Pregnant After Miscarriage
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Posted 26 July 2010 - 05:08 PM
Here is the thread that has been requested.
Once your baby is born you need to graduate to the Parents Groups.
If you have other concerns or questions regarding this thread please Lilymurray the Moderator of this area rather than posting in the thread.
Kind regards and all the best on this leg of the journey.
Edited by ~A2~, 26 July 2010 - 11:26 PM.
Edited as the thread has been renamed slightly and moved
Posted 26 July 2010 - 06:03 PM
Oh yay so excited that this group has been started!!! Thanks Ali
I hope a few more join soon as I know a few of us from the TTCafter loss groups are still
lurking around, so glad we can continue the support in here. Chat soon
Posted 26 July 2010 - 06:14 PM
.......reporting for duty. So how do we start this thing ladies? Should we do a roll call type thing make a list of all our due dates/details like in the DIGs?
I'll start by asking everyone how you are feeling, how far along are you?
I hit 11 weeks today, had no morning sickness physically been fine but emotionally well I'm so scared/nervous. We haven't told anyone irl yet, too scared to tell the kids yet.. just in case. They are still coming to terms with losing their little brother in march so I'm not going to tell them until I get to the point where I would have to deliver the baby rather than have a d&c. I would rather them not know if I have an early loss.
I have my nt scan next week, I can't wait to see this little one again
Posted 26 July 2010 - 07:08 PM
Hmmm...nice in here.
Like the view - think I might see if there are any places available in the near future. Wouldn't mind making a move!!!!
Good luck with it girls - hope to see you all soon.
Posted 26 July 2010 - 07:14 PM
Haha cute mamabug hope to see you soon!!
Hi Julz! I am nearly seven weeks along, I had an early miscarriage in early may at six weeks so st the moment I am just pleased to be past that mark. This time my symptoms are great and my levels are where they should be so fingers crossed.
How many children do you have Julz?
Posted 26 July 2010 - 07:25 PM
Oh good - we've started!! Thank you again Ali!
Julz - wow 11 weeks - as slow as time seems to go while you are TTC, in a way I find that it flies as well. How are you feeling about the NT scan? I fully understand not wanting to tell your other kids 1yet - it must be so hard on them. Thankfully Owen is still too little to understand these things.
Not sure how we will work this... I am happy to have a list, but I am probably too lazy to maintain it, if somebody else wants to
We need to work out who has gone through the TTC after miscarriage groups and invite them in here personally I think. Julz, can you think of who we need to invite?
Readyandraring - would you be able to invite people from the TTC #1 group?
Me - I am not even 5 weeks yet so still early days. To be honest, I have not even worked out my EDD and do not plan to until I absolutely have to. I am doing tracking cycles through a fertility clinic and have my next blood test on Thursday. I am pretty scared as the first couple of tests were not good - first low progesterone and then HCG not doubling. However the third one (on Saturday) was fine.
Anyway, btter go get dinner... and then to brainstorm who got pregnant from ttc after miscarriage.
Love to all
PS mamabug - you make sure you join us soon. But until then, feel free to stalk.
Edited by icesprite, 26 July 2010 - 07:27 PM.
Posted 26 July 2010 - 07:26 PM
lol mamabug, hope you get your butt in here soon and bring some friends along with you
ready- I have a 10yr nearly 11 old dd, 4 year old ds and my angel Ethan who was actually due to make his appearance this thursday on his big sisters birthday. So its going to be a bittersweet day on Thursday. I also had an early miscarriage in may this year. I'm glad that you have past 6 weeks it must be a little reassuring. I was extremely anxious at that stage and for weeks after always running to the loo to check for blood but have finally gotten over that fear now I just terrified of my waters breaking again
I think there was lei, nopatience and happy hb? I am probably forgetting people here sorry
Re. The NT scan I have mixed feelings about it, its going to be so good to see if everything is going to be ok with this bub but I am also dreading going there. I will be having it the same place where we got the horrible news about Ethan so I think I'll probably be in tears before I even make it into the scan. But I am very anxious to check on everything. I think bub will be fine, I saw him/her a couple weeks ago at hospital but on my dating scan they found a small subchorionic haemotoma so thats playing on the back of my mind and just another worry I don't need. I will also be having an internal (yuk) scan with the nt to measure my cervix which I am strangely happy about because at least if they find something they can put a cerclage in and this bubs will have a chance.
