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#1 mintt

Posted 16 December 2010 - 10:54 AM

I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum yesterday, and was given 3 choices as to what i could do.
- wait to miscarry naturally
- have a D&C
- insert some capsules overnight, and i should miscarry the next day.

Ive choose to wait it out naturally.

So i was just wondering how long it tok you to miscarry naturally after being advised our pregnancy was not progessing.
(how many weeks would be great)

I can change my mind at any stage... however i just dont think i can force it...

#2 noisytractor

Posted 17 December 2010 - 08:07 AM

Firstly  hhugs.gif  Sorry to hear of your loss.

I too was given the 3 options.

I found out when I was 7w6d (no growth since 6w4d), and went home to wait it out. I had serial hCGs done in the hope that things would get better. My doctor was telling me one thing (that thing could still work out as my hCG was still rising) and me knowing that things weren't going to.

I ended up miscarring a week later when I was 9 weeks. It was the hardest week of my life.

Please take care of yourself.

#3 lafonda

Posted 17 December 2010 - 08:11 AM

I have no idea about time frames - Just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss OP

#4 Freckles

Posted 17 December 2010 - 07:39 PM

Hi there,

I'm so sorry for your loss. sad.gif I had a BO a few years ago, diagnosed after I had fresh blood loss and falling HCG levels. Elected to have it happen naturally only to have a massive haemorrhage and need an urgent D&C anyway. However I am in the minority, that is unlikely to happen to you. For me it all happened the day after my blighted ovum was confirmed. Hope it happens soon so that you are able to get on with your grieving.

Wishing you gentle days. hhugs.gif


#5 ellejaylou

Posted 18 December 2010 - 12:55 AM

Oh Mintt

Looks like we're at the same stage...I too, was given the 3 options yesterday... They didnt quite align with my 3 christmas wishes... sad.gif

I had some bleeding went for a scan, no heartbeat.. 9 w 6 days.

I too chose the natural method.. and have been wondering ever since.  they gave me a week, so go back next thursday, and then onto option 2 or 3.  

Its the timing thats bothering me I think, being christmas, is making me think D/C would be better to get it over with. I keep saying Im going to ring and tell them I've changed my mind, but I havent rung them yet.

I definitely want it all over before the new year, because psychologically i need a fresh start for the new year, I had a m/c at the beginning of 2010.

Its sad to know that someone else is having to go through this, but helpful too IYKWIM.

I've had some 'labour' pains today so hopefully it will happen soon and naturally before Thursday.

Best wishes...

#6 TheClampetts

Posted 22 December 2010 - 02:27 PM

M/C it naturally at 13 weeks (was in the hospital as I was booked in for a D&C).

To be honest I found it very traumatic.  It was like giving birth but with no baby at the end.

I had contractions and pushing etc it was roughly the size of a grapefruit.

#7 gooba1

Posted 22 December 2010 - 02:47 PM

Firstly, I want to say how sorry I am.
Early this year I had bleeding @ 11 1/2 weeks. Following an ultrasound I was also diagnosed os having a blighted ovum (a terrible name for it by the way!). I was only given 2 choices - wait it out or have a D&C. I opted to wait it out. In retrospect I think that I felt I had to wait and miscarry naturally because I blamed myself and felt I should have to suffer. I thought that it would be part of the grieving process and help me, rather than just going to sleep & then it all being over. Even after I was in agony & hemoraging for hours, I didn't call the hospital or my doctor. It was only when my sister came by & saw me that she insisted I go straight to Emergency. I ended up having a D&C anyway as the bleeding would not stop. Rather than helping with the grieving process, it actually made it worse, because I also had to deal with the trauma of the miscarriage, and it took me weeks to fully recuperate physically - I still get extremely emotional just thinking about it.
My advice, based on my experience, would be to have the D&C. It is NOT the easy way out, and you DO NOT deserve to suffer any more than you already are.

I wish you luck, and also know that things will get better - I fell pregnant again straight after my miscarriage, and now have a beautiful DD - I know the same will happen for you too.

#8 *~*ME*~*

Posted 22 December 2010 - 02:50 PM

Hi Sorry to hear that.

I waited 4 weeks from when i found out and nothing happened so i had a d and c.

Edited by Freckles, 23 December 2010 - 05:30 PM.
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#9 AppleCake

Posted 22 December 2010 - 02:54 PM

I am not familiar with the capsule option. However, I have experienced the other two. The "natural" dragged on for two months. The D&C felt like a "clean canvas".
Sorry for your loss.

