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Posted 19 September 2008 - 11:14 AM

Finding a Donor

Just some thoughts on finding donors.  Please add any other ideas.

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IMPORTANT NOTE - PLEASE READ
For Victorian recipients (and donors) under the Human Tissue Act 1982, Section 40 states...

"A person shall not-
(a) publish or disseminate by newspaper, other periodical, book, broadcasting, television, cinematograph or other means whatever;
(b) exhibit to public view in a house, shop or place; or
© deposit in the area, yard, garden or enclosure of a house, shop or place an advertisement relating to the selling or buying of tissue or the donation of tissue or of the right to take tissue from the bodies of persons unless the proposed advertisement has been approved by the Minister and contains a statement to that effect."

Send your draft ad for approval to:
Minister Of Health
Department of Human Services,
GPO BOX 4057
Melbourne
Victoria 3001

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Clinic waiting list
It definitely pays to be on your clinic's waiting list, although they can be very long.  Some clinics may also have donor embryo waiting lists if this is an option you might be considering as well.

Sisters, sisters-in-law, friends, cousins, nieces etc
You just never know what angels might be hanging on your family tree until you ask....there might be someone you haven't thought of. I do not mean to undermine the absolute knee-trembling that must go hand-in-hand with asking someone to help you, but donors have come from the most surprising sources within the ranks of those near and dear to you. Of course they can't know you are seeking a donor unless you tell them....so gather your courage if you feel brave enough, and start talking.

Talk to people
Your potential donor might be your hairdresser, your colleague at work, your husband's friend's sister...you just never know. When I tell people in casual conversation that I have donated eggs, I am constantly amazed how many times it is something they themselves have thought about - potential donors are everywhere. but they won't know you are looking unless you tell them.  

Advertising
At some stage of your search, you might decide that the next step is advertising. There are a few hard copy avenues available, the most notable being the various Child's, plus either your local paper, both large and the smaller community papers. Some recipients organise articles in their local paper or even larger mainstream magazine articles. There are also a number of sites on the net where egg donor ads have been successful.  
Hard copy
Child's - Brisbane, Adelaide, Melbourne, Sydney and Canberra....
www.brisbaneschild.com.au etc.
www.adelaideschild.com.au
www.melbourneschild.com.au
www.sydneyschild.com.au
www.canberraschild.com.au

Local Papers
Generally under Public Notices as display ads.

Internet
Essential Baby / Forums / Conception / Seeking Egg and Sperm Donors
www.essentialbaby.com.au

Child's Magazines (Web Child) Discussion Forums
www.webchild.com.au/index.php/Forum

AussieEggDonor yahoo group (primarily support group for both donors and recipients)
http://groups.yahoo....ussieEggDonors/

Other sites
These surrogacy sites are US-oriented, but all have free classifieds for both recipients and donors, and there have been quite a few Australian matches so worth looking at...go to the Classifieds on each site. Bear in mind that some Australian donors are advertising on here with a view to making a US match, so a 'fee' will be involved - run.

www.surromomsonline.com
www.allaboutsurrogacy.com
www.opts.com
www.surrogacy.com
www.everythingsurrogacy.com

Every now and then, very hit and miss, both donors and recipients turn up here...
http://uk.msnusers.c...t/welcome1.msnw
http://groups.msn.co...ssageboard.msnw
http://www.surromoms...fieds/index.htm

These are as yet untried but all have predominantly female audiences in the right age groups....

Australian Women's Weekly - Parenting Board - Discussion Forum
http://aww.ninemsn.c...amp;TopicID=243

ABA Forum
http://www.lrc.asn.au/forum/index.php

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Questions to ask potential donors
How to choose an ovum donor - Resolve website (US site so questions re fees not applicable to Australian donors)

http://www.resolvenc...s/degdonor.html

Is a US site so also includes info about agencies/fees which is irrelevant in Australia.