I was reading your updates in the ttc thread and was so
for you, I'm so glad the saturday tests come back good. Will the clinic be sending you for a dating scan?
Edited by julz78, 26 July 2010 - 07:43 PM.
Posted 26 July 2010 - 08:03 PM
I have put the word out in my group and sent a couple of pm's to some girls that have left but were reluctant to leave
Do you think we stop worrying? I really feel for you having your scan coming up, I am sure both you and your partner will be feeling it that day. Did you get an early appointment for that day?
I think I wake up every morning checking to see if my boobs are still tender or if my mouth is still dry, that was the first things I noticed last time.
But all good so far and so glad we have a group, I am really relieved! I am trying to not get ahead of myself with purchasing baby items and planning but the other girls in the due date group are all action stations. It is great for them, but I just feel so hestitant!
Hi Icesprite, I saw your news in the thread, so pleased for you!
Posted 26 July 2010 - 09:24 PM
Hi, I'm from the TTC #1 after miscarriage group!
I'm 18 weeks along today. I still haven't joined my "DIG" - it was so hard last time to watch my due date come up in the "Recent Discussions" box . . .
I haven't purchased any baby items and in fact felt a bit annoyed when Mum, sister and sister-in-law gave me a few gifts, even though it was really kind of them. All I could think was, "what do I do with this stuff if I miscarry?" And I still feel funny about telling people, although I've told most people now. I also feel annoyed whenever people talk about the baby arriving as if it's a sure thing. It still doesn't feel that way.
I've had 2 scans now, one at 8 weeks and one at 13 weeks. Both fine. I am not sure about the 18-20 week one. I have heard of 2 people finding out the sex accidentally at this scan when they didn't want to know. I've also heard it takes a long time and I feel ambivalent about the safety of a long ultrasound (the others were like 5 mins). So I am still making up my mind.
I am planning on homebirthing and have a wonderful midwife who is so reassuring - exactly what I need. She came over this week and spent 2 hours chatting, so nice.
I still "check" every time I go to the loo (a billion times a day nowadays!) and worry about bizarre mishaps, catching some infection, blood clots etc. But at the same time I think there's nothing I can do either way, so I'm just getting on with things. Trying to keep fit, listening to relaxing baby music ('music for dreaming') and reading a thousand baby books. Don't know when I'll actually have the guts to buy baby clothes etc though.
Posted 26 July 2010 - 10:58 PM
Slight change of plans girls.
After discussions with other Moderators I am going to move this to the Specialised Pregnancy Support Groups area as that is what this group is. That way it will be in the right area for others to see it and join and can be an ongoing group.
The link will stay in the EB Buddy Groups so you all should find it OK.
All the best to you all, I have edited my OP to fit the new area.
Posted 26 July 2010 - 11:19 PM
Oh, this is the exact thread we need
Thanks so much Amy, for the heads up about it. I saw your mention of it in our old TTC #1 after loss and went looking for it and couldn't find it, so I was very pleased to get you PM to say how to find it.
Ok, a quick run down on me as its my bed time. I am 35 and DH is 34. We have been together for 17 years, since teenagers, and have been married for 9 years. We have been TTC for about 1 year and it is something we both very much want (it took us a long time to make this decision)
I am 10 weeks along and this is my 3rd PG after 2 MMC, which were found at 7 and 8 weeks scans. Each time we had no heartbeat and I had D&C (and then I was diagnosed with cancer [melanoma] 2 weeks after my last D&C, which threw us for a bit of a loop). All these 3 events happened over a 4 month period. With the cancer treatment that followed, this was easily the very worst 6 months of our life.
We have had two scans with this PG so far and my OB has me on fortnightly scans. We have had one at 7 and 9 weeks and had a healthy hearbaet each time (and I cried like a baby the firsts time we saw that heartbeat).
