found. Unfortunately it was after the surgery we discovered no more sperm was being produced so we’re left with options of donor sperm or adoption.

Kee – Hi! How are you and Mr Big?

Puffsgirl – I'n getting excited for you ..... did you have your BT last week? Maybe we can be cycle buddies?

AFM – I’m back from Europe and currently in the 2ww (again). This is our 2nd cycle using donor sperm and whilst it’s early days we’re trying to remain positive and confidant (which is hard after 3.5 years of disappointment).

#22 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 17 October 2011 - 10:38 AM


Kee - How are you? Long time no read! I hope everything is going well for you and Mr Big!

Brookstar - I hope you get a BFP this cycle! Stay positive and don't let the TWW get to you!

Hello to the other newbies!

AFM - I have my FET on Wednesday. I am trying to stay positive but like Brookstar am finding it very hard. Get to visit a friend's newborn after the FET so am really looking forward to that. I have a job interview in about 2 hours so that has really taken my mind off the upcoming FET.

Wondering how Puddy and her babies are and how pregnancy is treating Awaiting?

#23 Puddycat

Posted 19 October 2011 - 09:52 AM

Hello ladies,

****babies mentioned*****

Im still lurking - am quietly excited about Puff and Brookstars FETs!!!  I will be awaiting the results.  biggrin.gif

All is well here, the babies are doing really well.  I think we will be one of the lucky ones who escape the serious issues that can result from premature arrival. Both babies are uber cute (not that I am biased or anything!) and loads of fun.  I am looking forward to when they start interacting a bit more, so they can play back to me, and its not just me playing with them!  LOL.

Anyway - I wanted to stay hi and to let you know I am always thinking of you all.


#24 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 19 October 2011 - 01:24 PM

Puffs: I'm sure you're having your FET as I type this. I've got my fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you this cycle!
How was the job interview?

Puddy: It's sooooooo lovely to hear from you. How old are the twins now? Got any pics you can send me? I need motivation to keep the dream alive. LOL

AFM, Think I'm about 8 or 9DPO. I'm determined not to POAS and just see if AF arrives next week.

#25 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 20 October 2011 - 12:14 PM


Puddycat - So nice to hear from you! I am glad the babies are doing well! I hope you are getting enough sleep!

Brookstar - Stay away from the HPT! They are evil! I don't plan on doing one and I was happy with myself for not doing one last cycle! Good luck and I hope AF stays away and you get a BFP!

AFM - We had one perfect hatching blasty transfered yesterday. Luckily they only needed to thaw the one so we still have 9 left for future use. My BT is on Halloween.

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