Updated 19/09/08

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Posted 19 September 2008 - 11:28 AM

Egg Donation FAQ

For many people, the only way they can achieve a successful pregnancy and create their family is with the assistance of an egg donor.  Below is some general information for egg donors – a guide only as practices differ from clinic to clinic.


Who requires donated eggs?
Women with premature menopause.
Women who carry a genetic disease they do not want to pass on.
Women who have no ovarian function due to medical treatment or surgery.
Women who continue to respond poorly in IVF cycles.
Women whose egg quality and quantity has declined due to age.

Who can donate?
- Varies from clinic to clinic, but in general, women 35 and under can be anonymous donors, 38 and under can be known donors.
- Clinics generally prefer donors to have finished their families.
- Women whose families are free of certain genetic problems.
- Having a tubal ligation does not stop you from donating.
- If you are breastfeeding, you will have to wait for a few cycles for your hormone levels to return to normal.
- If you are married, your partner is required to attend the counselling session and sign a consent form. He will also be required to have his blood tested.

What types of donation are there?
Regardless of which donation you choose to pursue, be aware that your decision will impact on your own family.  A successful pregnancy and birth will provide your own children with genetic half-siblings, and it is wise for donors to think about how they feel about this and how they will manage this dynamic within their own family.

Known donation is where the donor is a friend or a family member, or a growing number of women who meet with and get to know recipients with a view to donating. This second group of 'known' donors are usually want any people concieved from their donation to have access to the other half of their genetic story if/when they need it.

Anonymous donation is where the woman donating does not know or have any contact with the recipient couple or any resulting children. Recipients are given non-identifying information such as build, height, eye and hair colour etc. Depending on which state you live in, actual identifying information is available upon request to any people conceived when they reach a certain age.

Depending on which state you live on, laws differ as to what kind of donation you can undertake.

Victoria: Victoria currently has laws that prevent completely anonymous donation. To advertise for a donor, recipients must have their ads approved by the Minister of Health and each ad must contain a blurb from the department. People conceived from donor egg, sperm and embryos in Victoria have the right to know the identity of their donor when they reach the age of 18. Each party to the donation has to lodge their details on a database.

NSW, ACT, TAS, QLD and NT: No legislation. Anonymous donation allowed, although some clinics will only do known donation.

SA: Non-identifying information available when donor conceived people reach the age of 16. While there is no right to access identifying information there is also nothing in the legislation which forbids access to identifying information if all parties consent.

WA: Legislation in WA means a donor conceived person's right to know their genetic background is protected and they can access the identity of their donor. Known donors have a six month waiting period while anonymous donors can donate immediately. A donor can donate up to a maximum of five families.

Do recipients get to match their looks with their donors?
There are so few donors that matching looks is usually not possible, particularly with anonymous donation. The only time this is a consideration is where the donor is non-caucasian - their eggs would be offered to a non-caucasian couple or a couple who had already indicated they were not concerned about this issue.

Will the child know who I am?
Again, check your state's legislation. In most states, unless the family chooses to tell the person of their conception (and thankfully growing numbers do), the donor conceived person will not know how they were conceived, let alone who provided half of their genetic material. By choosing to pursue a known donation, you can in some way try to ensure that the person you help concieve knows their genetic truth.

How do I find a recipient couple/person?
Please read 'Seven Steps to Sensible Donation'. Once you are ready to donate, there are a variety of ways to find recipient couples. Start right here, read through the   classified ads of Sydney/Melbourne/Brisbane/Adelaide/Canberra Child and sometimes even your local papers. You can also approach your local clinic and ask to be matched with one of their recipients.

The internet is an increasingly common place to find recipients, particularly for known donation. There is a list of boards and groups at the end of the FAQs.

Do I have to do anything special during donation?
You are asked to avoid cigarettes and alcohol during your donation cycle, as well as taking extra contraceptive precautions during and after the cycle.  