I have my 1st OB appointment tomorrow after it was resceduled a week ago.
Like lots of you DH and I have been pretty nervous, but are starting to feel more positive. DH is getting keen to tell people (most of our immediate family know, plus a few other close friends), but I have asked him to hold off for a while yet, until the NT is done.
As for buying things, DH and I have never even been game to go to a baby shop so we have neveer bought a thing. Dunno when I will be game to start.
I am so glad this thread has started and I look forward to getting to know you all and hopefully seeing a few more familiar faces.
Posted 26 July 2010 - 11:23 PM
hi everyone i have just found out im pregnant i am only about 5 weeks am scared sh*tless as i have had previous misscarrige and have had some severe pain in ovarian area
Posted 27 July 2010 - 09:30 AM
R&R - Thanks for inviting me. I think this thread is a great idea.
So some of you already know me from TTC #1 after miscarriage and some will get to know me. I am currently just over 9 weeks after having a miscarriage in May this year. I fell pg again straight away. I was very lucky but also it bought a lot of nerves along with it.
I have had two scans first one was not so good and nothing was seen and they said that I was measuring a week behind only 5 weeks. I had to wait two weeks for the next scan which was horrible. Had scan two weeks later and saw bubs with heartbeat. This scan I had caught up by 5 days. Not sure how that was possible but hey I am happy just to have a bub in there.
Other than that I have to keep reminding myself I am pregnant because I have had no pg symptoms. No MS just some tiredness. I still worry every day and with the lack of symptoms it only makes it worse. But like Cherry stated no point adding extra worry when we cannot change the outcome. So I just try and remain positive.
I have three more weeks to wait until my 12 week scan. Time is going really really slow but I know as soon as the scan is over time is going to fly by.
I have not purchased any baby stuff. I think I will wait until after the next scan and then it will seem a little bit more real.
Looking forward to getting to know you all.
Posted 27 July 2010 - 09:38 AM
- you have no idea how happy I am to see you in here!!! Congratulations!
Congrats to everyone else too. I just spotted this thread in recent topics. I have to get ready for playgroup but will be back later with a more detailed post.
For now - I have a 22 month old DD, have been TTC #2 since last October. After 2 miscarriages I am now almost 9 weeks pregnant. My first OB appointment was meant to be tomorrow, but last Thursday I had a scare when I saw some brown discharge when I went to the loo (exactly how my first miscarriage started). So rushed off for an ultrasound where DH and I were shocked and over the moon to see a healthy 8 week bean with a heartbeat! Since then I've been feeling much more relaxed, it's starting to sink in that I might actually have a baby this time. I'm going back for my scheduled appointment tomorrow still with a little trepidation, haven't made it to 9 weeks the last two times so this is a bit of a magic milestone for me.
OK, see you all later
Posted 27 July 2010 - 10:59 AM
Blondiebear - nowhere near as happy as I am to see me in here! Hopefully I will stay... but it is still so early and I am so far from convinced that there will be a baby at the end of it.
Yay for the heartbeaty ultrasound last week and good luck getting through the dreaded week 9.
Natmac - interesting on the difference between the two scans. Do you think perhaps they just got it wrong the first time? But as you said, at least you have a baby in there now!! Good luck in the weeks leading up to your NT scan.
lilmumma - oooh, we're at about the same point. Fingers crossed for both of us. I hope your pains are nothing significant. I don't mean to freak you out, but you may want to go get checked for an ectopic. I am so paranoid about ectopic, even that I am not in a particular risk category.
MrsCarmen - gosh, you have gone thorugh a tough patch. Hopefully this is the end of all your worries and life will be plain sailing for you from now on. Well done on getting that little bit further on this pregnancy.
Me - I found that my entire pregnancy with Owen dragged on so long, but it is just ridiculous this time. Realisticallly, I have only known I was pregnant for a week but it feels like months that I have been carrying this load of strss on my shoulders.