#10 1 for me

Posted 22 December 2010 - 03:00 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a blighted ovum last August. I was told at 9wks 2days (no growth since 6wks). At first I decided to wait it out and did this for a week, it was the worst week of my life at that stage. In the end I opted for a D&C as I didn't want to wait it out any longer.

My thoughts are with you

#11 becstar101

Posted 22 December 2010 - 03:08 PM

I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum at 10 weeks couple of years ago, between my two live births.  I'd had no bleeding or pain at all.

I went home to wait it out, but only managed to wait a four or five days before opting for a d & c.  Having gone through a 'natural' miscarriage previously, I have to say the d & c was much easier to cope with emotionally, even though it did carry some minimal risks.

Take care of yourself.


#12 KittyKat1

Posted 22 December 2010 - 03:40 PM


Edited by KittyKat1, 25 March 2012 - 10:38 PM.

#13 Daisy Girl

Posted 26 December 2010 - 05:05 PM

So sorry for your loss.

In my opinion I'd be having the D&C.   Whilst a D&C is awful, at least it allows you to move through the grieving process sooner.   I had a blighted ovum a few years back (8.5wks)  and had a miscarriage 5 weeks ago.(9.5wks)   I had D&C's with both. (OB had me in within 24hrs with both).     A D&C is a horrible thing to go through but at least it is over in a day and you can try and move on.    I personally could never have coped with passing big clots and bleeding a great deal......that would have really devastated me.

My thoughts are with you.  Take care and be kind to yourself at this sad time.

#14 kitty*kat

Posted 26 December 2010 - 09:33 PM

I am so so sorry to hear of your sad news hhugs.gif

I was told I had a blighted ovum and I was nearly 9 weeks. I was given two choices either the d&c or natural. I really and truely knew that I would not be able to deal with knowing that nothing was going on inside, yet experiencing all the pregnancy symptoms,as if everything was fine but it wasnt. It was just way to hard to fathom. I opted straight away for a d&c and my obst had it done within a couple of days. I grieved terribly but I had to do it knowing that I could have waited weeks for a natural mc.

I realise that it is totally a personal choice, and i';m sure you will make the choice thats right for you. DO take care, and I really hope that things work out for you.

#15 hernette

Posted 27 December 2010 - 10:27 PM

QUOTE (shonaj @ 22/12/2010, 04:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a blighted ovum last August. I was told at 9wks 2days (no growth since 6wks). At first I decided to wait it out and did this for a week, it was the worst week of my life at that stage. In the end I opted for a D&C as I didn't want to wait it out any longer.

My thoughts are with you

This was a bit like my situation this time, except I opted for a D&C straight away.  I think I have experienced all 3 of the options the OP mentioned.

The first time (April 09) I was a real mess psychologically (off my antidepressants).  I opted for a D&C even though I'd already started bleeding because I couldn't have handled waiting it out.

The second time was 23 December 09 and I knew I'd have a few days off work with DH so I opted to wait.  I was already spotting so it only took a few days (I was about 5 1/2 weeks).  Was like a bad period but I had a wheat bag and Nurofen to help.

This latest one I should have been about 9 weeks but scan showed it had stopped progressing at 6 weeks.  I had been on progesterone pessaries, which I think kept a natural m/c at bay.  Because I was so devastated and hadn't started bleeding yet (so had no idea how long it would take) I opted for another D&C.  My FS gave me Misoprostol to insert 3 hours before surgery, which I imagine are the 'capsules' you mention.  The object I understand was to start the process of dilating the cervix to make it less likely that there would be any damage from the procedure.  The only problem is it look much longer than expected for me to be taken into surgery and by the time they did I was having horrible cramps and, because I hadn't had the surgery yet, they couldn't give me anything for them, so it was really the worst of both worlds.  Once I'd had the OP though it was fine as I could have painkillers.

It's a very personal thing and depends I think on how you feel at the time.  Whatever you choose I hope it goes as easily as possible for you.  I am happy to answer any questions.

#16 fortyishanna

Posted 01 January 2011 - 07:54 PM

I'll add my experience here in case anyone can benefit from it. I'm so sorry to hear of everyone's losses. It adds to my own tears tonight.

I had some brown discharge starting at 8.5 weeks which gradually increased, and at the same time my breasts grew less tender - I knew in my heart something was wrong. At 9.5 weeks (Christmas Eve) I had one red spot of blood and this happened again over the next two days, until I was bleeding quite heavily, however with no pain or cramping at all. I'm on holiday in the US so I had to go to the local ER and spend the day there getting tests. They found a significant sub chorionic haemorrhage which was causing the bleeding, but also incidentally discovered I had a blighted ovum. The finding was not able to be confirmed by the ER doctors so they referred me to a specialist. This all happened two days before I was due to fly home to Australia.