Does it matter what contraception I am using?
While most donor cycles will commence with the birth control pill, women who are using other methods of long term contraception may have to wait a couple of months after stopping before they can donate, to ensure that hormones have returned to normal. The clinic will advise you what to do, and it is important to let your IPs know as they will have to factor in this delay into their own schedules if necessary.

Will I get paid to donate?
Egg donation in Australia and New Zealand is altruistic and it is illegal to either offer or request payment.  Generally, depending on the clinic and recipients, donors are reimbursed for travelling expenses, any medical costs incurred in their name, time taken off work for appointments, egg pick-up and a day's recovery as well as child care if necessary. Donors should not be out of pocket because of their donation.

Who "owns" the embryos I help create?
A donor can withdraw consent for the use of her eggs right up until the time of fertilisation - until that time, the eggs are legally hers. Once the egg is fertilised, it is considered to be the legal property of the recipient couple. Donors have no rights whatsoever over any children conceived, or any legal obligation.

Is there any counselling available?
The emotional issues of egg donation are perhaps more important than the medical aspects. All donors and their partners usually have a mandatory counselling session, and known donors will usually have another counselling session with the recipient couple. Most clinics have a counsellor available either at the clinic or over the phone if you need to discuss something.

Some of the things to think about before making the decision to donate...

You are donating genetic material to assist a couple to CREATE A LIFE that will be carried, birthed and brought up by another couple - this child will not be yours.

You are providing your own children with genetic half siblings - how and when will you tell them?

You are providing your parents with genetic grandchildren, your brothers and sisters with genetic nephews/nieces - how and when will you tell them?

Who else will you tell? Do you have someone in your support network who can support you through this?

Even in a known donation, with the child knowing how they were conceived and how they are genetically related to them, they may not want to contact or meet you or your children - how would that make you feel?

The recipient couple decides what happens to any embryos they do not use - let succomb, leave to research or donate on to another couple - how do you feel about this, given these embryos will have genetic links to you and your children?

If you wish to have more children in the future and are unable to, how will you feel about this donation?

If you have not yet started your family, how do you feel about your future children having genetic half siblings?

How will the recipients treat/love the child/ren I help them conceive?

Will I still be happy with this decision in 20 years' time?

What happens if I don't have health insurance?
If you don't have health insurance, recipients will pay for all of the gap that is not covered by Medicare. If anonymous donor, your recipients will be made aware of this.  Be aware that if you experience any complications after EPU, you will have to cover your hospital costs and associated care, unless this is something you have discussed with your recipients.

What if my husband doesn't want me to donate?
Your partner is an important part of your decision making. In order for you to donate he will have to attend a counselling session, have to sign consent forms and have a blood test. As well as this, you might require his emotional support during your donation.  

How will I tell my own children?
Research into adoption and some recent research into donor conceived children, shows that telling children early on in their lives in child-friendly language and concepts at the appropriate time, actually enables children to accept the information much more naturally into their lives. Be prepared that they might "play out" this knowledge in the company of other children and adults, which may impact on who else you choose to tell.

What tests will I have to have?
You will have blood taken to test for a variety of diseases, and your hormone levels (usually day 3 of your cycle). You will have an ultrasound using a wand inserted vaginally (transvaginal inducer) to assess the health of ovaries and access to them for egg pick-up and to provide a baseline scan to refer to during your treatment.

How long does a cycle take?  What sort of time would I need off work or away from my children?
You may be on the pill for a few weeks before starting the cycle and then the actual cycle takes about four weeks.  Be aware that depending on how well your body responds to the drugs, the cycle may be shorter or longer by a few days.

For initial appointments with the donor co-ordinator and Doctor, you will probably need to go during work hours.  Blood tests are done early in the day for same day results so could possibly done before work (clinics open quite early).  Ultrasound times will depend on clinics.  Counselling can often be done in the early evening or after initial appointments, via phone.

Be aware that if you respond poorly to medication and the follicles need more time to develop, you may require one or more extra blood tests and scans to see how they are developing.

