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#126 LunaLovegood

Posted 27 October 2008 - 09:51 PM


Edited by LunaLovegood, 13 January 2010 - 01:31 PM.

#127 ~meh~

Posted 27 October 2008 - 09:55 PM

rubyinnewyork: That mother left her child not in view of herself. Most places that parents are leaving their kids to pay fuel is not more than a few metres away and still in sight.

Oh and no i dont leave my wallet in the car... my wallet doesnt yell and scream when someone tries to take it! I also happen to need it to pay. I do however most the time leave my phone in the car as its in my bag and i cant be a*sed taking it with me.

I dont leave my kids in the car when going in to the shops, simply because I become to far away and out of line of sight. I also generally dont fill up my car when the petrol station is busy so i walk in, maybe wait for one person to pay and then pay and walk out... all of a few minutes.

#128 Gangnam Style

Posted 27 October 2008 - 10:00 PM

I firstly ensure they are dressed in their fully fire retardant jumpsuits, and that their gas masks to ward off noxious fuel fumes are in place. I then chain and padlock the precious diddums' to my breast (I have a special piercing for this), and lead them carefully across the forecourt, waving my own personal "stop" sign to any vehicle in the vicinity. After paying for the fuel, I use an antibacterial handwash on all our hands, and give them a precautionary vitamin C tablet before carefully retracing our steps across the forecourt back to our vehicle and return immediately to our fully padded, sanitised and gated home community.

#129 Shet

Posted 27 October 2008 - 10:45 PM

Is this still going? *yawn*

#130 --descentia--

Posted 27 October 2008 - 10:51 PM


But ... but ... but ...

Contumely there could be acid rain. Or a flood. And surely you are aware of the danger of falling pianos? Shouldn't you equip helmets with special visors made of titanium and ensure a small portable lifeboat is towed along behind you (I recommend a second, larger piercing above the tailbone for raft attachment)?

#131 melanieb530

Posted 28 October 2008 - 12:08 AM

I guess ultimately everyone has to do their own risk assessment and decide what is best in their own circumstances.

Personally I do always take the kids with me but partly because I'm in a state where you can be prosecuted for leaving children in the car.
As I work in child care and need a "Working With Children Check" Card I just worry about somehow being reported or caught out and don't want to jeopardise my WWCC as I couldn't get a job without it.

#132 *chan*

Posted 28 October 2008 - 12:18 AM

Once when I took them in, the servo lady told me breathing in petrol fumes wasn't good for them.

I told her my car wasn't a submarine, air (and petrol fumes) get in there too.

Anyway, I fill up when they are at school and I only have the little one and she comes in with me. Or I leave them home with Dad and do it at night. Or he does it.

This is such a stupid debate. Petrol stations are so different. You can't say not taking the kids in when you fill up at an outback roadhouse with 1 car going past every 3 days is the same as a crowded servo with 20 bowsers, 50 people and a checkout 30 metres away.

Just do what you feel safe with. You will work it out just like everyone else.

#133 Guest_GLRR_*

Posted 28 October 2008 - 12:22 AM

I hadn't read any of this thread except this last page but I'm glad I did, Contumely  laughing2.gif

#134 Soontobegran

Posted 28 October 2008 - 12:26 AM

I don't believe people when they say they have weighed up the risk - thats typical EB bollocks  - it is just pure "can't be bothered, its easier for me to leave them in the car".

How condescending glare.gif
Just wait until you have a couple more children and come back and tell us how safe it is for you to cross across a petrol station with one on your hip and a couple toddling along beside you.
Perhaps you will get your double pram out, assemble it and take the 60 second trip to the counter.
Bollocks to that!

#135 MoonPie

Posted 28 October 2008 - 12:36 AM

Contumely  laughing2.gif  laughing2.gif  laughing2.gif

#136 catnat

Posted 28 October 2008 - 06:52 AM

Perhaps you will get your double pram out, assemble it and take the 60 second trip to the counter.