What I am kind of worried about is that the progesterone suppliments that I am on will mask a miscarriage by not letting the lining shed, at least in the early weeks. I will be having fairly regular blood tests so that will pick up problems with HCG, but there needs to be something to worry about doesn't there?
Well, I think we might go to the park. My house is freezing but it is quite a nice day outside.
Take care everyone
Posted 27 July 2010 - 01:28 PM
I agree with you sprite
about the pregnancy dragging, it seems like forever since I got my BFP. Of course in the mean time I've had 4 different friends announce their pregnancies which makes me even more worried about something going wrong with this one, that's more growing bellies I'd have to look at.CherryAmes
- I hear you about watching the DIGs go on without you. My first due date was July 2 and I couldn't help popping into the July 1-14 group now and then to see how they're going, it's been tough seeing them all show off their new babies and thinking how I should've had one.julz
tomorrow is going to be tough I'm sure, I hope you're able to enjoy your DD's birthday.NatMac
- what a relief to have that good scan. Like you I won't even think about buying anything for the baby until I make it past 12 weeks. Even with Claudia I didn't buy anything until about 6 months I think!
Posted 27 July 2010 - 02:03 PM
Hi everyone. I'm from the TTC after misscarriage thread. I have a 3.5 year-old daughter and have been TTC since August last year. We had a miscarriage in March, but fotunately fell PG again last month and I'm now just over 7 weeks along.
for organising this thread. It's great to be able to talk to people who understand what we're all feeling and thinking and have similar experiences. I'm so glad your latest test results were good. Fingers crossed for the next eight months! I hear you on the worry and stress - it just doesn't go away. Hope you and Owen enjoy the park.Julz
- hi again! It's great to see things are going well for you.
for Thursday, I hope it's not too tough for you and your family.readyandraring
- hi and congratulations. I keep checking my BBs too - I don't think I've ever touched them so much
. Anything for reassurance.CherryAmes
- hi and congratulations on getting to 18 weeks, that's fantastic. I haven't bought anything for this PG either. It kinda feels like you're jinxing it. I'll probably start once I get past the NT scan.Mrs Carmen
- I'm so sorry the past six months were so tough for you. Good luck with your OB appt tomorrow and I hope it helps you feel reassured and positive.lilmumma2011
- congratulations. I hope the pain is nothing serious and goes away. As Jen suggested, it might be worthwhile getting it checked out if it persists just for peace of mind.Natmac
- hi and congrats. I'm glad your last scan was okay. There's been a few ladies in my March DIG that have had weird and unexpected scan results - given how difficult it must be to measure such tiny little babies I wonder if it's operator error? Anyway, I'm glad the second scan was much better.Le-a
- hi March DIG buddy!. Good luck with your OB appointment tomorrow -- here's to 9 weeks!Me
- I had a dating/viability scan this morning. I was a bit worried about it but, everything looks really good. Baby is measuring exactly to my dates and has a strong heartbeat of 165. I'm so relieved. I think I can start to relax a little now. I've had - well still have - shocking MS so that's also making me feel a little more positive.
Posted 27 July 2010 - 03:45 PM
- great news from the scan!
Posted 27 July 2010 - 03:47 PM
Helen here - thanks Icesprite for the invite, I'm a bit tired today so will reserve my energy for now and post over the next couple of days when DD is in daycare but just wanted to say hi anyway.
I'm 32 weeks pregnant - so not long, I can come back and pass on some experience of moving forward as I had 6 m/c's prior to DD who is 2 now and another m/c after DD and this one made it so far to 32wks.
I will be back
Posted 27 July 2010 - 05:03 PM
Firstly thanks so much icesprite for setting this group up and congrats again on your BFP. Hope we all stick around here for a long time.
It will be great to have a place to come and talk openly about concerns even if they are irrational and things like EDD anniversaries without scaring the pants off the blissfully unaware (lucky buggers).
I have two boys, nearly 7 and 5.5 and am nearly 9 weeks with #3. I had a D&C for a missed miscarriage on 5 May this year and got my BFP on 20 June. I saw my ob last week and had a great scan with a little blob measuring spot on for dates and a nice healthy heartbeat. While the scan did help me to relax a little I'm really looking forward to 12 weeks.