What does a donor cycle entail medically?
The clinic will devise a protocol for you and the recipient which is a regime of timing, drugs and dosages to follow during the cycle. Once you are given the go ahead, the idea is to synchronise your cycle and the recipient’s cycle so that when your eggs are ready for pick-up, her body is ready to accept them. Most donors will go through a cycle of 'down regulation', where your ovaries are suppressed from producing eggs before being over stimulated. Your cycle will start with the pill, then generally a period of "down-regulation" (approx two weeks) where your body is prevented from ovulating, followed by a period of "stimulation" (approx 10/12 days) where your ovaries are over-stimulated to produce more than their usual one egg. A day of rest follows the trigger injection to release the eggs after the stimulation stage, and then EPU is 36 hours or thereabouts after this injection.

For the down regulation part of the cycle, most donors have to sniff a nasal spray (Synarel) twice a day. This drug tells your brain to shut down activity in your ovary and prevents your body from ovulating. After about a week on Synarel, a blood test is taken to ensure that your body is not ovulating. Then you begin the stimulation phase, using a drug called Purgeon or Gonal F, where your ovaries are over stimulated to produce more than one egg. This drug is injected into your tummy and you are taught how to do this at the clinic...once you know how to do it, it becomes very easy to do and hardly even stings.

After 8-10 days of stimulation, an ultrasound of your ovaries tells how may follices are developing and their sizes. Depending on this information, a date for egg pick up is decided. If the follices are too small and need more stimulation, another ultrasound date will be set and EPU moved backward. Sometimes the follicles are ready to go, and EPU is moved forward. Some cycles may also be cancelled at this stage if there is not sufficient follicle development, or in some cases, over-stimulation which can lead to OHSS.

After a final date is made for EPU, you will give yourself a 'trigger' injection at a particular time, for eg, exactly 36 hours before EPU. This trigger injection of hCG (Human Chorionic Gonadotrophin)is a drug that mimics preparation of the uterus lining for embryo implantation, thus tells the brain to release any eggs formed.  It is given either in the tummy (subctaneously) or in the thigh (intramuscularly)...it stings a little more than the FSH injections and can remain a little tender at the injection site.

Day surgery admission for egg pick up, with fasting both food and drink after 12am the night before. You will talk to the anethetist and the nurse before the procedure. You will be given a light anesthetic and be out for about an hour while the doctor picks up your eggs. This is done using a needle and needle guide through a vaginal transducer. The fluid in the follicles is drained, and the eggs are then taken for fertilisation.

When you wake up from surgery, you may feel quite groggy. You will need someone to take you home and expect to rest for the rest of the day and the next day after pick up.  You may have some spotting and your ovaries may be quite tender. Clinics advise Panadol forte for pain relief, heat pack for your abdomen. Very important is to drink an extra two litres of water to help your body heal and to help with constipation after the GA. Metamucil or the like is also recommended.

What are the side effects of the IVF drugs?
The job of the suppressant drugs, such as synarel, is to force your body into a temporary menopausal state where you will not ovulate. As such you may experience some menopausal symptoms such as spotting, hot flushes, headaches, breast tenderness, discomfort in lower back and abdomen due to increased ovarian activity. A full list of symptoms and what to be aware of is available from the clinic.

Stimulation drugs, such as Puregon and Gonal F, ask your ovaries to produce many more eggs than their usual one.  The worst side effect of these drugs is Ovarian Hyper Stimulation Syndrome (OHSS) where the ovaries are so over stimulated that fluid leaks from the ovaries... in very rare cases some patients require hospitalisation.  However, most women get some minor signs of OHSS during their treatment - swelling, tenderness - which is all treatable at home. Clinics are very careful to monitor anyone who may be prone to over stimulation, usually women who produce 15-20 eggs plus. Although rare, OHSS is a very real risk and must be taken seriously - please make sure you consult your clinic for a list of symptoms to watch out for.

