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Is this normal at pre-school age? Do I teach her the right names now?


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#1 ginger72

Posted 29 January 2011 - 07:24 AM

Sorry, this is probably a stupid post but DD1 (who is 3) just started Pre-school this week and last night she told me that a little boy showed her his "bottom"  (she didn't know what to call it) and it "stuck out in front".  She said he showed her how he holds it while he does a wee wee.  

The pre-school has a row of little toilets with no dividers etc in between, and apparently DD1 and this little boy had gone to the toilet together.

It seems innocent enough to me, and I just took the opportunity to tell her boys and girls had different bottoms and did wees differently, but that her bottom was private and no one else was allowed to touch it or ask to see it, etc.  We probably should have had the conversation before, so I guess I am glad it was able to arise in an innocent way.

Does this happen at daycare/pre-school all the time?  I'm not overly worried about it, it's just the first time we've had to deal with this issue, and I'm not exactly sure if I've handled it right.  What do other parents do?  And do you teach them the right anatomical names at this age - my instinct is that now is the right time, given she has noticed the difference.


#2 Etcetera

Posted 29 January 2011 - 07:31 AM

Of course it's innocent, they're 3.

Just let the daycare know so they can explain to the kids what is appropriate, and perhaps give the other parents a heads up.

I think you handled it perfectly. That's what I would have done, though I would be calling them by the proper names and not 'bottom'.

#3 Pearson

Posted 29 January 2011 - 07:51 AM

we have always referred to DS' penis as penis, started using the word from day one.  (We talk to the kids when we are changing their nappies for example : clean your bottom, and your penis).  Then it was not such a big thing.  DS is 10 now, and he uses all different names for it if he is referring to it, including penis.

#4 Danielle20

Posted 29 January 2011 - 08:00 AM

You might want to start actually telling her the correct name even willy would be sufficient. No point in teaching her incorrectly. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just mention to the staff.

#5 Julie3Girls

Posted 29 January 2011 - 10:47 AM

Harmless and fairly normal. Most daycares/preschools have open toilets like that.  Start using the correct names now, it simply becomes a non-issue. Sounds like you handled it well though.

Having 3 girls, with no boys, having the open toilets is probably a good thing for us original.gif Gives my girls a chance to see that boys are different, when they are still at a very young, innocent age

#6 xeddy

Posted 30 January 2011 - 04:49 PM

Harmless, just let the staff know so they are aware of it.

#7 bron23

Posted 30 January 2011 - 04:55 PM

Wouldnt worry about it at all. We have always used penis and vagina so the girls both know whats what wink.gif I think you handled it beautifully but I would be teaching them the right names




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