September 05 Parents #402
, Apr 05 2011 07:21 AM
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Posted 13 July 2011 - 07:33 PM
Are you sure you're not looking too much into it? I think when we are looking at our own children we look at them and have a perception on how we think they should be interacting with others. They are only young so they are only just learning how to associate with other kids as well. Everyone is different. Just think about how many close friends you have from when you were at school. They change all the time right?
I went through a stage when I was really worried about Lili. She had one friend from playgroup for years but all of a sudden, that girl started to ignore Lili & tell her that she didn't want to be her friend. I thought it was a one off tiff but things stayed that way. I felt so sorry for Lili but it didn't really bother her much at all. She just played by herself or someone else. That same girl goes to her school but they don't hang out.
I guess what I am trying to say is that as long as the other kids are physically or emotionally hurting Nate, I don't think you need to worry.
Lili talks ALOT about not a lot. Barbie, Grammy, Isobel, what happened at Vacation Care/School, Maths, Ethan (the boy at school that they all giggle at LOL) Flowers/Planting, Cooking (loooves Masterchef but not that interested in actually cooking), Scoobies (clear plastic threads that you make stuff from) iphone, iphone, iphone! Karina:
I think I will be having an intimate party for Lili this year. Nothing planned or sorted out just yet.
I highly recommend getting out of the house though. Then it's more likely someone else will cater & clean up after.
Edited by Lili-Belle, 13 July 2011 - 07:33 PM.
Posted 13 July 2011 - 09:06 PM
Very kind words and very true.
I am not really worried about him as he is happy and he does have friends (one is a girl in Year 2). Fortunately he is crazy about sport and handball so he has friends through that, but he doesn't seem to be able to 'chat' to them unless he fakes it and tries to be silly and it just seems quite forced (to me). But maybe it was just these two boys who are besties and attached at the hip admittedly. Nate just wanted to chat to the mums and the older brother - who thought he was weird.
Ok so these are the kinds of things he talks about. This is a sample from the last two days:
How big is the moon?
How big is the universe?
Everything in the universe faces a certain way, nothing can face against itself (wtf
, this is his big theory atm).
Infinity plus infinity equals what?
What is the youngest country?
Why are swear words bad?
Where did aboriginal people come from? Who borned (LOL) them?
How big is space/the universe (asks this every day atm even though we've watched Youtube clips explaining it)
What is the longest street in the world?
Is Japan a rich country?
Why are so many things made in China?
Can we ever be in the past?
Is Julia Gillard the first girl Prime Minister in the world or just in Australia?
Can the Prime Minister go to jail?
Do kids go to jail?
Why doesn't gravity make aeroplanes fall down?
What is the difference between a comet and an asteroid?
He also went through a phase of randomly collapsing in a screaming heap and bawling "I don't want to die" and getting completely distraught about death - very inconvenient when it happened at the shops.
Ok, you get the gist. This is probably half the questions he has asked in the last 48 hours. It is constant
and frankly freakin' exhausting. I guess I am just not sure if its 'normal' or not and I don't want to ask his friends' mums because it might sound like I'm showing off how smart I think he is - which of course I do
- but its more that I am trying to figure out if this is a problem for him in terms of social interaction. I mean he can giggle about farts with the best of them but I wonder if sometimes he goes on about this stuff and they think he's weird.
I have no benchmark!
He has one good buddy who is gorgeous and when we were in the bus on the way to the excursion a while back they were chatting and the next thing turned around and asked me if boys could marry boys and girls could marry girls in Australia. Holy crap - talk about pressure, on a school bus at 9.30am no less!!
I always assumed all kids asked these sorts of questions but I've mentioned one or two in passing to this friend's mum and she looked at me like I had grown an extra head. Which is why I am asking you guys instead.
Edited by Kay1, 14 May 2012 - 08:52 PM.
Posted 14 July 2011 - 01:36 AM
Hi!!! Just popping in quickly to catch up!!
Had a skim through so will respond to what I can remember!!
Cai - I feel like Ryan is a bit 'different' sometimes. Actually I KNOW he is different, lol! We have him at a therapist right now to help with his inability to self-regulate. This causes his tantrums and it also results in him being a bit forceful with other kids IYKWIM? He just comes accross as intense and that causes some kids to shy away from him (breaks my heart
Personally I think that Nate's intelligence might make it a bit difficult for him to relate to other kids but he will find his own way in time. There are always commonalities with kids even if we don't see it!