General Anesthetic - although a light anesthetic is used, the usual side effects of a general anesthetic apply and some people may experience drowsiness, nausea etc.

How many eggs will I produce?
There are so many factors that impact on the number of eggs produced and as yet no one clear method to foretell how many eggs will be picked up... age, health, BMI, smoker or non-smoker are some of the things that might make a difference. Most donors are given the minimum dosage of drugs necessary and then it is up to how their bodies respond to these drugs. A woman doing an IVF cycle may produce anywhere from 0 to 30 plus eggs, with the average being between 5-15. It is the quality of the eggs that is important as well, the ability of an egg to become fertilised and divide into two cells, and then four so on.  Any left over eggs will be frozen for future attempts of FET or Frozen Embryo Transfers.

What is the chance of a pregnancy?
Pregnancy rates are anything from 15-40% depending on clinic, age of recipient, existence of other fertililty problems eg. male factor etc. The clinic can provide you with a list of their pregnancy rates. Research has shown that donor egg embryos have the same success rates as "normal" embryos.

What happens after EPU? What will I be told about any pregnancies?
Depending on what relationship you have with your recipients, your journey may end here. You can contact the clinic to find out how many eggs were successful, and by law  the clinic must tell you if there is a successful birth, the sex of the child and if there are any disabilities. However, clinics in general do not appear to be very apt at taking care of their donors, so you may have to remain in contact with them. Down the track, if you or family members contract any hereditary diseases, it would be prudent to contact the clininc so they can alert the family. Likewise keep them informed of any address changes in case the family or children conceived would like to contact you when the time comes if you have agreed to this.

For known donors, your recipient will probably keep you informed of the outcomes up to pregnancy and hopefully beyond.

Where can I find further information?
AussieEggDonors Private Forums
http://www.aussieeggdonors.com/index.html
Australia - Donor Conception Support Group
http://members.optushome.com.au/dcsg/
UK - Donor Conception Network
http://freespace.virgin.net/dcnet.website/...nors-origin.htm
Egg Donation FAQs
http://www.fortunecity.com/meltingpot/gree...79/question.htm
ACCESS - Australia's National Infertility Network
http://www.access.org.au/
INCIID - International Council on Infertility Informatin Dissemination
http://www.inciid.org/

Books
"Experiences of Donor Conception" by Caroline Lorbach.  Excellent reading for anyone contemplating donation or donor conception.  Leans very heavily towards the need for disclosure and openness in donation.

Articles
Choosing identity-release sperm donors
http://humrep.oupjournals.org/cgi/content/...y=aiUnHNwjDmQHc
&keytype=ref&siteid=humrep
Telling the story: parent's scripts for donor offspring
http://humrep.oupjournals.org/cgi/content/full/14/5/1392
Should offspring from donated gametes continue to be denied knowledge of their origins and antecedants?
http://humrep.oupjournals.org/cgi/content/full/16/5/807

Stories from donor-concieved adults
http://members.optushome.com.au/dcsg/resou..._offspring.html
http://members.optushome.com.au/dcsg/resou...ine_hewitt.html

With thanks to CindyK, who posted this information origianlly. Updated 19/09/08

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Posted 19 September 2008 - 11:55 AM

Six Steps to Sensible Donation

Hello Potential Donors

I have been doing some thinking about this whole donor conception circus that some of us decide on getting involved in, and just want to share some thoughts before you consider climbing into that sparkly spandex and hoisting yourself up to the trapeze.    

Women decide to donate their eggs for a variety of reasons...because of friends experiencing fertility problems, because they are thinking of donating for a family member, because they have come across an ad that touches their heart and they look at their children and wish those blessings for someone else.  However, it does concern me, particuarly for women answering advertisements cold, that many donors come out of the whole experience with as little information and support as they had going in.  I would personally rather scare off a potential donor by giving them all the facts, and the 'real' picture of donation, than have a generous but unknowing soul go through this experience and regret it for the rest of their lives, for themselves, for their children, and for any children conceived.

