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#1 The-Missus

Posted 23 December 2009 - 01:39 PM

http://www.heraldsun.com.au/news/victoria/...x-1225813146320

Oh purlease, you just forget there is a child strapped in the seat. wacko.gif

#2 Blueblue

Posted 23 December 2009 - 01:59 PM

Its stupid.

I have been looking over my shoulder for the last few days making sure my children arent in the back as I leave the car.
Even though I know they are not in the car.

#3 Bkrsdzn+1

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:02 PM

I believe her, I am terrified of forgetting one of mine.  Once when one of my boys was little I popped out to the supermarket and completely forgot he was with me, didn't remember till I got
back in the car and he made a noise! It was less than 10 minutes and it was night time so no danger of overheating, but I seriously completely forgot him and the thought of it terrifies me!!

#4 PurpleWitch

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:05 PM

Mine are never bloody quiet enough to forget!

Honestly, things like that story make me physically sick.

#5 PurpleSunshine

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:05 PM

But Shell, that's why you check. Well it's why I check anyway. Even when I know I don't have the kids with me, I still check. Particularly in the early sleep deprived days.




#6 Bollocks

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:07 PM

I dont buy it at all.  She had just dropped off her other 4 children before going to the shopping centre.


If she cant remember them all then she needs to stop having children.

#7 cycloneboonty

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:07 PM

'Stupid' is the kindest of the words I was thinking when I saw this on the news last night. You dont FORGET -   your a mother, you think and you check and you just dont forget! you can forget the milk or the washing on the line when it rains but forgetting your child is in the car is just totally WRONG.

THe most likely reason (that we will never really know is) ' ohh he's asleep, and I dont want to wake him so I will just let him sleep as I will only be a few minutes' .





#8 MrsG

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:12 PM

Maybe I would believe that story if the mother was distressed when she went in to find her son. But she casually put her many bags down and stood there.
If she genuinely forgot she would have ripped her son out of the mans arms to comfort him and give him water but she was to worried saying sorry to the people standing around because she was given a good serve by the guy that found him. She didn't even looked distressed or frantic herself.

She needs to be charged and I hope she is. Yes she is going to feel terrible about the whole incident I have no doubt but you just can not leave your child in a car and there needs to be tougher penalties to show that.



#9 lindyloo03

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:15 PM

It is horrible what she did but I do believe you can forget you have a child in the car.

I watched the saddest episode on Oprah once where this guy forget he had his little baby girl in the car as usually the wife dropped her off at care. He went to work on auto pilot and at some stage through the day someone came running in to tell him his child was in the car and she had died. it was so sad and the guilt this guy felt was unbeleivable. It was ever since that episode I have always checked my carseats every single time I get out of the car.

#10 Bkrsdzn+1

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:15 PM

But people do forget, children have died as a result; it's fine to say she shouldn't, damn rude to suggest it's because she has too many children and a good idea to suggest checking everytime even when you know you don't have them! Anyone who thinks they could never  forget is more at risk of doing so than someone who is aware that even perfect mothers can make mistakes

#11 MrsG

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:22 PM

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But people do forget, children have died as a result


I am aware people do forget. I just don't believe she forgot.

But if she 'did' forget  that he was in the back it may very well be because she has so many children. I don't think it is rude for people to have suggested that. If you have more children then you can look after then it is a very good idea to not have any more children. Simple.

Edited by MrsG, 23 December 2009 - 02:22 PM.


#12 ikeaqueen

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:22 PM

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VICTORIAN authorities have warned parents not to leave their children in cars, after being called to 11 cases in two days, and in the wake of a Sydney mum's 'stupid mistake'.


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"Unfortunately at least four of the 11 cases in the last two days involved parents who locked their children in the car and went shopping - which can have  deadly consequences,” Mr Candy said.


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Ambulance Victoria is called to more than 500 cases of children locked in cars each year.

He said in most cases, parents accidentally lock their car keys inside. He suggested drivers carry their keys in pockets while packing or unpacking cars.


I don't know.  If the Police believe her and they've heard her side then who am I to say otherwise?



#13 AprilEthereal

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:23 PM

I am finding it very difficult to believe someone can forget they have a child in the car. How is this possible?

#14 mumtomakandissy

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:23 PM

It was  stupid thing to do but I feel sorry for her if she is genuinely a good mother and did forget. I also saw the Oprah episode that a PP talked about. It can happen. No one is perfect. I doubt everyone in here tut tutting the lady are perfect parents and have never made any mistakes.

People who deliberately leave their child in the car to go play the pokies or go to the casino, now they should be hung out to dry.

#15 vanessa71

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:25 PM

I can't imagine ever 'forgetting' I had a child in the car.



#16 AprilEthereal

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:26 PM

Just to clarify, I am not suggesting for a minute that I am a perfect parent and have never made mistakes, but I am really having difficulty understanding how in that instance someone could simply forget their child is in the car with them.

#17 Superduperlucky

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:27 PM

I am just  ohmy.gif  at the ELEVEN cases in two days ...

#18 Blueblue

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:27 PM

Hopefully children services will investigate.  By the time they finish with her I dont think she will forget any of her kids.

#19 tily

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:28 PM

I don't know if she forgot or not but people do forget. I have driven into work with a child I had forgotten to drop off because they had atypically fallen asleep. You don't have to be stupid to forget.

Perhaps it would be more appropriate to give her the benefit of the doubt because I am sure we have all made mistakes and while this one had potentially tragic consequences that doesn't mean she or anyone deserves what is being served out here! At least the child was saved.

#20 EssentialBludger

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:30 PM

I believe you can, I don't think that was the case here though. The mother was too damn calm.

#21 ChampersGal

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:31 PM

I can't say ive ever forgotten that I have any of my children in the car with me.
The whole strappng them in the carseat is a big reminder plus you see the seat everytime you look in the rear view mirror.

#22 BlokesWorld

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:38 PM

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I can't imagine ever 'forgetting' I had a child in the car.
I agree.

#23 censura carnero

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:41 PM

This was one my pregnancy nighmares I used to have. Completely irrational as like PW I don't have a chance in the world of forgetting they're in the back every bloody second.

Don't forget the 11 also included keys locked in cars which I have done.  That was bloody awful.  Crying hysterically (me not my baby) waiting for someone to come and let my poor little fella out.  Fortunately, I could not have done it in any better circumstances.  Late in the afternoon, under a tree outside a doctors surgery.

Shell you should probably have a roll to call if you go anywhere.   biggrin.gif

Edited by -Flossie-, 23 December 2009 - 02:42 PM.


#24 lucinda79

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:42 PM

I saw the episoide of Oprah too, when I was pregnant and it really made me careful when my routine was different than normal.  For example when it was raining and I decided to drive to uni rather than catch the train.  That story really made me stop and think about how many things I have done on autopiolet.

How many times I have driven home and realised I don't remember if the last three lights were green (they must have been surely?).

Mix being in a rush, out of routine (no school for the older ones), thinking of 20 things at once ????

I don't know???  I would never say never.  I would like to think it wouldn't happen to me.

Maybe her reaction to the whole thing may have be shock.  I'm not sure.  I would like to give her the benefit of the doubt until more comes out.

I'm just glad she has all her children a live for Christmas, a few more minutes and it may have been a different story.

#25 TwistedIvy

Posted 23 December 2009 - 02:42 PM

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I believe you can, I don't think that was the case here though. The mother was too damn calm.


You've just put into words what's been bothering me.  biggrin.gif

If I accidentally left my child in the car and was faced with people breaking in to save him, and seeing him hysterical, I'd be a blithering mess  mellow.gif .




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