Ryan asks a lot of strange questions, What's inside blood, what's inside your hair? Who made the earth? Is God magic? Who made God?!! Mostly though he talks about Harry Potter, Spiderman, Ben 10 etc which is the main topic of conversation at school!
Renee - I feel for you sweet
Such a huge adjustment for you on so many levels. I agree with Leesa, maybe you could start blogging!! You are a most entertaining lady, I would certainly follow it!! MWAH xx
Leesa - I was so sorry to hear about your Dad. hugs to you and your Mum, it must be so hard for you both
Enjoy your trip to the Gold Coast, I am sure you will all have a ball.
Karina - We are having a Gymnastics party for Ryan this year. The local gymnastics club does hosted parties for reasonable prices, then I am just doing boxed food (think Happy Meal but healthier!) for each child. I usually do them at home, but with Uni this year it is just too hard.
Mardi - I saw your post form a while ago. I am still sure I want to teach, lol!! I know report time is particularly stressful, I watched my prac teacher go through it and I am sure I will stress when I am going through it! I really enjoyed my prac (although mega-exhausted!) so I figure that is a good sign!!
Ok, that's all I can see so huge hugs to everyone else xxx
Well, me..... I am enjoying my holidays which feel long overdue!! Have just finished my 4 weeks of full time prac which was lots of fun and lots of stress (in equal amounts!) but I did really well. I got a glowing report from my mentor teacher adn feel much more confident about the whole teaching process now
The next 3 weeks are hopefully going to be full of rest and relaxation!! We are off to Bali next week which I am HANGING OUT for, so are the kids!! Now I am home, I have been pulling all their summer clothes out of their drawers and just put them straight in a suitcase, so we are just about all packed!!
I also got a new car (some of you may have seen the pic on FB) which I am in LOVE with. It's a bright blue bogan-mobile (Commodore SV6) as DH calls it
and despite his initial stress about buying a new car, he has fallen equally in love with it! It is so much bigger than my little Corolla which is great but a rather large adjustment when parking!
Ok, I am heading off to bed.
Much love to all
Posted 14 July 2011 - 08:02 AM
I feel like Ryan is a bit 'different' sometimes. Actually I KNOW he is different, lol! We have him at a therapist right now to help with his inability to self-regulate. This causes his tantrums and it also results in him being a bit forceful with other kids IYKWIM? He just comes accross as intense and that causes some kids to shy away from him (breaks my heart )Lisa
- This was completely Nate up until recently. He had no impulse control and would lash out. He seems to have done a 180 now though and if anything is a bit too anxious about doing the wrong thing or getting into trouble. I hope the therapy helps Ryan. It is so hard seeing them struggle socially.
Those questions are very familiar! Its hard answering them sometimes isn't it? We go to the library a lot!
Posted 14 July 2011 - 04:45 PM
I have not really read much, so I am just doing the survey for the moment. I am supposed to be doing some quotes and invoices, but I am procrastinating.
Height: 112cm last I checked, but she has shot up a heap since then.
Lost any teeth? 2, with one more nearly out, and one shark tooth at the bottom - poor kid is going to have crooked teeth.
Lost any body parts (surgery etc)? Nope
Night dry? Yep
Any pacifiers (bottles/blankies)? Nope. Likes to cuddle a soft toy at night, but isn't fussed which.
More sporting, artistic or academic? She is a bit of an all-rounder. She doesn't really stand out in any one area.
Music likes? Nothing specific
sporting likes? Skating, wants to start Gymnastics
reading unassisted? Kinda getting there.
What are they obsessed with? The moon. Lollies. lol. Not really anything else specific.
Posted 14 July 2011 - 05:35 PM
OK - reading back a little bit (and still not doing my invoicing and quoting)
Leesa - I am sorry to hear about your dad. Love to you all. xx
Kay - Hannah asks a lot of questions, probably not quite as in depth as Nate, as she would have no idea who Julia Gillard was, for example. I can't think of specifics, but questions about people going to jail, why things happen, what if's... that kind of thing.
I would be inclined to agree with Lisa that a lot of it comes from Nate's intelligence.
Hannah has other issues relating to kids, because she has problems with Auditory Processing, she does not follow social situations very well, so that is starting to make it hard for her to follow what is happening within games, etc.
Hannah's class has a lot of boys as well (like about twice as many boys as there are girls), but maybe it is just the group of kids, but it has never really made any difference. It was actually bought up at PT interviews that the kids need to start developing smaller groups of friends, as at the moment all the kids play together or in large groups, which will make it harder for them if they are separated when they move into grade 1 next year (it is a small school, so one prep class, then composite classes after that).