So to that end, here is my step-by-step guide to 'sensible' donation.  As always, my thoughts only, but it is only through other donors and recipients sharing their own knowledge and experiences with me that allowed me to have an amazing donation journey.  You will note that finding a recipient is the last step, not the first as so many donors seem to do...in fact, all seven steps take place before you even think of making someone that amazing offer.

So, for what it's worth.....

STEP 1

Ring the nearest IVF clinic to see if you are a suitable candidate. (See http://www.access.or...ces/ivf_clinics)

There is no point even pusuing any further action if your situation is way short of the goal posts.  I know this sounds cruel, but surely it is better you find out first up that you are too young/old or that a particular syndrome in your family precludes you from donating - imagine falling in love with your recipient and THEN finding out you can not donate to them.....

Ask the Donor Co-ordinator what their particular guidelines are on

- age
- any particular genetic diseases in your family
- completion of family
- age of current children (some clinics will not let you donate if your children are under a year old or until a few months after you finish breastfeeding)
- other guidelines

Be aware of the other things that might rule you out of donation - if you are adopted and can not trace your origins etc - there is a list in Donor FAQs in the stickies.  Of course the clinic's 'rules' may be bendy in some situations, but it will soon become apparent whether or not you should continue down this track.  For example, if you are 40 and the clinic only wants donors under 35.

By all means make an appointment with the Donor Coordinator to talk about what is involved, but please don't let them talk you into putting yourself on their books at this stage...the first clinic I visited for a 'talk', I walked away with the nasal spray and having had the first blood tests.  Yeah, like they were interested in what I actually needed or wanted as a person - they only wanted another donor cycle on their books.  

STEP 2

OK, now you have the green light to go ahead, where to now.  Research - both intellectual and emotional.  You are going to need many quiet hours, a lot of coffee/tea and lashings of mental energy and honesty.

Read the FAQs in the stickies.  Visit the websites mentioned, in particular these two....

Donor Conception Support Group (Australia)
http://members.optushome.com.au/dcsg/

Donor Conception Network (UK)
http://freespace.virgin.net/dcnet.website/...nors-origin.htm

These websites spell out in black and white just what it is you are doing - helping to create a life, a baby, a child, a teen, an adult.  While you are fulfilling some soul work of your own, you are also providing your own children with the possibility of a genetic half brother/sister/s....what will be the impact on their lives?  How do YOU feel about having your genes a part of someone else's family?  Donation is not a risk-free process - how do you weigh those up in your mind?  You will need your partner's consent in writing to proceed - how do they feel about this and what are their worries and concerns?  I even asked my parents and brother their thoughts because any chidren conceived would be a genetic link to them as well.

Visit the IVF sites and clinic sites around the net to learn more about donation, the language used, and what recipients and donors experience.

And the biggie question here is anonymous versus known donation.  Only you can decide what is right for you...the only thing I ask of you is to consider where the child conceived fits into this picture and that as a human being, one of their basic rights is to know where they come from.

At this stage, you need to have a very clear idea in your head as to what YOU want from your donation experience, and what is important to you.  For me, some of these things were...

I needed to find parents who intended to tell their child about their origins, and sooner rather than later in their lives
I needed to find parents who would be happy to give me an annual update and photo
I needed to find parents who were secure enough to allow their child to meet me and my children in the future if their child expressed that wish
etc etc

So, essentially, you are developing a blueprint for the 'must-haves' in your donation experience.

STEP 3

So, still want to go ahead?  OK - let's get you some support for your journey.

Join the amazing donors and recipients who live at the AussieEggDonor group http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AussieEggDonors/  The personal stories and gentle guidance here will help you make the decisions that are right for you.

Talk to other donors everywhere - I am delighted to chew the ear off anyone who PMs me and will try to point you in the right direction for further information.  I think donors traditionally undertake very private and separate journies due to the nature of the beast, but as things are changing and public perception and awareness is more positive and slightly more informed, donors should be gathering together for support and information.  I am always amazed to meet donors who have donated but never spoken to another donor....all it takes is a Private Message or an email.