I look forward to getting to know you all.
Posted 27 July 2010 - 06:11 PM
It is so great to see more members. I agree, Rumpel
, it is good to have a place to vent and not scare those who are blissfully (and luckily) unaware.
Like a few others have said, it just seems to drag on. I just want to get to 12 weeks.
AFM my OB appointment went well. I have the worlds most lovely OB who has taken care of me through the MCs and has done my 2 D&Cs. He has no real concerns and is pleased with how it is all going. His only concern is my mental health. I had my 2 MCs and cancer diagnosis all in 4 months and didn't get any counselling. I also have suffered depression in the past. He is a bit worried about how fragile I might be and just wants me to be mindful of my moods and how I am feeling.
Otherwise, all good
I am booked in for my NT scan next Fri, 6th August. If/when we get the all clear, then we will announce it. But I am worried that it will be hard to hide as I am showing already, which really surprises me. But maybe peole will think I am just getting even fatter
Hope everyone is well
Edited by MrsCarmen, 27 July 2010 - 06:13 PM.
Posted 27 July 2010 - 07:48 PM
Thanks Jen for starting this group, it's exactly what I need in my ever irrational state
. I have joined a DIG and love reading along but just can't seem to get into posting.
Well I'm 16wks now and some of you may remember me from TTC after m/c. I've had 2 m/c's and 1 ectopic. I'm still finding it very hard to accept that I might actually be having a baby. Sorry can't remember who said it but I'm also finding it difficult when other people speak as though I will have a baby. I find even when talking to DP I say "if we have" not "when we have".
I've only told a handful of people so far and I swear everytime I've told each one my immediate thought is, that's it I've jinxed it.
My last scan was at 12wks so its been nearly 4wks since I've seen bub. I barely have a bump & my nausea etc seems to have settled, I guess this is why I'm getting to a real panic state. My morph scan is booked for 18th Aug. I'm also booked in for an amnio this Friday, however I'm unsure if I will go thru with it. My NT results were 1:890, which at 39 is apparently pretty good, but I just feel I need to know for sure. However the thought of an amnio causing a m/c scares the crap out of me. I'm also worried I may just go ahead with it due to my desperation to see that bub is alright via ultrasound. It's really doing my head in and adding stress which I really don't need.
God it feels good to get this stuff out with people who understand.
Anyway looking forward to chatting with you girls and good luck to everyone, I hope your stay is long.
Helen - it's really good to hear your still plodding along. I've often wondered how you were going.
Posted 28 July 2010 - 08:49 AM
NoPatience I can imagine it's a really tough time in the pregnancy, with no appointments to see what's happening. I would be scared about the amnio too, tough choice to make.
I'm feeling sick this morning about my appointment today. Even though I saw a heartbeat last week I still have this horrible feeling that something could've gone wrong in the last 6 days, my last baby stopped growing at 8w4d so all I can think is what if this one has done the same?
Posted 28 July 2010 - 09:25 AM
Jen - thanks for organising this buddy group; I think we all needed somewhere to come to after our BFPS.
Like some of you I haven't joined a DIG yet but have just been
in my old TTC after m/c group. I should be 6 weeks today but doesn't look like things are going well at the moment. Felt my symptons (mainly sore boobs) disappear on Sat. Went to my gp on Monday to get a referral for my ob and ended up telling her I think I'm loosing another one. She ordered a scan that day and a blood test. The scan showed a gestational sac only messuring at 4 weeks 5 days and my blood test came back at only 1,200 HCG. I have to have another blood test tomorrow to see if it's going up or down. I feel numb, everyone is telling me to be positive but I can't
I will update the result on Thursday once I know but I think my stay here will be short and bitter sweet.
I still so happy to read all your good news, espec you girls that I have been in buddy groups with before
Posted 28 July 2010 - 10:48 AM
Oh Jane, I am sending you all the luck in the world. I hope your bub will be ok.
You will be in my thoughts.
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