If not for the bleeding from the SCH I might not have discovered the blighted ovum until it was too late and I was miscarrying at 10 weeks on a jumbo jet, potentially risking my life. The next day and bleeding even more I had to follow up with the specialist who confirmed the blighted ovum and also remarked that I had started to miscarry - they took me straight from his office literally into the hospital and into surgery for an emergency D&C, which ended with a laparoscopy as well. The whole process was terrifying, but I think it was infinitely better than my previous natural miscarriage, and having to deal with passing the baby... So whatever you hear about the US Health System I have nothing but praise for the way my treatment was handled and the prompt, sympathetic and professional way all the staff dealt with my situation. If this happened to me again I think for my emotional health I would opt for a D&C - I doubt I could handle waiting to miscarry.

So now I'm still in the US and I can't fly out until Tuesday!

#17 mintt

Posted 01 January 2011 - 09:17 PM

THanks everyone for all your support and sharing your experiences.

I ended up waiting about a week i think, and then went to the hospital... not for a D&C but to discuss a D&C, and see if i could handle it.
I ended up going in there, and they suggested i take the tabets (insert 4 tablets high up near the cervix). They were'nt going to scan me, but i asked for a scan, and it showed the sack still was growing, however there was definately nothing in side... which suprisingly made everything alot easier for me.  I guess the fact it as found out so early (7week), i had hope something might happen... so i couldnt do anything until i felt sure it was a Blighted Ovum.
Once that was confirmed, i was fine to take the pills.

I took the day off work, and inserted the pills around 11am.  I started getting light cramping right away, however that lasted about 3hours (i managed to do most my christmas shopping in this time).  after that at about 2pm the crapping got quite bad... i headed to the chemist to seek some pain relief.
I got nurofin Plus... which helped a little... but i think i may have taken it a little too late.
I was crapping really badly... and was sweating like mad, and needed to go to the toilet. Completely emptied my bowls... and then ended up sitting on the bathroom floor wiating to vomit.
It was pretty horrible... and i felt terrible, but it only lasted about 2hours of serious pain.  It was what i imagine very early labour is like.  i had to rock though the cramps/pains, which kind of came in waves...
And moaned like some dieing animal.

I had a feeling it didnt work though ... since the bleeding that day was kind of heavy - however when i went to the toilet i noticed i lost 1 pill, and then later on again when i went to the toilet i noticed i lost another one.
The days after i had minimal bleeding.

SO a week later, i went to have a scan. I was sure it hadnt worked.
Well i was right... it didnt work.

SO they gave me the pills again, and this time, the Doctor said to wet everything alot before inserting the pills, so the pills would "melt" (wrong word... but cant think of the right one) faster.
Well i did the 2nd "treatment" 3days ago, and it was just as horrible as the first time.  however this time i did it at night.  I was waking through the night to go to the toilet alot, and also waking to get heat packs for my tummy.
I was moaning and again rocking through the cramps.
Petty aweful.... but its nothing i couldnt handle.
Afew hours of pain... however i would prefer this to a D&C... much lower risks

I think this time it worked... passed a big clot, and have had alot of bleeding.
I have a scan Wednesday  to confirm.

if it didnt work, im off for a D&C.

It was horrible... and i felt lke i was dieing at the time... but really now i think about it im ok,.... andi guess the fact i wasnt too concerned doing it again after the first lot... means it cant be too bad?

Sorry if this is al TMI... but i thought it might help someone one day original.gif

#18 ellejaylou

Posted 05 January 2011 - 04:10 AM

Hi Mintt

Thanks for the update.. hope it worked second time around.  How did the scan go?

I waited two weeks to miscarry, bled lots, lots of cramping, but still incomplete.

I had a Dand C on the 29th.

When I had DD my placenta was stuck, so figured it was the same this time around too...

I hope you're recovering well

#19 ellejaylou

Posted 05 January 2011 - 04:21 AM

Hi Mintt

Thanks for the update.. hope it worked second time around.  How did the scan go?

I waited two weeks to miscarry, bled lots, lots of cramping, but still incomplete.

I had a Dand C on the 29th.

When I had DD my placenta was stuck, so figured it was the same this time around too...