Talk to relatives, friends or colleagues who you think will be supportive - you may be surprised who some of your staunchest supporters are...my Dad tells everyone about 'Cindy and the twins'...awwwwwww!

STEP 4

The hunt for Ms/Mr/Mrs Right

OK, armed to the teeth with information, medical terms you never thought you might need to know and a bunch of new friends, it is THAT time....  

I am going to be upfront - most IPs I have met are beautiful people who have nothing but respect and gratitude for their donor and what she has gone through to provide them a chance at their dream.  As in real life, there are also IPs who have little conscience, and no understanding of what a donor is doing, and will use you...they are just after eggs, any old eggs, and don't care about the person who provides them.  Once your donation is over, so is your usefulness.  (And yes, there are donors who are just as heartless.)  

The answer to sussing IPs and finding the right ones for you - take your time.  Get to know these people who will be using your gift and possibly bringing a child into the world.  There is no rush for you to donate - no rush at all.  I don't care if they are 30 or 50, you need to take the time necessary to ensure you are making the right decision - once those eggs are fertilised, your legal rights to them disappear, so you need to make sure you make the right decision for everyone involved on your side of the fence, and for any tiny lives concieved on the other side.

So, where do you find Ms/Mr/Mrs Right?

Right here!  There are ads all over the net and in the Child's every month, as well as your local papers in all probability.

Clinics - if you want to donate anonymously, contact your clinic.  If you want to donate in a known situation, you can also contact your clinic and specify what you need from a couple....if they are obliging they will contact the people on their waiting list and see if any have the same ideals as you.  You might have to push for this one, and don't stop with the first clinic that you talk to if you get a negative response.

STEP 5

What do I look for in my IPs?

Ultimately, you are looking for a couple who you click with and who best meet your needs as a donor.  Although I had a 'wish list' of what I was looking for in IPs (age, number of children etc) in the end, it was more important that they wanted the same things from the donation that I did.  There is no point in having the 'perfect IPs' according to your daydream, if you have two completely different pictures of how the donation will play itself out, now and in the future.  So arm yourself with a list of your ideals and a list of questions, and go from there...here are some questions to think about on both sides of the fence..

How to choose an ovum donor - Resolve website (US site so questions re fees not applicable to Australian donors)
http://www.resolvenc.org/articles/degdonor.html
  

STEP 6

Go ye forth and give someone a chance to have a babe of their own.

With thanks to CindyK, who posted this information origianlly. Updated 19/09/08


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Hospital lets dads the experience some of the pain of childbirth

A new experience is radically altering men's views of childbirth.

Italian doctors questioned over formula bribes

Italian police have placed 12 doctors under house arrest on suspicion of promoting baby milk formula over breastfeeding.

Heartwarming prank gives single mum the house she was hired to clean

Cara Simmons arrived at work to clean a large and beautiful house in time for a party planned for that evening. It was soon hers.

Those special moments of sibling bonding

Every now and then your child does or says something that is truly memorable.

Why we should stop telling new parents to 'enjoy every moment'

A few weeks ago, some dear friends of mine had their first baby. As the proud dad texted me a picture I had to fight the natural instinct to say “Enjoy every moment!”

Baby monitor footage posted online

Footage of Australian babies and children sleeping in their bedrooms are among the images on a Russian site showing live feeds from thousands of homes and businesses around the world.

Did this new dad really hit on his wife's midwife?

Was there really a man who was actually there by his wife’s side as she laboured and gave birth to his child, all while he was making what he perceived to be meaningful eye contact with a midwife?

Keep calm and ignore the Tantrum Trolls

Tantrum Trolls are a small but growing species of predatory bottom-feeders who delight in picking on parents at their most vulnerable.

It's okay to never 'get over' the death of a loved one

The death of children, siblings, and parents has long term impacts on the rest of our lives.