Lisa - have an awesome time in Bali!!!
Karina - I am being slack this year. Hannah can have a party at a local place called Relax Max - they do plaster painting and other activities with the kids. Low stress.
Renee - I don't really have anything to offer, but I just wanted to send you some love. xxx
Us... nothing much exciting to report. I recently had some photos in the national professional photography awards, and from 3 photos received 2 silvers and a certificate of attainment (which is just under a silver) which I am pretty stoked with. I am now only one point short of getting my associateship, which means I will become "Sharon Fyfe AAIPP" lol. I am kind of excited about getting some "letters" after my name.
The kids are both sick at the moment, with chesty snotty things. I am just hoping they will be well in time for school/kinder next week. I have loved having them home (my kids are awesome on school hols, and just spend all their time playing together!) but I am looking forward to the down time too.
I had better go and finish this work so I can go and make dinner.
Posted 12 September 2011 - 09:57 PM
Just wanted to wish all the September Children a very Happy 6th Birthday.
We are going okay, Elizabeth still can't organise herself out of a paper bag. We are regularly missing afterschool club at the library because she is late. We don't watch tv, she doesn't get computer time, she doesn't attend other extra stuff after school so that is all I have. I am trying not to shout in a morning so she just gets to school late.
Both girls have been sick over the last month so I am hoping that they are on the mend now. Rhiannon has been sick constantly since April so I am really over sick children. With Elizabeth we have been lucky and as a result have so far, touch wood managed to avoid the hospital. We did spend a week in daily contact with them and there were several close calls over that week but we were able to treat and keep her at home.
Elizabeth is another one who is constantly chatting and asking questions. I think this is generally good but there are days when I find it very exhausting. I think future models of children should come with pause, off and on switches, then life might be easier.
I think Rhiannon is following in her big sisters steps with chatting somehow.
What are people's plans for the September school holidays?
I need to go back and finish reading the thread, I have had several goes but keep getting interrupted by the little ones so in the end I thought I would just post and then read.
Posted 20 September 2011 - 09:36 PM
Okay we are now 3 terms into our children's first year of school, would any one consider moving their child? If so what would you consider major reasons?
I am guessing lots of activity happens of FB, is there a FB group for this mum's group? If so could I please join?
Posted 27 September 2011 - 10:23 PM
Just came to show off my ticker. Didn't realise we still post in here.
Posted 19 October 2011 - 09:08 PM
Ms Kelly good luck, I hope all goes well for you.
Posted 05 April 2012 - 09:45 PM
WELL HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLO LADIES.....long time no see hey!!....last time i was on here a few years back now there wasnt anyone posting lol...looks like you have all reappeared YAYYY!!....so updates hows everyone going!!??...geez i used to live in here...my world seems to be all FB lately...cant remember the last time i updated anything...but im sure i told u all that i had number 4...Kooper that was geez february 2008...definitely mr last...but to much suprise i found out about a month ago i wasnt actually putting on weight but that i was 35 weeks preg with number 5!!...ultrasound last thursday dated me @ 38weeks 1 day but doc still dating me at 36 weeks...eeek...well gotta fly gotta pick my now 12 year old baby girl up from the bus as she went to the royal easter show today....but cant wait to catch up with everyone!!... love to all and take care...will start to visit more often now i know you are all still around!!!... <3
Posted 05 April 2012 - 10:38 PM
maisy_jane congratulations, I hope that all goes well for you.
Elizabeth is now in grade 1 and it has been an interesting start to the school year for us. I have returned to full time work after 2 years maternity leave following the birth of my second baby.
Posted 05 May 2012 - 09:32 PM
gee wiz since i posted that it looked like everyone was posting its gone dead quiet again!....go figure...did i scare everyone away?????
gee wiz since i posted that it looked like everyone was posting its gone dead quiet again!....go figure...did i scare everyone away?????
Posted 21 June 2012 - 09:31 PM
hellllooooooooooooooo wheres everyone gone?????????
Posted 02 August 2012 - 10:27 PM
I don't think you scared people away, I believe that there is a FB page for this group.
Have you had your baby?
Hope all is going well. Is your September baby a little boy or girl? Mine is a little girl who thinks she knows everything
Posted 11 October 2012 - 01:29 PM
Wow, didn't think this group would still be here. It has been a long time since I posted on Essential baby!
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