I hope you're recovering well

#20 jewel2

Posted 05 January 2011 - 06:08 PM

Hi Mintt

We spoke via private message a couple of weeks ago.

I ended up with a D&C on the Sat 18th December.

Hope my story helps those waiting.
I had been spotting for just over a week, and would have been 10wks pregnant. But scans had shown only about 6wks. I knew in my heart it was another miscarriage, but thought I would be ok.

Spotting got worse and I went to accident and emergency  for 8am, and was sure I didnt want the D&C but it was taken out of my hands as I had infection.
The whipped me to theatre straight away but then surgeon called it off due to risk of damage from infection. As it could lead to possible problems with fertility, the surgeon was super and reasurred me my health and fertility was her priority.

So I was put on 2 types of antibiotic drips every 4 hours, then a day later I had the D&C. Again more antibiotic drip. Then sent home with 10day supply of antibiotics.

For those not sure, I had a natural miscarriage in July and it was a longer drawn out process with quite a bit of pain. I hate operations so didnt want the D&C but it ended up being easier for me to handle and over quicker.

**If your spotting/bleeding for too long get to A&E, as it can lead to dangerous infection and could effect your future fertility.


#21 johannasweet

Posted 22 January 2011 - 11:46 AM

hi there, i have been told by the doctor that i have had a missed miscarriage.
does anyone know if this is the same as a blighted ovum? it sounds similar to me in that i had a scan at 6 weeks without a heartbeat, then another two over the following 4 weeks. showing gest sac and yolk sac and small baby no heartbeat.

i should be just over 10 weeks now, and had an dr's appt 2 weeks ago, she said to wait 2 weeks for it to come out naturally. at about 7 weeks i had stopped getting pregnancy symptoms and actually have been feeling physically good.

I just had another dr's appt yesterday, and the dr just wanted to tell me 'it's for the best' which set me getting teary, (i seem to only cry at the drs), and he wanted to tell me and dh that we needed counselling, which made me worse. then i asked 'how long til it will come out' and he said it could be 3 months!!! i don't know if i can handle waiting that long!

anyhow this morning i have some mild heaviness in the stomach that feels like a period. and some light bleeding. Does anyone know if this is the start of the miscarraige??

From what i've read in this forum, i think the d+c sounds like it might be the best, and allow me to get back to regular cycles the quickest. what do you think.

any advice would be greatly appreciated.

best wishes to anyone who has experienced a loss.

#22 happi_losti

Posted 22 January 2011 - 12:04 PM

johnannasweet: i think a blighted ovum is an egg sac without a baby and missed miscarriage is egg sac with baby but has stopped developing. heaviness, dropping/pushing sensation, needing to poo feeling, and red dripping bleed (ie. sit there and it just drips out of your freely without you needing to wipe) is a pretty good sign you begin miscarrying. keep an eye on it and if you feel incredibly unwell or bleed heavily without passing a clot or continue to bleed heavily after the clot see a doc to make sure its a 'clean' miscarriage. i deliberately left out timframes between these steps as i do not want to provide medical advice, so maybe see a gp if in doubt about what to expect and look out for.

also, as yours is a missed miscarriage and there will be a baby in the sac be aware of the mental trauma once you pass the clot esp if you see it. think about if you would like to 'farewell' or bury your beanie. also i would hold onto the clot and take it in for pathology to see if there are any obvious causes for this miscarriage.

take care and good luck.

and mintt: thank you for sharing your story. i hope you've passed everything cleanly also and the scan on wed will beall good. take care of yourself over the next week and let your body recover. make sure you rehydrate.

#23 Trisven13

Posted 22 January 2011 - 02:22 PM

I found out yesterday that I've had another missed miscarriage.  Last time I miscarried the night after the ultrasound.  It never occurred to me that it could take so long to miscarry this time around.  I'll wait a week I think and then go to the doctor.

#24 happi_losti

Posted 22 January 2011 - 06:17 PM

QUOTE (Trisven13 @ 22/01/2011, 03:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I found out yesterday that I've had another missed miscarriage.  Last time I miscarried the night after the ultrasound.  It never occurred to me that it could take so long to miscarry this time around.  I'll wait a week I think and then go to the doctor.

sorry for ur loss trisven13 hope you recover speedily from it, take care

#25 johannasweet

Posted 24 January 2011 - 06:34 PM

happiforyou, thanks so much for your input. its very much like a regular period for me at the moment, 3 days into bleeding.
mintt, thanks so much for sharing.
trisven13, thinking of you.

Edited by johannasweet, 24 January 2011 - 06:34 PM.

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