What Mark Latham needs to know about depression and motherhood

Love has nothing to do with mental illness. But love may drive a mother to do something about it.

'We're just trying to keep our child alive': life with FPIES

We have a beautiful seven-month-old son, and his allergy rules our life.

Transgender dad breastfeeds his babies

A transgender man who breastfed his first baby - despite having his breasts removed as part of his transformation from female to male - has now had a second child.

Couple face $1 million medical bill and bankruptcy after babymoon birth

A Canadian couple were slammed with a million dollar medical bill after their daughter was prematurely during their babymoon.

Cigarettes, junk food dominate supermarket sales growth

One in every five dollars spent at supermarkets goes on cigarettes or junk food, according to industry data.

Teacher under fire for breastfeeding in class

There is no doubt mums have a right to continue breastfeeding after they have returned to work, but one teacher in the US has taken it to the extreme.

Win a family pass to Disney Live!

We have 4 family passes to give away to see Disney Live! presents Three Classic Fairy Tales, touring Australia this December/January.

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Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.

 
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Join PADDINGTON on the red carpet!

To celebrate the release of PADDINGTON, we are giving five lucky winners the chance to win a family pass to the exclusive Australian Premiere in Sydney on December 7!

The tragedy of losing a favourite teddy bear

We were green and uninitiated, perhaps a little naïve when it came to the favourite toy responsibility.

Video: Baby sniffs beardless dad to make sure it's him

She looks him up and down and then touches his chin, but baby Lindsey still isn't sure this clean-shaven man is her dad.

It's possible to workout while pregnant

Medical experts say intense fitness routines can be done safely during pregnancy - if the mums-to-be follow some guidelines.

What parents really want for their kids

Are our hopes, dreams and expectations for our children what they really need?

'I had a feeling something was seriously wrong'

Before even giving birth, Katie Myers' maternal instincts warned her something was wrong with her baby.

When your pregnancy causes a relationship rift

Some dads-to-be don't miss a beat when their partner is pregnant; others struggle with a range of issues and can become withdrawn, right when their support is needed most.

Couple uses group photo trick to announce pregnancy to loved ones

Katharine and Kris Camilli devised a clever trick to immortalise their family and friends' reactions to their exciting pregnancy news.

Why Tracey Spicer has given up make-up

"After 30 years on television, I had become what I despised: a painted doll who spent an hour a day and close to $200 a week putting on a mask."

Knowing you are one of the lucky ones

I am secure, confident and strong, but the responsibility of protecting my children can almost bring me undone.

Why I am so emotional now I have kids?

There are so many ways in which parenthood changes us as women, but one of the most noticeable, for me, has been the changing state of my emotions.

Baby survives despite sharing womb with 'foreign body'

Baby Maia was conceived against the odds, only to find she was sharing a womb with an ominous "foreign body".

Video: Baby shows dog how to jump - or vice versa

They say dog is man's best friend, but this playful pooch seems to have chosen a jumping baby as her number one buddy.

10 ways to soothe a crying baby

New paernts can get frustrated when their newborn gets fussy and can't settle down. When you're feeling overwhelmed, try some of these simple tips to help soothe your baby.

20 baby names that are becoming more popular every year

The data-lovers at nameberry.com have been at it again – this time, they’ve discovered the names that are continually rising up the ranks, ready to take out some top spots in the next few years.

10 great meals to make for new parents

Ideally, you want to give food that isn’t expensive to make, isn't too difficult to create, and freezes well; stews, bakes, soups and pasta sauces are perfect.

Weird pregnancy products

Some pregnancy products come to market and are just awesome. Others just leave you scratching your head.

Carers admit to force-feeding children

Twin brothers have become dads on the same day ? with their partners giving birth in the same hospital, and even the same birthing pool.

 

How many weeks til Christmas?

On your To-Do list

Get the "Santa" shopping done without the kids in tow.

 
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