I can just see me setting up my 3 SEATER pram in the middle of the service station laughing2.gif : my less than a minute to pay would became a major outing! Then again it seems some people would unstrap 3 children and take them back inside the 5 steps to grab the nappy bag blink.gif , makes me wonder how their children cope whilst they have to sit in the car whilst their stroller is set up especially as mummy could get mugged and bashed in the process. Maybe leaving the house at all is just too dangerous but then again there are all those dangers at home too I suppose like mum could get have a stroke or slip in the shower, you just never know in this horrible dangerous world.

Gee there are some people on this place who spout some utter crap!

#137 jaycobntyl

Posted 28 October 2008 - 07:10 AM

We are lucky I guess in that our butcher, fruit & veg and local small shop are all able to be parked out the front of...

If I am running in to get something from the butcher 4 year old stays in the car and probably has more visibility from the butcher than the servo.

Fruit & veg he comes in to harass the bananas and grapes

Local shop if I am ducking in to get milk or bread he stays in the car where I can see him

OH and 9/10 times my bag is sitting on the front seat next to my mobile phone and I have just quickly grabbed the card out to pay or cash and left the rest on the front seat.

When the above things happen chances are both kids are with me and if my 11 year old cannot be trusted to sit in a car while I duck in the shops then we have bigger issues than if we get the meat/f&V or milk that night... anyone passing by is more than welcome to him (but they are a double deal, take one take the other).

I just do not have the energy to live my life in that much fear

*eta* just call the wallet,bag and phone on the seat a saftey precaution... I mean really I leave the kids there to watch my bag!  laughing2.gif  laughing2.gif  laughing2.gif

Edited by jaycobntyl, 28 October 2008 - 07:14 AM.

#138 Nicoleandhergirls

Posted 28 October 2008 - 07:11 AM

Still can't believe this is still going.! blink.gif
and yes I do leave my phone in the car as well and wallet actually.
I am just a baddddd person. Call in the stakes and fire i am going to burn and go to hell dev (6).gif  dev (6).gif  dev (6).gif

#139 jaycobntyl

Posted 28 October 2008 - 07:13 AM

This thread is like the energizer bunny.... OI

#140 Gangnam Style

Posted 28 October 2008 - 09:02 AM

Visors and another piercing? You are such a hover mom descentia.   laughing2.gif

#141 ~Sorceress~

Posted 28 October 2008 - 09:19 AM

I'm just surprised nobody's mentioned the virtues of tin foil helmets ...  dev (6).gif

#142 *SYM*

Posted 28 October 2008 - 09:33 AM

Actually I use to take my three kids out of the car to pay for fuel, would park at the bowser nearest to the door and park the car wide so no one could squeeze theirs through and mow the kids down.  But I've already admitted that I'm paranoid.  Where can I get one of those helmets for the kids from laughing2.gif  Although, wouldn't this increase their risk of being taking by aliens?

#143 ampersand

Posted 28 October 2008 - 10:09 AM

Descentia, pokies, pah! I make my seven year old fill up for us and then beg other drivers for the money to pay as she makes her way to the till. That way I don't have to bother getting out of the car at all.

Contumely, that's all very well, but are they organic?

#144 ilovecream

Posted 28 October 2008 - 12:21 PM

Here is a question for the helicopter caring parents :

What would happen if you were home alone with your kids (as we all are at times) and you keeled over from a heart attack,stroke,etc? What happens then? who will look after your kids whilst you are out for the count or possibly dead?

Are you ever alone at home? There is a risk you know. wacko.gif

#145 LunaLovegood

Posted 28 October 2008 - 12:56 PM


Edited by LunaLovegood, 13 January 2010 - 01:31 PM.

#146 jaycobntyl

Posted 28 October 2008 - 02:21 PM

Here is a question for the helicopter caring parents :

What would happen if you were home alone with your kids (as we all are at times) and you keeled over from a heart attack,stroke,etc? What happens then? who will look after your kids whilst you are out for the count or possibly dead?

Are you ever alone at home? There is a risk you know

ohhhh noooo you have just managed to send a heap of people rushing for the valium bottle, life insurance hotline and next of kin files within 3 seconds of reading that post laughing2.gif

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